My husband is addicted to pornography. He watches porn every spare time he has. While we were dating,I noticed it but thought it was a normal habit for bachelors. I emptied his porn collections and told him it was time to stop. He promised to stop. We got married and he still continued. Sexually, his fore play was top notch so I didn't really care that he doesn't last long. Now 15 years down the line,probably due to both work and family responsibilities,he doesn't really indulge in fore play anymore. We make love like once or twice a month but i am left hanging, because he would ejaculate within a minute. We have talked about it numerous times with no positive change. He even feels embarrassed anytime i raise the issue. I have learnt to ignore my sexual needs so I wouldn't be tempted to misbehave because i had a good moral upbringing. My anger and confusion is that he is even more addicted to porn now more than ever. I have this feeling of resentment and disgust towards him. I am in my mid thirties and I shudder to think that this is how it is going to be. I googled and I learnt that porn has a way of affecting a man's sexual prowess. My husband is a good husband otherwise and he loves me but not enough to leave porn for my sake. I don't know what to do.
Please I need mature advice on how to tackle this problem.

NO ONE CAN LEAVE PORN BY THEIR POWER.....

Take your man for deliverance ooooo


DEMONS are dancing one-corner around him...

Most Porn users masturbate n this wastes their appetite for normal sex... their desire for performance becomes high and not even you as a wife can satisfy them.

ASK FOR SPIRITUAL HELP. more financial blessing will come to him if he stops.

chai.... PORN is the devil's greatest tool against manhood

ebenebegbulu:
My husband is addicted to pornography. He watches porn every spare time he has. While we were dating,I noticed it but thought it was a normal habit for bachelors. I emptied his porn collections and told him it was time to stop. He promised to stop. We got married and he still continued. Sexually, his fore play was top notch so I didn't really care that he doesn't last long. Now 15 years down the line,probably due to both work and family responsibilities,he doesn't really indulge in fore play anymore. We make love like once or twice a month but i am left hanging, because he would ejaculate within a minute. We have talked about it numerous times with no positive change. He even feels embarrassed anytime i raise the issue. I have learnt to ignore my sexual needs so I wouldn't be tempted to misbehave because i had a good moral upbringing. My anger and confusion is that he is even more addicted to porn now more than ever. I have this feeling of resentment and disgust towards him. I am in my mid thirties and I shudder to think that this is how it is going to be. I googled and I learnt that porn has a way of affecting a man's sexual prowess. My husband is a good husband otherwise and he loves me but not enough to leave porn for my sake. I don't know what to do.
Please I need mature advice on how to tackle this problem.

Sorry to hear about ur predicament but if u really love him then I guess u should be ready to help him last longer n perform better....try n delete all hz porn in his laptop or wherever he hides or stores dem as u did earlier cos hez actually helpless n wil neva stop if u don't aggressively delete dem...

U can.send mi a pm or drop ur whatsapp digit so I can give u d herbal tea u will b giving him...but meanwhile from now henceforth begin inputing unripe plantain porridge weekly in ur family. Menu n also get him bananas n water melon wit garden egg for him n also remove any sugary stuff from ur home....cheerz

greatnaija01:
NO ONE CAN LEAVE PORN BY THEIR POWER.....

Take your man for deliverance ooooo


DEMONS are dancing one-corner around him...

Most Porn users masturbate n this wastes their appetite for normal sex... their desire for performance becomes high and not even you as a wife can satisfy them.

ASK FOR SPIRITUAL HELP. more financial blessing will come to him if he stops.

chai.... PORN is the devil's greatest tool against manhood

This is 2018, not every problem is spiritual. The earlier you understand this, the better. He needs to first identify he has a problem. That is the first step to solving a problem. Speak to a therapist

Madam i'll suggest you start doing things that would get him jealous, like making him feel that you have other guys courting you. Start dressing hot and pay him less attention. Believe me, he would get jealous and want to do anything to please you and save his marriage, including stopping that habit of masturrbation and finding solution to his quick ejaculation. He feels too secured with you that is why he doesn't want to do things to please you.

I didn't mean you should cheat on him oo. Just show him that "I don't care" attitude for sometimes. You could get busy with your phone. Chat with friends online. Pretend like he doesn't exist. Hang out with female friends and up your dressing game.
You'll be amazed at how your man would turn around.

If he really loves you and he is a good husband like you said, he would give up the demonic habit instead of tormenting you! Na wa o. Hold on dear. Continue talking to him and maybe involve someone he respects. Last last, you guys will be okay.

lumzybo:


This is 2018, not every problem is spiritual. The earlier you understand this, the better. He needs to first identify he has a problem. That is the first step to solving a problem. Speak to a therapist

this is 2018, does that stop some demons from carrying out thier assignments？ we know that all problems are nt spiritual, bt some problems are spiritual, so he should go for a serious deliverance first, bt b4 the deliverance he must be sure that he is really ready to stop..

don't underestimate the power of deliverance, i was also addicted to porn some years ago, bt after my deliverance atmountain of fire the urge left me till today i am still going stronger.

PSTEMMA1960:
this is 2018, does that stop some demons from carrying out thier assignments？ we know that all problems are nt spiritual, bt some problems are spiritual, so he should go for a serious deliverance first, bt b4 the deliverance he must be sure that he is really ready to stop..

don't underestimate the power of deliverance, i was also addicted to porn some years ago, bt after my deliverance atmountain of fire the urge left me till today i am still going stronger.

Congrats on ur deliverance.
So u believe it was the deliverance that made u overcome the addiction? Smiles.

Self determination makes a man bro.

PSTEMMA1960:
this is 2018, does that stop some demons from carrying out thier assignments？ we know that all problems are nt spiritual, bt some problems are spiritual, so he should go for a serious deliverance first, bt b4 the deliverance he must be sure that he is really ready to stop..

don't underestimate the power of deliverance, i was also addicted to porn some years ago, bt after my deliverance atmountain of fire the urge left me till today i am still going stronger.

Exactly!Some folks will not understand.Pornography, Masturabtion and other sexual sins can't be overcome only by one's will.Divine intervention helps.

Jman06:
Madam i'll suggest you start doing things that would get him jealous, like making him feel that you have other guys courting you. Start dressing hot and pay him less attention. Believe me, he would get jealous and want to do anything to please you and save his marriage, including stopping that habit of masturrbation and finding solution to his quick ejaculation. He feels too secured with you that is why he doesn't want to do things to please you.

I didn't mean you should cheat on him oo. Just show him that "I don't care" attitude for sometimes. You could get busy with your phone. Chat with friends online. Pretend like he doesn't exist. Hang out with female friends and up your dressing game.
You'll be amazed at how your man would turn around.

Are you for real?

spencekat:
Exactly!Some folks will not understand.Pornography, Masturabtion and other sexual sins can't be overcome only by one's will.Divine intervention helps.

Quick question, now that her sexual urges has been left unsatisfied for a long time, is masturbation a sin? If she decides to masturbate to the thought of when she and her husband use to really kick it or some sexual fantasy of him, will she need divine intervention?

sweettease:


Are you for real?

Yes my dear. Most ladies don't know that making themselves too available makes men lose interest in them. But if you give him that false impression that you have got other guys hitting on you, his competitive side will be awoken and he would want to fight for you.
Also, creating a space between a couple sparks up the relationship because like the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Jman06:
Yes my dear. Most ladies don't know that making themselves too available makes men lose interest in them. But if you give him that false impression that you have got other guys hitting on you, his competitive side will be awoken and he would want to fight for you.
Also, creating a space between a couple sparks up the relationship because like the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

That's a double edged sword psychology ish I'll never play with someone I love, let alone my husband

spencekat:
Exactly!Some folks will not understand.Pornography, Masturabtion and other sexual sinscan't be overcome only by one's will.Divine intervention helps.

i tell u, the lady is only complaining about the porn bt dnt be suprise that the husband still masturbate, because 90 percent of people that watches porn also masturbate wether married or nt..

and it is only God that can deliver u from such habits i have a doctor friend that also masturbate..

so what kind of counselling is he going to tell u to apply that he himself can nt use to help himself..

if u take ur time to go close to God u will discover that there are spirits behind those urges..

sweettease:


That's a double edged sword psychology ish I'll never play with someone I love, let alone my husband

Choke him with that your love and see him lose interest in you. Some of you wonder why you shower a guy with all your love yet he treats you like trash, it is because you are too available to him leaving him with nothing to compete for.

lumzybo:


Congrats on ur deliverance.
So u believe it was the deliverance that made u overcome the addiction? Smiles.

Self determination makes a man bro.

no 1: if i am nt delivered i won't be able to admit that i even watch porn and also masturbate.

2: determination i may nt really know what that means, bt all i can tell u is this, i tried stoping it on my own for more than 5 yrs bt i could nt, i even sold my phone then switched to nokia torch light, bt once the urge comes i will look for someone to borrow an android phone to watch it..

i went to church one day the man of God laid hands on me and i fell down, that was the last time i felt the urge..

my determination then could last for few days nt even up to 2 weeks, some times i will even promise heaven and earth that next year i will nt do it again, bt b4 the second week of january i have already broken the vow..

Jman06:
Choke him with that your love and see him lose interest in you. Some of you wonder why you shower a guy with all your love yet he treats you like trash, it is because you are too available to him leaving him with nothing to compete for.

I don't agree with you on this sir!

@op, continue to help him overcome this by continually deleting them from his phone/laptops, also, continually talk to him about the effect of this addiction on him. you and your marital relationship

greatgod2012:





I don't agree with you on this sir!

You are free to disagree with me, but that doesn't change anything.

Jman06:
Yes my dear. Most ladies don't know that making themselves too available makes men lose interest in them. But if you give him that false impression that you have got other guys hitting on you, his competitive side will be awoken and he would want to fight for you.
Also, creating a space between a couple sparks up the relationship because like the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This template is crafted for boyfriend & girlfriend-type relationships, not marriage.

crackhaus:

This template is crafted for boyfriend & girlfriend-type relationships, not marriage.

It still works even among married couples.

Jman06:
Choke him with that your love and see him lose interest in you. Some of you wonder why you shower a guy with all your love yet he treats you like trash, it is because you are too available to him leaving him with nothing to compete for.

Oh dear! That's not the part I have a problem with, the part that I find odd is that you are advising a married woman to intentionally create the illusion that she is courting other guys. That's really messed up!

BTW, I am all for showering my man with love but if he acts like a boy and not the man I thought he was, then that love is dead and gone, I don't have time to play catch, you are either in or out! While change what I am about cos he can't handle it?

SO YOU GOT MARRIED AT 20 TO BE IN YOUR MID 30s AFTER 15 YEARS

Jman06:
Madam i'll suggest you start doing things that would get him jealous, like making him feel that you have other guys courting you. Start dressing hot and pay him less attention. Believe me, he would get jealous and want to do anything to please you and save his marriage, including stopping that habit of masturrbation and finding solution to his quick ejaculation. He feels too secured with you that is why he doesn't want to do things to please you.

I didn't mean you should cheat on him oo. Just show him that "I don't care" attitude for sometimes. You could get busy with your phone. Chat with friends online. Pretend like he doesn't exist. Hang out with female friends and up your dressing game.
You'll be amazed at how your man would turn around.

shut up

this is not the best

OP please don't listen to this guy.

ebenebegbulu:
My husband is addicted to pornography. He watches porn every spare time he has. While we were dating,I noticed it but thought it was a normal habit for bachelors. I emptied his porn collections and told him it was time to stop. He promised to stop. We got married and he still continued. Sexually, his fore play was top notch so I didn't really care that he doesn't last long. Now 15 years down the line,probably due to both work and family responsibilities,he doesn't really indulge in fore play anymore. We make love like once or twice a month but i am left hanging, because he would ejaculate within a minute. We have talked about it numerous times with no positive change. He even feels embarrassed anytime i raise the issue. I have learnt to ignore my sexual needs so I wouldn't be tempted to misbehave because i had a good moral upbringing. My anger and confusion is that he is even more addicted to porn now more than ever. I have this feeling of resentment and disgust towards him. I am in my mid thirties and I shudder to think that this is how it is going to be. I googled and I learnt that porn has a way of affecting a man's sexual prowess. My husband is a good husband otherwise and he loves me but not enough to leave porn for my sake. I don't know what to do.
Please I need mature advice on how to tackle this problem.

You husband needs deliverance.

Are you not a Christian ?

Take him to church and let him see a pastor,, don't listen to some hediots here that wants you to make him jealous and all those shits... STAND BY YOUR HUSBAND AND PRAY FOR HIM. Porn and masturbation is a spiritual thing, it is not something you just stop like that. Only God can heal and save that person.

please ma, shey you love your husband ? and he loves you too ?
Then joins hands with and help him fight this addiction.
It can be overcomed, Just have faith in God.

I pray Joy is restored to your home in Jesus name. AMEN.

Life is all about conquering and winning battles so do not give.

#STAY BLESSED.

sweettease:

Oh dear! That's not the part I have a problem with, the part that I find odd is that you are advising a married woman to intentionally create the illusion that she is courting other guys. That's really messed up!

BTW, I am all for showering my man with love but if he acts like a boy and not the man I thought he was, then that love is dead and gone, I don't have time to play catch, you are either in or out! While change what I am about cos he can't handle it?

Just ignore that one. They talk shiit in the name of giving advice.

Omelette21:
You husband needs deliverance.

Are you not a Christian ?

Take him to church and let him see a pastor,, don't listen to some hediots here that wants you to make him jealous and all those shits... STAND BY YOUR HUSBAND AND PRAY FOR HIM. Porn and masturbation is a spiritual thing, it is not something you just stop like that. Only God can heal and save that person.

please ma, shey you love your husband ? and he loves you too ?
Then joins hands with and help him fight this addiction.
It can be overcomed, Just have faith in God.

I pray Joy is restored to your home in Jesus name. AMEN.

Life is all about conquering and winning battles so do not give.

#STAY BLESSED.

Omelette21:
You husband needs deliverance.

Are you not a Christian ?

Take him to church and let him see a pastor,, don't listen to some hediots here that wants you to make him jealous and all those shits... STAND BY YOUR HUSBAND AND PRAY FOR HIM. Porn and masturbation is a spiritual thing, it is not something you just stop like that. Only God can heal and save that person.

please ma, shey you love your husband ? and he loves you too ?
Then joins hands with and help him fight this addiction.
It can be overcomed, Just have faith in God.

I pray Joy is restored to your home in Jesus name. AMEN.

Life is all about conquering and winning battles so do not give.

#STAY BLESSED.

Omelette21:
You husband needs deliverance.

Are you not a Christian ?

Take him to church and let him see a pastor,, don't listen to some hediots here that wants you to make him jealous and all those shits... STAND BY YOUR HUSBAND AND PRAY FOR HIM. Porn and masturbation is a spiritual thing, it is not something you just stop like that. Only God can heal and save that person.

please ma, shey you love your husband ? and he loves you too ?
Then joins hands with and help him fight this addiction.
It can be overcomed, Just have faith in God.

I pray Joy is restored to your home in Jesus name. AMEN.

Life is all about conquering and winning battles so do not give.

#STAY BLESSED.

Must every thing as in every misfortune, problem, be attributed to spiritual influence in Africa? SMH

It is unfortunate what you are passing through. Please keep the line of communication open.continue to talk to him lovingly about how his addiction is adversely affecting your relationship with him. I bet you that one day you will hit a cord.Don't give up on him. I commend you madam.

op pls dnt listen to anyone telling u to make ur husbnd jelous.he z ur husband nt ur boyfrnd.

AdaIhiala:
Must every thing as in every misfortune, problem, be attributed to spiritual influence in Africa? SMH

take it or leave it,, it is spiritual, I was not the only one that confirmed it on the thread.

sweettease:

Oh dear! That's not the part I have a problem with, the part that I find odd is that you are advising a married woman to intentionally create the illusion that she is courting other guys. That's really messed up!

BTW, I am all for showering my man with love but if he acts like a boy and not the man I thought he was, then that love is dead and gone, I don't have time to play catch, you are either in or out! While change what I am about cos he can't handle it?

When the lady starts showing him that "I don't care" attitude, it gets the guy thinking that perhaps other guys are showing interest in her and this is what would spark his interest. It is actually that attitude that i meant in my post.
The lady has been showing him all the love since they got married and he now feels that her needs doesn't count.