Young Nigerians discuss smacking and what effect it had on them and whether there are more effective ways of discipline.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSFEeqZH8VA

Good topic for discussion.

If you spare the rod you spoil the child. My Bible told me so.

Lalasticlala, oya. If it's snake topic nah you won't waste time to move it.

dat is y we are Nigerians even d bible approve of it

I'm against it.

Preetiex:
dat is y we are Nigerians even d bible approve of it

I'm against it.
The Children that were smacked by their parents didn't turn out better than those that were just scolded.
Some even turned worse.
Scolding is OK for me but beating? No no no.

children of nowadays don't really care abt the beating,its seems like they are use to it.to me I believe in the three R's of training up a child.
1-Rod: a child under the age of 10 fall in this category,they are pure imitators and can copy anything they see,at this stage it is allowed to use the rod for correction.

2-Rules: any child within the range of 11-17 should be given rules, they violate they get grounded or punished it ways that matters and send the exact rate proportional to the crime that was committed.

3-Rebuke: for those matured enough they should be rebuked and advice should be given afterwards.


truth be told in Nigeria parent punish or beat without letting the child know what he or she had done.they just beat insult and live the child. an adage says beat your child with your left hand and draw them close with your right hand.

DejiSantos:
I'm against it.

ur problem not mine,i will train my kids with love & rod.chikena

it depends, but excessive beating sometimes hardens children. it instills the mindset of "beating doesn't kill " in them. I think the best way to discipline a child is by speaking sense into his head though there are some children that spoken words have no effect on them. at the end it all boils to the nature of the child. some children might need more spanking less speaking and vice versa.

I agree.

sodiqapril:
it depends, but excessive beating sometimes hardens children. it instills the mindset of "beating doesn't kill " in them. I think the best way to discipline a child is by speaking sense into his head though there are some children that spoken words have no effect on them. at the end it all boils to the nature of the child. some children might need more spanking less speaking and vice versa.

Beating 100%, I was beaten and sent to Military school where beating was outsourced to soldiers and I am a functioning individual thanks to that.

DejiSantos:
I agree.

Lol i hear, when i was small,if i knew all you were going to do was talk to me, I would fake sympathy, at a small age I was already aware that talking meant little or no consequences, it was only my Grandfather that could make me cry with just words, the rest i couldn't care as they couldn't get to me.

Anyone's decision is irrelevant here. I will flog/beat my children whenever I dim it necessary to correct them using that method. I don't care how it is done in US, Ghana or Germany.

mybestlove:
Good topic for discussion.

If you spare the rod you spoil the child. My Bible told me so.

Lalasticlala, oya. If it's snake topic nah you won't waste time to move it.

There are a lot of things the bible told you that I'm sure you ignore

So where do you draw the line at abuse?

Or is abuse not a word in your vocabluary.

mrphysics:
Anyone's decision is irrelevant here. I will flog/beat my children whenever I dim it necessary to correct them using that method. I don't care how it is done in US, Ghana or Germany.

DejiSantos:
So where do you draw the line at abuse?

Or is abuse not a word in your vocabluary.

I made it clear that I do not need anyone's opinion on that.

I'm not asking anyone elses opinion.

I'm asking yours?

mrphysics:

I made it clear that I do not need anyone's opinion on that.

Violence begets violence. Nigeria is the reflection of the upbringing of her citizens.

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Preetiex:
dat is y we are Nigerians even d bible approve of it

Oya kill the child na.

mrphysics:
Anyone's decision is irrelevant here. I will flog/beat my children whenever I dim it necessary to correct them using that method. I don't care how it is done in US, Ghana or Germany.

Oya kill the child na,if you beat children too much it is abuse and such children can resent you.You can use other ways to correct a child instead of leaving an injury in the name of smacking.The child could even get used to it and see it as a no big deal.

Mindfulness:
Violence begets violence. Nigeria is the reflection of the upbringing of her citizens.

You just said the truth.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Oya kill the child na.

my dear if spanking can kill a child i would be dead already

Preetiex:
my dear if spanking can kill a child i would be dead already

It killed me oh when belt gave me injury on my back and koboko on my face thank God it has healed and there was no scar, we call it bulala(Cain)at home.I became used to it that after committing a crime the next thing I would say is abeg come and flog me.To me it is abuse I think there are other forms of punishments other than spanking.

Ladyhippolyta88:
It killed me oh when belt gave me injury on my back and koboko on my face thank God it has healed and there was no scar, we call it bulala(Cain)at home.I became used to it that after committing a crime the next thing I would say is abeg come and flog me.To me it is abuse I think there are other forms of punishments other than spanking.

true true if a prophet told me my skin will be clear now due to d marks on my body wen i was a teenager i would disagree,if i no wash plate na belt,if i wash no arrange for cupboard, na wahala & it made me hate my parents then

Preetiex:
true true if a prophet told me my skin will be clear now due to d marks on my body wen i was a teenager i would disagree,if i no wash plate na belt,if i wash no arrange for cupboard, na wahala & it made me hate my parents then

I was lucky my own cleared the scar took time to heal,I hated my dad especially but I love them all the same it has been long since I received beating.I understand their reasons for the discipline but to me it didn't make much impact it was the words they told me that even made me cry and try to get better my mom is good in that aspect but the Cain just hardened my heart.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Oya kill the child na,if you beat children too much it is abuse and such children can resent you.You can use other ways to correct a child instead of leaving an injury in the name of smacking.The child could even get used to it and see it as a no big deal.

And who told you that beating will leave injury. If you don't know how to beat or flog them, go and learn.

Abeg, leave all these gospel of abuse. I will beat them when necessary. Sometimes, they just need to cry, they need to see this cane. This is Nigeria and not Africa.

The worst is that everyone in Nigeria have beating their child.

Preetiex:
true true if a prophet told me my skin will be clear now due to d marks on my body wen i was a teenager i would disagree,if i no wash plate na belt,if i wash no arrange for cupboard, na wahala & it made me hate my parents then

No one uses belt to flog a child. Such person is abusing the Child. How can you flog a kid with belt and a lady for that. There are things you don't do to a certain people.

Depending on the age of the child, once a kid is up to a particular age, anything beating you did to the child can leave a bad memory on him.


Me, I must flog them when they mess up ooo. All these stories nah rubbish.

mrphysics:

And who told you that beating will leave injury. If you don't know how to beat or flog them, go and learn.

Abeg, leave all these gospel of abuse. I will beat them when necessary. Sometimes, they just need to cry, they need to see this cane. This is Nigeria and not Africa.

The worst is that everyone in Nigeria have beating their child.

Good for you if you injure the child say you are an expert.And don't bring that statement of this is Africa because it is only when we want to do negative things that we are quick to use those words.

mrphysics:

No one uses belt to flog a child. Such person is abusing the Child. How can you flog a kid with belt and a lady for that. There are things you don't do to a certain people.

Depending on the age of the child, once a kid is up to a particular age, anything beating you did to the child can leave a bad memory on him.


Me, I must flog them when they mess up ooo. All these stories nah rubbish.

Who says people don't use belt and what does gender have to do with this.There are different means use for spanking a child and it is not only cane.