SageMK:
You did this to yourself by marrying a complete stranger.
That was a deadly gamble and look at how it back fired.

Can your marriage still be savage?

Even if you birth his offspring, you'll still wake up to cook his meal, take care of the baby, open your legs for him and still receive absolutely no love from him.

I'd advise you to walk away but your post presents you as someone incapable of making good decisions, lack self esteem and give a too much shít about what people say. This here means there is a great chance you will walk into the same kind of relationship again.

I suggest you take the bull by the horns.

It seems you want to leave so threaten him with that.
Demand a change to his attitude. If you can't face him, just pack your bags. Life is too short to tolerate bullshít.

HitSong:
You're sick and needs help too just like the hope. Madam judge. This is one the reasons you people keep having problems in your marriage. Pride Disrespect Sharp mouth Selfishness And Carelessness May God save us from all these miserable women...

Newbreed2018:
From all advice given to u, even the admonitions, u still sound so disrespectful to ur husband. I've seen all manner of unprintable names u've used on him, Animal! Stupid, ediot etc. U r very uncouth.
U r a problem and the solution begins with u.
Please fix urself first before u ever think of fixing that man. U think he's ur worst mistake but from all ur chatter I can tell u u r his worst mistake.
If u can Adress ur husband in such terms in public I can only but wonder what u do in private.
The world does not revolve around ur feet. U sound like a very lazy woman in ur responsibilities at home. In fact u r very lazy. I wonder how ur husband endured u upto this point.
Waking up by 7 to prepare a meal is a task to u? Huh? #spits.

Instead of u to seek the face of God, rather u opened this stupid thread to seek validation from NL for them to condemn ur husband so u can go home gloating.
Madam, go and fix ur self. U r not doing the man any good staying, if u wish to leave kindly leave ASAP so the man go see road remarry better person. I wish to see ur husband and encourage him to divorce u ASAP. Ur type kills a man quickly.
U no be wife atoll.

GoTV:




It's easy to advice people The same mistake she made is what many of you make. Ignore serious guys in your younger years for some fvck boys then get desperate to marry any demon in your 30's. I hope you don't experience this. Nonsense

mhizdebbygold:



Seeing him is not to resolve issues but to let him know that what he joined together is on the verge of collapsing and you ain't interested.

Islie:



God bless you a zillion times for this post

ibkayee:

You sound upset, is everything ok?

TSRC:

Entitlement? Is that a new word you learnt?
What exactly was I entitled about?

*it seems this night is not going to be boring after all. I have a clown on my tail *

Newbreed2018:
From all advice given to u, even the admonitions, u still sound so disrespectful to ur husband. I've seen all manner of unprintable names u've used on him, Animal! Stupid, ediot etc. U r very uncouth.
U r a problem and the solution begins with u.
Please fix urself first before u ever think of fixing that man. U think he's ur worst mistake but from all ur chatter I can tell u u r his worst mistake.
If u can Adress ur husband in such terms in public I can only but wonder what u do in private.
The world does not revolve around ur feet. U sound like a very lazy woman in ur responsibilities at home. In fact u r very lazy. I wonder how ur husband endured u upto this point.
Waking up by 7 to prepare a meal is a task to u? Huh? #spits.

Instead of u to seek the face of God, rather u opened this stupid thread to seek validation from NL for them to condemn ur husband so u can go home gloating.
Madam, go and fix ur self. U r not doing the man any good staying, if u wish to leave kindly leave ASAP so the man go see road remarry better person. I wish to see ur husband and encourage him to divorce u ASAP. Ur type kills a man quickly.
U no be wife atoll.

BitmapStudios:

Please, divorce him sharply!
Never ever marry out of pity or Pastor's dictate, beg or manipulation. The truth is, those pastors never married that way. Sis, don't let him kill you (literally or insanely) before you have sense.

Biglittlelois:



Blaming her for what is happening in her marriage right now is as a result of whatever she did early in life is soo wrong, why not just advice her and go

GoTV:



The reply is in ur email.. Bye

OlawaleBammie:
Ahh, though i can't thoroughly judge him cus hearing a lady's side of a story to judge without listening to d other half's story is uncalled for.
But goin by ur story!! how could he b dis mean?? am taken aback i swear, this is too much to shoulder especially for women who are generally emotionally sensitive.
Op see, dont let anyone dciv u, u hav to face d truth here, wat u need is PRAYER, U NEED PRAYER, just turn to God since its Him dat joined u guys together throu His servants from d onset, pls pray to Him to help soften his heart, as a lady u need care,
U can as well(am sure u would hav informed dem) call d attentions of ur pastors to see into it and help u in prayer cus i cant advice u to elope from ur marriage




Last thin i want to say is... pls sorry to say this but it come to me as an observation..

U said u re good looking and as am seeing, u re educated, why were u unserious with ur previous relationships?? why did u choose nt to grow together with ur dream man but dumping dem??, i hope u re nt one of those ladies dat place schooling to acquire d last available certificate on der head as if that wil guarantee there brighter future?. why did u play with der emotions and let dem feel used and dumped by u??( cus man also use to feel used).
Because this marriage of urs happened under pressure as ur writeup hinted, age and health issues presured u to enter into such marriage and not affections, love, feelings, intimacy and d likes

Elesta:
Hello family, I have a long post about my terrible marriage. Please bear with me, I just have to pour everything out because it's killing me slowly.
I am in my mid 30's ,got married to this man in his mid 40's who has never been married before.We attend the same church although different branches, so the pastor of his branch and the pastor of my branch brought us together. We started dating and he seemed head over heels and started talking about marriage immediately. At first, the way he was talking and his reaction to things I wasn't interested and I even told him, but he begged me and the pastor begged me so I overlooked and continued especially considering my age. If I wasn't in my mid 30's and if I hadn't done fibroid operation and so, eager to take in, I won't have made this terrible mistake. We also work in the same place so everything seemed perfect.

Now we started making wedding plans just after one month of dating and we got married 4months after because of church process. It seemed blissful but I stumbled on his messages with a lady he was saying before me and eventually at the same time with me. I discovered he kept begging n begging her even while me n him were dating .he kept telling her to agree to attend his church or dey can be going to their separate churches but the girl kept insisting that they should attend the same church. I. e. he should leave his church and she will leave hers. Don't get me wrong, if this had happened before we started dating, I wouldn't have gotten angry. but all these happened while we were serious and even after he came to see my father, I discovered he was still pleading with her as per church matter. Who does that?? So what if she had agreed for the church matter, he would have dumped me n embarrassed my dad??

I brought it to his notice and he kept saying he never meant it, he was just using it as an excuse not to marry her.

Now in the marriage, emotional abuse never ends. Just fewonths into the marriage, he started behaving somehow bcoz I hadn't taken in. all kinds of insults oh. one day, he said if he knew I couldn't have children he won't have married me. this was just 4months into d marriage. any little thing he complains. on weekends, he expects me to get up by 7am m start preparing his breakfast oh. weekend which is supposed to b for resting since we work Monday to Friday. Every little thing, he keeps saying if he knew he won't have married me.
I still remember how he slapped me several times, he insulted me n i insulted him back, that was what caused d slap. even when he saw me crying he wasn't moved. I have complained to family members and friends ,they have spoken to him, he will change for a while and later go back to his terrible ways.
I have never seen this kind of acrimony between couple. I am not a bad looking person, I have dated people in d past, they didn't treat me half as badly as this one. I was just too unserious. I want to leave this torture. but we work in the same place and I am trying to avoid wagging tongues. I just tired. I have seen and experienced mutual love and it's not like this. I long to share love with someone that loves me just the way I am. I don't deserve to be with this animal. When it comes to food, he eats so angry if his food isn't ready on time.

Please I need advice. he went for test n it was discovered he has low sperm count. that made him humble for some fine but recently he started saying again that if he had married a younger lady, d lady would have been pregnant by now. just imagine this kind of torture. God knows I have absorbed so much from this man

Abfinest007:
I got no sympathy for u .what were u doing before u got to ur mid thirties .I guess u chase d serious guys away

HitSong:

You must be very weak fellow.
Kid!
Very judgemental weak and senseless post

Abfinest007:
I got no sympathy for u .what were u doing before u got to ur mid thirties .I guess u chase d serious guys away

essenceplus:
What is wrong with our men. Why does this continent breed these kinds of men. Bukatyne lilmissfavvy pls answer me. I'm tired of reading such gawop daily. Ibkayee can you answer this question and help me out of this dilemma

DavidEsq:

What servants? Those scammers na e u dey call servants? Let me tell u what the bible says about God's servants. Matthew 24:44: "Who really is the faithful and discreet slave whom his master appointed over his domestics, to give them their food at the proper time". The food the bible is talking about here is proper guidance. The scriptures at proverbs 22:3 says: "The shrewd one sees the danger and conceals himself,But the inexperienced keep right on going and suffer the consequences". OP said she saw the signs but was begged by the pastors. Is that proper guidance, according to the scriptures? Those so called pastors are wat 2 Corinthians 2:17 describe as "peddlers of the word of God".

kennygee:


You are the devil himself. You should be the person acting as Lucifer in the Netflix series, not Tom Ellis.

You think some women cross their legs and wait till they are in their mid 30s?

Is it not because of monsters like you that some of them stay unmarried till that age?

@Op, your story is a really sad one. This is the reason RCCG pastors never match make because you might think a brother or sister is spirit filled only to discover they are the devil themselves, however, you done enter this one.

That man is immature, even for his age and it is probably why he was also unmarried at that age. No sensible woman will see those red flags and jump in to marry a man like your husband or the one above me.

You also rushed into the marriage due to societal pressures mounted on a woman in her 30s. I've got a friend way older than me who got married when she was 33 and a virgin, this woman is enjoying her marriage and she looks younger than women who are 30 even tho she's 38 now.

Only you can decide if you want to stay and give it a try, you can also ho back to the pastor who match made you guys so he can see the end product of his handwork.

Elesta:

God bless you

Ugosample:


Just so you know, women are the ones who cause problems for themselves as women

You want to tell me that you dont know that MOST of those mounting pressures on women to marry and all that are WOMEN like themselves?

how many times will a man do that
it's often time women

And it's also women that largely raise their son's not to respect women
When a man tries to be good to his wife, and do chores and all that nice things that men do, who will be the first to revolt And say that "it's like this woman has jazzed my husband? "
You guessed right, his mum

most times, fathers have no time for such things

So you women have to look deep into yourselves and stop making life difficult for each other.
that's it