rtdCivilservant:

Ur problem will be easier solved if u ask ur husband this question rather than coming on nairaland to ask nairalanders who do not even know ur husband. We should learn to behave ourselves.

Sweettwenty8:


Take it easy, 'A problem shared' I've seen a whole lotta post where people post/share their problem to get feedbacks from sane minds, so I've done the same and in one of my replies on here, i said i asked and he said it was only temporary.. so don't be typing behind that cheap infinix/tecno phone tryna make me feel like its a wrong thing to post my issues

Sweettwenty8:
i did try and he said its only temporary but this wierd stuff has been happening since the fourth month os our marriage he complements my cooking a whole lot and even while we dated he'd come to my place for food unannounced i just hope NwaAmaikpe finally gets sanity

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Ray97:
hmmm. Has he been hiding anything 4rm u b4. I mean is he the type that keep things to himself. If yes then try to find a way to get him talkin. To tell u whats wrong.

If no then i'll suggest u have nothing to worry about. Since u guys have been married 4 just a year i'll suggest you give it time. Who knows it might not be a big issue.

These are one of the ups and downs in a marriage u knw. Its not always rosy. I dont believe ur cooking is bad or the fault is 4rm u. Dont mind nay sayers.

wost case scenario, u stop cooking anything that concerns beans.

vingeophysicist:

Ignore negative comment and focus on the positive response my dear. But it seems that agoyi beans has spirit of addiction . I love that beans like mad. I eat it almost every day . I’m not married yet oo but my ex usually complain of my addiction to that kind of beans . If she prepares bread and tea , I will definitely reject the tea and ask her to buy ewa for me. Samething with rice.

iHart:
Since you believe you are a good cook. Cook your ewa and set aside. When he request you go buy ewa from outside, go out and come back with that your own ewa and serve him.

mmadu5:
madam you have serious problem I'm surprised your asking for what to do . if I was in your shoes I will go and learn how to coom the ewa beans and save your self some shame who knows what else your not giving your husband that he might also get outside be careful and use your head

Sweettwenty8:


Thanks alot, do you buy Ewa for every rice dish? Even if you tell my husband that they don't have Ewa, he'll ask you to find another roadside canteen and if you find one and lets say it's beeing cooked currently he'll ask me to wait in the car till it's ready

Sweettwenty8:


He's not hiding or he doesn't hide nothing even when he gets salary alert he'd tell me what's up just the beans and rice combo thing.. imagine coming from work and he's totally off and he sends a text on whatsapp that reads 'we'll be having rice today you don't need to stress I'll take care of it just help me buy my 'Ewa'

He does that even when he makes the food himself

iHart:
Since you believe you are a good cook. Cook your ewa and set aside. When he request you go buy ewa from outside, go out and come back with that your own ewa and serve him.

Sweettwenty8:


Bad mouth, make me sef talk.. how do i make out time when i can actually cook or you think I'm one of these spoilt omo butty? Forget Magodo Gra, i grew up in a home where dem no born you well if you no sabi cook, my daddy gave birth to 5 girls and he has a time table of who cooks what and when.. Mumsy sold food so why i no go sabi cook?

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

dfrost:


Me, me, yee saaa. *hands up*

'Iya Basira e don jazz me ooo'

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

Dollarseeker:
your husband is trying to let u know that he loves rice and beans. Like me I don't like eating rice. I prefer eating it with beans. when ever you cook your rice please try and cook beans separate or if he likes the rice and beans mixed, then u can mix it. your cooking is not bad at all but he just prefers eating rice and beans and prefers that Ewagoin kind of beans which I also love so much and can't resist. The only thing that makes me eat rice, is when I don't have any other alternative... then I will just manage the rice and can't go more than 1 round except I am very hungry. But when rice and beans is combined, I can go nothing less than two round even when I am not hungry. Maybe your husband is just like me in that area. So I will suggest u learn how to cook Ewagoin...ask one or two Yoruba persons or anyone that cooks and sells it...they can teach u and u can even pay money to learn so they will teach u very well. Your husband loves u but this kind of small issue u see, can generate into a big problem later...u know why? each time ur husband ask u to get the ewa and u keep on given him complaints of getting tired, he may begin to see it as disrespect and before u know it, both of u will begin to exchange bad words and the problem begins. pls let's avoid this looming danger. Do what I said u should do here and also let ur husband know that u have noticed that he loves this ewa a lot and u have decided to learn how to cook it to make him happy. He will b so happy with u and also let him know that even after u have learnt how to cook it and its still not OK, he should not be scared of letting u know cos u want to make sure that u give him the best ewa...smiles. Enjoy ur marriage and ur lovely husband. For your co workers who eats ur food everyday, pls minimize the way u bring food for three persons, I don't think it is too good. You may say u are not complaining but it is still not OK. they should eat from u but not see it as a daily thing. they should be able to take care of their meal or learn how to survive without ur meal always. Thanks and keep being nice. Sweettwenty8

Hotworta1:



Why should she minimise the way she brings food for coworkers in the office? Is it your food?

Nne/Nna how is that your problem. I see nothing wrong in that. Madam don't listen to this advice. Do you and continue to be nice. There's love in sharing. Well done.