Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Pls dont mind the -ve comments especially NwaAmaikpe.

I am married and i like wedding rice. My wife cooks that kind of rice and it comes out far better than most wedding rice but she can not replicate the flavours or add the occasion to the rice to make it wedding rice.

The mai shayi tea.also has its own flavours you will try to replicate without success.

My wife loves moi moi but I purge every time i take it at home. I eat the one in my parents house or a particular restaurant i desire without issues.

It may or may not be your cooking, the best thing is to ask him why he prefers that particular ewa than yours. Communication is key.

my dear sister, you really don't know how to Cook the beans the way he likes it, that doesn't make you a bad Cook. my fiance cooked every other things for me but not beans

I love my beans to be soft with moderate salt and pepper but hers pattern was far different despite a lot of correction but since it's not her kind of food, I always cooked my things myself


at your leisure time, goto that mama put, make a friendship with her, along the line you relate just to know how she cooked the beans. you might be contemplating if it worth it? your marriage worth more than that


asking your husband about the cooking is unnecessary because it will change nothing. asking your husband will be like a parent whom their child is not catching up with her mates in class despite all teacher's effort and they're still asking the teacher what else they can do?


learn how the mama put cooked the beans

pcicero:
On top beans mata

ehn yes . we carry am for hea like dwa agayin ! oya , wetin again you observe ?

pcicero:
On top beans mata

ehn yes . we carry am for hea like dwa agayin ! oya , wetin again you observe ?

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

You are a decent person. Some of these things are just deeper that we normally think.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

If you want to learn how the Togolese make their ewa, send me a PM, I'll put your through .

Sweettwenty8:


Take it easy, 'A problem shared' I've seen a whole lotta post where people post/share their problem to get feedbacks from sane minds, so I've done the same and in one of my replies on here, i said i asked and he said it was only temporary.. so don't be typing behind that cheap infinix/tecno phone tryna make me feel like its a wrong thing to post my issues

If he recently started this, two things will happen. It's either he grows out of it or it stays for life.

And since you've started buying it for him, you might need to continue for life unless you stamp your foot early enough by telling him to stop eating roadside food that you won't want him to raise your children with roadside eating...yes, babies are coming soon.

You can chip in some things about the unhygienic things these women put in their food to make it taste nice and how it can cause sickness and long term health effects like prostate cancer, high blood pressure, and so on.

And you won't want anybody to blame you that you couldn't take proper care of your husband.

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
How do you create such mental picture

pls send me ur husband phone no. let me counsel him. must he eat beans?

Eating out is bad especially when the buka cooks tasty meals.

Before I left aba, I do take almost N150 Keke down to park.

This big black woman that sells in between first bank and God is Good park is really something else. My combo den was N200 rice, N100 beans, N100 plantain with enough salad, 3 huge beef then our very own ofe akwu.

I thought I was jazzed till I left aba for long and that habit died.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Actually post like this makes it difficult to give the right advise because we don't know the truth concerning your food "tasting good" but I will have to take your words "I can cook very well"
I will want to say that first, your husband is not charmed in any way; he is probably been addicted to it There is every possiblity that your husband was at a time a regular customer to the said woman thereby making him addicted to the woman's "Sweet food". Going to the extent of booking Uber for you to get the beans shows how much he enjoys it secondly, you can be a good cook yet can't cook same way the said woman does. My Lagos guys can relate well to the fact that all beans aren't beans, that you can cook rice and stew and other food doesn't mean you can cook beans very well. My advise to you is to try and learn the way that woman does her cooking (recipe) and at the right time makes your husband to understand that he should be encouraging you by eating your own beans and limit his visit to the woman's shop.


Bia the act of feeding your colleagues at the office does not makes you to know you are a good cook. You better limit it before your husband gets to know.

FatherCHRISTMAS:
and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
How do you create such mental picture

Only NwaAmaikpe can conjure such evil from no where... the only nairalander that is stupid, evil, wicked, funny, unrepentantly blunt and somehow makes sense at the same time.... I don’t know how he does it...dude or lady must have a very wild imagination..

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

you've spoken well

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Woman humble yourself by going to that 'Iya Elewa' tell her to teach you how to cook 'Ewa' using her method, then start using it to cook 'Ewa' for your husband. Problem solve.

I actually laughed at that part where you said you are tired of going to buy ewa.

If you haven't spoken to him about this his ewa habit, then you should. I really don't like that too.

I just think he is used to buying mama put. And maybe you should try to get his mama put's ewa recipe.

I believe there is a way he likes his ewa. Just talk to him about it. That is the first step. .

When I was in primary school, my big cousin visited and prepared this really nice ogbono soup. I really didn't like eating eba at the time but I enjoyed that soup and ate it well without force from anybody. Till date I still talk about it. Even my mom had to ask her for what she did differently, because they would always beg me to eat, sometimes cane dey enter sef. My mom taught her how to cook. It was just a simple pot of soup, nothing extra. I still don't like ogbono and swallow too much o. But that her Ogbono taste ehn still comes alive once in a while in my mouth. . Lol

And Nwaamaikpe, Eze nde trolls, your comment was quite unnecessary, insulting and stupid. It's funny how you type sometimes, just not every time.

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

This is crude and hurtful.
Wow....

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

I know you have read plenty mentions. I hope you still read this
1. When you bring topic like this to nairaland only few people will give advice the rest will just laugh and make jest. Don't take the jesters serious and don't feel bad at their words. I don't blame them, the primary reason 70% people peep on their NL account is to laugh
2. In my own view... It will be counter productive to 'sit your husband down' and talk to him about it. Let's get it straight relationship differs, you have been accommodating that excess , if you change to 'sit him down and talk to him' approach you will be sending wrong signals.
3. You can still talk about it, in a very unserious and joking manner, like just joking about the whole thing, I'm sure you understand
4. If I am to use myself as example, I love my wife's cooking, I crave for it, I work till late at work and I sometimes go hungry all day cos other food doesn't have taste to me but there is a food I love that my wife can no make well because they don't eat it in there family at all, she only learnt it when we were about to get married, so like she is still learner when it comes to that food, sadly I also don't know how to cook it. She is very good in others, in my own case I try to prevent her from cooking the food by choosing alternatives sometimes she just want to cook the food because she knows I love it. So you might be an excellent cook but not just good enough for him on that ewa thingy. Learning from the mama will not even work. I can tell you, He feel the different, outside food is like 'cocaine' true true . So I advice you allow him eat is ewa, suggest to him how to be buying it instead of you going. Over time it will usually clear from our eyes. Or if it doesn't clear it will get to the point that you will be the one that won't care

I hope my long story is useful

Since you have talked to him about it and he still doesn't want to change, my only advice is DIVORCE HIM AND LET US HEAR WORD

Madam, you have a very simple problem, you say you are pissed off, I say simple because, you should thank your star that he is not refusing to eat your food at all but just asking for what will quench his taste bud, that your husband must have lived through hell as a young growing man. Let me tell you this madam, I depended on ewa + 1/2 loaf agege bread when I was struggling, and got addicted to it, nowadays, after eating in highbrow restaurant in Ikoyi where I work during lunch, on my way home, I ask my driver to stop by mama buka spot, buy ewa in takeaway pack, eat while I am in traffic, it relaxes me. My driver also enjoy it too because I buy for him also. Ewa Agoyin, get some things wey dey take cook am, but its everlasting. Enjoy your husband, that makes him happy, no use your head create a sad husband

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

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Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Improve your cooking. Buy the Ewa and eat it- and then inquire from the Ewa seller how she makes her food that tasty.
It takes humility, but it works.

Your office colleagues eat free food and I bet they do not cook. People hardly say no to free food. It "fills" their stomach but is not entirely tasty.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Your husband is a local man ,me my wife food taste so good that when I eat any other meal it does taste good...he food made me to remember her when am away.

For instance am in PH now and am missing her food at delta

All you need to do is,Go meet that mama that sells the beans,pay and learn all recipe how she makes it....Cook it the same way,nd dont let him know about it..when he ask u buy Ewa,sell your own beans to him...if he it's a couple of time without noticing the difference, then let him know uv been making the Ewa..he should start eating yours...

Charleys:
You are married to a Yoruba man.

They just can't eat rice alone. It's just this weird belief that eating rice alone is bad except you add EWas to make it balance diet. (Which isn't true).

Just the same way I can't eat rice alone without banana sliced in.

So what you'll do is cook EWA anytime you cook rice.

That is not correct! Not every yoruba man.

thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

I remembered

Who noticed this lady has pride?

Serious one for that matter!

Hi dear,

Well, since ewa agoyi is the problem , just prepare it exactly the same way those people do it, if you don't know how, use YouTube. Dnt blame him, there is a special taste to the agonyi beans compared to other porridge beans.

And if you get it same way and he still did not stop asking you to get it for him outside, mehn the food seller has done something oh, u will need to pray hard, am just saying cos have seen and heard lots of stories about constant visit to these food seller, God should keep on protecting his people.

Men love beans. My dad till he died will never eat any form of prepared rice without beans. Just try and make this one right for him and I think he will appreciate.

Dont forget to also use that same agonyi method to prepare your yam porridgeb and beansporridge, you will like it too.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

You are creating potential problems by refusing to speak to him about the issue but choose to trust
the judgment of internet strangers.
Ask him why.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Why not go get the recipe from the local ewa seller?

The 2 of your office buddies are eating free food so you don't expect them to complain.

Mama dey wash put.
You suppose wash put inside your own too Mae everytin balance.

Na dat ogbantami taste the man dey crave.
Give am to am.

NwaAmaikpe:




Your husband is such a polite gentleman. His kind is rare and he thinks so much about how you'd feel and that's why he won't tell you truth.
That is so wrong of him but Hanty, NwaAmaikpe is here to serve you that long hidden truth.

You are a pathetic cook and he is being too civil to say it. Dude cares so much about it not coming off the wrong way so he'd communicate indirectly and expect an intelligent you to get the subliminal message.

Sadly you don't.

Your colleagues only tolerate your meal because it is free. I don't think they'd eat past a spoon if they were paying for it.
You also don't expect them to criticize it because very few are like us.

I once had a colleague back then who always brought food for me. One day I decided to give it a try.
I tasted the beans and it was like raw carbide mixed with Cameroon pepper.
Anyways, I was courteous enough to tell her to send an assassin instead of trying to kill me with food.

Ewa should be the easiest thing for you to cook....so if he keeps requesting for Iya Basira's ewa, it is so that it can help neutralize the effect of the remaining of your edible poison in the rice and stew.

Please be a virtuous woman.
Be a wife,
And be a mother to that poor man.
It's not fair that you have to send him to Sokoto to get what is in his shokoto.
It's also not fair that you waste his resources to build office relationships.

It is from clapping that the best dances emanate.
Today, you feel obliged to feed your colleagues.
They now eat daily from your cooler. I hope very soon they won't be eating out of your honeypot as well?

"It is from help me hold my gown, help me hold my gown that Azuka found out the colour of his landlady's pant".

Surprised this got that many likes. I guess for the humour. I think some mama puts have a unique recipe that cannot be replicated and you just get addicted. There is an ewa lady somewhere in Ikeja that I buy from everytime I am in Lagos. It has a taste even the most virtuous wife cannot replicate. Same with iya Oyo in Abuja. Her gbegiri is the most unique anywhere. Not found a replacement in the much touted Ibadan. I don't think your cooking is bad but he is addicted to that taste which cannot be replicated. Like everything, he will get tired. Try buyin ewa from somewhere else and he woul refuse no matter how better it is. Taste is relative.

I suggest you just let him and try and humour him over his love for the ewa. I think you are taking yourself too seriously. How are the other areas of your marriage? Companionship good? Conversations good? I think African women get too hard on themselves when their man eats other stuff. I mean he eats everything you cook other than this ewa. If the other areas of your marriage are good, then don't sweat it. Unless you can replicate this delicious ewa.

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Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

Wisdom wan finish uuuuu....!!!!!