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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mark2sunny(m): 11:44pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
sweetlaw: You're a Product of a broken home. Your alternator isn't charging your battery. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by metro10: 11:49pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
mark2sunny: Hahahaha, my “bad experience” is the norm in that country you live. The fact that he had the audacity to ask her to leave is proof of his goofiness. If he doesn’t have anything to prove, why is he in rebuttal here? Please, let him prove his love by being a man. The Bible said a man should take care of his own household. He is a trickster. I know his type. I am married, I have not asked my wife for a dime but a house. Did she tell you she isn’t helping in taking care of the house too? Why on earth will he even think of asking her to LEAVE the House? Check that out. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by aariwa(m): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
HEseesall:As a lawyer I would advice that you contact your lawyer to amend the title to joint ownership between the both of you as the law deems any property purchased after marriage as a communal property.Also don't forget to register it with the land registry as an unregistered property is almost as worthless as a piece of paper |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mark2sunny(m): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Slimsly100: Waiting for you to reset his brains ma'am. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Meedass(m): 12:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
My dear , firstly you have evil friends advising you, because I know you would not have out the house in your name if it was left for you alone... You married such an understanding man, that can go, trust you enough to handle projects, and don't even bother to ask the details because he trusts you will do the right thing and put the house in both of your names!! But greed and over calculation made you dissect the whole thing because he had to go treat his father with his some of his money...that's where you did wrong# Now this is the solution, tell him with what has happened, you can't put the house in his name, you can either change it to both your names or you out it in your first child's name# it's that simple..you guys had a wonderful marriage, why did you let material greed spoil it for you, you bruised his ego woman!!� 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Meedass(m): 12:19am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Martinez19: The house was never the woman's, it's a joint business and joint profits, and marriage oversees all# |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 12:59am On Jul 21, 2018 |
So you distorted the truth looking for support from Nairalanders... well, your husband has said his own side to balance things. HEseesall: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:01am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Martinez19: He no longer wants the house.. she has won. He just doesn't want to be near her anymore. https://www.nairaland.com/4629255/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by gare2510(m): 1:09am On Jul 21, 2018 |
The property should have been in both ur names, don't know if ur decision was intentional. If your parents were sick and you used ur part, will you be happy if he uses his name alone? For him, it was childish sending u out if house |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by syntax50: 1:26am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Eketem: bros Eketem; your brain is exactly where it needs to be. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by syntax50: 1:32am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Evacroft: EVA FOR THIS I CROWN YOU THE MOST INTELLIGENT WOMAN IN THIS COUNTRY; I LOVE YOU FOR THIS. WOULD LOVE TO LOVE YOU FOR THE SAKE OF THE REST OF YOUR BRAIN IN MY LIFE |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by syntax50: 1:34am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Evacroft: I LOVE THIS CHIC, IS GOOD TO KNOW THAT INTELLIGENT WOMEN STILL EXIST IN THIS COUNTRY. JAH BLESS YOU DARLING... |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Mofpearl: 2:06am On Jul 21, 2018 |
@heseesall, I just read your husband's thread. I can't imagine how you feel right now. Wish I could give you a hug . You probably have a lot of emotions running through you right now but don't make decisions based on emotions. At the end of the day what will be will be. Keep your head up. This too shall pass. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ykalhaji(m): 2:23am On Jul 21, 2018 |
To all those saying oh don't change the name.. In the eyes of the law it is already a joint property. It was acquired after marraige. The marraige is already seriously broken. For it to work the wife has to now over play the fool and in this day and age it is almost impossible. My advice: call family meeting, act submissive and in front of the family members agree and then put the house in his name, even after that he still will not trust you and continue to test your patience and love. But be rest assured if you guys were ever to divorce in the future, you both are entitled to the house, if you are really in a litigious mood. The problem is that most wives do not know the law, just want to end the marraige and move on or don't hire good lawyers. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by guass(m): 3:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
You have got alot of wrong advice here. I don't really have much time to comment, but listen very well if you can. Never involve family members or Pastors now because it has not got to that. Obviously, you know where he is right now. Put on your best seductive dress and visit him, kneel down and tell him you have started the process of changing the name. (Don't forget he is your HUSBAND, the only one out of millions who came out publicly to marry you and not vice versa) Ensure that you give him his food before opening up to him that as husband and wife the right name would be MR & MRS ABC. I must confess to u that you erred by using only your name. It questions your love for him or shows that you don't believe in the UNION (marriage). No man can bear it except you built that house before the marriage. YOU REALLY BRUISED HIS EGO. Stop believing those things you watch in TELEMUNDO and ZEEWORLD. The man equally erred first by sharing the money (are u co-workers) secondly by allowing you to buy a land in his absence, you could have been duped. His signature was supposed to be in that document . I don't know how long they stayed in the Hospital but you could have waited. By and large, don't forget your topic "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin OUR HOME " And not "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin MY HOME. Many men see this as a coup or a set-up. From my recent experience, in every Nigerian home whenever there is misunderstanding of this sort "ONLY THE WOMAN CAN SETTLE IT." This piece of advice is based on the fact that I have heard from both of you. (They pay for my advice but am giving it to you free of charge here) 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by noony926: 4:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I first read your hubby side before coming to yours. The problem here is not about the house ownership, but rather trust issue and lack of respect... From what ur hubby said, if that is to go by, he trust and love you, but while u had started suppecting him of infidelity, that is why you let it loose, to abuse him, his parents and his family. As a man he got angry with you and ask you to live, which of course, he don't meant it, and most men will normally say so, and that is when u decided to tell him that the house is not his, even though he never ask you about the documents all this while and you as a woman could have let him know from the beginning but u kept it as secret, and now you have achieved your goals, cuz u knew it that someday that you gonna tell him that the hus is not his. Well, madam you are totally wrong. You bring all this to yourself. And who knows how abusive you were to him, the kind of words u used to insult him. And thank God you admitted he is a good man. He earlier asked for his name to be included in the documents, but now he don't need it anymore. The simple truth is that u hurt your man deeply. Don't mind all these pple here telling you that you did the right thing O, woman the right thing to do now is go and bring your hubby back, ask for his forgiveness and I know at this point, u can't achieve this alone; involve others, your pple and his pple as well. At long run, I believe you guys will start living peaceful again. Don't let this good man slip away from you, a good man is hard to find these days my dear. Dont, let this ego destroy your home. The ball is in your court now woman. Thats my candid advice. Good Luck... 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ComradeZim(m): 4:20am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Though this issue seems trivial but it can cost you your marriage. There’s no ‘I’ in marriage but a ‘we’. You can not shake hands with a clenched fist,you have to compromise. You messed up when you used your name solely for the house,you should’ve atleast regarded your husband by putting his name as the owner or co-owner. Even when he told you to get out of the house in the course of the argument,what stopped you from saying things like I won’t leave my matrimonial home or I won’t leave you my husband. He wouldn’t have touched you but you chose to hurt his ego one of the important thing that makes him a man. My sister, my advice is to you go back and beg your husband. And change that document to his name because he’s your husband and the father of your kids. If you don’t, you might lose him Always remember that he saw you and asked you out and finally married you... your pastors,parents,brother can never feel the void in life if you quit your marriage or he does 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Chubhie: 5:06am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall:You are not evil. Your husband seems to have an amazing talent in completing things. don't you think so? Takes his father abroad and completes his health then returns to complete the family house and the one you started. He's a good man. Posture for peace and for the greater good. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Legalaffairs(m): 5:07am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall: Looking for an advice in a wrong place? You will end up being more confused u less u have a divine discerning spirit of God. Your husband trusted you more than you do to him. He was so sure of you. He never bothered about the content of the document in your possession till you exposed yourself. You are a hidden feminist. You are snitch for sure. You would have been fair and just by making the document in the name of your son or in couples names. You exhibited a 100% selfishness , lone heart and a lady with plan in this deal. What happens to his little contribution? Mrs land lady. You just came to the man's life not for the union and marriage but just to prepare for the worst and the draw down. OK here is the draw down. You have won! Make that ammendment as he demands. That's my sincere advice. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CodeineJunkiee(m): 5:22am On Jul 21, 2018 |
From my observation. This story is half truth. You're leaving out some things, when you're done modifying this story. I'll come back and give my input |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CodeineJunkiee(m): 5:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
If the house is not his. What other things are not his, probably the kids also. You're a snitch of a woman, an ungodly one. I don't pray I meet someone like you in this life or the next |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Danabu(m): 5:40am On Jul 21, 2018 |
LewsTherin: You failed to see that they built the house together. She acquired the land in her name and kept quiet allowing her husband to contribute towards building the house. That is betrayal at its peak! Why didn't she build the house alone since she wanted only her name on the papers? The land and the house which one required more money? She is just greedy. Her husband has given her the option go choose between him and the property. The choice is hers to make. From the look of things they may not grow old together since the husband will not accept combined ownership and she won't let go. As for all of you advising her to divorce the man i believe you are not married or you you don't know the value of marriage and family. For property of how much? I don't think the richest woman in Nigeria is divorced. FAMILY COMES FIRST. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Danabu(m): 5:54am On Jul 21, 2018 |
divinelove: God bless you. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 6:12am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Did he assist you financially in completing the house?? When you say property ,do you mean a land or a fully completed house ? HEseesall: |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by GreenVILLETiPS: 6:30am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall: Most advice you will get here will either makr or mar your decision Just follow your heart. Your intuition will never betray you. BTW, what business did you guys do that brought so much of a money? can you fill me in? jst an info...datzall. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Artzdanielsz(m): 6:55am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Eketem:my guy trust me if she is begging him ,it means she knew she bleeped up.but why would she build a house and not even tell her husband that it is in her name.i am sure her husband trust her and she know he is a good man. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Prinzyy: 7:04am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall:nawaooo.. Women and wahala |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by motionz: 7:15am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall:There are always 2sides to a story,i read your husbands version also,but my only advice is this,if u listen to anyone here on this thread,then that will be the bigining of your doom. 2 of u are the solution to your problems,its only 2 of u that really knows what happen so pls just leage thus t h read,meet ur husband and u guys solve your issues. Thank you |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by anukulapo: 7:45am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall:Well, if I consider the statement above, you just pointed out that he is a stakeholder. The unfortunate event is what women tries to avoid in marriage but that is what you just did to him. His demanding for it to be changed to his name (in my opinion) is a way of making it clear to you that he's disappointed and "can't" trust you. He's rubbing that in your face. He is intuitive that you won't change it, would rather like alone, rationalizing and justifying his fair and sincere actions (that led to him pulling out his share of the money from the project). His conclusion seems like "for now, I just want to be on my own, away from a woman that I can't trust" If you don't understand the above long talk, rewrite the story and switch roles. - He brought the idea - You both pooled fund for the project - You have to help your ailing dad so you pull out with his "approval" - He used his share to build - You used part of your remaining fund to complete your parent's house - You added fund to complete the said project with him ... - You eventually found out that he did all in his name during a disagreement. 1. How will you feel? 2. What will people, (and if course nairalanders) say about such a man? ************* Jesus said "as a golden rule of life, do unto others, what you'll want them to do to you". In life, whatever you think, think the opposite. It helps your judgement. He'll forgive you if you realize your mistake and he'll let you keep the house. You may have to sell it off eventually it change it to the kids' name. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dazzlingd(m): 7:56am On Jul 21, 2018 |
CodeineJunkiee: Of course it is so obvious the story was well baked. She still have issues that her husband spent money on his dad...just imagine how evil women can be, so he shouldn't treat his dying father? 2. She went behind to use her name alone for the house they both built together meaning she already had the motive things may go wrong and a day like this will come.... She's betrayed her husband's trust, she's a traitor and a pessimist. Wicked world. 3. They had some misunderstandings,....it was obvious she was hiding some facts here, biko madam should tell us what misunderstanding they had and what caused it... Well she knew she was guilty so she made no mention of that. Worst of all she had to remind him the house belong to her alone! Betrayal!!!!! 4. She knows she was wrong all along then in the concluding part of her baked story she said and I quote "he is a good man".... No woman, you don't deserve such a good man, you can have the big house to all yourself and let the man move on and marry a new wife that will make him happy. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ozoneymcm: 8:19am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall:The mistakes you made were 1) Not realizing that even though you contributed more to building the house,it still belonged to both of you and 2) you never should have bragged about being the sole owner of the house and challenge his authority. You said your husband is a good man so why not respect him. Unfortunately your mistakes are not the type you can correct coz whatever you think your husband has done wrong is a reaction to your betrayal and disregard for the marriage order. May God help you 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by justt: 8:21am On Jul 21, 2018 |
HEseesall: Firstly, I can see there's love in your heart for your husband as you said he's a good man and so you will want the issues on ground worked out; that's good and commendable. You see my advice here will not be based on sentiments or on popular opinions but on the words of God. If indeed you are a Christian, please be always guided by the word. A fundamental problem I noticed in your family from your narrative is that you are not one! A Christian home is never divided. It's already a failure that both of you have things separately - this is mine and that's is yours already pointed out that there's a problem except you're talking about bra and underwears but with properties, NO! God already made you one, don't divide yourselves with things. Now, what should do? Well, maybe this may not be an appropriate question since there are many options as some had even suggested. The proper question should be, what would God want me to do? A major problem with believers today, including pastors, is that we only hear the word, some even preach but we don't allow it to rule or direct our lives! I believe and will suggest you submit to your husband just as the Bible commands. "Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their OWN HUSBAND IN EVERYTHING" (Eph 5:24, NKJV, emphasis mine). Please don't misunderstand me. I value and appreciate women and will in no way subjugate them, not even with the Holy Bible. I quoted the reference above because I believe every aspect of a believer's life should be directed by God's word. |
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