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My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 12:47pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child. Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her. But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc. I was always with her when my mum was working. Fast forward to now.... She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn. She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all. Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing... If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet. Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children. I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it. Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids. Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong. I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her). What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house. Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village. Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way. 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by LadySarah: 12:55pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
You should ask yourself whether your discipline is borne out of retaliation or correction.How will the result benefit you.The child didnt intentionally break the plate,all of us did as children. Be that as it may,times have changed.Just a cane may land the indomie child in the hospital.Also,a knife wielder will hardly let knife across his back.so if you must retaliate so bad,go and flog your aunty not them. Leave her kids and mind your bizness.They shouldnt bear the brunt of their mother's st.idity.It is the wickedness of man. Now she has given birth and seen how painful it is to see one's children being beaten. 216 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 1:03pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
see wicked people. Na that revenge just Dey your mind. Nor go vex kill person pikin. 90 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 1:16pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
stupidity: The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say. I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me. In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her. I need solutions. My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in 35 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 1:18pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys: Baba abeg leave ur aunties house and get ur own crib 35 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 1:22pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
AmericanDad: I get my own house, but we all travel to family house during holidays. 14 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 1:24pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 1:29pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys:well I will be honest with you. There’s nothing you can do. Except you want to be the bad person. Thread with caution. I’d advice you give them space and live on your own or with another person. 45 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by blesskewe(f): 2:00pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Just give them space and if the children find ur trouble U react That's what I would do sha 41 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by jenifer007: 2:15pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain. Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am. 211 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by midnighter(f): 2:20pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I had a similar issue to this...some aunts would look down on me and keep reporting me as a child, now their children misbehave and they will just smile and say nothing Its very annoying but reading this i dont think your intention is really pure.. you have to divorce emotion from this.. its not really your problem if her kids are bad and if its just travelling to the village you can just ignore all of them That village politics can get very bad... if you keep scolding her kids she may start rumours against you and then the whole umunna will be on your back For me I just moved on even though it annoys me...we should rather blame our mothers for not defending their children when the monitoring was getting too much And lastly when people talk out of pocket about your own kids be sure to look at the situation objectively and see whether your child deserves the punishment or not 26 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by nlPoster: 2:28pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by yeyeosoronga: 2:48pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys: They're not your children. If you so much want to discipline children, please go and have your own and do whatever you want, to discipline them. If your mother had stood up for her child(ren), no aunt would have continuously physically abused them, especially with her knowledge. 44 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 3:10pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: I dont see any problem in giving my child to my brother or sister who is there to help out. If I'm going to work or something. I don't want my child to go and break someone's pot outside. It's better it happens at home. If I'm not around, then my child tells me he or she was beaten I'll ask questions then I'll tell him or her not to do it again. I accept that I was a little bit stubborn, and I was disciplined for it. My problem is her children are also stubborn but she doesn't want them to be disciplined. I am their uncle and they don't even greet me good morning. Something I would never do in front of her. Does she know they don't greet me? she does. 22 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 3:18pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by yeyeosoronga: 4:28pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys: They're not your children, and if their parent doesn't want them to be disciplined by you, kindly respect her wishes and also respect yourself. If you think she's behind her children not greeting you, then stop greeting her too. Shikena. She cannot force you to greet her, same way you cannot force her children to greet you. 61 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by nlPoster: 4:40pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys: What's funny? |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by nlPoster: 4:42pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Charleys: blah blah blah blah, we don't need these dumb threads, I don't know you or your relatives or associates and I don't care what transpires between or who greets who. I don't like wasting my data on stupidity, please keep your stupid problems to yourself. You assume everyone here is jobless therefore we have no choice but the idiotic topics opened by you and your ilk? 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by midnighter(f): 4:53pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Exponental(m): 5:28pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Do what is right! Don't act on your past. Revenge is not necessary.... It sometimes brings sorrow. Show love more to the children instead. Do what you have to do cos it's right!! 4 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 7:36pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
nairalandposter:what is your problem? 12 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 8:31pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Better mind your business. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by SirVintageCock: 8:54pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Take it easy bro. You will have your chance one of this days to create a replica of what she did to you. It is a game of chance and the odds are still in your favour. 9 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 8:57pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Royalroy please take this up there let's know what people think. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Octopusssy(f): 10:07pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Leave her to raise her children the way she deems it fit. God willing and as long as His spirit is alive, the chicken will come home to roost. 7 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Octopusssy(f): 10:09pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
nairalandposter:Woooow, tpia on the beat |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by baby124: 11:01pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Wicked people can’t take what they dish out, especially with their own children. It was your mother’s fault for not cautioning her when you were younger. I understand the need for revenge and she knows deep in her heart that she offended you greatly. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by sayisayi(m): 12:42am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Bros, discipline freely. She will then reflect on her behaviour. One thing I detest are hypocritical, partial madams. If na me, dem go do 10 press ups as I enter room. 6 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 6:21am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Try to let go of this grudge that you've been holding onto all these years. 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Mpcoll001: 12:34pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Since you are just there for the holiday why do you want to kill yourself with grief over your aunt's spoilt children .. Just advice your aunt and try as much as possible to be nice to her children, buy them gifts. Kids cherish little things a lot.. Once they see the kindness towards them in you, they will always obey you... 6 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 9:08pm On Oct 19, 2019 |
Lalasticlala |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 9:09pm On Oct 19, 2019 |
theButterfly:why? |
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