SOME PEOPLE MARRY WRONGLY

SOME PEOPLE MARRY BECAUSE THE PERSON IS RICH, HANDSOME OR BEAUTIFUL,

WHEN YOU MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR DESTINED PARTNER, YOU'RE BOUND TO FAIL,

SUCH MARRIAGE CAN NEVER LAST. THAT'S WHY WE HAVE DIVORCEES EVERYWHERE.

EVERYONE HAS HIS OR HER DESTINED PARTNER, THAT'S WHY YOU HAVE TO SEEK THE PRESENCE OF GOD BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
The guy is an idiot. Men like him grew up watching their fathers beat their mothers and they fvcking think it's norm.

Any abusive person go even chill when with me sef. We know how to tame beasts.

Stop trying to tame them o.

One day the beast in them will manifest and you might not make it out alive. Except if they genuinely decide to change, then they will put in as much effort, probably meet you halfway. Anything less, just japa!

AntiBrutus:


Babe, e dey rare. A man can genuinely love and olosho and defend her with his life. That is even after he has gone close to her and seen other good qualities.

Compare that with our sisters wey go dey relationship with one useless guy. Money e no get, good character? Mba! Last last, e fit manage get big prick. That is all and she will be dying there.

It's still for the same reason that a man would fall in love with a prostitute that would make a lady stick to one guy that's "useless". In their eyes, that person is the best. You're the one worrying about character and all that.

He changed everything to double for her e.g lips, eye, etc

Anytime I see stories like these i know there's another side to the story.

GrabHisBalls:
Babe, @embolden, I've seen oh! Not one, not two.

I thought it is only me o. The last time I heard about them, they already have 2kids.i mean real olosho from brothel o, their wedding was talk of the Town

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see the previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/5183457/wed-august-lady-seriously-battered

Imagine preparing for your wedding, making expenses, informing family and friends of what could possibly be the happiest day of your life, only to cancel it three months before the D-Day?

That was what 29-year-old Omolara Busari did but she is not regretful. According to her, calling the wedding off saved her from a lifetime of misery or, in a worst-case scenario, death.

Omolara said she called off the wedding after receiving the beating of her life from her fiancé, Adelekan Adelufosi.

Omolara, who hails from Iseyin, Oyo State, told The PUNCH that she endured her relationship with 32-year-old Adelufosi for four years.

They had planned to finally get married in August 2019, but their wedding has now been canceled after Adelufosi beat his fiancée to a pulp last Thursday at Iwere-Ile, Iwajowa, Oyo State.

Omolara, who spoke to our correspondent on the telephone, said she had only challenged Adelufosi for asking her not to ever relate with a woman who lives in their area.

By the time she knew what was happening, she had been admitted to hospital.

She said, “There is a woman who lives in my area, close to my apartment. We were just discussing and greeting each other when he (Adelufosi) showed up.

“Later, he went to the woman’s shop and warned her not to ever see her around me again. When we entered my apartment that night, I asked him, ‘Why did you do that?’

“That was the last thing I remembered saying. By the time I opened my eyes, I found myself in a hospital.”

From last Thursday night, Omolara had been receiving treatment and was discharged on Monday.

But that was not the first time Omolara would get physically assaulted by a man who claimed to love her and make his wife someday.

“That was the fifth time he would beat me,” Omolara said.

Asked why she held on to the man despite his abusive nature for so long, Omolara said it was because she had a daughter for him.

She said, “Actually, I wanted to marry him because I have a daughter, who is two years old, for him. This is what kept me glued to the relationship. But this time around, I don’t care. Our relationship has ended and I have canceled our wedding.

“Right from the beginning, my parents and siblings didn’t approve of our relationship, but I thought maybe after our wedding, he would change.

“We were already planning our wedding for August 2019, but like I said, it cannot hold again.”

Omolara lamented she did not heed her parents’ and siblings’ warning before. However, she was thankful it was not too late for her.

“Now, they (my parents and siblings) are relieved and I have finally learned my lesson. I am so happy that our relationship has ended,” she said.

Omolara said she was more relieved because she would not have to spend her savings on Adelufosi again, who she claimed to have been responsible for since their relationship started.

She said, “He only has the primary school leaving certificate. I am a trader and deal with beverages. He doesn’t have a job and I have been the one taking care of him.

“I used to buy him clothes, shoes, and others. Even the phone he’s using right now, I bought it for him. I was practically taking responsibility for his life.

“Just last week, I gave him N50,000 capital, encouraging him to start selling recharge cards. But after the beating, he burgled my shop and ran away. Up till now, he’s still at large. He was always mad at me for telling him to look for a job.”

Asked what he initially saw in the suspect before agreeing to date him, Omolara said she thought he was a good man because he was “calm and gentle.”

“I never knew he could be this dangerous. I knew his real person when I got closer to him. I also did not know he smokes and drinks alcohol a lot. Anytime I told him what he was doing was not good, he would be angry,” she added.

Asked what she would do if the suspect came back to apologize to her, she replied, “Am I a fool? It can’t happen. I have made up my mind. It was then that I used to fall for his apologies. He can never change.

“He used to threaten me that if I decided to break up with him, he would take our child, and this was why I held on to him for so long. I will raise my daughter, whom I had by Caesarean Section, on my own; I would never let her near him.”

Happy she had finally taken the bull by the horns by ending her relationship with Adelufosi and canceling her wedding, Omolara said the only thing she now wanted was justice.

“I want him to be punished,” she said.

She also told our correspondent that immediately after her discharge from the hospital on Monday morning, she went to report the case to the Divisional Crime Branch, Iwere-Ile Police Station, Oyo State.

Efforts to reach the Public Relations Officer of the Oyo State Police Command, Mr. Olugbenga Fadeyi, on Tuesday proved abortive.

source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2019/05/woman-cancels-wedding-as-fiance-turns.html

You can marry a poor man but not a jobless one

Mk93:

I thought it is only me o. The last time I heard about them, they already have 2kids.i mean real olosho from brothel o, their wedding was talk of the Town

Na them marry pass sef.

There's something about them, most are very nice people if you get closer.

You think he will probably change As if you are God

End time beating see her face.

NCAN members how market?

Is it railway lines?

GrabHisBalls:
It's still for the same reason that a man would fall in love with a prostitute that would make a lady stick to one guy that's "useless". In their eyes, that person is the best. You're the one worrying about character and all that.

A man can very well fall in love with a prostitute. But most men would hardly go for one with the aim to marry her. Same can't be said for women who can date any dick and harry to be Mrs. Na my point be that.

Not saying it doesn't happen, it is just not their MO.

AntiBrutus:


A man can very well fall in love with a prostitute. But most men would hardly go for one with the aim to marry her. Same can't be said for women who can date any dick and harry to be Mrs. Na my point be that.

Not saying it doesn't happen, it is just not their MO.

Alright.

Cancelled or chased away the bastard out of her site completely

May thunder fire wedding. Young lady this will be a great lesson for you and yo other girls. Never in your life as a lady try to manage a violent man it won't work.

titiloyeblog:
@titiloyeblog.com

see the previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/5183457/wed-august-lady-seriously-battered

Imagine preparing for your wedding, making expenses, informing family and friends of what could possibly be the happiest day of your life, only to cancel it three months before the D-Day?

That was what 29-year-old Omolara Busari did but she is not regretful. According to her, calling the wedding off saved her from a lifetime of misery or, in a worst-case scenario, death.

Omolara said she called off the wedding after receiving the beating of her life from her fiancé, Adelekan Adelufosi.

Omolara, who hails from Iseyin, Oyo State, told The PUNCH that she endured her relationship with 32-year-old Adelufosi for four years.

They had planned to finally get married in August 2019, but their wedding has now been canceled after Adelufosi beat his fiancée to a pulp last Thursday at Iwere-Ile, Iwajowa, Oyo State.

Omolara, who spoke to our correspondent on the telephone, said she had only challenged Adelufosi for asking her not to ever relate with a woman who lives in their area.

By the time she knew what was happening, she had been admitted to hospital.

She said, “There is a woman who lives in my area, close to my apartment. We were just discussing and greeting each other when he (Adelufosi) showed up.

“Later, he went to the woman’s shop and warned her not to ever see her around me again. When we entered my apartment that night, I asked him, ‘Why did you do that?’

“That was the last thing I remembered saying. By the time I opened my eyes, I found myself in a hospital.”

From last Thursday night, Omolara had been receiving treatment and was discharged on Monday.

But that was not the first time Omolara would get physically assaulted by a man who claimed to love her and make his wife someday.

“That was the fifth time he would beat me,” Omolara said.

Asked why she held on to the man despite his abusive nature for so long, Omolara said it was because she had a daughter for him.

She said, “Actually, I wanted to marry him because I have a daughter, who is two years old, for him. This is what kept me glued to the relationship. But this time around, I don’t care. Our relationship has ended and I have canceled our wedding.

“Right from the beginning, my parents and siblings didn’t approve of our relationship, but I thought maybe after our wedding, he would change.

“We were already planning our wedding for August 2019, but like I said, it cannot hold again.”

Omolara lamented she did not heed her parents’ and siblings’ warning before. However, she was thankful it was not too late for her.

“Now, they (my parents and siblings) are relieved and I have finally learned my lesson. I am so happy that our relationship has ended,” she said.

Omolara said she was more relieved because she would not have to spend her savings on Adelufosi again, who she claimed to have been responsible for since their relationship started.

She said, “He only has the primary school leaving certificate. I am a trader and deal with beverages. He doesn’t have a job and I have been the one taking care of him.

“I used to buy him clothes, shoes, and others. Even the phone he’s using right now, I bought it for him. I was practically taking responsibility for his life.

“Just last week, I gave him N50,000 capital, encouraging him to start selling recharge cards. But after the beating, he burgled my shop and ran away. Up till now, he’s still at large. He was always mad at me for telling him to look for a job.”

Asked what he initially saw in the suspect before agreeing to date him, Omolara said she thought he was a good man because he was “calm and gentle.”

“I never knew he could be this dangerous. I knew his real person when I got closer to him. I also did not know he smokes and drinks alcohol a lot. Anytime I told him what he was doing was not good, he would be angry,” she added.

Asked what she would do if the suspect came back to apologize to her, she replied, “Am I a fool? It can’t happen. I have made up my mind. It was then that I used to fall for his apologies. He can never change.

“He used to threaten me that if I decided to break up with him, he would take our child, and this was why I held on to him for so long. I will raise my daughter, whom I had by Caesarean Section, on my own; I would never let her near him.”

Happy she had finally taken the bull by the horns by ending her relationship with Adelufosi and canceling her wedding, Omolara said the only thing she now wanted was justice.

“I want him to be punished,” she said.

She also told our correspondent that immediately after her discharge from the hospital on Monday morning, she went to report the case to the Divisional Crime Branch, Iwere-Ile Police Station, Oyo State.

Efforts to reach the Public Relations Officer of the Oyo State Police Command, Mr. Olugbenga Fadeyi, on Tuesday proved abortive.

source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2019/05/woman-cancels-wedding-as-fiance-turns.html

In omawumi's voice " if you ask mee nah who I go ask, d matter wey u see sooo ee teeeh wey we start". ..
what could have prompted this lady to stay in such an abusive relationship?
*Age: Am not getting any younger,am 30 I must marry quickly
*Family Pressure: All my siblings have married I must hook up with someone
*Public View: won't they be counting the number of guys I have dated an did not result into marriage
*Unwarranted Sexual Exploitation: He has had sex with me on countless number of occasions even he was the one who deflowered me, I won't let him go.

GrabHisBalls:
Na them marry pass sef.

There's something about them, most are very nice people if you get closer.

they are actually nice people . they may even have better character than normal girls. the only fear is that they might turn your home into a community development project. with most young going into coded prostitution this days, I won't blame anyone who marry the ones from a brothel because you know what you are getting

Na dem be that oooo

Thank God she escaped!

Chei!!!!!

When you try to marry a man or woman without a major vision with action in life, the affected lives to regret it. Every man and woman has his or her own demon tamed do not get engaged to someone who brings the worst out of you always.

Mk93:

they are actually nice people . they may even have better character than normal girls. the only fear is that they might turn your home into a community development project. with most young going into coded prostitution this days, I won't blame anyone who marry the ones from a brothel because you know what you are getting

Not all of us are into coded runs na. Guys aren't any better too. So, if you finally get one that's cool headed, treat her right.

Imagine a woman feeding a lazy and useless man.

That was what that Pastor was saying sometime ago. That women should not marry men that don't work. Now some mofos were faulting the pastor for saying such.

Now girls una see your lives?

Don't marry someone who doesn't have a job. Most are irresponsible.

Shame on all useless men that depend on their wives salary and quarrel her for it. Shame !

No real man should ever put his hands on a woman unless he's defending himself from an attack.

Every ladies should stop thinking they can change any man that beats them in the name of Love. Be wise to walk away.

With women and their desperate state to get married at all cost, I certainly wouldn't be surprise if they still go ahead and get married soon.

Virus99:
Biafra Football Club

Shooting stars Football club.

i was thinking she would sti go ahead and marry the woman beater since dem say husband is very scarce to get in naija
this one get sense

for her to receive hot punches like this...she must be very stubborn.

Wish her quick recovery

A typical Nigerian girl value marriage more than anything else irrespective of the marriage situation.

What am I saying?
She will definitely Change her mind cos the guy will sure come begging n pleading.

So no one is going to say the obvious?
Until women find the eternal answer to the question of how not to stay attracted to a man that is good in bed but useless in everything else, this kind of thing will not stop.
By the way, this doesn't just happen to beverage sellers, high powered women also suffer this malaise.
Who wants to bet that this particular relationship ISN'T truly over even if the wedding will no longer happen?