lexy2014:


U are so funny. Y are u getting offended& spilling ur emotions? If am taking panadol for another persons headache, which one have u been taking? Abi all d grammar u have speaking since does d topic of discussion concern u in any way? C pot calling kettle black.

bigiyaro:
keep masturbating on my opinion, if ur pastor is a rapist, he is going to pay, one way or another. Period!

bigiyaro:
I hope you saw the protests? ur fvcking rapist pastor is going down.

ayodaisi:
Who among you without sin should throw the first stone

lexy2014:
Every human being has a right 2 defend himself & d man has done so. I don't even need 2 defend him cos his statement is enough defence 4 him. Just d way u have pitched ur tent with busola that her story is airtight, is d same way others c d situation differently. If she feels she has a case, let her head to court. Its that simple. I don't c y u are getting emotional as if u want take sniper over d issue. U aren't d one that was raped. We are all spectators in d matter. So I don't understand ur aggression & belligerent attitude toward anyone who doesn't c things ur way.

Fatoyinbo was "accused" of wrongdoing & not convicted of wrongdoing. This y I said ur comprehension of English language is a problem or u are probably using a different dictionary from d one d whole world uses.

Are u on busolas payroll? D way u are defending her doesn't it show that u are on her payroll? Or maybe u are her P.A.?

Whether his defence are a bunch of pathetic stories or not, he has issued a denial which u said he didn't in d first place. D same way u don't believe d pastors response 2d issue, is d same way many can logically puncture holes in busolas story. Its her word against his. Nothing is factual at d moment. That's just d reality. So pls, take a chill pill

laudate:


Your own comprehension of English language is totally faulty, if you claim that the pathetic excuse the man provided, is a defence.

Nobody is being belligerent here. And if you see any aggression, it is totally a figment of your imagination, that you are trying to project unto someone else, who does not share your views.

Busola stated her case loud and clear. She cited instances, events, timelines and gave details of what transpired between her and the pastor.

Why didn't the pastor respond in the same manner, by stating explicitly what took place during his encounters with Busola? Instead he gave that pathetic excuse of "pastoral duties" which probably includes preying on unsuspecting women, and coercing or intimidating them into sexual acts.

I am not on Busola's payroll. I don't even know her on any level. But by weighing the pastor's excuse that he calls a defence, I can tell he is just trying to pull the wool over everyone's eyes. He should stop trying to insult our collective intelligence.

You are free to continue defending his disgusting actions. Let him go to court and sue Busola for defaming his name, if he has the guts.

laudate:

I am not on Busola's payroll. I don't even know her on any level. But by weighing the pastor's excuse that he calls a defence, I can tell he is just trying to pull the wool over everyone's eyes. He should stop trying to insult our collective intelligence.

BruncleZuma:

Say no more

Mk12:

in the eyes of the law he did nothing wrong. it is left for his church and his god to decide if he is right

lexy2014:
Am still yet to understand how u came about this ur standard for determining a persons ability to comprehend English language. When did d acceptance or non acceptance of Fatoyinbos denial now become d criteria 4 assesing if a person understands English language or not? Or were u taught "biodun Fatoyinbo" in English language just d way u were taught words& opposite or parts of speech? That's a good one cos in ur attempt 2 smear d guy, u have inadvertently exalted him as a standard in English language. Kudos

If u aren't being belligerent, then y are u offended that am "defending" Fatoyinbo, which in any case am not. But u too emotional 2 discern between defence & stating d situation d way it is. U too emotional 2 even accept that opinions will vary irrespective of where u stand.

There are two sides to this case. U have already vehemently pitched ur tent on one side& concluded that d other side& all those who don't c things ur way are in d same group. Without giving d other side d benefit of d doubt& without being a witness, u have become d judge, prosecution, plaintiff & jury, drawing conclusions & giving judgement even b4 d case has started.

At first, u were ranting all over d thread that Fatoyinbo didn't deny anything when u hadn't even read d statement. Upon presenting excerpts 2u, u said because d guy didnt do it d way Neymar did it so therefore its not good enough. U mentioned Neymar several times. I chose to ignore u at first cos it was obvious u didn't no what u were saying. By d time I broke down d Neymar situation 4u vis-à-vis this situation, u crawled back into ur cave. I didn't hear of Neymar again.

It shows something. U are emotionally charged& u are spilling ur emotions all over d place. That's not how things like this work.

U said busola has stated her case. Pls who did she state it to?



If u aren't on busolas payroll & u don't no her at any level, then what made u think am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church? Does that mean its ok 4u to take a stance on an issue but it is wrong 4 others to do same?

D way u concluded that am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church confirms d subjective manner with which u tag& label others because their views differ from yours. U didn't even no me, but u already drew ur conclusions& judged me. So if u could do that with me, then its obvious that it's d same subjective standard of judgement u have used to draw ur conclusions on this Fatoyinbo/busola case. Am sure that's y u have given "pastoral duties" a meaning that fits ur subjectivity.

laudate:


The longer the epistles you write, the more you expose your cluelessness. The man who committed the disgusting act, cannot even come to equity with clear hands. He is offering flimsy pathetic excuses, as a watery defence.

It is gullible simpletons like you that are wailing louder than him, in a bid to defend his disgusting acts. What a pity.

Oya, rant some more and write another long boring epistle to defend the indefensible, sordid actions of your so-called 'pastor'. Let him go to court, if he has the guts to do so. Breeze go blow, fowl yansh go open...

lexy2014:

Does that mean its ok 4u to take a stance on an issue but it is wrong 4 others to do same?

laudate:

It is gullible simpletons like you that are wailing louder than him, in a bid to defend his disgusting acts. What a pity.

laudate:

Oya, rant some more and write another long boring epistle to defend the indefensible, sordid actions of your so-called 'pastor'. Let him go to court, if he has the guts to do so. Breeze go blow, fowl yansh go open...

lexy2014:

If u aren't on busolas payroll & u don't no her at any level, then what made u think am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church? Does that mean its ok 4u to take a stance on an issue but it is wrong 4 others to do same?

D way u concluded that am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church confirms d subjective manner with which u tag& label others because their views differ from yours. U didn't even no me, but u already drew ur conclusions& judged me. So if u could do that with me, then its obvious that it's d same subjective standard of judgement u have used to draw ur conclusions on this Fatoyinbo/busola case. Am sure that's y u have given "pastoral duties" a meaning that fits ur subjectivity.

lexy2014:
There are a few things that I noted about u& u keeping confirming those things. one of them is d fact that u seem 2 use a different dictionary from d one we use on planet earth. Pls what is ur understanding of d word "rant"? If u have any ambivalence about d word read thru ur comments. If we could fix ur dictionary issues, am certain we would have been on d same page.

Also, there is d classic pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome that u display. D fact that u feel u are entitled while others aren't. That's y I asked u this earlier which ur guilt wouldn't let u answer

If u say am guilty of ur accusation below, can u pls tell me how all u have been doing on this thread for busola is different from what u just wrote below?

There's a saying that when u point one finger at others, d other four are pointing back at u. So in all ur accusations about others, u have weightier accusations pointing back at u. I won't b surprised that u also have a history like d one u are accusing Fatoyinbo of having.



Do u no what I like most about this comment? D part where u said my "epistle" is "boring". U had to wake up at 2:03am in d morning to respond 2a "boring epistle". dude, that is classic. I can also count 7 responses u made to my "boring epistles". How does someone take his time to write d many grammar u wrote just to respond 2 something that is boring? U keep shooting urself in d foot.

Another thing I like about d above comment is d part where u said Fatoyinbo is my pastor. I believe i addressed that issue previously but let me remind u:

I don't have a pastor anywhere. I don't even remember when last I went to church. So if u think insulting Fatoyinbo will move me, u got it wrong. U have to think of something else

laudate:


Another long epistle from you, to defend a man, who cannot even provide a robust articulate defence for himself, but chooses to issue a watery pathetic excuse that doesn't hold water.

All these long stories will not exonerate your Fatoyinbo. Everyone can see through him. No need for your long grammar.

Let him go to court to sue Busola for defamation, if he dares. Na dat day, e go know say khaki no be leather. No need for long grammar. Since you do not have any other job, but to act as his mouthpiece for now, I will let you have the floor. Keep huffing, puffing and spewing out long adjectives, in a bid to sound intelligent.

Oya continue to defend his disgusting actions, like you normally do. It shows the kind of person you are....

laudate:

Another long epistle from you, to defend a man, who cannot even provide a robust articulate defence for himself, but chooses to issue a watery pathetic excuse that doesn't hold water.

lexy2014:

If u aren't being belligerent, then y are u offended that am "defending" Fatoyinbo, which in any case am not. But u too emotional 2 discern between defence & stating d situation d way it is. U too emotional 2 even accept that opinions will vary irrespective of where u stand.

lexy2014:

If u aren't on busolas payroll & u don't no her at any level, then what made u think am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church? Does that mean its ok 4u to take a stance on an issue but it is wrong 4 others to do same?

laudate:

Since you do not have any other job, but to act as his mouthpiece for now, I will let you have the floor. Keep huffing, puffing and spewing out long adjectives, in a bid to sound intelligent.

laudate:

Since you do not have any other job, but to act as his mouthpiece for now, I will let you have the floor.

lexy2014:

There's a saying that when u point one finger at others, d other four are pointing back at u. So in all ur accusations about others, u have weightier accusations pointing back at u. I won't b surprised that u also have a history like d one u are accusing Fatoyinbo of having.

lexy2014:
I can c u avoided using d word "boring" to qualify my "epistle". So my epistle is no longer boring? that's good. At least we are making progress. Am glad u are now enjoying my epistle.

Once again, u are still confirming my observation that English language comprehension is a big problem 4u& like I noted, maybe d dictionary u use was imported 4u from Jupiter. Cos ur choice of words often prove that u its either u don't no d meaning of d word u using or u have another meaning to that word that d rest of planet earth doesn't no.

When u say am "defending" Fatoyinbo, how have I defended him? Can u produce any comment i made to support ur claim? But here is my response 2u earlier. It should help shed light on d emotional issues u are dealing with.

D problem is that u expect everyone to roll over& accept ur point of view. Sorry dude, life isn't that simple. If u can't accept d fact that others have a right 2 their opinion, then don't expect others to accept yours& u will just continue reeling in emotional agony.

It also buttresses d question I asked earlier which like I noted ur guilt won't let u answer:

If I sound intelligent, then am intelligent. Tnx 4 recognising that.

Once again, ur classic pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome in full display. By waking up @ 2:03am to respond to my "boring epistle", does that not confirm that what u wrote above is a summary of u? Whose mouthpiece are u acting as? U are d most visible person on this thread. All d comments u have made so far, was on ur behalf or busolas? Did she assign u as her mouthpiece? Once again u have confirmed this:

laudate:

Another long rant from your end, you to justify Fatoyinbo's nonsense. We all know people like you who support disgusting evil acts...

lexy2014:

U are still confirming my observation that English language comprehension is a big problem 4u& like I noted, maybe d dictionary u use was imported 4u from Jupiter. Cos ur choice of words often prove that its either u don't no d meaning of d word u using or u have another meaning to that word that d rest of planet earth doesn't no.

lexy2014:
U really really emotional& I really wish I could help u. But my "long boring epistles" should b enough tonic to help u tone up.ur emotions.

Once again I can't help but notice that u have confirmed this:

Ur use of d word "rant" in ur comment & under d circumstances is struggling to fit in& make meaning. If u remember I told u that if we can fix ur dictionary problem, am certain we will b on d same page. But ur dictionary situation is beyond me. Sorry.

Also u saying "justify" and "support". This guy, u don't fail to disappoint. If I ask u to produce any of my comments that support ur use of those words, am 100% certain u won't b able to. Don't let me burden u with a task we both no u won't b able to carry out

lexy2014:

It seems u just help proving me right. I really like u for that. U don't fail to disappoint

This one that u are now using pictures, seems u have run out of words. What happened?

lexy2014:
Oh dear. U have run out of words. Even with ur pictures, u still keep showing us that u still trying to cope with ur emotions. Yet its still difficult to find a place with ur words in d topic of discussion. Which still leads us back 2d issue of ur dictionary. U just can't help but show that u aren't in tune with words& their meanings

Continue ranting..The more you talk, the more you expose your stuvpidity...

Why many rape victims don’t fight or yell

By James W. Hopper June 23, 2015

James W. Hopper, PhD, is an independent consultant and part-time instructor in psychology in the Department of Psychiatry of Harvard Medical School. He has conducted research on the neurobiology of trauma, and trains investigators, prosecutors, judges, and higher-education professionals on its implications. Here, he offers his explanation of why people don’t always respond to an attack the way others might expect:

In the midst of sexual assault, the brain’s fear circuitry dominates. The prefrontal cortex can be severely impaired, and all that’s left may be reflexes and habits.

In the Washington Post’s recent series on college sexual assault, many victims describe how they reacted – and did not react – while being assaulted.

Another article also published this month, in the Harvard Review of Psychiatry, shows that some responses have been programmed into human brains by evolution.

Bringing together the accounts of those who have been assaulted with the neurobiology of trauma can play an essential role in supporting healing and the pursuits of accountability and justice.

For example, freezing is a brain-based response to detecting danger, especially a predator’s attack. Think deer in the headlights.

As one woman told the Post, “I didn’t say no, but I didn’t really know what to do. I just kind of froze.”

Freezing occurs when the amygdala – a crucial structure in the brain’s fear circuitry – detects an attack and signals the brainstem to inhibit movement. It happens in a flash, automatically and beyond conscious control.

Simultaneously with the freeze response, the fear circuitry unleashes a surge of “stress chemicals” into the prefrontal cortex, the brain region that allows us to think rationally – to recall the bedroom door is open, or that people are in the dorm room next door, for example, and to make use of that information.

But the surge of chemicals rapidly impairs the prefrontal cortex. That’s because, despite our dominant role on the planet now, we evolved as prey, and when a lion or tiger is upon us, stopping to think is fatal.

Indeed, no one understands better than the military that intense fear impairs our prefrontal cortex and capacity for reason.

When bullets are flying and blood is flowing, you had better have some really effective habit learning to rely upon.

That’s why combat training is rigorous and repetitive – to burn in habits of effectively firing weapons, executing combat formations, etc.

Most victims will freeze, if only briefly. Some will fight back, effectively. Some will resist in habitual, passive ways. Some will suddenly give in and cry. Others will become paralyzed, become faint, pass out or dissociate.

Few who have experienced these responses realize that they are brain reactions to attack and terror.

They blame themselves for “failing” to resist. They feel ashamed. (Men especially may see themselves as cowards and feel like they’re not real men.) They may tell no one, even during an investigation. Sadly, many investigators and prosecutors still don’t know some or all of these brain-based responses.

None of these responses – in women or men – entails consent or cowardice.

None is evidence of resistance too insufficient to warrant our respect and compassion.

They are responses we should expect from brains dominated by the circuitry of fear (just as we should expect fragmented and incomplete memories).

May the day come when everyone who knows someone who has been sexually assaulted – which is all of us, whether we know that yet or not – understands these basic ways that our brains can react to such attacks and uses this knowledge to foster healing and justice.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2015/06/23/why-many-rape-victims-dont-fight-or-yell/?utm_term=.88d44a8a3377

laudate:

lexy2014:
"Continue ranting..The more you talk, the more you expose your stuvpidity..."

Once again, ur dictionary is failing u. Am not d one d one who ran out of ideas& then resorted 2 insults 2 express himself

U have a weird way of describing urself. U just try to make others feel they are like u.
Do u remember I told about ur pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome? Thats just what u have displayed again.

lexy2014:
Once again, d pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome in full display. Remember that whenever u point one finger at others, four are actually pointing back at u

ayodaisi:
Who among you without sin should throw the first stone

lexy2014:
Its only when a person that feels d way u do, that they can say d things u say. What u say to others is only a reflection of who u are or how u c urself. So if u use insults on others, then its obvious that u c urself that way. If u don't have a healthy & happy self image of urself, u definitely going to transmit it to others. And u haven't failed to do so. So like I said its just d classic pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome that u are displaying. I no u can't help it

lexy2014:
At all sweetheart. Its still a reflection of d same pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome I talked about. U just acting out who u are& its allowed

Reference:
Whether guilty or innocent one simply cannot ignore the happenings and continue on a course of indifference. He owes God Almighty a duty not to bring His church into disrepute, owes his family and the body of Christ a sense of fidelity and he must seek to descalate the situation as quickly as possible.

Whether it is the meat or fish you placed on the fire, the first thing to be done is to put out the flame before deciding which.