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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Gwagone: 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2019
Some people will start running mouth now
They won't tell you what they are facing in their homes oo

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by bengg: 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2019
kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Princemolar101: 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2019
This is the reason why I said Africa is cursed ...my dear is not your fault maybe the marriage was arrangement or is because of prayer he married you ?no true love or feeling see even if you start praying like Mohammed he will still complain the man is just tired of you only looking for silly excuses

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Enemyofpeace: 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2019
kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense
You dey mind her? Some people go just come dey open their dirty yansh for our face here on nairaland.



Kestolove95 is my dinner ready? Na pounded yam I want o
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by biafranbaby(m): 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2019
don't pray to the wrong doG.
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by bengg: 10:44pm On Nov 09, 2019
kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense
husband snatcher dictected
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by yomi96(m): 10:44pm On Nov 09, 2019
Madam you husband wants to take another wife.
Save this post.
I have seen I happen a lot of times to tell u this

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by greggng: 10:44pm On Nov 09, 2019
arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.


You are a big liability ...even ordinary prayer you cannot pray again...what of if the enemies of your husband attack him via you...? A man need a strong woman who can support him with prayer...you just sit at home , lazing around ....eating free food ...even to thank God you cannot do again....for the fact that you do pray before and suddenly you changed without any reason , your husband is right to say you are the devil. Solution go back and ask Allah for forgiveness and be a good wife....nairaland won't help you cos the solution to your problem is with you...

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by abdullkabar(m): 10:44pm On Nov 09, 2019
The solution is staring you in the eyes but you are neglecting it
Since you already said he his acting up because you don't pray
All you just need to do is set your alarm and force yourself to pray when its time
With time, you will get use to it, don't allow a little thing to put you in pain(as my signature says)

Hopefully another story doesn't come up after this, life's too short to dey allow trivial things disturb us ( Iya pray!!!)

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 10:45pm On Nov 09, 2019
He complains you dont pray anymore. He doesn't give you money anymore. And he keeps malice for years. Let me ask you, have you woken him up early in the morning, kneeling and asking him why he doesn't care much for Years? Abi you too decided to keep mute and playing dumb with him for years?

If he is headstrong and resentful, you could be soft and forgiving. Abeg, these story is just not a good enough reasons why he should ask you out. Women should be smart enough to know how to handle their homes. Many reasons for divorce are so stupidly primitive, minute and so negligibly little that a smart woman could avert with humility and flexibility.

As for the praying husband, Nigerians are unfortunately backward and mentally lazy that we have lost our senses all in the name of Middle East imported religion. We have taken it to the extreme. An average African is a Religious fanatics. Notwithstanding my dear sister, you need to pray o because if you were a Christian, I will also advise that Prayer is powerful tool against enemies. I suspect your husband is just looking for the right time to introduce the second wife.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by jaxxy(m): 10:46pm On Nov 09, 2019
arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

My question is why don’t u pray? Are u of a different faith or not Muslim? U have to agree with ur husband he hasn’t told u to do anything bad to please him unless Ure not Muslim and u married him despite the differences then that will be a different case entirely and will have to be handled differently.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 10:46pm On Nov 09, 2019
arinpe16:
@baby124, He prays regularly and we have kids.
@pharmagba Did you read the post at all? He's the one telling me that I'm not marketable again. As per obedience and humility, don't judge please. You do not know me.
He doesn't set good example for me. He will pray, eat my food, have sex with me and still keep malice with me? Is that what the Qur'an says about religion? We've been together for 5 years and he didn't see it as a big deal. Why is it now that everything good is coming his way, he suddenly start seeing me as being a devil, not marketable and what not.
So, I'll have to pray for him to love me and do his right? Just imagine. He can't even correct me without threatening me with divorce. Is being divorced a disease?

As long as I never wish him bad and I'm trying, he should know I'll get there, but it takes time. So, i ask again, is divorce the answer?

You sef you take style stubborn oh grin

See, when it comes to this marriage issue ehn, things aren't always clear-cut in black & white. Since he's sleeping with you and he's still telling you to leave, even you can see you're dealing with a very tough cookie. Under your religious law, the man is entitled to more than one wife, so the struggle between you two is to see who blinks first & him knowing he can always bring another wife kinda puts him at an advantage.

For the sake of your kids, humour the man and pray, or at least pretend to. Don't allow another woman reap where she did not sow...

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by frozen70g(f): 10:47pm On Nov 09, 2019
kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense

Stop acting silly you don't know or have any experience of marriage

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Pussywar(f): 10:47pm On Nov 09, 2019
dominique:
Try and pray five times a day, with time you'll get used to it. My husband also complains about my non praying regularly so I'm trying to adjust. It's not easy but achievable.
Jeez, Muslim women.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by midnighter(f): 10:48pm On Nov 09, 2019
arinpe16:
He prays regularly and we have kids.
He doesn't set good example for me. He will pray, eat my food, have sex with me and still keep malice with me? Is that what the Qur'an says about religion? We've been together for 5 years and he didn't see it as a big deal. Why is it now that everything good is coming his way, he suddenly start seeing me as being a devil, not marketable and what not.
So, I'll have to pray for him to love me and do his right? Just imagine. He can't even correct me without threatening me with divorce. Is being divorced a disease?

That divorce stuff is not nice of him at all

Sorry but are you a stubborn person or has he tried talking to you before and you didnt listen? How can he just jump to "divorce" just like that?

You'd probably ask him to encourage you rather than threatening you all the time. Correct you with love, be your teacher, etc.

As for the praying, if you're a Muslim then the bolded is irrelevant because that is you people's law. You would be praying for yourself and your God and not for him

You dont really have any right here because technically you are wrong even though the way he is going about it is not nice.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Heineken(m): 10:49pm On Nov 09, 2019
Madam it's good to pray. Don't be like me.. I don't pray anymore...

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by logan2(m): 10:49pm On Nov 09, 2019
Should we be discussing about this? He's a moslem, he wants another wife, simple..... Abi were you not expecting w vo wife?

Meanwhile this is the first time i am reading a moslem seeking for relationship help here on Nl..... I hope your people will not kill you for saying your mind
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Beatswim: 10:49pm On Nov 09, 2019
Madam do what your husband wants.. And u will notice he will stop all he's doing too simple.. U married a Muslim man to the core and u must abide by his rules under his roof.. But a year of malice is somehow.. That means no sex for a year Adjust madam

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Princemolar101: 10:49pm On Nov 09, 2019
Early signs is a good one that man has had enough of you and don't want you anymore forget all that silly excuses he made you believe is better you leave and be happy rather than stay in a marriage of sorrow and pains and am sure now you can also see why igbos want a divorce from Nigeria
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by frozen70g(f): 10:49pm On Nov 09, 2019
pharmagba:

I need to be blunt with you since you asked for my advice

You are not wise at all.
Look at the reason you are giving, that you are not praying regularly

Praying to God is a test of humility. A great man once said, "if I want to humble a man, I ask him how long he prays"
It simply means you are full of pride and very disobedient wife. You are even considering your marketability when you eventually leaves his house.
If things continue like this let me tell you what will happen, he will definitely throw you out of his life, not only his house and he will get a better lady and live happily ever after and you may also get a another husband who will also throw you out after some time. Why? Simple. It is because you will display your rotten character.


My advice if you really want to make things work
Be humble to your husband, respect and obey him. It is not to much to pray even if it is 100times daily. Any woman that humbles herself and respect her husband especially if the man is Godly, will always find favour with him. In fact such men will go out of their ways to satisfy and make her happy but if you don't respect him forget about getting any dime from him.
You have wasted so much time, start the amendment today. Thank God he had not told his parent.

A word is enough for the wise



This is not how to advice someone going through emotional pains

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Badgers14: 10:50pm On Nov 09, 2019
crackhaus:
My only issue here is that he's not talking to you but still eating your food.
Does that man like his life at all...

grin

Pennywise pound foolish!!!


Please dont quote me, I am not feeling fine.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by olatunyemi(m): 10:51pm On Nov 09, 2019
I can't marry a non praying lady and I pray God won't give me such wife. In this life with enemy, war and hatred at left, right and centre, only your wife's genuine prayer and mum's can save you

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by elyte89: 10:51pm On Nov 09, 2019
C as ppu dey advice op to pray.... Isn't it illogical advising/forcing one to pray @ age 35?


Don't u av problems /needs to table to God?


I won't even advice u to pray because of ur husband, rada pray because of ursef, everyone needs to pray including op...


Yeye op angry

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by skylarr: 10:51pm On Nov 09, 2019
Honestly, you don’t have any excuse woman. If you find it difficult to pray after 5 years what explanation do you want to offer for that. What sort of influence do you wish to have on your kids. I think you’re being a bad example. The man is trying his best. The only issue I have with him is being stingy. It’s his duty to provide for your needs . He shouldn’t eat the food he has not dropped money for

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by stanliwiser: 10:52pm On Nov 09, 2019
arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.
Behave and start praying the way he wants.

If he continues then he was masking the situation with the prayer of a thing.

Lastly stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop I am close to 35 rubbish, you can't control your husband actions, so be prepared for reality.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 10:52pm On Nov 09, 2019
kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense
These is insensitive from you.
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by judgementyard(m): 10:52pm On Nov 09, 2019
Whao!
I wish nairaland will keep dishing out post like this,made up or not. grin
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by dheilaw1(m): 10:53pm On Nov 09, 2019
Ehn leave his house na! Wataguan
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by udemzyudex(m): 10:53pm On Nov 09, 2019
I don't just know why people always try to make this life very difficult,each time I read about marriage issues ,I'm like what's happening? Why can't people just sit down,talk to their partners and sort things out instead of always allowing it to become worse?

Is it that during courtship,all they do is go out, have fun , accompany each other home and the routine continues ,if they have a little misunderstanding they try to sort it out and probably have makeup sex.


Why can't they just talk about respecting each other , what they want and what they don't ,get to know each other better apart From going out to have fun ehn?

Wait is it that you don't pray at all or just because you don't pray 5 times a day?
So he is threatening you with divorce just because you're not praying 5 times a day even though you already have kids.

So when you pray 5 times a day he will become the richest man in the world?

Funny. Small thing dem go just escalate am.
Well if he respect you ,he won't be saying those nonsense.


I don't have any advice to give you ooo,cos I don't see this as a big deal to me.

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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by nanizle(m): 10:53pm On Nov 09, 2019
I feel he's just making excuses. Or he's a fanatic.

Either way, be ready for anything.

I thought Muslims say that there's no compulsion in religion?
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Mujinho4b(m): 10:53pm On Nov 09, 2019
Your husband have his own fault nd you do too.. As a wife and mother, praying is not Just for ur husband, but ur children, ur family. Things might be going well now, but when calamity starts, it would be worse dan it is now.. Cos 5daily prayers protects you from evil. And remember this... "follow the words if they are true, not the deeds"

Dm, if you need more adevice.

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