Winter na correct guy!

I'm sure the girl would never forget this lesson. It will help her in the future

proffemi:


I truly doubt that. A guy to whom N11,000 is chicken change is unlikely to have such hunger-stricken ladies around him.

There are many things wrong with our society. People justifying terrible manners for whatever reason is part of it. If you want women to treat men like men, then you should ask men to act the part, and not be douchebags.

How is leaving her in the lurch a commensurate "lesson" for pigging out? He should blame his choice of women, and do what real guys do: pay the %$#$$% bill on a date you initiate!

She could have simply said “sorry, I thought you would cover it”.
She basically wanted to seem like she wasn’t cheap, and it backfired.

Me, what I’m aware of is that the bill is/was not an issue for ‘Winter’

Mofe72:
She could have simply said “sorry, I thought you would cover it”. He basically wanted to seem like she wasn’t cheap, and it backfired. Me, what I’m aware of is that the bill is/was not an issue for ‘Winter’

Well, we'll have to take your word for that now, won't we? All I know is, whatever the offense, you don't leave a lady you took out on a date in the lurch like that. What next, abandon her in a deserted part of town because she dissed your car?

solasoulmusic:
Which kind of cheap guy would invite a woman for a date and not pay she’s wrong to order lavishly but nawa o and some are even abusing broke girl she like your father met your mother in buckinham parlance lol I said it

All dis pipo weh go skul sefu, hmmm!
And i know say na either 1 thick urhobo or yoruba village them stay.
Hmmm, Madam parLANCe weldon iyo

Buckinam pipo i salute iyo d

the guy no whats up

Angelicka:
An online user shared this post of how he took a girl out on a date and left her stranded because she couldn't pay for her bills.

See screenshots of what he wrote below:

http://www.royaloya.com/2018/05/guy-left-his-date-stranded-after-she.html

skywalker240:

All dis pipo weh go skul sefu, hmmm!
And i know say na either 1 thick urhobo or yoruba village them stay.
Hmmm, Madam parLANCe weldon iyo

Buckinam pipo i salute iyo d

haha I did it purposely to stress my point I know how to speak to everyone but I have my own accent too you will hear it more in my songs I really doubt it this is the lower lounge my temp office ..don’t like to show too much but I’m no village babe We are blessed that’s all

solasoulmusic:
haha I did it purposely to stress my point I really doubt it

I no doubt you o madam

solasoulmusic:
haha I did it purposely to stress my point I really doubt it

I no doubt you o madam
I been think say the correct spelling na Buckingham Palace iyo

proffemi:


I can guess the age and marital status of most posters from their posts.

By whatever definition, a real man doesn't start what he can't finish. You don't take a girl to an eatery you can barely afford. And when you're there, and she's pigging up and ordering things, a real man will gently give her a hint what's up.

What looks like a maga-defining expense for you (N11,000) is chicken change to some. Are you telling me that my paying N11,000 for a woman's meal makes me a maga? Not unless that is a substantial percentage of my monthly income! Obviously, the dude saw an expense of N11,000 as maga-defining. You probably do too. I don't.

I guess it all depends on the sort of women you and the poster are used to ??

11k isn't my problem guy.

The fact that I'm made doesn't mean you should order for things anyhow.

I don't see you as a maga either
your life, your choice.


I can't order for 65k clothes in a shopping and you order for 100k clothes and still expect me to pay, I'm I mad?

skywalker240:

I no doubt you o madam
I been think say the correct spelling na Buckingham Palace iyo

you don’t understand the phonetics behind my statement you see I know my target audience those who get me do those who don’t try to insinuate a sense of grandiosity when in fact one is enjoying life

Hanseel1:


11k isn't my problem guy.

The fact that I'm made doesn't mean you should order for things anyhow. ...

That is all well and good. But take it from me, unless there's more to it (the guy forming much?), he would tell her to tone it down, not wait till after the fact and then, ask her to pay because - was it ATM he said he forgot at home? I mean, what sort of decent guy does that?

If you think she's pigging out and you know you don't intend to (or can't!) pay, call her to order. That he asked her to pay at all ("testing" her, abi?) is a fail. What sort of big boy asks a girl to pay because he doesn't have N11k on him for a date?

Of course, the girl also failed on an epic scale, but I'm hard on the guy because he's the one who came online to crow about what amounts to shameful behavior.

Abeg make I pass joo. You guys are trying too hard to justify obnoxious behavior, and make out a broke-azz nigga into a he-man.

pocohantas:
He did well.

How can a broke lady eat almost N12000 at a sitting?
N6000 less than minimum wage?
Haba!!!

extremely true talk, a moderate and considerate order would have saved her the embarrassment. being decent is not just in appearance but in thinking too.

Dottore:
I had invited a girl on a date. I thought we could start something serious. Her father is a Secondary School Teacher while her mum is a trader. While we were considering where to go she said she'd like to go to Sahara Restaurant that she had never been there and she heard it's a nice place. . I had gone there a couple of times. This restaurant is a classy restaurant run by Arabs in Enugu. she came with 2 other girls, all were provocatively dressed and chewing gums without the slightest care in the world.
. A conversation ensued between btw us through text:
Me: babe I thought this meeting is for the both of us.
You didn't tell me you are coming with your friends.

Babe: what's wrong with my friends coming with me.
I also accompany them to meet their bfs. Besides
they are bored in the hostel and we are hungry.

(they were busy going through a big leather bound colorful menu book and placing orders)

Me: I didn't plan for this. I have a budget for our outing.

Babe: duuurrr! (carelessly chewing gum with clicking sounds)

I kept my cool as they chattered about school and gossiped about their school mates. In less than 30mins the food started coming, the only thing I could recognize was pizza which they say they'd prefer as 'take away' and a bowl of shredded Chicken Sauce. Among their orders were two glass cups of a drink I couldn't recognize and a slice of lemon hanging on the tip of each of the glass.
The waiter brought a printed bill with a shiny steel cone that they use to cover bills. I opened the cone and looked I saw N17,300
I had ordered and paid for bottled water while I was waiting for her to come.

I gently stood up, left and drove straight to another eatery.. I didn't bother switching off my phone because of 3 lousy girls. I managed to silence it though because the calls were incessant followed with countless messages that first started with insults then calmer tones of "apologies"..

Nonsense

proffemi:


That is all well and good. But take it from me, unless there's more to it (the guy forming much?), he would tell her to tone it down, not wait till after the fact and then, ask her to pay because - was it ATM he said he forgot at home? I mean, what sort of decent guy does that?

If you think she's pigging out and you know you don't intend to (or can't!) pay, call her to order. That he asked her to pay at all ("testing" her, abi?) is a fail. What sort of big boy asks a girl to pay because he doesn't have N11k on him for a date?

Of course, the girl also failed on an epic scale, but I'm hard on the guy because he's the one who came online to crow about what amounts to shameful behavior.

Abeg make I pass joo. You guys are trying too hard to justify obnoxious behavior, and make out a broke-azz nigga into a he-man.

and what is the girl?

isn't she a broke, frustrated and hungry bitch??


Guy stop speaking like a kid.. do you know what these girls have done to guys

Even me I'm a retired maga

Instead of paying 11k for your meal I'll use that money to fuel my car for 4days.
if I initiate a date with a lady I order for more and expect her to order for less because it's my money not yours.


#No hard feelings

solasoulmusic:
you don’t understand the phonetics behind my statement you see I know my target audience those who get me do those who don’t try to insinuate a sense of grandiosity when in fact one is enjoying life

Mama, i don hear

skywalker240:

Mama, i don hear

Ose

See as Ashawo them full foe this thread
Learning the ways of the wild

solasoulmusic:
you don’t understand the phonetics behind my statement you see I know my target audience those who get me do those who don’t try to insinuate a sense of grandiosity when in fact one is enjoying life

In your mind ..... are you the old lady on your profile

Hanseel1:


and what is the girl?

isn't she a broke, frustrated and hungry bitch??

Guy stop speaking like a kid.. do you know what these girls have done to guys

Even me I'm a retired maga

Instead of paying 11k for your meal I'll use that money to fuel my car for 4days.
if I initiate a date with a lady I order for more and expect her to order for less because it's my money not yours.

#No hard feelings

With the part I highlighted above, I understand you clearly now. If you read up, I think you'll find out that you've perverted the meaning of the expression "invite someone on a date".
#nohardfeelings

Hanseel1:


In your mind ..... are you the old lady on your profile

your probably older than me sef seeing that my age bothers you

I have wondering, how can one person eat something worth 11k in less than one hour? And I was thinking I can eat. . . chisoz!!

proffemi:


That is all well and good. But take it from me, unless there's more to it (the guy forming much?), he would tell her to tone it down, not wait till after the fact and then, ask her to pay because - was it ATM he said he forgot at home? I mean, what sort of decent guy does that?

If you think she's pigging out and you know you don't intend to (or can't!) pay, call her to order. That he asked her to pay at all ("testing" her, abi?) is a fail. What sort of big boy asks a girl to pay because he doesn't have N11k on him for a date?

Of course, the girl also failed on an epic scale, but I'm hard on the guy because he's the one who came online to crow about what amounts to shameful behavior.

Abeg make I pass joo. You guys are trying too hard to justify obnoxious behavior, and make out a broke-azz nigga into a he-man.

You are hard on the guy because he left the girl in a stranded way. You wanted the lady to win or be indifferent after behaving like a prostitute being taking to the bar. I have read your post severally and all you were pointing out was how the guy left her in a lurch.

You haven't gone hard on the guy but you were 'pained' by the fact he left her stranded but you didn't consider how her order or so would make the guy either stranded emotionally or financially.

Saintmary:
That's a glutton. But guys, tell them before the date not to over-order. Some of you tell the lady to order anything she wants, leading her into a trap and then complain about it later or hang her out to dry. If you know it's not in your budget, be plain about it.

so because the guy asked d gal to order anytin... D gal will now be displaying her lack of home training... Its like goin to a serve yourself party and deciding to eat every dish on the table

Dottore:

Whats the meaning

Most Valuable Player

proffemi:


With the part I highlighted above, I understand you clearly now. If you read up, I think you'll find out that you've perverted the meaning of the expression "invite someone on a date".
#nohardfeelings

Yeah. ..the first date should be sponsored by whoever initiated it but don't order things unnecessarily.
Telling the girl to return the food because it's not okay to you is a big disgrace to her because she might be ashamed not to return the food...

So a sensible lady is supposed to follow the orders of the guy not ordering things anyhow when she's broke herself.

You've tried abeg, been reading your posts on this thread.
You did very well

Both are wrong in this case. The lady is wrong by not being able to pay for herself, so she could have walked out of there immediately he started that nonsense ATM card talk.

The guy is wrong for every damn thing he did. Like you said. He must have been forming dangote's nephew
He should have been able to pay or let her know what's up so she knows how to order.

How can he invite someone on a date and start all those rough play jokes of I left my ATM card at home? Like the girl said, who does that? That's where the girl should have paid for her meal and walked out. Block the fool's number and his entire existence and move on. But unfortunately, she fuckêd up by not having cash to pay.

Anyways you're on nairaland. Where as long as it is an issue involving a man and a woman. Even if both are wrong or the guy alone is wrong.

Only the lady will be blamed. While the guy will be made to look like a saint.

proffemi:


That is all well and good. But take it from me, unless there's more to it (the guy forming much?), he would tell her to tone it down, not wait till after the fact and then, ask her to pay because - was it ATM he said he forgot at home? I mean, what sort of decent guy does that?

If you think she's pigging out and you know you don't intend to (or can't!) pay, call her to order. That he asked her to pay at all ("testing" her, abi?) is a fail. What sort of big boy asks a girl to pay because he doesn't have N11k on him for a date?

Of course, the girl also failed on an epic scale, but I'm hard on the guy because he's the one who came online to crow about what amounts to shameful behavior.

Abeg make I pass joo. You guys are trying too hard to justify obnoxious behavior, and make out a broke-azz nigga into a he-man.

pocohantas:
He did well.

How can a broke lady eat almost N12000 at a sitting?
N6000 less than minimum wage?
Haba!!!

Nope, I beg to differ. The homie didn't do well. Granted the lady might have come off as greedy.. But then, that Guy isn't intelligent at all, there are even effective ways to deal with such kinda ladies than acting like a brute, like he reasons from his behind and thinks he did well...

Such kinda Guys only end up creating issues for themselves in relationships simply cos of their cheer clumsiness and dunderheadedness.

What is tomfoolery in this day and age is customary and applauded as being smart and intelligent.

Hanseel1:


Yeah. ..the first date should be sponsored by whoever initiated it but don't order things unnecessarily.
Telling the girl to return the food because it's not okay to you is a big disgrace to her because she might be ashamed not to return the food...

So a sensible lady is supposed to follow the orders of the guy not ordering things anyhow when she's broke herself.

These days, when ladies go on a date, they go with money and order in the range of the money they have with them. This is a Plan B should things go south. Seeing this lady went with only N5k and ordered for a food of N11k, I think she deserved the treatment she got. I am very sure, if she was aware that the bill is on her, she wouldn't have ordered up to that amount.

Daeylar:
You've tried abeg, been reading your posts on this thread.

Both are wrong in this case. The lady is wrong by not having cash to pay for herself and walking out of there immediately he started that nonsense ATM card talk.

The guy is wrong for every damn thing he did. Like you said. He must have been forming dangote's nephew
He should have been able to pay or let her know what's up so she knows how to order.

How can he invite someone on a date and start all those rough play jokes of I left my ATM card at home? Like the girl said, who does that? That's where the girl should have paid for her meal and walked out. Block his number and entire existence and move on. But unfortunately, she fuckêd up by not having cash to pay.

Anyways you're on nairaland. Where as long as it is an issue involving a man and a woman. Even if both are wrong or the guy alone is wrong.

Only the lady will be blamed. While the guy will be made to look like a saint.

I think the guy was wrong when he foolishly told the lady to order for whatever she wanted. That's his sin. He should be man enough to caution the lady when he noticed the outrageous demand she was making.

Trust me, the lady has no intention for the guy, she only wanted to maximize that moment and carry on with her life. This is where I blamed the girl for everything that happened to her. Like you rightly concluded, the lady will be blamed for ordering for something she can't afford. It means living above her means.

boyjo:

My bradaaaa! See me o.

LOL!

mrphysics:

These days, when ladies go on a date, they go with money and order in the range of the money they have with them. This is a Plan B should things go south. Seeing this lady went with only N5k and ordered for a food of N11k, I think she deserved the treatment she got. I am very sure, if she was aware that the bill is on her, she wouldn't have ordered up to that amount.

Perfect treatment.

mrphysics:

I think the guy was wrong when he foolishly told the lady to order for whatever she wanted. That's his sin. He should be man enough to caution the lady when he noticed the outrageous demand she was making.

Trust me, the lady has no intention for the guy, she only wanted to maximize that moment and carry on with her life. This is where I blamed the girl for everything that happened to her. Like you rightly concluded, the lady will be blamed for ordering for something she can't afford. It means living above her means.

leave the poor girl alone

that might be her first date

Don't be surprised these are the type of ladies that always broke shame people on nairaland and they don't have kobo