donkilidon:

Very well....
[/C] I think you need to do a lot of things differently from how she knows it. Just be patient with her. She's all yours

AmazingELixir:


Nairaland is replete with a whole lot of terrible people and to think that a whole bunch of these guys advising Op to seek sexual comfort with another woman are unmarried makes it even more funny..

Op all you need do is upgrade and spice up your relationship.. .the surest way to a woman's heart is gift, gift and more gifts..do something outside your regular routine...take her out on a date, prepare dinner with her, help her out with the house chores the short time you spend with them, eulogies her more, .improve on your love making technics....She's most probably bored sick of your M.O

kennydotkom:
Thank you bro. I am 42yrs old and she is just 32years old, in a marriage of 6years. I do tell her that, now u are still young like this and you no longer find sex fun, what of when you are 40 years , that means you will push me out to start looking for girl friend. She doesn't cheat at all I can vouch for her . I will take ur advice

ideabuilder:


Just come home unannounced during the week. Come back and thank me after.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

Ishilove:
For those saying the man should get a girlfriend, are women allowed the same option if their husbands are not meeting up?

uruba23:
Okay maybe we should wait for the elders but I think you should communicate more with your wife and try see her beyond been a sex tool agreed by the time you returned Konji would have accumulated.Really you need to study moods,you know the language women hear is money,so if you haven't done that part you might not have a willing partner,secondly you need to do the little things that matters,especially now that you got kids,try to understand your wife and her moods.

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I totally agree with this line of thought. Being at home and taking care of kids can be so stressful. Do you know her aspirations, is she satisfied with her accomplishments so far? Do you return home and just expect her to serve herself to you without consideration. She might not be getting anything from outside. So communication is the key, look for a way to take the children off her for the weekend for you two to have a heart to heart dialogue. If possible, also take a leave from work for a time alone with her. Distance in marriage could have negative effect on bonding because you guys eventually become strangers, so work on relocation. It's either she joins you in the state where you are or you seek transfer to where your family is.
I wish you the best bro.



Hmmmmmmmmm.... i understand u bro .... its probably stress and the fact that you are living apart ...

If she was like this when u got married; as in u always have to cajole her, etc before u have sex, then there's little chances she will change but if she's not being like that, then you really should address this head on.

But I don't think she's cheating. I still want to believe its the stress of taking care of the kids ... i'm a father and i know how tiresome one can be after chasing all these kids around (especially if u have them plenty).

And it can also be age factors affecting her hormones.

Sometimes, for strange reasons, some people stop having sex cos they just don't have the urges and they too can't explain; so they hide under "stress, tiredness, etc" though that can also be a contributing factor.

Try this: If u have a parents, let your kids go there for the weekend for the next couple of weeks, leaving u and your wife. Then take her out to see the world. Give her some trip/trills out there then come back home and have mind blowing sex.

If these doesn't work then there is need to see a doctor.

Whatever u do, pls pls and pls, don't report her to anybody: its like nailing a half dead man in a coffin.

If there are some more infos to these writeup, buzz me on whatsapp for some more private discussion

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

AmazingELixir:


Nairaland is replete with a whole lot of terrible people and to think that a whole bunch of these guys advising Op to seek sexual comfort with another woman are unmarried makes it even more funny..

Op all you need do is upgrade and spice up your relationship.. .the surest way to a woman's heart is gift, gift and more gifts..do something outside your regular routine...take her out on a date, prepare dinner with her, help her out with the house chores the short time you spend with them, eulogies her more, .improve on your love making technics....She's most probably bored sick of your M.O

Davash222:

The truth is glaring, she’s getting the DICCK from a better source.

yankison:


You can get sex outside and still be responsible to your family ... You only need a Bleep mate ... Stop been a dunce why are you shouting fear of God .. why did you even married her knowing fully well she is circumsized as you said .... well I can't live in a sexless marriage .deal with it sorry

Fuckthamods:

Stay 2 or 3 weeks without coming back.. You don't have to Bleep other girls although i would have cos man needs to always put body and soul together, feel me? Make her feel like she is pushing u away by not allowing you have sex whenever u come home after a being away for a week long. Call to let her know u miss her and the kids even though you are not going to be home for the weekend. I promise u the weekend u go home she will give you doggy style. And if the attitude starts again you do that again. Works like magic

King44:
eleyi deep o na Tb Joshua or fatoyinbo fit solve that kind shittt o

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

chinchum:
It is not a joking matter by the way.

SageMK:
Don't listen to thośe stupíd modafúkers telling you that your wife is cheating or those advocating you to have it from someone. They are only out to destroy homes.

The truth is your wife doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
You don't satisfy her needs so she has given up on sex.

Be dominant, sit her down and have a discussion.

Let her know you are ready to try something new and it's either she's open to fixing it up or a permanent solution.