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Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by VcStunner(m): 11:44am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister:seriously, I felt it when I read your stuff. It's really difficult to move on but considering the distance between you two, It was only a matter of time before you both severed the connection. But, there are few things you can do right now to help with the situation haven being in similar situation myself. And it is mostly logical than emotional. First, you need to take a step back, and concentrate on your self for a while. How? Take 30mins everyday, seat still and cover ur eyes then concentrate on ur heartbeat. Stay on it no matter the distraction from around you. Second, don't stalk the man. And don't expect so much. Step one will put you in this state if u were successful. It will help you focus. It is important because he has just created a vacuum in you and you are lost in the atmosphere of uncertainty. Fill d vacuum and let step one help you focus again. Finally, assume this is one of those bad times every relationship will go through to come out strong. It is not always jolly. Focus on life after this phase, how beautiful and tolerant your future relationship is gonna be. Stay positive. If you are religious, listen to the soft voice, it's the voice of reason. It will be fine 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by TheStarsAlign: 11:44am On May 18, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: In your words "The heart doesn't always listen to what the brain says it will never do" 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by danbrowndmf(m): 11:44am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister:honestly my definition of love...is commitment and sacrifice.. going days without hearing from your love one or who you claim to love is a scam... indepth communication is the bedrock of lasting love.. as for me i will move on...but you can also wait if you wish but wow so people still pm here and engaged in serious relationship on here... thats awesome 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Adviseasister: 11:45am On May 18, 2019 |
safarigirl: How did you get over it? When you see his username, what happens? |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by EvieP(f): 11:45am On May 18, 2019 |
There is never always a true love in human 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by poseidon12: 11:45am On May 18, 2019 |
ojun50: He is outside the country. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by frankson1(m): 11:45am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: To start with, I'm not a fan of 'long distance relationships'. Maybe I can accept the same country but different states on the condition that we can see maybe twice in a month... Again, COMMUNICATION is VERY VERY IMPORTANT in relationships and it can never be overemphasized. Once there's breakdown in communication, then every other things breaks down as well. The beginning of every relationships is always very exciting, which partly depends on the mind set a person had going into it, but when the person gets or don't get what he/she thought he/would get, then the excitement dies off and. So what matters now is the PURPOSE of going into a relationship. If only you could get him to be sincere and open up to you so you know your next step. Here is my advice, if you are very sure that you have not told lies that he has got to know or done anything wrong and have tried severally to get him to talk to you and he is not responding, my dear you have to MOVE ON there is nothing you can do about it. Finally, in relationships, if one partner isn't responding, most especially in communication, then there's absolutely nothing the other partner can do. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by greypencils: 11:45am On May 18, 2019 |
Predstan:That is the advice I will give to my own younger sister |
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Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by henrijin: 11:46am On May 18, 2019 |
Lemme tell you truth. He get girlfriend already. If una finally meet, he go knack you and that will be the end of Solomom Grondy. My sister, fave reality. Face your job or school and when you are really ready, better boy go show. Forget this online nonsense. The rate of success is low. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by oluxy(m): 11:46am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: I absolutely share in ur feelings. I'm experienced such from a lady recently. It shows u truly love him. I love ur sense of reasoning, u never judge, despite how things were, u still consider that he might be passing through some challenges that he might doesn't want share. Few ladies consider this under this circumstance. You are a good woman. I'd suggest you only have the truth at hand before u make ur decision. Try to know why he's acting such way. This is the time situation would want to cloud our thinking and the voice of the situation would be echoing wrongly for wrong decision. Don't listen, listen to ur instinct to get the fact n proceed with ur decision. Cheers. I won't tell u what I found out when I did same. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by danbrowndmf(m): 11:46am On May 18, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble:honestly uou are not a nice person |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Kennydoc(m): 11:47am On May 18, 2019 |
Toks2008: Adviseasister, I think this is an apt advice for you. If the guy truly loves and values you, he'll never dump you like that. I started my relationship with my fiancée more or less the way yours started, in similar circumstances. The only difference is that we met on Facebook. It's been over 15 months, yet I can't go more than a day without at least chatting with her, except we both agreed on it for a particular reason. Despite the fact that she benefits from me much more than I can ever benefit from her (for now), I still Iove her beyond words. I can't even imagine being separated from her. If she goes silent for a whole day, I won't let her rest till she tells me what's wrong. If the guy no longer communicates with you, then he has lost interest. It may be temporary or permanent. The only modification I want to make to the advice I quoted is that you should try and discuss with him, if you haven't done so yet. If he doesn't grant you audience, then go ahead and ignore him. I know it's difficult, but you can do it. If I were you, I will delete all his contacts from my phone and move on with my life. If he comes back, well and good but if he doesn't, life goes on. It's painful to lose a relationship with someone you love very much, especially someone who lives abroad (in ur case), but nothing says you won't get a much better guy soon. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Adviseasister: 11:47am On May 18, 2019 |
BleedTears: This hurts. It is well... |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by onelovenigeria(m): 11:48am On May 18, 2019 |
I DID ADVICE YOU TO MOVE ON .....MOST TIME THE PEOPLE WHO WILL TRUELY LOVE DONT YOU BACK AND IT HURTS....I UNDERSTAND IT CAN BE HARD ...BUT SINCE YOU DONT CURRENTLY LIVE IN THE SAME COUNTRY ..I SUGGEST YOU LET HIM BE....THERE ARE A LOTS OF THINGS THAT CAN CAUSE DISTRACTION FOR PEOPLE LIVING ABROAD. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by mondayaudu(m): 11:48am On May 18, 2019 |
It is technically over. Stop bothering yourself especially due to the fact that he is not in Nigeria. He is online but doesn’t respond to your call at night. I would advise, kindly look for a man close to you. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by mosheymichael(m): 11:49am On May 18, 2019 |
Who still fall in dis days, forget him |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by hammerFC: 11:49am On May 18, 2019 |
Ishilove: I KNOW U CARRY SOME INFLUENCE HERE, EVEN THOUGH U ARE NO LONGER MOD AS THEY SAY. SO DO THE NEEDFUL... I WANT TO DISTURB U 2DAY. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Rozaytee: 11:49am On May 18, 2019 |
Diamond23:asin ehn...nairaland love na error... It's only... If u guys have known each other before joining nairaland... But to meet guys online here... Na Confam error... I hardly even reply pms...i manage chat with 2...and from the way they even talk u will know that 70% of them are sex starved.. Looking for part-time gfs 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by poseidon12: 11:50am On May 18, 2019 |
MariaLavina: Right on point. You should be a relationship counselor. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Willgates(m): 11:51am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: Give him space. That's all! |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by greypencils: 11:55am On May 18, 2019 |
safarigirl:lol |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Adviseasister: 11:55am On May 18, 2019 |
Rozaytee: He isn't sex starved. If he were, I would be long gone. He showed interest in my work. Taught me easier way of doing things. After a stressful day, I would send him voice notes, more of rant notes and he would calm me down, encourage me. If he were in Nigeria, I may have said, he is looking for puna. There are good guys here. I think the distance got to him. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Chidokes4real(f): 11:55am On May 18, 2019 |
I rarely know of any long distant relationship that had a happy ending. And in this case, the relationship started online(never met before), different continents, different countries. The only factor that keeps long distant relationship going is COMMUNICATION. Since the communication from one party is already declining, it shows lack of interest. OP, this is a very clear case. Your mind is telling you the truth that it's over he is no more interested. But your heart is scared of accepting the truth. PLEASE FREE THE GUY. He isn't worth the heartache. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by MissRaine69(f): 11:56am On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: Did you? If that’s not the issue it should not bother you. Do the gifts HAVE to be delivered to your workplace? It’s hard do argue privacy from that perspective. Sister girl there are so many more important things that one should be worried about in life. No one since mankind started to walk this Earth has died from being talked about. No one has cause of death listed as “being mocked behind her back” You learn from experience You have experienced it now, learn from it. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Sheriman(m): 11:57am On May 18, 2019 |
[quote author=czarina post=78494329]I don't think I'm interested in whatever it is but if it's really "important", call that number on my profile. [/quote I want to be your friend even more than a friend I'm damn serious about it.. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by trapQ: 11:58am On May 18, 2019 |
Girl the guy is tired and wants to move on. You should too. I have been in a long distance relationship (different continents) for 5 years and all the while the guy never ever gave me an attitude or had a reason to ignore my calls. Despite being in different continents he would call very very often and check up on me and send me goodnight texts. That guy doesn't rate you sis. All the best. Adviseasister: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by santakris(m): 11:58am On May 18, 2019 |
MariaLavina: Sit down, read and digest this advice. It's the best I have read so far from the front page. Nothing to add again... |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Pablonkor: 11:58am On May 18, 2019 |
From what you said, this relationship is a distant one. That means you both didn't visit any Babalawo and have your destinies tied to each other. My sister if you've been faithful to this 'distant guy' (someone you probably haven't seen before), and he's now showing you some useless attitudes and treating you like a Trash Can, my dear you gotta treat him like the Garbage in it. Jejely Waka your own comot for that kind relationship....U can't come and kill yourself for nothing 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by jackals(f): 11:59am On May 18, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED: As far as I'm concerned, sense has elude you since 80's. If you have nothing reasonable to contribute, why cant you just swerve and move on? |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Willgates(m): 11:59am On May 18, 2019 |
MariaLavina: You were making a lot of sense until your second paragraph. |
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