This is why I don't envy married folks. I can't imagine myself having to be constantly responsible for fulfilling someone else's sexual urge or desire. That is too much of a burden to bear for a nasty filthy activity like sex where you have to keep swimming in your spouse's genital secretions/fluids which is possibly infected with sexually transmitted diseases.

OP, I have no idea what to tell you. All the best as you figure something out. Apostle Paul already warned in the book of Corinthians that those who marry will face many problems. So, brace yourself.

waiting concern us

dingbang:
Ah ah.. a man to lose interest in having sex?,

how old are you?

Imustreturn:
lol.. I wrote somewhere there asking him to speak to the wife and tell her what the matter is.

I've seen situations like bro. I know wat am saying man. After now if he doesn't handle this issue well the next thing is the wife will say his cheating, wch is obvious, am saying so because u don't expect her to just believe all is well man.

And once that begins devil done win be that. Shey u get

I get u hombre. Nice point

guru03:

I don't smoke and take hard drugs, watch your language

ur libido is low. Fit time to exercise, eat fruits and foods rich in zinc. There is these supplement called revive, find out about it, and start using it. You'll be fine.

guru03:
Am happily married with a kid, but of recent I have lost interest in having sex and I know its affecting my wife, and have not cheated on my wife, please I need advice from married couples, no insults please, sincere opinion.

sir, I might not be married but I know how u feel ..100% .. I have a girlffriend that I was dating and we started living as couples for almost 2 years. The first 3 weeks was almost steady or too much sex.. I later discovered that within 2 months to the relationship I was tired of having sex with her, she wasn't fat noo. Perfect figure 8.. I would rather opt to cheat with someone who is not up to her standard..she noticed it too and steped up her Do you know how iwe solved it Role play!!!! I would go out and by the time am back in the evening she might be cooking and maybe she might just be wearing only my shirt, she started looking sOo hot that even if am tired, JUNIOR would not be.lol and we both had the understanding as a couple that its not "my" problem but "our" problem.. Cause as a couple u have to defeat the mindset of thinking bout urself alone, once u start seeing ur partner as ur half... Not with mouth but with both mindset and thoughts . That issue would be long gone, spice up ur bedroom life, get her some sexy lingerie.. Drink Kunu + Milk + GroundNut = Ever Ready for action.. Thank me later

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lastmessenger:
I didn't know men get tired of having sex. This is a new knowledge.

Don't worry you will soon know, you are still a kid

Jimmy231:
They just told you they need only sensible people to comment

so ,when you have no clue about something must you comment haba you have google on your phone is it forbidden to do a little check

I guess you noticed a lot of body changes from your wife body after childbirth.... Changes like big tommy because of laziness from her part to press the tommy well enough at least for the period of 3months before the tommy finally get back to shape,
Changes like the boobs becoming flat after the baby handle it for you..,Stretched mark around the tommy too might make a man lose sexual urge towards her wife,....those are the physical instances
The psychology part of it might be related to work stress,the baby seeking constant attention from the mother most of the time you needed her and some other factors earlier mentioned here.....
The best you can do is give your self some more time and naturally it will flow again..,.Change your mindset first and get your wife sexy and revealing cloths if she can't think of buying it for herself.when you finally have all the kids you intend to have and they grow and matured enough.it will flow more and the love for her body will equally amaze you.Marriage isn't a childs play.

Is she quarrelsome or nags a lot? If so .....its well.

srclark:
STOP TAKING CODEINE

For Get All This Codein Talks Bro Advice Needed Here.

franchasng:
It is normal....sex is overrated....women don't know that men do get tired of having sex with their wife once they get married.

But in most cases, it maybe as a result of financial stress...family/work/business pressure. Sometimes it might be as a result of over familiarity...you now see your wife as your sister; happens to lots of married men but in Nigeria, men pretend about it in order to keep the marriage going....but whitemen will divorce once they experience that.

My brother don't kill yourself about it....relax, with time, the urge may come again....all humans; man or woman must understand that sex can be tiring and boring, especially when u get married with too many responsibilities; mostly money matter.

At lest a point to pick here, thanks.

pikkasso:
sir, I might not be married but I know how u feel ..100% .. I have a girlffriend that I was dating and we started living as couples for almost 2 years. The first 3 weeks was almost steady or too much sex.. I later discovered that within 2 months to the relationship I was tired of having sex with her, she wasn't fat noo. Perfect figure 8.. I would rather opt to cheat with someone who is not up to her standard..she noticed it too and steped up her Do you know how iwe solved it Role play!!!! I would go out and by the time am back in the evening she might be cooking and maybe she might just be wearing only my shirt, she started looking sOo hot that even if am tired, JUNIOR would not be.lol and we both had the understanding as a couple that its not "my" problem but "our" problem.. Cause as a couple u have to defeat the mindset of thinking bout urself alone, once u start seeing ur partner as ur half... Not with mouth but with both mindset and thoughts . That issue would be long gone, spice up ur bedroom life, get her some sexy lingerie.. Drink Kunu + Milk + GroundNut = Ever Ready for action.. Thank me later

first of all ..u dont know tht ur gf. Its well known fact no matter how long u date a chic the day you put a ring on that... her true nature and character hits you. Sex with a gf is def much different with a wife. After marriage its almost impossible to have the home to yourselves esp as marriage comes wit the desire for kids by most wives(dnt forget theyve got a clock on them). Tht banging figure 8 body will def turn to figure 0 so brace up. The stress of caring for a new norn almost mkes couples celibate. You cant give tht dude ny advise bros. Lool

GAZZUZZ:


as you bring the mata come here, let me ask my own do you think you are coming out of the closet?

For sure, I have seen good advice

Just try ur best to picture ur wife as one sexy young biitch

Nigerian women after birth can be so unsexy. Damn

The elders have spoken

I THINK YOU ARE GAY. do you find men attractive? guru03

Waffarianman:



For Get All This Codein Talks Bro Advice Needed Here.

am giving you first hand info here from personal experience I took codeine for a very long time for close to 2 years on a daily basis 2-3 bottles it makes you lose interest in sexual activities that’s why I said “STOP TAKING CODEINE”

Call me for free treatment. 09053034898. You would need to make some adjustments in your menu and lifestyle.

[quote author=guru03 post=69033124]Am happily married with a kid, but of recent I have lost interest in having sex and I know its affecting my wife, and have not cheated on my wife, please I need advice from married couples, no insults please, sincere opinion.
..............................................................................................

No. 1: You need a vacation.

No.2: Women desire sex more after delivery! High hormones

No.3: Start using aphrodisiac cream or perfumes

No. 4: Change your diet. Eat more of fruits and less oil.

No. 5: Take her more on outing. Maybe to Silver Bird Galleria

No. 6: She must change to youthful dresses.

No.7: Club with her once-in-awhile. Adult clubs.

No. 8. Exercise a bit. Jogging preferably or press-ups.

No. 9: Bond well as family. Stress will be there. But please imbibe domestic tourism with your family. Perhaps- family weekend trio to Olumo Rock or family check-in to any low profile hotels too.

No. 10: Discuss probable small scale business venture with your wife. To complement your financial constraints. If there is any. Stress-free business like:

10. A: Popcorn, potato chips, fresh pepper packaging...

10. B: Register as wholesale distributor of sanitary pads with DOVE REPRESENTATIVE in LAGOS.
Your wife can start selling those products at RETAL PRICES.

God bless you as you rediscover your sexual prowessential back. Stay blessed Bro.

madgoat:
Next time dont marry someone ugly

sorry, i don't think he said his wife is ugly

revolt:
first of all ..u dont know tht ur gf. Its well known fact no matter how long u date a chic the day you put a ring on that... her true nature and character hits you. Sex with a gf is def much different with a wife. After marriage its almost impossible to have the home to yourselves esp as marriage comes wit the desire for kids by most wives(dnt forget theyve got a clock on them). Tht banging figure 8 body will def turn to figure 0 so brace up. The stress of caring for a new norn almost mkes couples celibate. You cant give tht dude ny advise bros. Lool

lol. I get you but you are missing the point... The point is he became defaultly celibate and I became defaultly celibate .. I gave him my own method that worked for me .. Me and my gf are still like we just met and planning on putting the ring tho.. But u know we naija men, we. Must be well settled for marriage. Good jobs, car .. Home, stable finances. Etc ... LoL... But the point is that he should try out my opinion, talk to his wife, let them. Experiment.. Let them start behaving like teenagers, if its to sneak out during work to one hotel like in role play and pretend like he is actually meeting one hot babe and the wife should sex him diffrently from the way she does at home.. She might come to the office give him a Mouth Action right there and then and tell him more waits for him at home.. The he comes home and after the kids are are sleeping.. She can blind fold him and take him to the room and handcuff him.. There are so many intimacy gadgets . Sex Handcuff .. Then give him oral pleasure of a lifetime and don't take of the blind fold.. Let his imagination do the seeing, but she would be on something sexy .. And leave nothing to imagination... Egbon Quote me for bedroom tips... Lol.. Am a pro

mhd5757:

Seriously does he take codeine? Because I know when when one takes it all that person wants to do is to relax and be by himself, also will not be interested in sex because it kills the sexual apetite. I know this because I do take it sometimes but not anymore, its too expensive.

But northern women takes codeine for sex,it makes them have heavenly experience.

guru03:

I have a good job, and good pay, I just need to make my wife happy so she doesn't go wired about my attitudes towards sex.

hire a labourer to service her for you.it is called division of labour.

srclark:
sorry if i went out of line ,from my experience that is what can make a man lose sexually drive instantly dont be offended .There are many things we consume that reduces sexual drive so try to do a check on things you take on a daily basis

a Nigerian who apologises, that is rare in Nigeria these days. We are all usually right

xynerise:


You can't force what is psychological or health related.

If there is any habit you just started that is literally against your sexual activity with your wife, quit it as soon as possible.

If you are undergoing stress or trauma...you need to find a way to curtail it. Sexual urge works with the brain. You need a relaxed mind. Make madam sef dey nake"d for house most of the time na

Being naked will only make it worse. Seeing a naked woman every time diminishes the desire

franchasng:
It is normal....sex is overrated....women don't know that men do get tired of having sex with their wife once they get married.

But in most cases, it maybe as a result of financial stress...family/work/business pressure. Sometimes it might be as a result of over familiarity...you now see your wife as your sister; happens to lots of married men but in Nigeria, men pretend about it in order to keep the marriage going....but whitemen will divorce once they experience that.

My brother don't kill yourself about it....relax, with time, the urge may come again....all humans; man or woman must understand that sex can be tiring and boring, especially when u get married with too many responsibilities; mostly money matter.

True. I married few months ago and suddenly, the poo is happening to me. I used to be crazy about sex but the knowledge alone that she would be there whenever i need it is also part of the problem. The mind also is a VERY powerful thing. If the mind has conceived something, one had better work out on way to control and reset it back to default.

franchasng:
It is normal....sex is overrated....women don't know that men do get tired of having sex with their wife once they get married.

But in most cases, it maybe as a result of financial stress...family/work/business pressure. Sometimes it might be as a result of over familiarity...you now see your wife as your sister; happens to lots of married men but in Nigeria, men pretend about it in order to keep the marriage going....but whitemen will divorce once they experience that.

My brother don't kill yourself about it....relax, with time, the urge may come again....all humans; man or woman must understand that sex can be tiring and boring, especially when u get married with too many responsibilities; mostly money matter.

You think it is only the man stuck with one person for the rest of his life. You don't think the woman too is in the same situation.

That is why they need to constantly spice things up and not let the marriage run on auto pilot.

pikkasso:
sir, I might not be married but I know how u feel ..100% .. I have a girlffriend that I was dating and we started living as couples for almost 2 years. The first 3 weeks was almost steady or too much sex.. I later discovered that within 2 months to the relationship I was tired of having sex with her, she wasn't fat noo. Perfect figure 8.. I would rather opt to cheat with someone who is not up to her standard..she noticed it too and steped up her Do you know how iwe solved it Role play!!!! I would go out and by the time am back in the evening she might be cooking and maybe she might just be wearing only my shirt, she started looking sOo hot that even if am tired, JUNIOR would not be.lol and we both had the understanding as a couple that its not "my" problem but "our" problem.. Cause as a couple u have to defeat the mindset of thinking bout urself alone, once u start seeing ur partner as ur half... Not with mouth but with both mindset and thoughts . That issue would be long gone, spice up ur bedroom life, get her some sexy lingerie.. Drink Kunu + Milk + GroundNut = Ever Ready for action.. Thank me later

Are you sure on the bolded?

Did u said only Married couple Oga go download porn movies and watch mayb ur jigolo is gettn cold by d day.