Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Follow your mind, not your heart!

pfadom:
Follow your mind, not your heart!

I don't understand Sir.. I'm confused at this stage.
what will u do Sir if you're d one?
I just need people's view on this
sometimes I'll pet her and told her everything will be fine again, but each time I remember, I just got fed-up and want breakup.

Since you are hurt and wish to quit the relationship, be a man and break up with her, except you are ready to subject yourself to a lifetime of unhappiness. Such a marriage willbe miserable for the two of you. Don't let her manipulate you with virginity.
Or maybe you are not telling the whole story and you are looking for a flimsy excuse to end the relationship and still satisfy your conscience.

What do you expect us to say? You already are set in your ways

No lady that doesn't cheat maybe if u leave her now the next one will be worst. tell her to cut off communication with her ex. calls and social media (that is if you have her in mine to marry) if possible change her phone number.

dn't let any girl tied u dwn wit disflowerin poo,she wil always find a way to cheat on u again,they ar wire lyk dat,bt if u feel u wanna giv her a chance,no prob cos no 1 z perfect bt a candid advice frm a local man z dat kip choppin d kpekus while it last nd dn't rely on her totally.

See, your babe is a kid sha. And you've got to understand that she has not totally forgotten her ex. It's not unusual.
If you really like her and feel same from her, then don't run away; help her get over the ex (spending good moments with her can help create a new memory for her).
But if you doubt her love for you, quit and be free. Don't be fooled by those apologies (emotional blackmail).

Forgive her if she's sincerely sorry....no one is 100% perfect including you. If she does it again then u can release her. Anyway follow your mind but sometimes you dont just know the type of "demon" in the next person you want to date. Be careful how you dump and move.

4 give &
4 get

Being the first man in her sexual life doesn't mean you will be the last if she lacks the character to remain in a lasting union.

You know how you feel? How you found out she is a cheat? If your senses tell you you are safe, go ahead. If not, pull out!

aysnoopy:


I don't understand Sir.. I'm confused at this stage.
what will u do Sir if you're d one?
I just need people's view on this
sometimes I'll pet her and told her everything will be fine again, but each time I remember, I just got fed-up and want breakup.

Break up with the b!tch now. No time for nonsense.

Take whatever she says with a pinch of salt.

If you hadn't snooped into her phone you would have been there loving and cherishing a bleeping hoe.

you know okafors law right? My guy comot your mind for that babe she no get stand.

Nb, Bobo yen ti do.

akinade28:
Since you are hurt and wish to quit the relationship, be a man and break up with her, except you are ready to subject yourself to a lifetime of unhappiness. Such a marriage willbe miserable for the two of you. Don't let her manipulate you with virginity.
Or maybe you are not telling the whole story and you are looking for a flimsy excuse to end the relationship and still satisfy your conscience.

I swear, not that I'm looking for excuse. for me to break a 4yrs relationship coz of similar issue, u should know I've principle abt that. and I've told her dis is what I can't take for her not to Bleep up but still went ahead....

Continue.
Nothing much yet




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aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.
I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told I what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).
but after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.
fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..
I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.
I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.
she's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.
she said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.
each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.
please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

The worst mistake your girlfriend is making right now is that she didn't create boundaries between her ex and her new relationship with you.
Boundaries helps us to control our emotions and protect our interest in our new relationship or Marriage.
She still have feelings for her ex. Maybe her ex was the cause of the break up in their formal Relationship but now want her back.
Forgiving her is very crucial so you will stop hurting yourself.
Within your mind, do you think she's the kind of the lady you can stay with based on what you have discovered about her?
Do you think she's real and truthful with you?
How sure are you that she is a virgin or is it that she doesn't want to have sex with you?
To find out more about her, you should be close with her best friend, even if she doesn't share secret with you, there ones she shares with her best friend.
Relationships doesn't work overnight, you have to nurture it if you guys really want to be together.

daewoorazer:

Here’s the deal.

1. ‘Unlove’ her totally and seek for a new girl

2. Accept her apologies and start treating her like a sex object. Just have her to bang and bang alone. No emotions and no feelings.

3. Someday, she’d be the one to bid you farewell; but you won!

@No2, this ur advice is kind of weird, why would u do dat to ur fellow human?? if u want to leave a lady leave her and dont turn her to ur sex object, the statement is nt good enof to b used. a wife is nt even viewed as sex object talk more of someone u havnt married. anyway am sorry for my cho cho cho cho cho.

Allsingles:


The worst mistake your girlfriend is making right now is that she didn't create boundaries between her ex and her new relationship with you.
Boundaries helps us to control our emotions and protect our interest in our new relationship or Marriage.
She still have feelings for her ex. Maybe her ex was the cause of the break up in their formal Relationship but now want her back.
Forgiving her is very crucial so you will stop hurting yourself.
Within your mind, do you think she's the kind of the lady you can stay with based on what you have discovered about her?
Do you think she's real and truthful with you?
How sure are you that she is a virgin or is it that she doesn't want to have sex with you?
To find out more about her, you should be close with her best friend, even if she doesn't share secret with you, there ones she shares with her best friend.
Relationships doesn't work overnight, you have to nurture it if you guys really want to be together.

we had sex and I'm d one that disvirgin her.. I'm 101% sure of that.
I just don't know y I keep remembering and it keep hurting me.

Do you know that okafor's law is real?
So if u can't change the girl then change the girl......

Henry22:
Do you know that okafor's law is real? So if u can't change the girl then change the girl......

actually, I don't know d law. can u tell me?

You know what to do man. It's a matter of time and she will break up with you

aysnoopy:


actually, I don't know d law. can u tell me?

okafor’s law states that
“ once you have slept with a woman, there is always a possibility that you can sleep with her again , even though she might be married “

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.
I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told I what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).
but after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.
fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..
I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.
I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.
she's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.
she said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.
each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.
please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Forgive her. I can feel from my phone she's totally remorseful.

Bro I salute ur courage!
To be realistic, the kind of trusted woman u wish to have no longer exist. They are found in the first heavens not in this sinful planet. It is very difficult for Ladies to be faithful if u are not ready to marry them. Because of the nightmare of being dumped.
Bro my solemn advice to you is if you know u are not ready for marriage don't date any Lady to avoid another heartbreak similar to the case of Samadina vs Regina Daniel. My advice to you is remained focused and uninterrupted in ur dreams and aspirations. Let them go wen u are ready to settled down then you prayerfully make ur choice.

Ha! Bro, fear God oo....Takum Lai!

daewoorazer:

Here’s the deal.

1. ‘Unlove’ her totally and seek for a new girl

2. Accept her apologies and start treating her like a sex object. Just have her to bang and bang alone. No emotions and no feelings.

3. Someday, she’d be the one to bid you farewell; but you won!

U better break up with her now that is too early so that you won't regret it.

aysnoopy:


we had sex and I'm d one that disvirgin her.. I'm 101% sure of that.
I just don't know y I keep remembering and it keep hurting me.

You have to Forgive her and then make efforts to forget the memory of what you saw on her phone.
FORGIVENESS first.

We are all different here.
Some people can take this some can't.

I hate being cheated on especially when I'm keeping it 100% with you.
I believe there is a reason for every action and if I ask her why did she cheat on me and she can't provide any reasonable answer I just ask her to continue with who ever she has been fucking.

aysnoopy:
....she swear never to cheat on me coI checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ...

Mumu op how u take know dem no dey 4uck

motionarena:
Mumu op how u take know dem no dey 4uck

lol. baba, no call me Mumu. I've make a research and I know y I said dis. I can't guarantee if my research isn't cleared.

[quote author=aysnoopy post=81114186]Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.
I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told I what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).
but after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.
fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..
I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.
I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.
she's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.
she said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.
each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.
please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Forgive her and break up with her... coz I sure know you wouldn't love her same way you did before and ... @the bold has your answer though