Mayflowa:

Which truth? Of course the husband did it.
Which family? That would just end the marriage

Which marriage?

Marriage that the husband is sleeping with wife's relative, is that one marriage?

The day men start swallowing the same pill they dish out to women is the day marriages will be perfect until then you men should enjoy your confused world

cococandy:


Absolutely insane.

First of all, a husband is not a necessity. Especially if it’s one that sleeps with other people and even worse your relations. A good husband is a great thing to have. Anything less than that is not beneficial to any woman.

I don’t know who’s filling y’alls heads with nonsense but a single woman is better than one with a bad husband.

Your post is actually very disgusting in case you don’t know. Marriage is definitely not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. That’s why people who intend to keep their homes should not be sleeping with their spouses relatives.

You would not be very enthusiastic to advice your fellow man to keep his marriage if his wife gets impregnated by his family member.
You use people’s family issues that they bring on NL to further your evil agenda. Please stop.

man is a product of his environmental influences

so you should not be surprised when you see comments like these

You just feel sorry for him that's all

If men in Nigeria were are scared as women about "ruining their homes"
Family life would have been much better there

Ugosample:


what are your perspective on a cheating wife?

especially in Nigeria

does that 70% up there include the cheating wives?

My comments refer to infidelity by both genders. The 70% estimate includes both genders.

For a cheating wife, the same extenuating circumstances I previously highlighted will determine the husband's next line of action. It all depends on whether the husband is willing to reconcile having considered all factors that matter to him in marriage. Personally I see no reason why a husband should not retain his wife who committed adultery due to unplanned circumstances and who shows genuine remorse or her actions. I have seen live cases where the wife cheated and both parties reconciled. Although the ego to let go is stronger in men especially in Nigeria, it does not necessarily indicate that divorce will always be the case.

I understand the recent wave of trying to look at things always from a balanced gender perspective to counter the supposed male patriarchy, but situating all marital issues within that construct without giving due consideration to natural human contexts may itself may lead to the same erroneous judgements that the patriarchal supremacists are frequently accused of. Just that this is on the opposite end of extreme.

braimeddy:
The matter will escalate and bring more shame to the woman's face. I will advice she don't do that

Let me get something straight

an irresponsible he goat fvcks and impregnated his wife niece
and this becoming public knowledge will shame the woman?

what kind of society do you guys run in nigger Nigeria

ThierryJay:


My comments refer to infidelity by both genders. The 70% estimate includes both genders.

For a cheating wife, the same extenuating circumstances I previously highlighted will determine the husband's next line of action. It all depends on whether the husband is willing to reconcile having considered all factors that matter to him in marriage. Personally I see no reason why a husband should not retain his wife who committed adultery due to unplanned circumstances and who shows genuine remorse or her actions. I have seen live cases where the wife cheated and both parties reconciled. Although the ego to let go is stronger in men especially in Nigeria, it does not necessarily indicate that divorce will always be the case.

I understand the recent wave of trying to look at things always from a balanced gender perspective to counter the supposed male patriarchy, but situating all marital issues within that construct without giving due consideration to natural human contexts may itself may lead to the same erroneous judgements that the patriarchal supremacists are frequently accused of. Just that this is on the opposite end of extreme.

this your last paragraph sha
e dey make me suspect you


But yes
I have seen some men forgive their cheating wives

I mean here in Ivory Coast
it's no big deal

Your wife fvcked someone else

so what?

your husband fvcked someone else

ehen?

But I was imagining in my head if it was the Nigeria I know that this happened

tho it happens in Nigeria

the ridicule that the man gets is not only hypocrites
its stupid

That is my point

AntiBrutus:

Hey! Nigerian women sorry o

You see foolish comments everywhere

fykes:

I have no respect for people who trivialize deep things like adultery with common arguments like gender biases.
y'all women are too often too personal in thinking about the hurts of a cheating partner whether male or female.
Forgetting that aside from the couple, this while thing affects and maybe even more so, the kids, the couples parents and siblings, and in this case extended in laws families.
So tell me of what good is ur supposed defence or excuse of d gender of the offender in any case?

You did not answer her question

AntiBrutus:


No, men are the one with bias. You wouldn't have typed that crap if tables turn.

You no see as he no answer the question

djon78:




Wow godly wisdom right there!!
Any woman that does this making heaven is 100% certified!!!

I wish heaven was that simple! I would stroll in already.

Yep. You know them well.

It’s the woman’s responsibility to stop the man from ruining the home. But he’s the leader.

In a weird twisted makes-no-sense kind of way, the leader of the home is the one who has to be shielded like a mindless child so that he doesn’t do anything to ruin the family. And if he does do it, then he has no responsibility whatsoever in what he did.

After all, in a leader-like manner, he has no control of himself .

Mind boggling.

Ugosample:


man is a product of his environmental influences

so you should not be surprised when you see comments like these

You just feel sorry for him that's all

If men in Nigeria were are scared as women about "ruining their homes"
Family life would have been much better there

GrabHisBalls:
Nigerian men with their double standard and hypocrisy. They tell you, "I won't like it if you cheat" only to realize they have a degree in sleeping around. I am not surprised most of those who have commented think op has a marriage to keep. It takes two to keep a marriage. Questions are; what if she wasn't pregnant and what if she had agreed to get it aborted, would your husband have stopped sleeping with her?

Instead of having this type as a husband, let me die single. Imagine the humiliation. Your wife's niece. He knows no boundaries and you're saying he's respected. Respected by people who have no idea of the kind of man he is.

well it's good you have standards

Keep them

There is a difference between a woman who have her standards and a bitter man hatee

don't be the latter

chocolatelady:
This is a trying time for the OP. My honest advice to u is for u to beg God to give u the grace to swallow this hard pill and wisdom so as not to make mistake. Never u leave ur hussy becos of this. In marriage, temptations are abound to happen but the ability for the couple to tackle them makes their love life blossom. I really understand the pain u are going thru right now but pls stand by ur husband becos u are one and not two. Do not allow this to scatter ur marriage pls. Anybody that have not sinned should be the first to cast stone. I am not saying that what ur hussy did was right but the bitter truth is that the deed has been done. Ask ur husband to tell u the truth that u are willing to forgive and stand by his side no matter what. I am sure that he will tell u the truth if u promised to be by his side becos the man is afraid that u will leave him if he tells the truth. Concerning ur niece, I advise that u allow her give birth to the child. Then do paternity test to confirm if the child is actually ur hussy 's. If the child is his, plead with the girl and her family to allow u take care of the child and promised that u will be a good mum to the child. Again, this is not easy at all becos as a human being, the child will always remind u how ur hussy cheated on u but u have to beg Ğod to give u grace to overcome it which I am sure He will give u. Pls do not advice ur niece to do abortion. Abortion is murder and a grievious sin against God. Pls do not listen to those advising u for ur niece to do abortion . God forbid , if she has complications and die in the process. The guilt will never leave until u live the palnet earth. Take heart my dear, I believe u will come out of this. MAY GOD BE WITH U AND UR FAMILY AT THIS TRYING TIME, AMEN.

Another wise woman spotted.
Compare it to some devilish advice being given over this issue and you will know difference between light and darkness.
One is godly heaven breathed wisdom the other is devilish, from the pit of hell.

alphaNomega:


You'll get over it with time, I hope you now have access to all his PINs and passwords. Tell him you have declared a state of emergency... and he MUST give you hourly update on where he is (with proof!) or else there will be gbese...THAT IS IF YOU STILL WANT TO BOTHER YOURSELF.

u won't kee me. Hahahahaha, seriously he is a mugu now, everything is mine now,even his bank PINs, very loyal I swear, that's the aspect I like .

Let me just shut it if not I would have deal with all of you

Omojudy:

I wish heaven was that simple! I would stroll in already.

Not at all my dear, it takes someone with divine touch to do that.
Can't you see a lot of evil devilish advice coming out here, but your own stood out.

That is what Jesus a man of peace would have advised. A woman was caught red handed in the very act of adultery. The law states that she should be stoned. But the Lord rather told her accusers if anyone of them have not sinned should cast the first stone, none could do that.

That's God divinely wisdom way different from the norm. So when I said making heaven is 100% assured. I am right.

I have seen a situation like this my cousin got his in-law pregnant,the daughter of his wife brother,it was a crazy situation,but the wife stood by her man and the guy ended up paying #100k as compensation for damages,pussy, breasts,etc.do not leave your man,this is just one of many trials and tribulations in marriage and the man better stop the nonsense of denying and be a man and accept his mistake,a small girl like that cannot makeup a story like that, even if he may not be the one responsible but he definitely has shined that pussy.

ThierryJay:


Your opinion is extreme as you give no room for reconciliation. IYHO, almost all marriages would be void as most African marriages have recorded cases of infidelity. Going by your logic, more than 70% of marriages are currently miserable, and the African society should be predominantly be a divorce fest rather than have reconciled marriages. You are not proferring a workable solution but only touting a vindictive impractical approach that will be of little benefit to the social construct of this world.

If reconciliation will make things between a couple fine once more, why go the divorce route? Humans are not perfect. Even David (in the bible) and many contemporary world leaders had extramarital affairs ( Heck Nelson Mandela had affairs, Ryan Giggs had sex his in-law while married). While these examples do not make infidelity right, if the offending party is willing to make things right genuinely, I think it's worth a chance if the victim does not mind. Only in situations where one of the parties is unrepentant will I advocate complete separation as a first approach.

Oga, you need to recognize that life is a spectrum and things are not always just black or white.

CORRECTION: I give no room for errors that have deadly consequences. Life is too beautiful and if people don't want to cherish it, that's their cross to carry, not mine (and certainly not my children).

The reason why Africa is in such a poor state (family/social wise) maybe have something to do with such lack of respect for life... and again, just because yeyebrities are cheaters is irrelevant here. Even highly respected men of the Bible had babymamas/mistresses etc (Abraham/king David, King Solomon) so it doesn't matter much.

Ugosample:


yea yea


make excuses for the man

I am responsible for what I write, u are responsible for how u understand it. It's not my fault u missed the point

Ugosample:


You see foolish comments everywhere

Very foolish. Polygamy is more important to them than the life of a teenager involved. Very disgusting creatures.

AntiBrutus:


Very foolish. Polygamy is more important to them than the life of a teenager involved. Very disgusting creatures.

djon78:



Not at all my dear, it takes someone with divine touch to do that.
Can't you see a lot of evil devilish advice coming out here, but your own stood out.

That is what Jesus a man of peace would have advised. A woman was caught red handed in the very act of adultery. The law states that she should be stoned. But the Lord rather told her accusers if anyone of them have not sinned should cast the first stone, none could do that.

That's God divinely wisdom way different from the norm. So when I said making heaven is 100% assured. I am right.

Thank You

mrsfavour:
u won't kee me. Hahahahaha, seriously he is a mugu now, everything is mine now,even his bank PINs, very loyal I swear, that's the aspect I like .

*insert evil laugh here* I love a happy ending

Omojudy:

Thank You

You are welcome

alphaNomega:


*insert evil laugh here* I love a happy ending

just that trust gone, it still left me shocked. I won't take any man serious again.

Wether he has a history of philandering has absolutely nothing to do with this issue. There's always a first time for anything. I've heard cases of gentle men who according to their wives had no such antecedents but went ahead to impregnate other women so please it has nothing to do with wether he has such history or not.

Yes a couple's actions can be totally independent of each other in marriage. You're the typical Nigerian. Blame a woman for her husband's cheating and then blame the woman for cheating too.

fykes:

If u really expect me to engage in name calling with u, u are lost.
if u really believe that a couple's actions can be totally independent of each others in marriage, u have never been married.
The fact is she didn't state that her husband has been philandering or had affairs in the past, and also went ahead to assert him as an honourable man even in the face of such allegations . not many married women can say that about their man after many years.
I am as logical as they come. Common sense takes nothing at face value.

Not when she has her own house

franchasng:
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She will first of all visit her papa house, then we can start negotiating forgiveness from there you know [img]https://media./images/8a097cdeb38aa7ac37a0313ac4f4982e/tenor.gif[/img]

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

9 months is not so far away. Let the niece have the baby then run a paternity test. The truth will come out.

Madam pls o believe your niece , she is telling you the truth. Your husband is a liar he won’t admit it because you are too soft on him, maybe your are the quiet type so he is taking advantage of you. Don’t be mad with your niece , what you have to do is wait when she born , go for dna if it came out that the baby belonged to your husband. Stand by your niece , love her way the same way you did because Is your evil husband who seduced the helplessly girl because she had nobody to stand for her. Support your niece and her baby and as for the idiot of your husband, divorced him , yes divorced you , packed your stuffs and leave with your kids. God will provide for you and your children. You will be fine as a single mother than living with an idiot who cannot control his penis. Talking from experience. Message me if you want to chat more

vinceobe:




Do not bank on this. A sin has been committed. There is repercussion. No sinner will go unpunished, says the bible.

whose sin are you talking about here sir?

Madam, your husband is surely the culprit here. If he's man enough, let him quietly confess to you, and should he stand his ground, tell him you will report him to his family, friends, colleagues, pastor, whoever. I am sure he will come to his senses.
As for being a respected personality, it's a lie. If he is responsible for the pregnancy, he surely has no respect.
Anyway, whether your husband is responsible or not, the pregnancy must remain, and the innocent baby must be given birth to. Cheers

Zainab, divorce is wickedness and it is very of you to advise her to divorce her husband because of this avoidable mistake.
Sorry to ask, please, don't feel offended. Did your mother divorced your father? Cheers.

Zainab20198:
Madam pls o believe your niece , she is telling you the truth. Your husband is a liar he won’t admit it because you are too soft on him, maybe your are the quiet type so he is taking advantage of you. Don’t be mad with your niece , what you have to do is wait when she born , go for dna if it came out that the baby belonged to your husband. Stand by your niece , love her way the same way you did because Is your evil husband who seduced the helplessly girl because she had nobody to stand for her. Support your niece and her baby and as for the idiot of your husband, divorced him , yes divorced you , packed your stuffs and leave with your kids. God will provide for you and your children. You will be fine as a single mother than living with an idiot who cannot control his penis. Talking from experience. Message me if you want to chat more

luluosas:
Zainab, divorce is wickedness and it is very of you to advise her to divorce her husband because of this avoidable mistake.
Sorry to ask, please, don't feel offended. Did your mother divorced your father? Cheers.

What a sad statement.... avoidable mistake indeed. I hope you think the same way when your wife does this "avoidable mistake" and get pregnant by some stranger.