gidob:

What are you even saying...after writing so much, you made no point

kongolo:

@Emboldened I think i just found my twin

LillyVal:
My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of Kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months na, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

a. would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

CyberEBOLA:
THEY MARRIED HER FOR HER KIDNEY IN THE FIRST PLACE

ChristianEast:

This is bullshii.

An average man would make that sacrifice for the wife. #FACT

I will do it for my wife without dragging families into it. I am afraid of surgeries, I don't trust Nigeria medical system, but I will make that sacrifice.

Martinez39:
Thank you jare! All these females are just talking nonsense.

Midas01:
[s]Oh please shut up. The average man ditches his partner due to a life threatening medical condition and this is pure facts. Most women stick with their partners . Google it and cure your ignorance.[/s]

marvelous000:

can you prove that he married extra wife after his kidney debacle, or you're giving a dog a bad name to hang it. cos as far as my memory serve me; such a thing never happened, instead; it was said that his other wives deserted him when his kidney issue started, only the one who donated her kidney stuck around, and i remember people on nairaland hailing her for sticking with him when others left.

pocohantas:


When he was shown on HIP-TV, they were all with him. But going by your narrative, a man had a woman who loved him enough to donate her kidney- but he married extra wives. No wonder this one no wan give.

Before he will use her kidney and be doing "men are polygamous in nature"

yazga:
Did the kidney suddenly fail or it was there all along and wasn't disclosed? If it wasn't disclosed, she has a choice to walk away. If it happened suddenly, she ought to make sacrifice but you can't force her. I believe he has siblings, let love ànd blood lead.

Again, Instead of the two families to sit down and look for a suitable solution, it's divorce they are pushing her for? A fresh marriage for that matter, what exactly was their reason to get married if they can't support and help each other at their down times?

d33types:
See the way people are using threats of marriage vows on the poor iyawo.

There are very few instances where kidney injury can lead to end stage renal disease (the stage where transplant is needed) all within 3months and affecting both kidneys.

Kidney failure has stages 1 to 5 and only poor management would make it progress to the last stage within 3months.It is even almost 99% likely that the man has even undergone a renal dialysis (artificial kidney machine procedure)

Secondly the test for compatibility called the HLA typing, takes about 3weeks to get the the result. Now subtract this time from the marriage duration.

All in all, what I'm saying is, the man and his family likely knew about his kidney problems months before the marriage, but hid it from her.
He married that girl for the sole purpose of kidney donation.That alone is fraud, and the wife has no obligation to donate. She (the wife) is the victim here

I'm making the above impression ,as a doctor nearing being a nephrologist (kidney specialist).

gidob:
What are you even saying...after writing so much, you made no point

meobizy:
It’s her marriage. She can do whatever the bleep she wants. OP, mind your business and stop airing her dirty laundry to strangers who don’t care to begin with.

Adinije:
I wonder why only few people are applying their reasoning in this matter. Everybody is shouting 'she doesn't love him yen yen yen' 'true love no dey again yen yen yen'
This family married this lady for her kidney period! KIDNEY FAILURE DOESN'T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT.

truefood45:
it is a tradition of love where people believe marriage is for better for worse, if your cousin consider their request a threat, she should consider divorce, but she should mind the impart of divorce to the sick man, let her accept people who may call her wicked, and get what she want, solution is always available but is not known, her husband is cause of his own sickness and has continued to sustain it, sickness cannot grow in a body unless the body supported it, ignorance is not always enough to stop any sickness but knowledge can, try true food today, you can from there see the reason why many sickness become incurable, it is dilemma she either give it or she leave but knowledge can always save.

Midas01:
Oh please shut up. The average man ditches his partner due to a life threatening medical condition and this is pure facts. Most women stick with their partners . Google it and cure your ignorance.

d33types:


Please, you'll need to take the IELTS. Although, your use of grammar, even though superfluous, passes very little message.

Your cohesion and coherence is even zero. Cheers

Acidosis:
Your cousin should first and foremost consider any effects donation might have on her overall health. Confirming that your cousin is a biological match means some steps already have been taken. Further 'light' tests should be considered to be sure there are no medical challenges (diabetes, HBP, etc.). Presence of health challenges automatically nullifies chances of donating to her husband. In my opinion, it's better to decline by dwelling on the aforementioned challenges.

Where there are no underlying health issues, no one should pressure her into giving her organ. Organ donation is more of sacrifice and selflessness than romantic and sexual love. It takes a special kind of love to give an organ to a spouse, sister, brother, parents or child, etc. What if she loves her husband but just can't trust the medical procedure? Some people don't trust medical doctors and surgical procedures. It's just what it is.

The mother of the man in context can also come forward and donate to her son. After all, people have made us believe that the love a mother has towards her son exceeds all forms of love. Let her come and prove that love.

LillyVal:
My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of Kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months na, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

a. would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

Martinez39:
She is compatible with the husband; a human can run fine on a kidney; and the doctors to perform the surgery are available. That's all that's needed. The woman has no tangible excuse. She doesn't want to give. It's her right not to give but it stands that she doesn't love her husband.

d33types:
See the way people are using threats of marriage vows on the poor iyawo.

There are very few instances where kidney injury can lead to end stage renal disease (the stage where transplant is needed) all within 3months and affecting both kidneys.

Kidney failure has stages 1 to 5 and only poor management would make it progress to the last stage within 3months.It is even almost 99% likely that the man has even undergone a renal dialysis (artificial kidney machine procedure)

Secondly the test for compatibility called the HLA typing, takes about 3weeks to get the the result. Now subtract this time from the marriage duration.

All in all, what I'm saying is, the man and his family likely knew about his kidney problems months before the marriage, but hid it from her.
He married that girl for the sole purpose of kidney donation.That alone is fraud, and the wife has no obligation to donate. She (the wife) is the victim here

I'm making the above impression ,as a doctor nearing being a nephrologist (kidney specialist).

LillyVal:
My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of Kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months na, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

a. would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

Midas01:
Stop saying nonsense. There are actual facts that show that more men than women ditch their partners due to life threatening medical conditions.

My aunt just passed away due to a stroke about 4 days ago. Her husband who was a pastor left her when she fell ill.

If you doubt this I will pull up facts for you.

d33types:
See the way people are using threats of marriage vows on the poor iyawo.

There are very few instances where kidney injury can lead to end stage renal disease (the stage where transplant is needed) all within 3months and affecting both kidneys.

Kidney failure has stages 1 to 5 and only poor management would make it progress to the last stage within 3months.It is even almost 99% likely that the man has even undergone a renal dialysis (artificial kidney machine procedure)

Secondly the test for compatibility called the HLA typing, takes about 3weeks to get the the result. Now subtract this time from the marriage duration.

All in all, what I'm saying is, the man and his family likely knew about his kidney problems months before the marriage, but hid it from her.
He married that girl for the sole purpose of kidney donation.That alone is fraud, and the wife has no obligation to donate. She (the wife) is the victim here

I'm making the above impression ,as a doctor nearing being a nephrologist (kidney specialist).