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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 5:40am On Jul 21, 2018 |
foyeks2001: May be he said it because he was very angry. Anger is a very bad thing.It can destroy anything.The wife must have said a lot of nasty things to push him to the wall. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by olabisimichael: 5:43am On Jul 21, 2018 |
oshe11: Once you move out, please don't make the mistake of letting feel comfortable around her! A woman that is bleeping with anger and fury has no limit to despicable cruelty! Be watchful and prayerful, You are within a dying rage when you live with a sad woman! it is better to leave her and move on! Let me shock with an interesting insight, she will not forget or will never forget this bad period in the marriage and by grace if both of you live graciously old and grey! She will treat your Bleep up! I swear down! it is that period she will travel to see one one grandchildren, to stay with her children and live with her children while she bring in a house maid to take of you! Man be wise! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Wallade(m): 5:43am On Jul 21, 2018 |
DonPiiko: Why did the lady not tell him from the beginning that the house is fully her own not his own? Could that have influenced his decision? Don't you think he was being deceived by the lady all along. She could have told him the truth. Maybe he would have been more cautious, stayed in rented apartment and started building another house for his family. Maybe he would have realized his wife can be treacherous and realized the need not to trust her 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maasoap(m): 5:45am On Jul 21, 2018 |
abike12: Thank you. Even with his narration alone, I could still fault him a thousand ways. He just want to lose a good wife because of his too much ego. Whenever my wife disappointed me and I wanted to lose my head while reacting, I would just remind and tell myself, this is a good wife. I should let this one pass. 14 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maxiuc(m): 5:46am On Jul 21, 2018 |
maasoap:bro the wife from the beginning has an ulterior motive and sinister motive hence putting in her name as the house onwer her support from the beginning was for a purpose she was never interested in the family gains rather she More interested in her personal gain . My wife will be restricted in doing somethings I will cut down excesses if you give a woman free hands you are indeed digging your grave if you don't end up in grave you end up as a forgotten man in the society Always check your wife excesses 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Rajosh(m): 5:48am On Jul 21, 2018 |
This is why it's never good to judge before hearing from both parties involved. when I read her story, told my brother that she's written it out how it'll favor her. She never made mention of how you used the remaining money with you to contribute to the house, she never mentioned your dad's health issues. Any sane child will use whatever money he's earmarked for any project to treat his sick father. I'm not hear to side any of you but whatever decision you take, remember the kids. I know of a girl whose parents divorced when she was a kid. She was so lively as a kid but after the divorce, she grew up to be so withdrawn and antisocial. School performances dropped. for the sake of your kids, you both should compromise and shift grounds. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by freshvine(f): 5:48am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Nihilstjnr: he had lived with the wife under the same roof for years but never enquire ownership cos he completely love and trust the wife. infact he believe in marriage. asking the wife to change the document was a psychological response to the shock he got and if the wife was smart enough to have obliged, he could've got relaxed and reassured of her committment to marriage but rather she contested it that reinforce the fact that she's self centred. the man tested the love with what she "prized" most and she failed! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by CaptainCodes(m): 5:49am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I know this is a last phase of the thread, but if you ever get to read this... Kindly take my advice. Also, this is to a lot of Nairalanders, let's not be hassles before dropping a descion, especially on families. To be honest, when I first read her thread, I just concluded that...I had to wait for another part before responding. Thank God you did. Your faults: You didn't confirm the house was not in your both names before moving in. You should have checked the documents. I am very sure if you knew the building was in her name from the initial stage you won't get this mad... You probably might not have moved in. Which again, might be understandable. Even if it was in your name, sir... I think, you don't have the right to send her out of your home. Sometimes women needs to be completely explained to. You break it to peices for her... Hey woman, this is me here.. be got nothing am hiding from you.. I am not cheating on you. It's obvious you still love your wife...but you need to temper your ego. It broke, be a man.. pick it up.. and bring up otions that are favourable for not just you, but her, and the people you brought in to the world. Knock it off sir. Moving back to the house with her name on it might demoralize you, so don't...but if she agrees on changing it..to both of you, then do please. But not only you, c'mon. Her fault: You had this burnt anger long ago, hence you did it without telling your hubby. You could have easily opened up to him.. sugar, you spent your money on Dad's health (note I said dad, not "your dad"...I will spend mine on a home, but it will be in my name... Trust me, any man in a situation trying to save his folks, will understand and agree with you. You didn't have to keep it away from him. (It's very sad you took advantage of his situation). Would he have left his dad's health to deteriorate if he had the money, and all he cared about was a home. It's pretty sad that you betrayed your husband's trust, the least you could have intialy done was to let him know.. okay oo, this building is not in your name, it's mine.. if he is an understanding man, he'd have moved in with you, with a goal of building a main family home for you guys. It's not the name that is an issue, get it right...(I mean you could have easily inherited a property from your dad in your name).. it's not the name... But the trust. C'mon, it could have been your dad who was ill, or bedridden... Don't take the advantage of your well to do family over him. Are you telling me, if it was your parents who were in that condition, he would start thinking my money, your money. Wifey, you could have easily told your husband...long ago, that the house was yours. Naturally, you pushed your husband to him asking you to get out of the house...(with your consistent trust issues) Which is wrong. Your husband cares about you, that's one off...and don't listen to some opinions up there... He truly does. It's okay to be angry... Most men will ignore the issue, and move off your way. ******* Let's look beyond the property. Please... Something happened that triggered the issue. His dad was ill...that's the wrongest time to start deciding your money my money. I can only imagine how terrific it was if it was her dad Ill, and he starts throwing this sort of things to your face... How would you have felt?.. once you are married, all parents become 1. Again, sir... To be honest I think you have some ego issues. In my opinion, thier are 2 things that you can accept. She changes the name to Mr and Mrs.. you accept it. Or, she leaves the house and moves to a newer place with you, within the city. (Within) I can understand your vile by asking her to change it to your name alone, but you messed up by not checking the details initially... So let it fly. ***** My last advice, please don't listen to some Nairalanders.. and it goes to madam too.. please. I beg you. You guys have kids.. if you don't love yourselves enough, you won't come online to venge your anger, you obviously do.. And both parties are looking for some sort of sympathy... But in the process, don't let Nairalanders mislead you. Please. Thanks. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maasoap(m): 5:50am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Wallade: The wife's action was bad, we all agreed on that. Why wanting everything to himself now? He's not even protecting his wife and children against the family trouble in case anything happens to him along the way. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Youngzedd(m): 5:51am On Jul 21, 2018 |
spongeisback: The wife is more matured. She didn't go into details but the husband did. Hahahahaha this one weak me. 9 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Amumaigwe: 5:52am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Plolly: You are right sis; I suspect mental health. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 5:54am On Jul 21, 2018 |
eyinjuege: He might not really meant that statement leave my house. It is not easy for a man to leave with a nasty woman who frustrates her man.The man was very angry at that moment. Talking from my real experience. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 5:56am On Jul 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista: Seconded |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by daclint(m): 5:58am On Jul 21, 2018 |
That woman story no dey straight I swear, but to marry dey fear me o |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maasoap(m): 5:58am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Wallade: But husband is now demanding for the same thing. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 5:59am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Analysiscorner: She started the whole thing with her money alone! It was quarter to finish that oga added his money. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by phase1: 6:01am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Oga ExtraExtra and Madam Heseesall, Marriage is always work in progress. Yes there will be insults sometimes motivated by anger but it shouldn't cost us our homes and endanger the future of the kids. A good peacemaker does not go around labelling anyone with blames. So I wouldn't blame anyone. There is no perfect marriage. Not even our old parents marriages are perfect. My Dad use to say 'If you are looking for a perfect spouse, you'll remain single and alone forever." Another quote of his is 'One parter must be hot and the other must cold for a marriage to work. One partner will be 'Mumu' while the other be 'sensible' for the marriage to work. This is how our parents built their marriages. I get sense pass you, will destroy marriage quicker than anything else. Children from broken homes have it harder out there, emotionally, intellectually, socially and otherwise. Your divorce will burn them badly. So that must never come into the picture. Verbal shots have fired, like its done in so many marriages, even sucessful ones. But it is time to delete all that and think about the kids. All properties acquired together should reflect 'Mr and Mrs' for the sake of peace. When provocation happens one of you should let and go of the grievances, think about the kids and build the home. Two parties can not be mad at the same time. Restraint, Restraint is word that have prevented 'had I known' in many families. Let there be a middle ground. May peace be upon your marriage. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Wallade(m): 6:01am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ExtraExtra: Oga! If I am in your shoes, my conclusion will be: She has betrayed my trust in her and I will find it difficult to trust her anymore. She has revealed the treacherous, cunning and wicked part of her. This is not because she built a house for herself and whoever but because all along, she made that decision to be sole title owner of the property and hide that fact from you; without knowing how foolish you are, you must have been spending your money on her, perhaps her family, your family, children and some frivolous things without knowing you have no house. That she has the property in her name only puts up a question about trust. However, that she hid it from you shows treachery and wickedness. That she revealed it to you and weaponized it against you indicated that she can be devastating, heinous and absolute when she decides to decimate and eliminate you. My guy, beware of this woman! Instead, run away for dear life. There is no need to get her to change title of the property because she will start several other plans to decimate and outsmart you anyway. She doesn't trust you and I believe you know now that you shouldn't trust her. It is a difficult decision but you will have to take a decision despite my advice which you can discard at your own risk. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by project4OO: 6:02am On Jul 21, 2018 |
freshvine: That's the sad reality. Most women who adopt this strategy go into marriage with the mindset of losing their husbands to the cold hands of death (or a side chick). Many of them sometimes get what they planned. The hypocrisy/worthlessness of many marriages these days is becoming very evident. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 6:02am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge: Clearly,the house belongs to the woman since her name is on the document,but the man was very angry when he said leave my house.So we should know that he was frustrated at that moment.I have said nasty things to my wife during hot arguement but I did not mean it. The man should protect his marriage,he should get a new house and move on with the wife and kids if he wants.Trust is important in marriage. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maasoap(m): 6:03am On Jul 21, 2018 |
maxiuc: The wife has accepted her mistake and ready to amend. But the problem now is Mr husband wanting everything to himself. Joint ownership or selling off is enough but separation or divorce is too extreme. Now, he's blackmailing his wife with separation and possibly divorce. Not good enough. And my wife had hinted me last week her intention to buy land for building construction, her headache. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Sanchez01: 6:04am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge:The emboldened is uncalled for! This is a home being threatened at the moment. The wife acknowledged his ego has been battered and sought out the way to go. Indeed he isn't innocent because the story might not have come to light if he didn't ask her to leave. The problem was communication. The wife must have felt he was playing a fast one by spending his profits on his parents and their home while the he felt his wife would do the needful - by buying the property in their name since he has a token in it. Regardless, it's marriage and while people take several stance on how properties should be bought and in whose name, your breakdown is somewhat disturbing. While you are more concerned about the property here, you failed to mention trust which I believe is lost now. I see no reason why you must interpret her words to mean some other things. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by written007: 6:05am On Jul 21, 2018 |
GrammarCheck: Yo call this trivial? Yo are insecure. What happens if the man is jobless? How would he be different from a gateman or treated. U guessed right: the same. When money is all there is to love , what then are we in marriages ?! Partners. Business partners. That's just sad. I would be plague with what her thought process were to have done what she did. In a subconscious level ,the man didn't think he deserve the credit for the house but at any rate ,he was in a marriage and ego or entitlement wasn't going to make him think of himself as a lesser man or feel insecure around his wife hence why ask for specific information detailing the house ownership? Not that he cannot build a house if he wanted to but he had a home rather to build. Even ,imperatively he had a life to save or provide for: his father , the woman' father inlaw! What the woman has done is equivalent to watching her inlaw crash and burn when she easily could have use her life sayings to extend a life.Thats assuming if her husband had no dime that is. I say again: is there really love? Cos these and many more are expectations-within women-of us men. Even from mere freindship with the opposite sex, through dating til death do us part. If you cant give why recieve. This is just wrong. He that giveth is alway blessed more. "He" here is not discriminatory.. The the book of the Lord isnt. And to be frank the problem here isn't no longer about whose names is on the documents. But the crack in the wall that is leading to whole other stuff. Even changing the name now won't heal the wound. Recommitting and communication amid apologies would. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 6:06am On Jul 21, 2018 |
jolyment: We understand. Despite having had several opportunities to calm down up till now, oga sir is still saying he would like to absolutely own the house. One would wonder if to ensure the next time he angrily says that, it becomes law! 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by peacengine(m): 6:07am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Correction, marriage is not 99% dependent on a woman for success especially when a man is supposed to be the head and leader of the home. You, oga are very unfair to your wife. Imagine if it was your sister, daughter or even mother going through this crisis. If she was my sister, I won't find fault with her at all. She never acted as if the house was hers, it's clear that it's in her name for security reasons. If not, she would be a destitute today as you are capable of asking her to leave because of an ordinary argument. Oga, you have the property which you built for your parents, me and you know that it's your property not your parents. I read your wive's thread but ignored it thinking she was lying as women can be full of drama but you have confirmed the truth. You are 95% wrong. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by maasoap(m): 6:08am On Jul 21, 2018 |
jolyment: But he still insists that that's the only way they can live together. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by middlebelter(m): 6:09am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I am one of the people that commented on her thread and my recommendation was based purely on information provided. Now , I feel I am wrong after reading this thread. I hereby tender unreserved apologies for concluding based on one sided account. Now this is my suggestion, both sides needs to shift position a bit. if I may borrow IBB slang, a little to the left and a little to the right. Please don't insist she change it to your name alone, let the house be in your joint names Mr and Mrs. Secondly, I wish to state that most marriages failed these days because couple don't always want to concede to each other, but for the sake of your children who I presume you both love please reconcile. Don't put them through the pain of going through broken family. God has not made mistake by blessing you as a family to be able to raise money to build a house, he didn't allow the business to lead you into debts you can't pay, he choose to bless you. It appears you two are not able to manage God's blessings? Perhaps you should both drop your ego and visit couples praying night and day for God to bless them to be able to pay house rents and or build their own house. Yes it appears trust has been broken but it is human to fail. Jesus told the accuser of the woman caught in adultry in the holy bible he without sin to cast the first stone. Are you without sin. Please forgive each other and move on. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by isybeke(f): 6:10am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Madam landlady u see ur life, u ran here nd twist d story to favour u,how foolish can u be......see how u use ur hand to destroy d home/family u build becos of greed, shey u want to carry house for head abi,,,,kontinue 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 6:11am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Sanchez01: You will have to pardon me because you just wrote what I wrote in other words. I kinda follow the wife's thought line too, especially now that he's demanding to have his name alone on the title. Remember, the wife offered to put both their names on it now but oga sir refused! Again, you're gonna have to pardon me. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Mofpearl: 6:13am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I am so glad to men standing up for the op's wife. Op confirmed the wife's narration in the previous thread. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Amumaigwe: 6:14am On Jul 21, 2018 |
metro10: You came from a broken or at best a loveless and dysfunctional home. Your first statement gave you away. Just make sure the baggages your mother's attitude has successfully hung around your neck do not pull your own marriage down. Reading comments from some folks here, I now appreciate the extent of healing the family system needs. Where is love, submission, sacrifice, tolerance etc that used to be the hallmark of marriages. Why wouldn't the type of families we have these days be the breeding place of criminals that are now everywhere defrauding people and doing all kinds of money rituals. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 6:15am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Ziggylady: Seriously it is hard to leave with a woman sometimes,my wife made me go crazy recently just because of delay in my salary. She told me she cannot be the one to feed the family when we have food to even eat and she knows I just bought some plots of land and invested in farming aside my salary job. |
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