This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it

Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

OK

Khallyella:
Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage...after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why.

kimbraa:
I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage... after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why.

Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?

A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.

It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband.

thats why i never wanna marry a working woman. too many issues.

The more I read topics on nairaland romance section, the less I believe in this illusion called marriage.

From all indications mariage is a very bad investment. Is this thing called marriage worth all the stress and energy put into it?

ubunja:
thats why i never wanna marry a working woman. too many issues.

What do men really want? Today, you won't marry a liability, tomorrow, you won't marry a working woman.

LoJ:
The more I read topics on nairaland romance section, the less I believe in this illusion called marriage.

From all indications mariage is a very bad investment. Is this thing called marriage worth all the stress and energy put into it?

Marriage is not an illusion. People don't speak out when their marriage is sweet. They only complain when it is going through challenges so the fact that we see various narrations of woes on a daily basis does not mean the institution itself is flawed. It just means we humans have issues

Nothing you do can ever satisfy a woman, they always quickly feel that emotional emptiness that would eventually make them vulnerable to another d!ck.
I think marriage should be abolished and open relationships encourage, that way nobody can sexually hold you to ransom.
I had to comment because a close friend of mine is having this same sexless marriage with his wife.

Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window.

Ishilove:

Marriage is not an illusion. People don't speak out when their marriage is sweet. They only complain when it is going through challenges so the fact that we see various narrations of woes on a daily basis does not mean the institution itself is flawed. It just means we humans have issues

It makes sense what you said.

Well I hope youre right. I have the age, means, proposals and even pressure from friends and business partners to get married. Desire however seems to be lacking.

kimbraa:
I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage...after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why.

The reason why the vagina is slack is also the same reason why breasts sag- aging and childbirth. Overtime the body begins to lose it's elasticity in various ways.

In doubt? Check out Schwartzeneggar's recent beach photos.

LoJ:

It makes sense what you said.

Well I hope youre right. I have the age, means, proposals and even pressure from friends and business partners to get married. Desire however seems to be lacking.

I know where you're coming from. If the desire never comes then all well and good. Apostle Paul was never married. However, the desire will come when you meet someone you're compatible with in almost every way.

People are still having successful marriages, they are just not publicised. It's the woe filled ones that get all the attention.

SoapQueen:


What do men really want? Today, you won't marry a liability, tomorrow, you won't marry a working woman.

others want that working woman. not ubunja. ubunja needs a housewife. a young one at that

Ishilove:

The reason why the vagina is slack is also the same reason why breasts sag- aging and childbirth. Overtime the body begins to lose it's elasticity in various ways.

In doubt? Check out Schwartzeneggar's recent beach photos.

I know of childbirth, but she didn't say if she's got a kid(s).

LOL @ check out schwarzenegger's recent photos. Be that as it may, she has to tell us her age.

donstan18:


Stop sugar-coating the truth, the first commenter is so so right. What kind of work takes away your sexual life and stops you from getting wet/h0rny? Was she raped?

A man/woman don't just wake up to loose the sexual drives and attraction he/she has for a partner without being attracted to someone else.

It's either the lady is cheating(which I believe) or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/attribute of her husband.

Get married first, spend your first 10 years thereabout, then come back and tell us if it's been the same thing from when you first met her. For the now, quit casting aspersions.

kimbraa:
I know of childbirth, but she didn't say if she's got a kid(s).

LOL @ check out schwarzenegger's recent photos. Be that as it may, she has to tell us her age.

My sister, it's a medically proven fact that age causes the vagina to lose elasticity

kimbraa:
Get married first, spend your first 10 years thereabout, then come back and tell us if it's been the same thing from when you first met her. For the now, quit casting aspersions.

Don't mind them. It's the unmarried ones that are the most vocal on marriage threads.

kimbraa:
Get married first, spend your first 10 years thereabout, then come back and tell us if it's been the same thing from when you first met her. For the now, quit casting aspersions.

Marriage now steals sexual drives and feeling from women. I'm learning faster

Ishilove:

Don't mind them. It's the unmarried ones that are the most vocal on marriage threads.

He wants to prove a point, that the lady is seeing someone else even when she swore not to be seeing anyone on this thread just to validate himself that married women cheat the most.

I guess they don't know why people say love isn't enough.

donstan18:


Marriage now steals sexual drives and feeling from women. I'm learning faster

Not just women, but couples. I guess you know what I meant now.

your husband created his thread too


https://www.nairaland.com/4530025/true-sign-cheating

Khallyella:
Once these ladies get married , their true colors start shining bright like a diamond in the sky, Bet if you were like this before you two got married, he wouldn't have taken you to the altar.

He most probably thinks you're attracted to someone else, and I also think so too, you don't just wake up one morning and start feeling unattracted to someone you've yearned to spend the rest of your life with lest you're under a spell

Try getting the spark back in the marriage or quit to give the innocent man peace of mind.

Adios.

Lmao, you're obviously not married.

kimbraa:
He wants to prove a point, that the lady is seeing someone else even when she swore not to be seeing anyone on this thread just to validate himself that married women cheat the most.

I guess they don't know why people say love isn't enough.

It doesn't take genius to know love isn't enough. Love can never be enough

kimbraa:
Not just women, but couples. I guess you know what I meant now.

I used couples to make my point when I first mentioned you, so don't see my comments as a man vs woman cheating tendency shii.

I still stand with my point; it's either OP is cheating or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/ attribute of her husband.

Work don't steal sexual drives and attraction for a partner.
Marriage don't steal sexual drives and attraction, it can only get less, not abolished.

LoJ:
The more I read topics on nairaland romance section, the less I believe in this illusion called marriage.

From all indications mariage is a very bad investment. Is this thing called marriage worth all the stress and energy put into it?

Perhaps you should stop entering cars and buses too since nobody has ever posted that a bus s/he was in successfuly took them to their destination. All we read about daily is accidents.

slacking vg, I guess this has to do wiv age, u can't expect yuhaelf to perform at d same level sexually forever....U guys should try out some new things to bring back d glow....

donstan18:


I used couples to make my point when I first mentioned you, so don't see my comments as a man vs woman cheating tendency shii.

I still stand with my point; it's either OP is cheating or she's crushing on someone as a result of a faded character/ attribute of her husband.

Work don't steal sexual drives and attraction for a partner.
Marriage don't steal sexual drives and attraction, it can only get less, not abolished.

Quote where she said the attraction is no longer there. What she was talking about is that her sex life changed and coupling with the fact that her husband claims her pussy slacks at times then she's cheating. That is their problem. How would you feel if someone accuses you of something you're not doing? The act of love making isn't all about pathing a woman's leg and getting done with it in minutes. Couples have to be physically and psychologically ready for the act of love making to take its cause effectively. Imagine where you leave your home as early as 6:am, spend 12 hours from 24 working, come back tired, and you'd have to cook or do one or two things before bedtime and someone wakes you for sex...Would she perform? Then when she doesn't, you say it's because another man is involved.

olaboy1:
Nothing you do can ever satisfy a woman, they always quickly feel that emotional emptiness that would eventually make them vulnerable to another d!ck.
I think marriage should be abolished and open relationships encourage, that way nobody can sexually hold you to ransom.
I had to comment because a close friend of mine is having this same sexless marriage with his wife.

Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window.

75% true

Eberechi24:
your husband created his thread too

pls how do one post link to a thread

copy and paste the link here na

Eberechi24:
your husband created his thread too

pls how do one post link to a thread

copy and paste the link here na