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How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by jannydear(f): 7:37am On Dec 30, 2017 |
You may have just come out of a stormy relationship and you need to get your life back on track at the interim before delving into another relationship. However, there may be this new guy you met at a social gathering and got friendly with without any strings attached. It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, but there’s a good chance that you may have come across a guy that wants to go out with you. READ ALSO: 6 Ways to Leave an Abusive Relationship If you don’t like him or just not ready for another relationship at the moment but he is persistent, here’s a few tips on how to politely tell him no without hurting his feelings. Some guys may be understanding enough to calmly back away when you tell them you aren’t interested. But some guys may feel you are simply playing the hard-to-get card, and may need a firmer response from you to get the message across. 1. Be simple and truthful If a guy that you’re not interested in asks you out, don’t hesitate or meander, that may send a wrong signal to him. Tell him straight up that you aren’t interested in being in any relationship. You really don’t have to be rude. 2. Tell him you’ll rather be a friend than lover If you want to reject a guy, but not sure you want to lose him completely acquaintance, tell him you don’t want to go out with him right now, but would love to be friends instead. This is approach is best used when you’re not sure yourself. Take a bit of time to figure it out, you can always change your mind depending on the outcome of your friendship with him. READ ALSO: For The Ladies: 7 Questions You Should Never Ask Your Boyfriend 3. Make it clear and firm You can chose to be firm if the guy you rejected and don’t even want as a friend, asks you to go out with him again. You’ve already been gentle the first time. So this time, tell him firmly that there’s no way you could want to have a serious relationship with. Most guys have an irritating pattern of wanting to know the reason behind why you’re rejecting them. They want you to explain it in details. The truth is, you don’t even owe any man logical explanation on why you are rejecting them. That is a bit absurd! So instead of getting yourself in a bind, just make your rejection clear and don’t go into intricate details. You never can tell what he may use as a weapon against you later if you reveal all to him. 4. Tell him you’ll dislike him When he obstinately tries to get you to date him even after all you’ve done to tell him off, tell him that his persistent behavior is beginning to aggravate you. Make him that you’ve started detesting him, and the more he asks you out, you’ll only end up disliking him. Most guys are afraid of this one and may back off immediately. READ ALSO: Things That Makes A Man Attractive 5. Pretend to be saddened by his proposal If a guy is rather persistent, but he is quite kind and nice, have a talk with him. Tell him that you’re getting flustered by his persistence. Tell him you’re having a difficult time getting through the day because of his ceaseless proposals. There’s a chance that a nice guy will back away when you show him your sensitive side. 6. Avoid the guy If all of the earlier approach proved abortive, then you may need to take a firmer approach. Now some guys may be nice, but their persistence can be really exasperating. Avoid the guy, and make it apparent that you’re avoiding him. READ ALSO: 10 Romantic Ways to Propose to a Girl 7. Don’t speak to him alone Guys are thrilled when the girl they like has a conversation with them alone. They find it pleasurable and it shows superior treatment over other guys. Avoid giving away any signs that could be misinterpreted as an invitation. Avoid the man and any situation that will cause you to speak alone with him. 8. Cut him off from your social circle Tell him that you’re going to take him off your friends’ lists in social networking sites if he doesn’t stop bothering you. Make it known to him that you’re going to avoid him if you meet him and won’t pick his calls anymore. He may let you be. READ ALSO: Painful Sexual Intercourse: Everything You Need to Know 9. Ignore him This is the final frontier that will always work. If all the points above proves abortive, then this should be your last resort. Unfriend him on Facebook and other social networking sites, ignore him completely. Walk past him, and don’t even bother wave or even look at him. However, avoid being completely rude if he confronts you, this may only make him pursue you more and may even cause him to become violent. Speak to him like he’s a five year old. Make him understand that both of you can be friends only if he promises to see you as a friend. If he still insists, tell him you’re sorry, but you really can’t talk anymore and walk away. Source: http://www.healthdiary365.com/2017/12/30/how-to-reject-a-guy-nicely-without-hurting-him/
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Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by habsydiamond(m): 7:42am On Dec 30, 2017 |
This kind of thing no exist again oo. Ladies of nowadays no go tell u they are not interested...dem go just put Ur call on hold.....and the guy go still dey flex muscle say she go gree...maybe for heaven sha...but which babe fit dey do am not interested when there is money involved...few I guess... |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by greatnaija01: 7:42am On Dec 30, 2017 |
and with all these POINTS.... a naija guy will NEVER take NO for an answer..... worse still... a yoruba demon will even bleep the lady while she is saying no |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by coolestofall(m): 7:43am On Dec 30, 2017 |
jannydear:Nice writeup, but pretty soon we'll all hv 2 consult our phones at different occasions just 2 check hw 2 handle d situation. Humans r getting 2 dependent n predictable, whatever happened 2 winging it? |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by Derawiz(m): 7:43am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Op Change the title of this post to "How to reject a guy when friend zoning doesn't work "
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Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by ishowdotgmail(m): 7:47am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Story.... all na bad rejection. E no get another name |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by matrix199(m): 7:51am On Dec 30, 2017 |
How about telling him you're engaged?! |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by Nwodosis(m): 7:52am On Dec 30, 2017 |
There is no much work in rejecting a guy, why you have work is in rejecting a babe because she can turn deadly for losing her honor! |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by FTrebirth(m): 8:06am On Dec 30, 2017 |
greatnaija01: how? with juju? |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by Nobody: 8:44am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Some ladies have PhD in friend zoning a guy. |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by ayoncox: 8:48am On Dec 30, 2017 |
when you make a lady feel too important she begins to show herself. Just snub her, make her feel worthless and she gets confused and run after you... Na who Nigerian girls epp |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by elibest360(m): 8:49am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Naija guys no dey ever gree |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by ubunja(m): 8:50am On Dec 30, 2017 |
just be direct.and do it fast. dont try to soften the blow.that will end up giving the guy ideas that with more effort he can get u. just say a strong NO. and dont offer to explain yourself.coz you dont owe anyone a reason for how you feel. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by nezzar: 8:54am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Purebeerry:Thank God u said some ladies....Not u...cos ur face no reach highest d boy go friend zone u True talk |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by Foodforthought: 8:57am On Dec 30, 2017 |
nezzar:Guy u 2 much |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by nezzar: 8:57am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Foodforthought: |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by Arabiandude: 8:58am On Dec 30, 2017 |
do ladies still reject guys? |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by sweetetlove(f): 9:02am On Dec 30, 2017 |
nezzar:chai oh lawd my chest*gasping for breath* 1 Like |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by sweetetlove(f): 9:03am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Some guys can be so persistent they never take no for an answer 1 Like |
Re: How To Reject A Guy Nicely Without Hurting Him by NarnieSnyper(m): 9:16am On Dec 30, 2017 |
Even if you kneel and beg me you don't want in the nicest way. I'll still take offense. I don't take "NO, we can be just friends" for an answer neither do I like being Persistent. I believe once you say NO, you've lost a Jewel, and trust me, you ain't getting it back without pain. I got too much pride in me, and it has indeed taken me far. #Spits |
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