Hanseel1:


Big one

Bro u just dey run up and down for this thread after u don first Bleep up and another babe talk sense into your head.
Why u con dey form one thing now.
U first say broke boys go celebrate the guy, and en Bleep up. U con dey form sense for the thread now after u don edit your post

Hanseel1:


After seeing the post I regret ever replying you..

you're not in Yankee.

In Yankee guys don't tell you anything about budget when you two go on dates!!!

You think me for a local dude or what like wtf who does that

I've been to Texas.

Order in line with what the guy is ordering.
I'm rich doesn't mean you should order for things anyhow.

I schooled there never claimed to be from there o it’s a gentleman’s way to pay when you invite someone that’s all

Dottore:
I don't owe u or anyone any burden of proof. Mkpi

Insulting me does not change the fact that you lied.

solasoulmusic:
your mama abi greet her for me

Hey, wetin i do you?

From your dry face you go know say you no get wet pucci.

Old tortoise..

progress69:


Bro u just dey run up and down for this thread after u don first Bleep up and another babe talk sense into your head.
Why u con dey form one thing now.
U first say broke boys go celebrate the guy, and en Bleep up. U con dey form sense for the thread now after u don edit your post

I only wanted to give her likes

Saintmary:

Sense should fall on guys, don't date if you're not ready to spend. There's a possibility that guys who think like this are going to register their wives for antenatal in substandard hospitals, endangering their lives because they don't want to spend their hard earned money. Anyway, you get what you seek.

Close mouth joor. Most of these generation girls lack principles and home training. A principled lady won’t behave that way on a first date no matter how rich the guy is. She can start that madness from maybe the second dates n all.

Can you imagine! How could she be that heartless? She almost ate the cost price of one bag of rice.
Excuse me girl, something is doing you?

zomoears:


Nope.

You are a shame.

Dude could afford to pay but chose to punish her greed, gluttony and stupidity. Such gals will not even allow d guy see d straps of her bra not to talk of pant... Her attitude shows she classified d guy as maga and maga has "maga-ed" her.

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keep shut what do you know,do u even have a girlfriend, show me one woman that is not greedy.

I no know o! This kind alpha male na akpa (wasteful male) male. The alpha male I recognise is the one that will make the girl go and borrow money to take him out. He will finish the meal and still be angry at for not behaving well during their convo, and she go apologise. The guy fit come go finish make she dey curse am o. But when he's around her she knows who's the boss.

sexdoll:


With this type of mentality, I can safely conclude that you are a fake fake fake alpha.

You can't even restrain the excesses of a poor girl you're hanging out with and you want to be claiming alpha.

By the way, who alpha epp?

Bros, there is alpha male and there is gentleman, which one you dey talk about.

proffemi:


I no know who alpha epp. All I know is, your woman will give you the level of respect you EARN. Deserting a woman because she pig's out is immature behavior. That's what some of the boys today do, but that's not what gentlemen do. A gentleman may decide not to take her out next time, but he'll pay the bills for a date he initiates. If he doesn't have enough cash, he will be frank about it.

I'm telling you how gentlemen act. It's your choice whether to be a gentleman or not. It's not a question of who e epp. If whatever you're doing works for you, continue. Leave me alone.

MissJoy29:
Both of them are wrong. Initially I wanted to blame the guy more cos I thought he took her to a fancy restaurant. But I realised his bill is just under 4k as against almost 12k of the girl's. Which means, it's not a fancy restaurant. It could be a regular fast food. Now I wonder, what on earth was the girl ordering for to amount to 11,800? . Two plates each of all the food items they have on display? This is where I blame the girl. She was greedy.

On the other hand, he may have taken her to a fancy restaurant that charges 4k for a side dish and water only. You know that kind restaurant na. And the girl may have ordered for normal food but in an expensive restaurant. I don't blame her here. I blame the guy here for taking her to such a restaurant and expecting her to buy water alone. Dude probably was trying to impress the girl (a lot do) and yet he was the first to cry foul.

It's still possible the girl had more money than what she let on. She was just trying to let the guy know that it's his responsibility to pay for a date if there's no prior agreement to split the bill. That was why she asked that question that sounded rude to the guy. But guy wait, were you expecting her to smile at you when you told her to pay? Mbanu!

But this is where the girl spoilt the show and belittled herself. She had to beg & apologised to the guy probably to get him to come back and pay. After walking out on you cos of money and embarrassing you. It really means that she was broke or stingy. All she would have done was to pay the money, eat her food and walk out with her head held high. But alas! She either didn't have the money or she didn't want to spend it. Which is bad!.

Moral of this long talk: let's try to respect ourselves as ladies and stop the embarrassment biko. No need to show us how hungry your ancestors are & how uncultured and insensitive you can be. You should be wise enough to know who your date is & what he's capable of doing.

Finally, ladies, never ever leave the house to a date without your own money. The reason is not to rub it in the guy's face or form rich woman. It's just to save yourself from embarrass situations that may arise.

cc: purityval
cassyrooy
chocberry

I beg to disagree. U can eat food in a fancy restaurant with 3k plus. Doesnt have to be sides, it all depends on what u order. I can take u to a road side Amala joint and i spend just 5h, while u spend 2k. Do u know why, while I ordered Amala 200,and probably just assorted worth 3h, you probably ordered 100 Amala, 2 "egufe" worth 400 each, assorted 3h, maybe eja kika 3h, then maybe pormor 2h. Its already going to 2k in the same road side restaurant i ate with 5h. Dont say nobody can eat all of that. Cos i will devour all without looking back.
How.much does a buffet cost in big hotels on the island, at least I have to not less than 4 and the most expensive was just 15k, and u eat all u want.
The babe probably stuffs like snail, lobsters or some of this stuffs more expensive that regular beef and chicken In quilox one snail goes for a minium of 1k5. If she orders 4 of that, that iis 6k ready ...remember those snails are not so big. I hope u get where i am coming from.
Its a fair date, when u know u cant pay, u have to be fair, or ask politely if u could have those sides and even offer to pay part, the guy will be more reasonable that way and u earn more respect. The guy did nothing wrong IMO.

solasoulmusic:


I schooled there never claimed to be from there o it’s a gentleman’s way to pay when you invite someone that’s all

Someone typed something about the looks of these girls that act like the girl OP encountered or support them with their quotes or broke shame guys and its just so true. I just took a glance on your Profile pic LMAO I'm just speechless, its a case of old Layers.

oshaosha2014:
I no know o! This kind alpha male na akpa (wasteful male) male. The alpha male I recognise is the one that will make the girl go and borrow money to take him out. He will finish the meal and still be angry at for not behaving well during their convo, and she go apologise. The guy fit come go finish make she dey curse am o. But when he's around her she knows who's the boss.

Hmm... your own brand of alpha male is equally problematic.

To me, a true alpha doesn't not fear people's opinion thus he wouldn't mind telling the girl then and there that he ain't paying for her excesses.

He wouldn't necessarily put the girl into trouble by making her to go and borrow money just to feed him and make him happy.

It's only immature alpha, or rather, jerks that do that.

A true alpha doesn't even have to depend on a girl, or anyone as a matter of fact, to get his own satisfaction.

He already has it all.

What he doesn't want in his life is someone who will come and destroy his happiness for him.

kushme:


Hey, wetin i do you?

From your dry face you go know say you no get wet pucci.

Old tortoise..

Don’t take my reply as support For your foolishness im 30

SexyDenzel:
Someone typed something about the looks of these girls that act like the girl OP encountered or support them with their quotes or broke shame guys and its just so true. I just took a glance on your Profile pic LMAO I'm just speechless, its a case of old Layers.

in your mind your sexy abi lol nigga selling here

oshaosha2014:
Bros, there is alpha male and there is gentleman, which one you dey talk about.

The mistake some of you guys are making is to put words in my mouth. I never said ALPHA-MALE. I said "alpha in the relationship". That is, the dominant partner. Such a partner demands respect, and generally needs to earn it. Some of us believe being a gentlemen at the appropriate time is an excellent way for your woman to respect you. If being juvenile works for you (or others), great.

Hope you are clear about my usage now?

solasoulmusic:

If you leave an inch my brother you have already given a mile things are hard you really don’t know anyone’s last meal I’m not saying she did good but he left that inch for her by not being honest he invited her

Agreed . But I'm very sure you know where I am coming from.ladies should wise up and try as much as possible not to be embarrassed like this.If I was a single babe no way I'm going on a date without my own money worse worse I can pay for myself and book uber .

oshaosha2014:
I no know o! This kind alpha male na akpa (wasteful male) male. The alpha male I recognise is the one that will make the girl go and borrow money to take him out. He will finish the meal and still be angry at for not behaving well during their convo, and she go apologise. The guy fit come go finish make she dey curse am o. But when he's around her she knows who's the boss.

Being a neanderthal works for some guys. But I think most self-respecting women wouldn't stay long with such behavior. Do you want your woman to love you or to fear you?

Hanseel1:
where in the guy's post did you see alpha? and what makes you think he's an alpha male?

if that is your definition of alpha male then they're probably extint or few because magas are now wise.

I can guess the age and marital status of most posters from their posts.

By whatever definition, a real man doesn't start what he can't finish. You don't take a girl to an eatery you can barely afford. And when you're there, and she's pigging up and ordering things, a real man will gently give her a hint what's up.

What looks like a maga-defining expense for you (N11,000) is chicken change to some. Are you telling me that my paying N11,000 for a woman's meal makes me a maga? Not unless that is a substantial percentage of my monthly income! Obviously, the dude saw an expense of N11,000 as maga-defining. You probably do too. I don't.

I guess it all depends on the sort of women you and the poster are used to ??

erico2k2:

Agreed . But I'm very sure you know where I am coming from.ladies should wise up and try as much as possible not to be embarrassed like this.If I was a single babe no way I'm going on a date without my own money worse worse I can pay for myself and book uber .

I understand and respect your point but not stating in clear terms before the date and ranting about it on social media is different It’s when you have money you van whine or dine

justtoodark:


are you the guy....?

something is fishy about you....

their is nothing to defend by the guy....he is wrong for doing that....

Lmao, this is someone that can cover 5 times that bill without issue.

The girl was mannerless and he thought her a lesson.
It’s not about the cost of the order. It’s the way she responded, knowing she didn’t have money.

It’s a matter of etiquette.

You don’t behave like that.

solasoulmusic:

Don’t take my reply as support For your foolishness im 30

Hehehehe, I don't give a sh**t about your age. All I know is that, you look like an old tortoise with a dry face and a dry pucci...

Lips like dry chilli pepper..

Next time, quote your match with that stupid cliche..

Nawa o, the girl is not considerate at all, how will she eat that food of that amount at a stretch.

erico2k2:
4 dis buhari period ke? no Gentlemen ohh lol

Buhari period, yes. But guy, if he no reach to carry woman to expensive joint, na by force? Could he not take her to a place more his level?
Yes, I know why: a lot of you guys like forming to babes that you are worth more than you actually are. But when the babe now starts making demands (especially if she's a little lacking in the self-control department), you feel the pinch.

But whatever else, he shouldn't take to social media to boast about his shameful behavior.

Nigerians blame all manners of nasty attitudes and values on poverty. Poverty my foot.

proffemi:


I can guess the age and marital status of most posters from their posts.

By whatever definition, a real man doesn't start what he can't finish. You don't take a girl to an eatery you can barely afford. And when you're there, and she's pigging up and ordering things, a real man will gently give her a hint what's up.

What looks like a maga-defining expense for you (N11,000) is chicken change to some. Are you telling me that my paying N11,000 for a woman's meal makes me a maga? Not unless that is a substantial percentage of my monthly income! Obviously, the dude saw an expense of N11,000 as maga-defining. You probably do too. I don't.

I guess it all depends on the sort of women you and the poster are used to ??

It’s not the money.
He had the money to pay.
He was vexed by the way she reacted like it was her right.

Mofe72:
It’s not the money. He had the money to pay. He was vexed by the way she reacted like it was her right.

Guy, don't lets kid ourselves joo!

If you go on a date with a woman you like, and she's misbehaving like that, the best way to put her in her place is to pay the money and let her know how little you think about her behavior (or insert whatever other punitive measures here). It's when broke-arse niggaz that can't really afford the bill that they balk at it. In which case, he should have told her. Abi are you saying they were not conversing all the while? I bet he was busy forming Dangote's nephew.

A lot of you here, keep missing the point.
The point is not that the food was expensive. The point is that she was rude!!!
Even when she had no right to be.

If you know Winter, the guy behind a hoestory, 50k dinner is not the problem.
Someone that’s enjoying his life...

The girl was downright RUDE!!!

Dottore:
I had invited a girl on a date. I thought we could start something serious. Her father is a Secondary School Teacher while her mum is a trader. While we were considering where to go she said she'd like to go to Sahara Restaurant that she had never been there and she heard it's a nice place. . I had gone there a couple of times. This restaurant is a classy restaurant run by Arabs in Enugu. she came with 2 other girls, all were provocatively dressed and chewing gums without the slightest care in the world.
. A conversation ensued between btw us through text:
Me: babe I thought this meeting is for the both of us.
You didn't tell me you are coming with your friends.

Babe: what's wrong with my friends coming with me.
I also accompany them to meet their bfs. Besides
they are bored in the hostel and we are hungry.

(they were busy going through a big leather bound colorful menu book and placing orders)

Me: I didn't plan for this. I have a budget for our outing.

Babe: duuurrr! (carelessly chewing gum with clicking sounds)

I kept my cool as they chattered about school and gossiped about their school mates. In less than 30mins the food started coming, the only thing I could recognize was pizza which they say they'd prefer as 'take away' and a bowl of shredded Chicken Sauce. Among their orders were two glass cups of a drink I couldn't recognize and a slice of lemon hanging on the tip of each of the glass.
The waiter brought a printed bill with a shiny steel cone that they use to cover bills. I opened the cone and looked I saw N17,300
I had ordered and paid for bottled water while I was waiting for her to come.

I gently stood up, left and drove straight to another eatery.. I didn't bother switching off my phone because of 3 lousy girls. I managed to silence it though because the calls were incessant followed with countless messages that first started with insults then calmer tones of "apologies"..

Nonsense

Standing ovation man.

Well played.

proffemi:


Guy, don't lets kid ourselves joo!

If you go on a date with a woman you like, and she's misbehaving like that, the best way to put her in her place is to pay the money and let her know how little you think about her behavior (or insert whatever other punitive measures here). It's when broke-arse niggaz that can't really afford the bill that they balk at it. In which case, he should have told her. Abi are you saying they were not conversing all the while? I bet he was busy forming Dangote's nephew.

Bros, I know the guy, that money is change to him.

He wanted to teach her a lesson.

SexyDenzel:
Someone typed something about the looks of these girls that act like the girl OP encountered or support them with their quotes or broke shame guys and its just so true. I just took a glance on your Profile pic LMAO I'm just speechless, its a case of old Layers.

Chai!! Ur badmouthed o.

Mofe72:
Bros, I know the guy, that money is change to him. He wanted to teach her a lesson.

I truly doubt that. A guy to whom N11,000 is chicken change is unlikely to have such hunger-stricken ladies around him.

There are many things wrong with our society. People justifying terrible manners for whatever reason is part of it. If you want women to treat men like men, then you should ask men to act the part, and not be douchebags.

How is leaving her in the lurch a commensurate "lesson" for pigging out? He should blame his choice of women, and do what real guys do: pay the %$#$$% bill on a date you initiate!

kushme:


Hehehehe, I don't give a sh**t about your age. All I know is that, you look like an old tortoise with a dry face and a dry pucci...

Lips like dry chilli pepper..

Next time, quote your match with that stupid cliche..

is that all bro what is you ish static dick? Abeg disappear mature niggas only I love me ok sorry I don’t stalk photos dry lips or not it’s moving bitch