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Re: ........ by rokkies2001: 6:02pm On Sep 20, 2018

I feel we individually have a goal to achieve when employing someone to work in your house,mine it's just to keep the house very clean and wash cloth with washing machine is that too much to do with a salary of 35k per month plus other benefits?

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Re: ........ by Eketem: 7:30pm On Sep 20, 2018

You need to listen and stop talking about tolerance else the stress you are trying to avoid will sadly get to you.

She is treating you like a daughter in Law, she is a maid not your mother please people should learn that this is a job and not family ties, if you work in an office you will relate with your boss professionally so why not in this situation?

Since you don't want her to go now set your new rules probably in writing not all this family meeting arrangements

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Re: ........ by wonyi: 8:06pm On Sep 20, 2018

Re: ........ by sisisioge: 8:15pm On Sep 20, 2018

I can't believe you are still wondering! Biko let her go!

Next time, do not fraternize too much with your domestic staff. Write out their JD and ensure they know they are employed to do it. Geskia!

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 8:20pm On Sep 20, 2018

Why cant you cook ur hubbys food at least? undecided

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 8:23pm On Sep 20, 2018

Joyfulgal:

Thanks for the calculation but currently in my first trimester (pregnant ).Trying to reduce stress as much as possible,

Oh pls. Ask women in the west how they cope without maids

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Re: ........ by Acidosis(m): 8:26pm On Sep 20, 2018

Joyfulgal:

Thanks for the calculation but currently in my first trimester (pregnant ).Trying to reduce stress as much as possible,

The calculation won't make sense unless you're the one spending the listed expenses. Try to foot the family bills for 6 months, it will make sense.

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 8:27pm On Sep 20, 2018

ifyalways:

First trimester? Is it a high risk pregnancy

Get a proper maid, lots of companies offering that that will come and leave each day or arrange for someone to come clean, laundry and iron, cook in bulk for the whole week over the weekend.

Lol, Leave her. Women here can work right up until their due date

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Re: ........ by Aquariann: 8:30pm On Sep 20, 2018

Joyfulgal:
@ Kizzoh. Thanks.
Will begin my search as soon as possible

Hello Joy, if you're in Lagos and around Lekki/Ajah axis, I have someone I can recommend.

She's a former employee of my Aunt (live-in maid). VERY hardworking, from Akwa Ibom. Good cook, Cleans well and all that ish.

She now runs her own small foodstuff store and occasional petty trade but has a relative staying with her and managing the place.

She told me she's looking for a house help job, but won't be live-in again. She no get wahala. Na my Aunty madness make her run .lol.

Just holla if you're interested. Or anyone else.

Re: ........ by CAPSLOCKED: 8:31pm On Sep 20, 2018

1Sharon:

Oh pls. Ask women in the west how they cope without maids

THE AVERAGE NIGERIAN WOMAN STARTS THINKING OF EMPLOYING MAIDS AND HELPERS FROM THE DAY THEY'RE PROPOSED TO. THEY CAN'T BEAR THE THOUGHT OF MAKING THE BED, WASHING SHEETS, OR CUTTING VEGETABLES WITHOUT ASSISTANCE.

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 8:36pm On Sep 20, 2018

CAPSLOCKED post= ;D71377265:

THE AVERAGE NIGERIAN WOMAN STARTS THINKING OF EMPLOYING MAIDS AND HELPERS FROM THE DAY THEY'RE PROPOSED TO. THEY CAN'T BEAR THE THOUGHT OF MAKING THE BED, WASHING SHEETS, OR CUTTING VEGETABLES WITHOUT ASSISTANCE.

Lol bro you are mad o grin

I agree

Re: ........ by Acidosis(m): 8:39pm On Sep 20, 2018

1Sharon:

Oh pls. Ask women in the west how they cope without maids

Ladies of nowadays really need to stop digesting everything they learn from their mothers. It is not a must to have a maid. Most of the time, these women can't even afford the services of the maid, yet prefer to leave the house in order to be classified as working class-working woman. They come back home after 30 days of hustle with less than 100k salary.

Maid stays home, cook, relax, watch Africa Magic and at the end of the month, gets paid between 30-40k with other tips. ...because she works less, sometimes oga can even decide to switch after wifey must have given him a line up of complaints about body ache.

I really don't understand why women are so obsessed with maids.

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Re: ........ by Aquariann: 9:00pm On Sep 20, 2018

Acidosis:

Ladies of nowadays really need to stop digesting everything they learn from their mothers. It is not a must to have a maid. Most of the time, these women can't even afford the services of the maid, yet prefer to leave the house in order to be classified as working class-working woman. They come back home after 30 days of hustle with less than 100k salary.

Maid stays home, cook, relax, watch Africa Magic and at the end of the month, gets paid between 30-40k with other tips. ...because she works less, sometimes oga can even decide to switch after wifey must have given him a line up of complaints about body ache.

I really don't understand why women are so obsessed with maids.

Now this is deep. Some hard truths spoken here Acid. Calls for deep reflection.

I was at my older cousin's place today with my Aunt (his mom), and the maid came out to get something from the car. I barely recognized her until she walked up to the car smiling at me. Saw her around Easter last, and I tell you what, she was glowing today. Although they have three kids (under age 7, so the extra hand is needed), my cousin works mostly from home while the wifey leaves for work very early and returns late. Nobody tell me say d guy dey press the girl. She looked very relaxed but wifey was sick (reason for the visit).

Still on the above, my classmate and friend once told me there is a level of comfort her future husband must be able to provide her before he proposes as she is/was already used to that level of comfort in her dad's house. Among what she listed was a maid. Though to be fair to her, she comes from a really well to do family in Lagos.

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Re: ........ by Ishilove: 9:59pm On Sep 20, 2018

Joyfulgal:

Reducing stress as much as possible. Avoiding house chores. Eliminating stress as much as possible.

Aunty, you are lazy. Stop making excuses. It is even the first trimester. Smh

I'm guessing this is your first pregnancy, so what happens when you have a bunch of wailing Rugrats? Hire a battalion of maids?

Laziness on all fours

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 10:21pm On Sep 20, 2018

KanwuliaExtra:

A 50 year old cannot be a NANNY!
Too physically and mentally tired!
Prolly depressed too. . . With all her domestic issues!

Even to do “Omugwo”, they can’t manage.
Please, rest the old bones.

Sorry Kanwulia how old are u? Don't they have 50 year old nurses in the US? And I'm sure they work hard

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Re: ........ by 1Sharon(f): 10:26pm On Sep 20, 2018

ifyalways:

Spacious and clean houses ( occupants clean after themselves as they SHOULD) do not need to be cleaned daily. It's not a factor of how much the maid is being paid.

Na person born that person wey dey mop your house twice daily .

I wonder why on earth a house would need to be mopped TWICE daily?

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Re: ........ by gaby(m): 10:33pm On Sep 20, 2018

Going through this thread and can't help but shake my head.

In my marital house, where kids aren't in the pix yet, even at that, I find it highly Ludacris for an outsider to be contracted to come be making my meals. God forbid. As much as I detest eating out, I'd rather do a buka instead, plus I know my way around the kitchen.

All these are just unnecessary effizy abeg. First trimester, second trimester, I'm not sure fixing a meal for hubby will erase the trimesters. Shuoo

Some men sha...this is just straight up laziness and the man is fuelling this habit fa..na wa

If I was your husband and you want to play this smart and lazy with me, na laff I go laff...

We shall be contracting a very pretty young girl to be fixing me my meals and if you insist on an oldie, my mama will be there to the rescue instead of some random old woman I know not from Adam. Your body go phone you that time.

Wish you well with your preggo..

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Re: ........ by realtalk19: 10:34pm On Sep 20, 2018

God bless my kids nanny. I have known her for four years. A widow in her early 50s who is struggling to keep busy. I pay her 'peanuts' but the care she gives my kids is mind calming. She resumes every Monday morning 6:30am and leaves on Fridays when I get back from work, washes me and the kids clothes and takes my elder child to school while she looks after the younger who is still 1yr +. I do the cooking and keep in the freezer while she prepares eba or rice for dinner whenever I get late from work. Asides from salary I try to appriciate her with tins I know she nids eg foodstuffs, gifts or impromptu t- fare or credit Mony.

Getting a good nanny is luck and God's grace. Op should try to always cook her meals and keep in the freezer.she shuldnt be left to do everything and still take care of tins. Don't forget she may not be able to go Tru much stress and also taking advantage of you and hubby.

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Re: ........ by realtalk19: 10:36pm On Sep 20, 2018

1Sharon:

Sorry Kanwulia how old are u? Don't they have 50 year old nurses in the US? And I'm sure they work hard

Body and health are not the same. conditions and pay are not the same. To be frank the work is too much for her. It's not easy

Re: ........ by realtalk19: 10:41pm On Sep 20, 2018

Acidosis:

Ladies of nowadays really need to stop digesting everything they learn from their mothers. It is not a must to have a maid. Most of the time, these women can't even afford the services of the maid, yet prefer to leave the house in order to be classified as working class-working woman. They come back home after 30 days of hustle with less than 100k salary.

Maid stays home, cook, relax, watch Africa Magic and at the end of the month, gets paid between 30-40k with other tips. ...because she works less, sometimes oga can even decide to switch after wifey must have given him a line up of complaints about body ache.

I really don't understand why women are so obsessed with maids.

Sometimes a nanny is very necessary.in my own case if I don't have a nanny I can't work and put food on the table and pay bills.i nid to be at peace that my kids are ok while I work.its not easy juggling 2kids all alone with the stress from work .one needs help or I end up jobless.

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Re: ........ by realtalk19: 10:44pm On Sep 20, 2018

rokkies2001:
If you require a service of an older person you need to be professional about it,let her know all she had to do daily and in my own view younger once are better because they have energy to work.
How can you mop once in a week and you are been paid 30k?my house is mopped twice daily,swept as much as its needed,cloth washed everyday but I cook my food and care for my kids so pls get a younger girl to give you rest of mind .

Younger girls will give u heart attack especially when they are hitting puberty. I can't trust young maids o .I wuld rather look after my kids myself than risk putting my kids in a maid's hands

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Re: ........ by Joyfulgal: 10:52pm On Sep 20, 2018

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Re: ........ by Joyfulgal: 10:57pm On Sep 20, 2018

Re: ........ by TheeDetective: 10:59pm On Sep 20, 2018

If there were no maids won’t you do your house chores yourself? You said your hubby is hardly around so who is making the house dirty that requires it to be cleaned? Is this laziness or what undecided

. (Don’t mean to be harsh) Although you said you are expecting but that’s still not an excuse as there are ways in which you can reduce stress. Some have told you to do bulk cooking to reduce your cooking every day to reduce stress.

The calculation Acidosis gave you is sport on and as said if you were the one paying the maid that calculation figure he gave then I am sure you will think again on the amount that is being spent. For this current one you have, if she’s not meeting up to your expectation you know what to do. Lastly, schedule your time to do things yourself rather than relying on a maid to do them for you. All the best

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Re: ........ by Joyfulgal: 11:01pm On Sep 20, 2018

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Re: ........ by gaby(m): 11:06pm On Sep 20, 2018

Joyfulgal:

Lol. I pray u don't get to need one soon .since you are not there, you can't really say .All the same thank you

If this post should hit front page aunty, the op will deactivate her account here trust me on this.

It doesn't sound all 100% right at all..

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