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Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Ahmed0336(m): 7:31pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
OP just brought back some memories. Dad died when I was 4 even though I have a kid bro I was mum's favorite ![]() One certain day like that my elder bro called for a meeting and questioned mum that why did she prefer me to the rest of them? Mumsy denied that she loved us equally ![]() Anywhere she dey go was always with me. Na me sabi her salary and most of her things ![]() Op my case was different as mum died we always do our things together please do try to make adjustments by treating them equally . I have three kids just like you but you will never see me treating them the way you are treating yours even though it's hard to love them equally try as much as you can not to show it. 2 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by OnArealTho: 7:36pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080: You are the problem. You are quite self absorbed. Get over yourself, and all the I, My mom and all what freaking not. I can't teach you how to love your children and I wish I never read something as awkward as this. Damn! Still, whatever you do, make sure, you do it equally, or have a very logical reason ready when you have to explain the inequalities yo! I cant even pretend not to be mad. 3 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Pavore9: 7:36pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Oluromantic: You're so right about that. Mental health issues are on the rise in Nigeria but many are living in denial. 2 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by verycheese: 7:43pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
obstead200: You know those kind of people right, I'm 95% sure the nigga hates his dad, he's one of those people who are obsessed with how much wrong he feels the dad did to the mum, all the while under the careful manipulative tutelage of a mother who knows a weak brained child and is cashing home. In return, d stupid boy hopes to resurrect the true essence of his mother by idolising her any chance he gets. He's a donkey afterall, what's more stupid is he's already doing what will make his own children also hate him, just like you noticed your mum's suffering, even that your best child Wil notice how you don't rate his mum, it will so pain you the way that boy will disgrace you later in life claiming you did his mother bad, he will always love his mother than you by the way, just the way you managed to think your mum is an idol. I cn say this cos your post exposed you Mr OP, I've handled cases like yours, one thing you all have in common is being from plagued backgrounds without love, just cultural nd traditional mumu upbringing, no exposure, e jaa rara. How u see wife marry sef? 8 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Treasuredvessel: 7:45pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Reading this brings tears to my eyes,not that you can't have a favourite but the reason given ,now I see people on this forum making jest of feminism,things like this birthed the struggle,no wonder we have so many women battling with their esteem and so many entitled men,how we react to things like gender which is not our making baffles me,is it a crime to be born female?This angels will grow up knowing that they're not important and this is what pushes ladies into falling into wrong hands and people on this forum will enjoy making jest of them and calling them fish brain.The funny thing about stories like this is that more often than not the stone rejected by the builders becomes the chief cornerstone. Please do not create a monster by raising bitter women,because of when you'll need them.God be with those little angels,I pray their mother knows better to focus on them too.Women are so inferior yet you went ahead to get married 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Foodforthought: 7:49pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
MissRaine69:Your choice of words though...what you're saying is that you don't quote others,right? You can't kill me for quoting an immature piece. Change,biko 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by NoToPile: 7:56pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
The OP said he places the boy even above his wife. Now thats very weird. 3 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by 2sexycom(m): 8:05pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080:That is very bad of you! ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Emmanuelcann: 8:11pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080:one way to approach it is this - whatever you do for any one of them make sure you equally do it for all! |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by ferhyntorlah(f): 8:14pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
verycheese: Well said sir. 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by OLUROCKS(m): 8:23pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
the real problem is not with the kids .... you probably don't love their mother cos if you do loving her children wont be a problem irrespective of their looks and behaviors id advice you get a divorce 4 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 8:30pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
MissRaine69: Bless your wisdom! |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 8:37pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080: Jeez. This comment shows you really need help. You're really sick mehn |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 8:37pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080: Jeez. This comment shows you really need help. You're really sick mehn |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 8:43pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080: Jeez. This comment shows you really need help. You're really sick mehn |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 8:48pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
successfulhadi22: Your parents are good people. I can't say the same about my mum. However, my dad loves us equally. I can't seem to forgive my mum for showing favoritism to her eldest child. 3 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by emezuo17: 8:50pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080:My brother iam sorry for you oh, can't really imagine not loving my kids equally, I have a girl and two boys, I have some level of soft spot for the girl cos she is my first child and looks like my mother, but I love all of them equally and try to treat them same without biase or preference. Please try and correct this now before it gets out of hand, there is no assurance that the one you prefer will treat you well or better in your old age. 6 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by TheBoy1740: 8:59pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080: You can rotate your shopping companion. Take d boy today, one of d twins d next time and den d last or anyhow you want to do it. Trust me, you'll start learning more about your supposed less favourites and you'll love them more. 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Nobody: 9:00pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Pavore9:that is what is wrong with alot of grown men today and why some of them treat women poorly.Poor home training. 4 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Pavore9:when people think the church is a hospital. I weep for Nigeria 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by 2hrt(m): 9:05pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
I can only wish you well.. keep it up.. show ur favoritism well enough...This ur post remind me of my childhood dayz.. i was hated by my father for reason unknown to me..Out of 3 of us na only me go public sch, i was d only one whose birthday was never celebrated.. I was so much hated by my father he didnt even hid the abundant love he showered on my elder broda n kid sista.. He refused to pay my common entrace fee.I remember getting to the venue alone@ duste abuja. I remember being all alone and lost.I was mocked by little kids because i was malnourished, had a very big for d size of a young kid. A close uncle told me hw he always refuse to drop feeding moni..I grew up drinking akamu unlike my elder broda n sista. Make i leave story jare.. You think dey r smal abi.. you would be surprise dey already knw... Till 2day i dont feel comfortable around my dad 5 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by ronyman(m): 9:09pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Your folly knows no bounds. By the time they will grow and notice it then the seed of hatred will change to a forest your afonja eyes will clear. gabazin080: 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 9:10pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
verycheese: I like your nonsensical approach to this and nothing can be farther from the truth. |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by ronyman(m): 9:11pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Many are mad but few enter road Pavore9: |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Loversminds: 9:11pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
It is normal not to love equally, you just have to work on yourself and show them love equally |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 9:13pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Magnifik18: I came to this conclusion too. Very disgusting indeed. 3 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Melian(f): 9:20pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
Ahmed0336: Thing is, children always know. And they'll carry that pain or emptiness around them for life. It's why your brother found the courage to question your mum. Too sad what our parents do to us. 2 Likes |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Offpoint: 9:39pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
needful:Don't mind the op my brother, he knows where his problems lies and he's dodging it. 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by elRamani(m): 9:45pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
ZIMDRILL: where is the solution to the problem in this? or u only wanted us to know Zimbabweans ar on NL too? 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Chizzychinny: 9:50pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
you better love them equally, you don't know what tomorrow brings.... Be wise... The one you don't like may turn out to be the greatest among the three. Hmmm 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by EazyMoh(m): 9:51pm On Jan 07, 2019 |
gabazin080:You are setting up your so called favorite child to become spoilt and eventually a failure in life. (God forbid). |
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