NaijaMenJimdo:
Oga, she started the fight unprovoked. The man doesn't password his phones and he answered the call in her presence meaning he has nothing to hide. She started a fight without proof if NOT she would have stated it. How can she insult his family, background, parents, personality simply because he refused to tolerate bad behaviour (false accusation of infidelity)? It really tells the kind of TOXIC person she is and how she regards her husband.

Let her come and tell us the proof she had for accusing him of cheating... like other guy said, SHE HAS NO PROOF!

And incase you don't know this: some women are PARANOID! Some women can cause trouble over little things... I have seen a case where a woman accused her husband of cheating because of a dream she had. (Since when is a dream proof of anything?)

LaudableXX:


Guy, go back & read my posts all over again. There was nowhere, that I supported the woman's abusive words on the man. In fact, I made it plain that she went overboard, with her caustic tongue.

But your comments that "The man doesn't password his phones and he answered the call in her presence meaning he has nothing to hide...." is very funny. So you don't know men who answer calls from their girlfriends in the presence of their wives, and make it sound like a business call? It appears that you are defending the man, and waving his attitude as proof that he is not cheating. Oga, not passwording a phone, and taking a call in a woman's presence is NOT enough proof, that a man is not cheating. He might still be speaking to his side-chic on the sly, using a few coded words. Many guys do it. In fact, last weekend I was hanging out with a friend who took a call from his side-chic, right in the presence of his wife. He saved the chic's name as 'Boss Tech. Assistant' on his phone.

If the guy's hands were clean, he would not have been so aggressive. His behaviour must have given room for suspicion. So please stop defending what you do not know. You are not inside the man's mind, or privy to his thoughts.

NaijaMenJimdo:
Going by your logic if a person accuses you of stealing (when you are innocent) getting angry means that you stole?

In case you don't already know this, false accusation warrants an angry response.... and a lot of human beings give an angry response when falsely accused. The wife has zero regards for her husband... that is why she could start a fight unprovoked and without evidence.

When he asked her to cut it out, why did she start insulting his parents and family? What business does she have with them?

And as for not passwording phone and picking his calls in her presence.... the ONUS is on her to show evidence that he is cheating... WHERE WAS HER EVIDENCE?

You say she must have seen something, let her come and show us and tell us the "something". The issue is everyone is trying to down play and ignore the SERIOUS VERBAL ASSAULT from the woman and fabricate cheating allegations against the man when there is ZERO evidence.

And by saying she must have seen something to warrant infidelity accusation you are also assuming what you don't know and you are not inside the woman's mind, or privy to her thoughts (you see it goes both ways).

Let her come and bring her proof that her husband is cheating... we all know she has none. She decided to start a fight and now she is paying for it.

At the end of the day she would realise that there is a limit of extended verbal assault that a man can take.

LaudableXX:


Guy, go back & read my posts all over again. There was nowhere, that I supported the woman's abusive words on the man. In fact, I made it plain that she went overboard, with her caustic tongue.

But your comments that "The man doesn't password his phones and he answered the call in her presence meaning he has nothing to hide...." is very funny. So you don't know men who answer calls from their girlfriends in the presence of their wives, and make it sound like a business call? It appears that you are defending the man, and waving his attitude as proof that he is not cheating. Oga, not passwording a phone, and taking a call in a woman's presence is NOT enough proof, that a man is not cheating. He might still be speaking to his side-chic on the sly, using a few coded words. Many guys do it. In fact, last weekend I was hanging out with a friend who took a call from his side-chic, right in the presence of his wife. He saved the chic's name as 'Boss Tech. Assistant' on his phone.

If the guy's hands were clean, he would not have been so aggressive. His behaviour must have given room for suspicion. So please stop defending what you do not know. You are not inside the man's mind, or privy to his thoughts.

LaudableXX:


Guy, go back & read my posts all over again. There was nowhere, that I supported the woman's abusive words on the man. In fact, I made it plain that she went overboard, with her caustic tongue.

But your comments that "The man doesn't password his phones and he answered the call in her presence meaning he has nothing to hide...." is very funny. So you don't know men who answer calls from their girlfriends in the presence of their wives, and make it sound like a business call? It appears that you are defending the man, and waving his attitude as proof that he is not cheating. Oga, not passwording a phone, and taking a call in a woman's presence is NOT enough proof, that a man is not cheating. He might still be speaking to his side-chic on the sly, using a few coded words. Many guys do it. In fact, last weekend I was hanging out with a friend who took a call from his side-chic, right in the presence of his wife. He saved the chic's name as 'Boss Tech. Assistant' on his phone.

If the guy's hands were clean, he would not have been so aggressive. His behaviour must have given room for suspicion. So please stop defending what you do not know. You are not inside the man's mind, or privy to his thoughts.

GoodFaith:
"she went overboard, with her caustic tongue." words are eggs
it break, I guess you can put it together that is what u are trying to do here

GoodFaith:
Smart Lady
Behavior is not evident of guilt

LaudableXX:

Oga, you get time, o! Is that why you typed this long epistle? A married man accused of cheating or infidelity by his wife, is a totally different scenario, to being accused of stealing.

If you know the psychology of women, they are always the last to acknowledge their husband's infidelity, once they are happy in their marriages. Most of them prefer to turn a blind eye to such things, and would even quarrel with those who give them a hint that their husband is cheating. So if a married woman accuses her husband of cheating, you can be sure that she probably has good reason to do so, even if she does not have water-tight proof. His conduct, utterances, lifestyle changes etc., may have fuelled her suspicions.

And a married man is expected to know his wife's weak points and her nature, and be able to apply the right words and moods to prevent a breakdown in communication, or forestall the situation from degenerating further. Can he honestly say he did not know she had verbally abusive tendencies, before he married her?

A married man should not have an anger management problem, to the extent that he lets his marriage break down irretrievably, over petty issues. Some women do not have a bad mouth, but the havoc they can cause to a man, is unimaginable!

GoodFaith:
Please get a balance view of life
One way traffic
I THINK THAT U ARE ME, ME, ME PERSON

LaudableXX:

You obviously did NOT understand my post.


Who is the smart lady? And you just conjured up this idea that behaviour is not evidence of guilt, inside your mind? Is that what you think, or what you were taught? Just asking...

GoodFaith:
Fully understood but U will come back with justification for the wife attitude

LaudableXX:

You obviously did NOT understand my post.


Who is the smart lady? And you just conjured up this idea that behaviour is not evidence of guilt, inside your mind? Is that what you think, or what you were taught? Just asking...

GoodFaith:
Court of law
GoodFaith the smart lady
U can't find any person guilt basic on he/her behavoir

GoodFaith:
No
U are a sick puppy GoodFaith
kid
Court of law
smart lady
U can't find any person guilt base on him/her behavior
guilt is base on evidence

GoodFaith:
Go get common sense

LaudableXX:


Take your own advice, first. You need it more....

HEseesall:


I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

adubiay:


@Arobake, plus go tru the first page and check out for the op further comments on the issue. I guess you read only the op first story. She makes further comments after that where she mentioned they jointly built the house

mark2sunny:



You're a Product of a broken home. Your alternator isn't charging your battery.

KlasysTech:
If he doesn't want Mr. & Mrs please go for divorce.

If they point gun on your head, never change the name to his name.

And you need to stop bordering yourself about his disappearance.

Just know that you change the name to his, then you just signed your own death outcast warrant

RealAdewole:


That's when you read your Bible with one eye closed

I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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Editor's note: her husband responds here
https://www.nairaland.com/4629255/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home