I'm a product of one (North and south,edo to be precise) and i think i may also marry from the South. Do nigerians still shy away from intertribal marriage?

It's all about mentality..a friend of mine is in love with a girl..they love each other to a fault..he's North (Muslim) she's Yoruba (Muslim) his parents are okay with that (quite surprising) but lie lie, her parents won't agree..they insist she must marry from their tribe..is believe when you're exposed to the world, such things matters a little..and we live in a situation where no one trusts his neighbour talk less of other tribe..

Sukakma:
It's all about mentality..a friend of mine is in love with a girl..they love each other to a fault..he's North (Muslim) she's Yoruba (Muslim) his parents are okay with that (quite surprising) but lie lie, her parents won't agree..they insist she must marry from their tribe..is believe when you're exposed to the world, such things matters a little..and we live in a situation where no one trusts his neighbour talk less of other tribe..

I've noticed most times its the family that always makes a fuss out of the whole thing. The actual couple don't often care

ERORR404:
I'm a product of one (North and south,edo to be precise) and i think i may also marry from the South. Do nigerians still shy away from intertribal marriage?

I am A Product of One Too
Yoruba (SW) and Niger Delta (kwale)

ERORR404:
I'm a product of one (North and south,edo to be precise) and i think i may also marry from the South. Do nigerians still shy away from intertribal marriage?

some still forbid it.
but I see such persons as educated illiterates

Well in same situation.. Her parents have refused..

i'm particular about the family than the tribe....

Nothing wrong with inter tribal marriage, am from Ogun a daughter of an Alhaji, I married an Urhobo man which is a pastor. 13 good years and still counting.

teacherbim:
Nothing wrong with inter tribal marriage, am from Ogun a daughter of an Alhaji, I married an Urhobo man which is a pastor. 13 good years and still counting.

Wow congrats, I think yorubas are more liberal about it than any other in nigeria

JERRY1925:
Well in same situation.. Her parents have refused..

See, this is what i was saying, it's usually the family that make all the fuss about it

Run from it. My humble advice from experience.

sgtponzihater1:
Run from it. My humble advice from experience.

Can you elaborate? cause I'm a product of one and I didn't see anything that could have made my dad to "Run"

We are only good at Inter tribal relationship/co-operation when it has to do with SHARING/LOOTING PUBLIC FUNDS at the helms of political power.....

Tharaja:
We are only good at Inter tribal relationship/co-operation when it has to do with SHARING/LOOTING PUBLIC FUNDS at the helms of political power.....

True.

ERORR404:

Can you elaborate? cause I'm a product of one and I didn't see anything that could have made my dad to "Run"

Marry from the East, and see them try to wisely drain u and exclude ur family. All the problem of her siblings u must solve, but she'll never ask u of ur own siblings of if u have a plan for them. They come to ur house and make it an Igbo affair, speaking their language to each other while u as the man become the stranger. The list is endless.

Tribal marriage is never an issue but background and home training matters must.

When couple have issues: parents play a very vital roles in settling and resolving them.

Some tribe see this as abnormal and prefer their daughter to return back home with them.

No matter how educated and enlighten they are, it's just their ways of life, i have seen a mother telling her daughter to live her marriage (a marriage that is not abusive and violent o) and her brother also encouraged her to live too, so when we look @ this tribe one may want to say they don't stay in marriage but then i knw of ppl from the same tribe who make sure that their marriage works against all odd.

I think one shld be wary abt this kind of background and training which has now turn to tradition.

sgtponzihater1:


Marry from the East, and see them try to wisely drain u and exclude ur family. All the problem of her siblings u must solve, but she'll never ask u of ur own siblings of if u have a plan for them. They come to ur house and make it an Igbo affair, speaking their language to each other while u as the man become the stranger. The list is endless.

Ahh.. My current girlfriend is from the east oo

ERORR404:

Ahh.. My current girlfriend is from the east oo

Deal with people as individuals though. My case might not be same with yours.

Goodluck

sgtponzihater1:


Deal with people as individuals though. My case might not be same with yours.

Goodluck

Aye sir, thanks

You learn about other cultures, you understand their language too, you make new friends from that region, you also to a large extent begin to understand how to live as a Nigerian because that is the thrust of the Nigerian spirit. That was why the National Youth Service Corp was formed. That was also why the Federal Government Colleges were established; to enable Nigerians from different parts of the country meet under one roof and be able to learn and understand different cultures and values. The demerits might be what I mentioned earlier: language barrier, culinary, etc.

CuddleBunnys:
You learn about other cultures, you understand their language too, you make new friends from that region, you also to a large extent begin to understand how to live as a Nigerian because that is the thrust of the Nigerian spirit. That was why the National Youth Service Corp was formed. That was also why the Federal Government Colleges were established; to enable Nigerians from different parts of the country meet under one roof and be able to learn and understand different cultures and values. The demerits might be what I mentioned earlier: language barrier, culinary, etc.

Sadly the older generation (our parents) don't see it this way

Marrying someone outside ur tribe is something every one should encourage,because the advantages out weight its limitations...

Understanding individual differences is the key.... not the tribe.....Read this it 'll help a lot >>https://www.weddingtin.com/2018/12/unique-guide-to-overcoming-individual-cultural-difference-in-relationships.html

some parents won't want you to marry from another state sef

Dad was born here in Ibadan 1955 at bode , married a fine woman from lalupon in ibadan >: .

Oh my grand parents are from present day anambra state .


Men the kind of opportunities I have gave me alot of advantages in life.





Is all about the family you are dealing with, not tribe.....

My opinion

U have to know about the other cultures, traditions, language etc.
If u dont know i think its better to just marry from your tribe at least u know about its culture and language and even if you happen not to know, u have relations and siblings u can ask.

But then again. It depends on the individual

I think its kinda cool knowing other tribes apart from yours. It widens your mindset and knowlegde.
Am Igbo and am thinking about finding a Yoruba.

ERORR404:

Wow congrats, I think yorubas are more liberal about it than any other in nigeria

No, the Niger Deltans are more liberal about it than any other tribe. Take this to the bank.

An average Youruba Muslim for instance who has spent almost all her growing up years in Ogun or Lagos state will be sceptical about marrying to a Rivers guy, but same girl from Edo or Delta or Bayelsa won't find it so difficult

spacofadan:


No, the Niger Deltans are more liberal about it than any other tribe. Take this to the bank.

An average Youruba Muslim for instance who has spent almost all her growing up years in Ogun or Lagos state will be sceptical about marrying to a Rivers guy, but same girl from Edo or Delta or Bayelsa won't find it so difficult

your opinion though, but i think I've heard and seen more of yorubas marrying outside their tribe

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sgtponzihater1:


Marry from the East, and see them try to wisely drain u and exclude ur family. All the problem of her siblings u must solve, but she'll never ask u of ur own siblings of if u have a plan for them. They come to ur house and make it an Igbo affair, speaking their language to each other while u as the man become the stranger. The list is endless.

Regardless of their political views
Do you know that the Yorubas And the igbos have the highest inter-marriage in Nigeria.?

Emotionss:
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Regardless of their political views
Do you know that the Yorubas And the igbos have the highest inter-marriage in Nigeria.?

I agree. Just wonder why though.

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my mother says she doesnt care where i get my wife,so far shes gna be a good one