OP pray, keep seeking medical solutions, and use wisdom to handle the situation and ur husband.. Wish u well, God's not dead!

Have you tried to find out why you unable to have a child? That is where to start from.

I understand that your husband has his weaknesses as a man and I'm so sorry about your miscarriage but ma'am, have you thought of the way and manner in which you also speak to him? I noticed from your post that you asked a question like "am i invisible to you?" Well, to a man, being respected equals being loved and to a woman being loved equals being cherished. So, i don't know if you respect him enough but i have a strong feeling that he feels disrespected. I'm not certain tho

Majikmoment:



Lmao! Calm down joor

Okay, I will be calm because you want me to.

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amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

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Post his phone number here.
We want to talk to him.

Else

How can we help you? You said he is frustrated because you have no kids with him. How are we tied into this problem?

Advice: Keep engaging him in horizontal mumbo jumbo until you become pregnant.
Or
IVF !!!
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Btw, I've been seeing a lot of "pray hard" "the lord is the answer" bla bla bla... Do you think this country wouldn't have been better if prayers were to be the solution? Jizzz!!! We dey pray pass anyone... Makes me remember the prayer warrior who savagely murdered her entire family in Benue.

Viking07:
As usual and expected, Nigerians will always refer you to God. The entire first page was about "leave it for God". We are all under serious religious bondage in this country.

Post something similar on a different platform e.g quora.com and read enlightened, smart, nonreligious, helpful, realistic advises/opinions.

they are big fools. Even pastors dey divorce lol. The babe has no where to go as she no get work doing. They see marriage as a life aim. Na them sabi

Viking07:
As usual and expected, Nigerians will always refer you to God. The entire first page was about "leave it for God". We are all under serious religious bondage in this country.

Post something similar on a different platform e.g quora.com and read enlightened, smart, nonreligious, helpful, realistic advises/opinions.

Preach bro, preach...i don tire..

Have u guys tried IVF?

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

Do not quit.......and do not allow depression to come in....you will have victory in the end.....the question i wanted to ask you is if you have a job.........if you do pls avoid confrontation.....he would calm down in due time and you will eventually have a child.

amarachi06:


Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

Are they God? No!

Too much Worries can even prevent your from conceiving. Relax your mind, eat good food and study your ovulation period. If you can get A book titled 'Every day woman' It will be helpful.

Least i forget, did you flush your uterus after you had the miscarriage?

Who we marry is one of the most important decisions in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth and success, like no other choice. - NATHAN WORKMAN


Marriage is a decision in life as said in the quote above, this is a decision that can affect the way you live the rest of your life... If not well taken can make one in a mess or otherwise.

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!

You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on six dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.

Question: What do i mean by Marry Your Mate?


Answer: These simply means for you to marry someone you can relate with. The person that what you to grow as he or she grows. someone that what you both to keep developing and moving stronger... Not someone that is in competitions with you in some levels of life..

on Fortizo Light i shall revealed to us "Six Secrets To A Successful Marriage"... https://www.fortizolight.com/2019/11/six-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage.html

In the Bible, Samuel's mother went on her knees to pray for a child, and the Lord answered!!!!!!

Judybash93:
I understand that your husband has his weaknesses as a man and I'm so sorry about your miscarriage but ma'am, have you thought of the way and manner in which you also speak to him? I noticed from your post that you asked a question like "am i invisible to you?" Well, to a man, being respected equals being loved and to a woman being loved equals being cherished. So, i don't know if you respect him enough but i have a strong feeling that he feels disrespected. I'm not certain tho

Oga, her husband's respect is what is questioned, not hers. On the "am I invisible to you?" she did state that he came home by 12:am without an explanation. Is her husband not supposed to be accountable to her and likewise wives? With the kind of an atmosphere that man has created, I doubt he needs a child.

The problem is that we live in a society where "parenting" is expected, so i understand how this must be taking a toll on your marriage, coping with childlessness is like grieving the loss of a loved one: you never get over the pain.
Get an appointment with a fertility specialist or endocrinologist and figure out what/where the problem is first, then you can make an informed decision on the next step to take.

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

Did you commit abortions before you married him? How many babies did you kill this way? Repeated miscarriage is usually consequent of multiple abortions.

Did you tell him about those ugly pasts? Did the two of you go for medical examination before you got married?

It may be the ghost of the past coming to haunt you.

Seek medical help and pray...while you at that Get MIM capsules ( heard it works wonders) packet, you can also later add folic acid 1000mg , take it along side your husband daily, know when your ovulation occurs and have especially midnight or early morning sex with your husband.

UjuJoan2:


The shocking irony is that one of the people who was preaching self esteem, voice, choice yen yen yen . . . Is the same person asking her to 'pray'. Such hypocrisy.

The husband asked her to leave, and someone is telling her to stay and pray for him. I can't deal abeg.

You being able to deal or not has no bearing on anything. And it doesn't also make your point meaningful. These days you hardly open a thread on this platform without seeing all these moronic feminists trying too hard to explain why women shouldn't take shiit, are equal to men and all that nonsense - even when the issue requires deeper understanding and a diplomatic approach.

You guys now reason like a Robot with linear thinking process having no capability of understanding the importance of context. Have you even asked any further questions to know if the man is really as monstrous as the story painted? You just heard a statement and bam the woman should start packing her bags....And what is disturbing is the sets of kids already doomed to fail in marriages cos of their belief in this impetuous approach to marital issues.

You will all be alright las las.....

dawnomike:
Take it all to God in prayers... Prayers changes things.

She may also need to confess some dark secrets of the past, like multiple abortions

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

Hey. Go to him anytime and make sure he makes sweet love to you. Even if his mind isn't there make sure your mind is there. Take it in with all pleasure. For that is what your child needs to come. He needs a loving home. Mark these words. You'll conceive this year.

But let me say that your husband is sad about the whole thing especially seeing his mates with kids. Anyway we will table matter tonight at the meeting.

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

I admire marriage when it is blissful and resent it when it like yours
honestly you have to explore your options
find a way to conceive via medicine I don't know alot about that cuz I'm no woman

get outta of the marriage and find something better to do with thy life

or stay in there and become more and more invisible to him and maybe the new woman he will bring him till they both can walk through you literally.

I strongly recommend you leave the marriage
what's the point really?
or leaving maybe agonizing to from the society I can imagine. you can't stand the shame that comes with... maybe you can weigh the pains you're going through now and that you would go through when you escape this you present predicaments then you opt for the lighter pain.



just leave the man instead if you cant stomach being tagged and stereotyped a divorcee

Your husband's attitude towards you is not right, I really do feel for you, it's really terrible , most of the things you complained about only happens in underdeveloped countries and a country like Nigeria where men see wemen as a commodity that can be bought and resold when and whenever they please, well I can only feel for u, my advice which I dont know if it will be useful is for you to have deep love for yourself irrespective of what your husband or people think about you and most importantly please don't kill yourself while trying to please everyone, if it gets to the point where depression creeps in please seek help or save yourself by doing the needful

Elder0001:



Imagine...as if not having a child is her explicit fault ! Who knows if the fault is from the idiotic man. If he so wants a child he should adopt one or they should try surrogacy.

You don't have to call him idiotic man when you have not heard his own side of the story. I really feel I pity for the woman and I pray for God's mercy to locate and give her joy unspeakable in the form of triplets.
But then, you know the kind of society we found ourselves in, this time around Where women does everything and anything when they're still single. Sometimes, the effects of those actions may cause delay in child bearing and thereby affecting the union. How will surely heal you and many other women looking for the fruits of the womb.

UjuJoan2:
Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

Ur comment got me infact. Ops do not have a child and the bullshit husband is misbehaving. Everyone is advising her to pray and go to the hospital as if infertility fault is on women alone, and why will she even pray for her husband who should come together with her and fight their problem together. When I said naija men are in for marriage just because of having kids, they will call me names. May God help naija and marriage.

I hate self centred men ,might be his fault they don't have children yet ,..
Ignore him ,l know is hard but you just have to ,...
I know couples that they are still childless after 12 years but are still in love.

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

[s]l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him[/s], cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

My dear life has a lot to offer, that man does not define your life, please just make sure u are fine, if u kill yourself he marries another wife and u start answering from God.. Don't even try it, if u see things are getting to an extent u can't control please divorce jejely and have your life at peace. Wishing u all the best..

Go to a reputable fertility Centre and see alternative ways to fertilize your eggs with your husbands semen e.g the test-tube baby is a very realistic way of conceiving nowadays, when you take in, go to your parents place so your mum looks after you and depression and stress will not cause anymore miscarriages. Finally, be prayerful and eat very good food. Milk and vegetables, fruits, adequate water and rest.

I am sorry to hear about your predicament, but let us look at the facts here,
You and your husband were happily married
After some years you were not able to produce a child, though we are not sure who's the fault
Your husband become s disgusted at you because you are not able to give him a child
He's love for you is based on what you can and cannot provide from him, even though he knows your genuine intentions towards him
He will not magically start loving you unless you can provide a child

Given the above scenario, we can say that in order for your home to remain happy you have to give him a child or leave the marriage

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

if he dislike you, he wouldn't even put the tip of his something in you vjay or he would have probably impregnet someone else and disappear into thr air , your husband is just frustrated , so.many things he will be enduring from friends, families to advising him to get someone impregnated outside ....

Sorry for wat u are going tru,@post Do u ovulate well? If u are not maybe the eggs are not matured enough to stay dats one of cause of miscarriage.secondly do u have hotness of the stomach another cause of miscarriage.anxiety another cause of delay too relax ur mind wen u will takein u won't know.LASTLY TRY TO MEET UR HUBBY ON UR PERIOD LUCK MIGHT SHINE ON U.don't leave ur home for another to enter marriage has its own challenges.from the day i say i do till wen Heaven pick my call my second name na MISCARRIAGE.been to hospitals all hands where pointing@me i thank God my hubby is too understanding he never put pressure on me to an extend some month i will tell hubby not to make Love to me cos i already knew the outcome i told him to slow down before my babies go finish for my womb ooh But thanks to heaven am a proud mother of 4kids so relax change ur name to yes Sir yes sir be humble to him show him more Love cos any strong head from u na ur papa house u go see urself ooh.Above all PRAY MORE THERE IS NOTHING TOO HARD FOR GOD TO DO.JOIN TTC GROUP TOO ON NAIRALAND U WILL LEARN ALOT DIA .STAY BLESSED.