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I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by ellalina(f): 11:17pm On Jul 12, 2019
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.



I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet for over 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect trust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.

One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work, a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.

I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.

She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.

Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business. I cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.

To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.

These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She doesn't ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship.

There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not believe her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave.

On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart. I could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. So I called her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.

I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.

She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. I asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.

To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.

While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly THE same way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.

I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.

She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to ask her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move?

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Kneephy(m): 11:29pm On Jul 12, 2019
See question oo..

Don't marry her oo, find one beautiful olosho to marry.shebi u are still asking us ni ooo...











P:s u can gimme her number maybe me I should marry her,

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by SavageBoy: 11:30pm On Jul 12, 2019
ellalina:
My male bestie confided this in me too. He is also a Nairalander.
I run a sharwama and agent bank outlet forbover 3 years and it’s been a good business experience for me expect fltrust issues with my sales Girl. I have sacked over 6 girls in space of 2 years for attitude and fraud related cases.
One of the days when I have to stay at the shop because my sales girl did not come to work,a young lady walked in with her CV. She said she saw my vacancy outside, I collected her CV and went through it. She is a 22 years old ND holder who studies communication.
I asked her why she would not return to get her HND. She replied that she wants to continue at the National open university where she can work and learn.
I have her 1 week trial and that is the beginning of good things in my business.
She is so consistent, All customers I mean all of them always leave a good remark about her and why they keep coming back. When ever I return from my office to the shop, I notice how people keep giving her tips and she declares it everyday but I don’t collect it from her. Sometimes she makes up to 5K daily in tips.
Fast forward 1 year, I have taken another shop and expanded my business.i cannot remember the last time we recorded shortage in the shop. My business has become so profitable that Am thinking of quiting my job to expand the business as my salary is like 20% of what the shop now makes for me.
To reward her, I picked interest in her education, I bought her the direct entry form at the open university and she has started.
These days I noticed she has suddenly changed towards me. She dosnt ask how my day was, she avoids me and don’t look into my face when we talk. I was really worried because I have grown fond of her. I have admired her as a lady but I maintained a professional relationship. There are times I want to ask her to follow me to events and outings but I keep controlling my urge. She called that her mum was sick so she would not be available. I decided to surprise her by paying her a visit, she could not belive her eyes when she saw me at her door step with a bag of provisions in my hand. I greeted the mum. The woman prayed for me a lot before I took my leave. On getting home, I could not understand myself anymore. My experience at her home further boost her interest in my heart.i could not sleep that night so I picked my phone to chat with a random friend online. I saw Lucy was online too. Sonicalled her at about 12:30 am. I asked her why she is not asleep. She said she has an emotional support that has been bothering her for days. I tried to convince her to tell me but she declined, I figured it’s about a guy although I never saw her with a guy or call one at work.
I told her I was worried too and she is the cause. I told her how she has been of immense blessing to my life and how I wish she would play a bigger role in my life. She went silent. She later hung up and turned her phone off.
She called in the morning to apologize for cutting the call. By evening, I was back at the shop. I opted to drive her home but she refused. This was very unlike her so I insisted. As we approached her neighborhood,I parked under a roadside tree. As asked her to open up to me what the issue with her was.
To my greatest shock, Lucy confesses that I was the cause of her issues. I went quiet for a while trying to figure out what she meant. I asked again how am I the cause, at this moment her eyes were laden with tears Lucy told me she could not stop thinking about me and can’t control herself around me. She said she is confused because the feeling she is having for me get her scared.
While I sat and steer at her, I knew I felt exactly thesame way for her. This time I was the quiet one. I just drove her home and back.
I am 29 and she is now 23 going to 24. I have a job and a good business. Why can’t I marry her.
She has helped me grow my business. She is adorable and well trained. I want to aske her to marry me any moment. I am strongly convinced that we can grow together and build a good business network.

What do you guys thing. Is this a wise move

Baba,what are u waiting for?
He that finds a good wife have definitely found God's blessings
Baba just remember to invite me to d wedding if everything click oh
wishing u HML in advance grin

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by kernniejay(m): 11:34pm On Jul 12, 2019
Your bestie should not just jump into conclusion that she is the right one for him. He must be sure that he is not been led by mere sentiments and emotions, and not because the girl has brought a turn around to his business. He must have the inner conviction that she is the right one for him. Even at that, he must take his time to nurture a pure, non erotical relationship to study her closely and know more about her circle of friends and relatives. If there is no red flag and all coasts clear, he can pop up the big question. Nothing is wrong in marrying your staff if you are sure of where your marital journey will lead.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Bitterleafsoup: 11:48pm On Jul 12, 2019
Are you really sexually attracted to her? If you are engage for a year and marry her.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by softwerk(f): 11:53pm On Jul 12, 2019
grin

In the voice of Julia Roberts;

Don't marry her! Marry me let me make you happy cry

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 12:11am On Jul 13, 2019
Don't propose to her, she needs a real man to make her feel safe and secure. I see men that have female besties as half men and opportunists. undecided

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by SavageBoy: 12:20am On Jul 13, 2019
softwerk:
grin

In the voice of Julia Roberts;

Don't marry her! Marry me let me make you happy cry

who's dis old farm tool


pls can someone remind me d name of the old farm tool I'm talking about here grin

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by raphroye: 1:08am On Jul 13, 2019
You better marry her fast before one random guy pops up and snatch her from you

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by bdchange(m): 5:58am On Jul 13, 2019
She appears good but you have to know that being in relationship with someone is a different ball game to just being a friend or knowing the person from afar. I will advise that you start dating her for at least a year to know if she will change in her attitude because now you will not be her boss anymore but her partner at least that is what she will see you as. Then you can now decide if she is worth settling down with or not. Marriage is not a child's play oo nor should it be entangled by emotions.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by babyfaceafrica: 6:06am On Jul 13, 2019
never marry because of pity

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by sisisioge: 6:20am On Jul 13, 2019
I love Love fa...I love your story. Let's start the courtship already...marriage comes afterwards grin grin grin


This will be hot!

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by MJBOLT: 6:29am On Jul 13, 2019
softwerk:
grin
In the voice of Julia Roberts;
Don't marry her! Marry me let me make you happy cry

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Unrated900(m): 6:33am On Jul 13, 2019
This is the first time comments on Naira Marley makes some senses,sorry Naira-land.


My advise goes thus

You can’t just conclude now that she is the right lady for you.


Seat her down and ask her about her past.

If you are well convinced about her past.


Send a skout to her street or house and ask more infos about her.


Some girls pretend in the sake of pretense,while some men do as well.

Am not discouraging you bro.

Just take your time,their are millions of women out there,while few guys wanna settle down.

Do a nice background checks on her

I dated my wife for 1 year.she has studied me very well and knows who I am.and I do now her as well hence settling down won’t be an issue.

So far my wife Is the best wife in the world.
go to two real Alfas and two celestial church and pray over her.

Don’t marry anyone because of self pity or good home training,thousand of ladies has home training.


Marriage is everlasting


Most broken homes this days are due to not knowing oneself very well.

Do this and thanks me after a month

God bless your pre-union.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 6:45am On Jul 13, 2019
Unrated900:
This is the first time comments on Naira Marley makes some senses,sorry Naira-land.


My advise goes thus

You can’t just conclude now that she is the right lady for you.


Seat her down and ask her about her past.

If you are well convinced about her past.


Send a skout to her street or house and ask more infos about her.


Some girls pretend in the sake of pretense,while some men do as well.

Am not discouraging you bro.

Just take your time,their are millions of women out there,while few guys wanna settle down.

Do a nice background checks on her

I dated my wife for 1 year.she has studied me very well and knows who I am.and I do now her as well hence settling down won’t be an issue.

So far my wife Is the best wife in the world.
go to two real Alfas and two celestial church and pray over her.


Don’t marry anyone because of self pity or good home training,thousand of ladies has home training.


Marriage is everlasting


Most broken homes this days are due to not knowing oneself very well.

Do this and thanks me after a month

God bless your pre-union.

What's the meaning of that advice you scribbled there at the bolded.

Op if you know what's good for you don't heed to that kinda advice

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Nobody: 6:55am On Jul 13, 2019
Don't propose yet. You guys can court for maybe a year or two to closely study what kind of girl she is. Oh who am I kidding, she's worked for you for over a year, I'm sure you know more than enough.

But if it was me, I won't marry or date her. I'd cast my net somewhere else (although it's too late for you now)

The reason I won't date her is because she's good for business and it's very very hard to find someone to replace her.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Jacqueline22(f): 7:20am On Jul 13, 2019
No o don’t marry her...Come and marry me instead naw

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by carter009(m): 7:44am On Jul 13, 2019
grin grin grin grin grin, but you are married already.
Jacqueline22:
No o don’t marry her...Come and marry me instead naw

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Jacqueline22(f): 7:49am On Jul 13, 2019
carter009:
grin grin grin grin grin, but you are married already.

lol yes naw
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by mezarddinny: 7:50am On Jul 13, 2019
J111333:
Don't propose to her, she needs a real man to make her feel safe and secure. I see men that have female besties as half men and opportunists. undecided
feel safe and secure from boko haram and islamic state?

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Charleys: 7:55am On Jul 13, 2019
Guy marry her and she'll be running the business as hers not as if she is working for someone which is of great advantage.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by kizwid(m): 7:59am On Jul 13, 2019
how will go know say, this your story no be fake as your gender?

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Iogobenz(m): 8:02am On Jul 13, 2019
Baba give me her number abeg.
I really need her since as you too dull!!
*Spits violently* angry

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by united442(m): 8:09am On Jul 13, 2019
kernniejay:
Your bestie should not just jump into conclusion that she is the right one for him. He must be sure that he is not been led by mere sentiments and emotions, and not because the girl has brought a turn around to his business. He must have the inner conviction that she is the right one for him. Even at that, he must take his time to nurture a pure, non erotical relationship to study her closely and know more about her circle of friends and relatives. If there is no red flag and all coasts clear, he can pop up the big question. Nothing is wrong in marrying your staff if you are sure of where your marital journey will lead.

what kind of a great wisdom and knowledge you possess to have made such a comment..

i was almost in a rush to say "o.p marry her" until i saw your comment and have a rethink.

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Pascopele: 8:12am On Jul 13, 2019
cool
Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by Junkie1: 8:12am On Jul 13, 2019
BOTH OF YOU NEED TO FVCK FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS THEN SEE HOW IT AFFECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND BUSINESS FIRST

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by eluquenson(m): 8:12am On Jul 13, 2019
Follow your instincts

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by tetralogyfallot(m): 8:12am On Jul 13, 2019
What are u waiting for? Wo bobo yi na

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by MobilityExpress: 8:12am On Jul 13, 2019
Wise move. Marry her. Don't be waiting forever like DJ Copied is waiting for Anthony Joshua grin

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Re: I'm About To Propose To My Sales Girl, Advice Needed by moscobabs(m): 8:13am On Jul 13, 2019
H

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