I've been dating my babe since secondary School which is about 10yrs now and we're still together though she's about to get married to one Bobo we come back from away. So who's wicked between the two of us?

hedonistical:
How? You must be very stupid, just like other girls like you.

After marrying you, you will tell me that I shouldn't cheat on you.... and when I inevitably do, you will start talking about gender equality and why you have the right to "do as I do." Na who send you? Who need the imprisonment called marriage more?

The baby mama arrangement works perfectly. Until when these so-called Instagram and Twitter era Nigerian woemen understand two important things: (1) You can't expect or force your man to be faithful (to cut down on his guyman lifestyle). (2). You are NOT allowed to imitate him, to also have your own affairs outside because he is doing so. In other words, you are not equal in that aspect.

If you're getting married, allow the man to slow down at his own pace (if he chooses to), and you too must lock your pussy to other men and be submissive, regardless of what the man does.

If these conditions are unacceptable to you, then DO NOT force men into marriage. Stay single and live by your own principles the way you want. Don't try to force your rubbish down an innocent man's throat.

Wow

Pheo:
its not only wicked it's savagery, I believe if you don't see her as marriageable material why date her and make her fee she's the most important person in your life . let her know if you're just casual sex buddies or you're serious with her

What are you to your bf?

With the types of wo(e)men I see out there these days, I would advise my guys to date an upward of 5 years before thinking about settling down with somebody. Most of these wo(e)men can pretend like chameleon. Trust me, two years is not enough to really get to know their true colors. You'd think that you've married a dove only to have a cobra in your house.

Abeg, guys, look very very well before you leap. Don't let anybody pressure you o, jare. If you need 10 years, take 10 years. Let them move on if they are not willing to wait.


O pari

Reni1:
This is one of the reason I ended the relationship with my lady. Always quick to quote years of being in a relationship as a crown. Yes, I got a better job, and trying to map out the next plan of action but my girl was more concerned on the 7year relationship leading to a marriage. Honestly, i decided to end it to save the troubles of counting years on my head. My simple point, it takes two to tango. If he isnt ready he isnt ready

You are the king of wickedness Sir

YoungDaNaval:
I've been dating my babe since secondary School which is about 10yrs now and we're still together though she's about to get married to one Bobo we come back from away. So who's wicked between the two of us?

Aint you wicked yourself.. Why waste her 10 precious years when you know you would get married by 40..

omooba969:


What are you to your bf?

we are engaged in fact getting married in October 19&20 you're invited and if you can't come I will post pictures

desreek9:
She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.
I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

Your friend or you ??

that one na talk? u vit marry yaself na

In relationship context,is there any difference or similarity between courting and dating?

That's not wickedness at all. Girls should stop bringing this stupidity sympathetic attention.
some guys will propose to a girl after a year into relationship, that girl will say NO. How do you categorize it ( after wasting the guy's TIME, MONEY and sleeping with him).
One thing you girls should stop this year is this mentality of what a guy does to a girl is wrong and wicked but if a girl does same thing to a guy is not wickedness at all but rather she's smart.
He has a reason for not having concluded marrying her so let her go and she should even pay the guy for wasting his time. Rubbish

DAILY TREASURE: This is my 2018 heart felt relationship counsel to young ladies, run away from irresponsible men including Christian brothers. Lazy guys though tongue talking, eating free food up and down, they dress well yet they are not responsible to anybody. Just like an irresponsible pastor will depend on his members to pay his house rent or buy a car. He is always free, calling and visiting you everyday, listen that is not love, that's a sign that he is lazy and irresponsible. A serious responsible guy will not have all that available time to be calling you on the phone per second or sending you text messages like MTN or visiting you at home everyday even on a very sunny afternoon were responsible men are busy huzzling. This is January ladies be wise, he has tired you down for 1 year with a cheap fake Aboki engagement � ring, blocking road for other responsible guys, yet he has not shown any form of commitment to your parents, please be wise and run � for your life. I pray for you ladies, God will drive away lazy, visionless and irresponsible men from your life in Jesus name. 1Tim 5v8. HENOSIS 2018 is the place to be, if you're young and unmarried and you stay in Lagos, attending HENOSIS should be in your plan. God bless you. Pst P.

Any relationship that will be more than two years to marriage is not a Godly relationship my fellow ladies bewise

Sparkles003:
I concur. Like one of my aunty would say 2 years is enough to have a one year old baby.
The maximum time a guy needs to know a lady is 3months(character, likes,aspirations, wants,dislike,dreams,vision,where she is coming from) if they have been truly honest to each other from the get go of the relationship. My personal opinion

My dear the girl is a human being oo, not textbook. How can you sufficiently know someone in 3 months?

desreek9:
She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.
I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

How exactly did this your friend struggle with the guy? Was she paying his rent? Did she pay his school fees? Did she fast for him? How exactly pls?

Must every relationship end in marriage?.

fatymore:
God will punish such guy

Abeg no carry God enter this matter

She can still come to your house for explanation sha. Sparkless003

VastFinder:
“It’s Wickedness To Date A Lady For More Than 2 Years Without Marrying Her” – Nigerian Lady Says


A Nigerian lady identified as Chukwunonyelum Akunne has reacted to a viral report that a couple got married after 11 years of dating.

According to her post on Facebook, it is only a wicked guy that can date a lady for more than two years without marrying her.

She wrote:




SOURCE: https://primesng.com/wickedness-date-lady-2-years-without-marrying-nigerian-lady-says/

and who do we blame when average Nigerian ladies do not exhibit characters that deem a lady matured to coordinate a home. the last time I checked, courtship is a process of checkmating a woman's possibility of meeting the criteria that makes an ideal wife. too bad our women mistake it for an automatic green light for marriage. that's why we find some ladies resulting to violence when they fail in that course, too bad to the extent of setting the guy's car or any valuable property on fire. when a student fails a course and he or she is made to carry it over (retake ) the course again, does such student have to set the school or lecturer on fire for his or her failure?

emperormossad:

Abeg no carry God enter this matter

Do it.. And think God no go Punish you

fatymore:
Aint you wicked yourself.. Why waste her 10 precious years when you know you would get married by 40..

I'm 24 madam. we're age mate

Godson201333:


Your friend or you ??

Lol, i'm married

YoungDaNaval:
I'm 24 madam. we're age mate

lols..so you started dating at the age of 14yrs. That's nt call dating now... You were friends then... Lols... Moreso marriage no dey your plans now... So she no ditch you.. She left for better and greener pastures

tenderlaw:

How exactly did this your friend struggle with the guy? Was she paying his rent? Did she pay his school fees? Did she fast for him? How exactly pls?

Help me ask her ooooh! They're always playing the victim card

fatymore:
lols..so you started dating at the age of 14yrs. That's nt call dating now... You were friends then... Lols... Moreso marriage no dey your plans now... So she no ditch you.. She left for better and greener pastures

Abi? If na me leave her for greener pastures shey you go dish out Same verdict?

YoungDaNaval:
Abi? If na me leave her for greener pastures shey you go dish out Same verdict?

sure...

Pheo:

we are engaged in fact getting married in October 19&20 you're invited and if you can't come I will post pictures

I'm happy for you. Please DM me details, will be nice to see a fellow nairalander.

Na so 'lord of the relationship' dey start

HungerBAD:
She has a point.

To some extent she is right. If the guy is in that marriageable age,and he keeps moving the goal post forward,we can then consider that wicked.

But if somebody that is 19 yrs old,dates a lady for 2 yrs, i believe he still not ready in some instances to get married.

Lastly,why do women, especially Nigerian women view marriage as the crowning glory in their life?why do conversations with most women have to some how end up at the marriage corner?

we are Nigerians, our family expect us to marry at a certain age, even some guys, when they see a lady of 30 not married, they immediately conclude that she was wayward during her youth, to she have a bad character or even still a prostitute.

Hear u will see slay queen commenting hard..

It's about understanding between both parties

HungerBAD:


Lastly,why do women, especially Nigerian women view marriage as the crowning glory in their life?why do conversations with most women have to some how end up at the marriage corner?

this your observation is true.
a long time friend saw my 17yrs old sister and the next she said was for me to get ready for bride price.
I was surprised.

Owutuotuo:


Enough time like 10years ba?

I ddnt mention d number of yrs needed. it's nt a must to be 2 years. it could b less dan dat or more. And wen i said enough time, u shud knw i meant less than wat u said