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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by arrestdarrester: 11:13pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
If he still eats your food then he still trusts you. Check yourself... 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by baby124: 11:14pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Gforce2015:It did. My parents had a very good marriage. Maybe it’s because my father actually really loved my mother though. If you want to be recognized as the head of the home, you have to lead by example and guard your utterances carefully. It’s not a cheap and easy job that you can do by throwing threats and insults, like a market woman. |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by PennywysCares(m): 11:15pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
arinpe16:if u have not given birth or pregnant for him i advise u leave the marriage, don't force urself on things u will regret later. Don't meted urself with a man who doesn't love you for one reason or the other. I even wonder how u cope for the one year living with a man who doesn't take to u or talk to u as u said, run for critics cos nothing you can do to settle his black heart towards u even u pray 30 times daily. There's different between been religious and religious bigotry of critics, they judge and condemn before even when God is yet to condemn u. Better take u leave now u will get a man that will love u |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Oriyomin25(m): 11:15pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
I can't even imagine marrying a woman that won't pray her 5daily salat, what teachings will you give the children and do you expect them to pray if you don't? even if you do combine your prayers you will have excuse.. you can't support him financially and you won't still do spiritually, May God help u. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by bikefab(m): 11:16pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
African man and religion be like akara and bread 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by safarigirl(f): 11:16pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Oga is looking for holes to pick. Praying from morning till night, whethee five or ten times daily is not a sign of decency or holiness. Pharisees pray pass all Jesus disciples, but their hearts were still unclean. A lot of Nigerians are hypocrites, that is the problem here. Everyone is only concerned with outward appearance, and not inwards. Na just to act film for them If he wants you to pray, start praying it so that he will have peace. The issue is not about praying, but where it is coming from. Anybody that forces you to do something you would rather not, doesn't have your best interest at heart, especially something that has to do with the spiritual I am a firm believer that God sees our hearts, and if your heart is not 100% in it, if your heart is not open to God, if something is stopping you from praying, walahi, all the fake prayers in the world will never reach God. Pray with purpose, not just because everyone is doing it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by YipadaGadgets1: 11:17pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
We ask Allah to keep you and I safe. May Allah rectify the situation between you and your husband. I really do think its an issue you can solve by just praying as he requests. Perhaps you are not aware that the prayer he demands from you is solely for your purpose and not for his.... Or he also fears your kinds might take up your lackadaisical attitude towards solah. Let me inform you that solah is perhaps the most important aspect of being a Muslim after affirming your believe in Allah, I won't want to bore you with long textual quotations but not observing solah could invalidate your Islam. It's the fastest route to communicating with the one who owns the world and everything in it. The one who could make you or Mar you in seconds. If you doubt this... Consider how you've been created from a drop of sperm (not even the full sperm - one billionth of a sperm) and he put you in the appropriate conditions to grow and become what you are today. Do you think he gave you all of this so you can just chop life? Never... And Never. He as lots of obligations upon you... Just like a developer owns lots of rights over his software. And a little advice, pls do your nikkah even if its just between your family members (ahead of the major celebrations). Technically, court wedding does not hold water in Islam. arinpe16: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by titilope11(m): 11:19pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Assalaamu alaykum, If i May advise you my sister, your husband is being annoyed not because of anything but to be focused on your purpose on earth. I will only say that's the real husband every Muslim woman should look for. Those are not only interested in the relationship with you alone but in your relationship with your Lord. I will shortly highlight the effect of that to you as a Muslim; 1. The solah is the core aspect of the religion that if someone believes that its not compulsory on him or her to pray it, he or she may becomes an unbeliever (May Allaah save us from that). 2. if someone died without praying, he or she is a sinner that's entitled to punishment if not forgiven for that by Allaah. What's the point in the love that we can continue with afterlife. 3. He may be scared that if you can severe or leave your responsibilities to your Lord, who is the husband? 4. If he didn't try to correct you, and he loves you, then your ways may affect his religiosity too because a man is upon the religion of his companion. If he can't pull you, you will pull him. 5. What will be the state of your children? They most likely follow their mothers cos men spend little time at home with children cos of work and outside stuffs. My dear sister, if you love your Lord, Hereafter and your husband try and adjust. No one is born religious we adjust to it. I pray may Allaah assist you with your responsibilities and admit us to His paradise together. Lastly, I will recommend a supplication of the prophet to you: O Allaah help me to remember you, be grateful to you and to perfect your worship. If I've erred in any way with this I pray Allaah forgive me and forgive me too. I only mean good. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by praz001(m): 11:19pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Oga judge.... judge not There we go again.... some men sha. praying regularly is really good though but not some1 threatening another. it should be willingly and not under duress. How did he know you don't pray regularly? is he always at home? mam.... you need get prepared for the arrival of a new wife, your religion accepts that. Divorce not an option. When a Muslim man needs a new wife, he gives excuses, condition and reasons to justify himself. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Isoduwa(m): 11:21pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Ok change your way na if you want peace ✌ don't change your way na if you want pieces |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by safarigirl(f): 11:21pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
baby124:don't mind all tgese religious terrorists that want to force all their beliefs on people. I can never marry any conc anything, Christian or Muslim. In life, moderation is key, not everything can be changed. You can change one or two things in a person, but certain parts of them will never changed and if you cannot love and accept them like that, then you can leave. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Skseries: 11:22pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
pharmagba: |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by jazzykhm(m): 11:22pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
pharmagba:Waoooh I really love ur advice May ALMIGHTY GOD Continue to bless you,u really make my day with ur reply |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by pureconscience: 11:23pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
LACK OF KNOWINGS MAKE HOMO SAPPIEN PERISH. WHAT IS RELIGION WHO IS GOD? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by realoscar84(m): 11:24pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Nonsense. You aren't ready to observe ur daily obligatory salat n u decided to marry a Muslim. Do you know how it hurt for a Muslim hubby to find out his wife does not observe salat regularly? Ur attitude is even a liability for him in regard to his faith as a Muslim. I severe my last relationship with my lady cuz she was born n brought up a Muslim but she got to Portharcourt n she got swayed by the lifestyle of her friends who are mostly Christian. I discovered she was gonna be my headache in trying to teach her Islam of which she wasn't too enthusiastic about anymore. I no get dat kain strength, I kukuma free her jejely. I no ft shout. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Enemyofpeace: 11:24pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
[quote author=obafran post=83888513]quote author=arinpe16 post=83885684]@baby124, He prays regularly and we have kids. @pharmagba Did you read the post at all? He's the one telling me that I'm not marketable again. As per obedience and humility, don't judge please. You do not know me. He doesn't set good example for me. He will pray, eat my food, have sex with me and still keep malice with me? Is that what the Qur'an says about religion? We've been together for 5 years and he didn't see it as a big deal. Why is it now that everything good is coming his way, he suddenly start seeing me as being a devil, not marketable and what not. So, I'll have to pray for him to love me and do his right? Just imagine. He can't even correct me without threatening me with divorce. Is being divorced a disease? As long as I never wish him bad and I'm trying, he should know I'll get there, but it takes time. So, i ask again, is divorce the answer? op .... a word is enough 4 d wise/quote] ![]() ![]() ![]() How does he have sex with you without you people saying something to each other throughout the session? You no scream, you don't moan, you don't shout, you don't give orders like, "push harder, let it touch my throat, bring it to the right, take it to the left,bring it back to the centre, remove my womb, are you coming, don't come yet o" and the man too doesn't moan, scream, shout or say things like zainab, you are killing me, wayo wayo, mo gbe, chai the thing is entering my brain, awusubilahi I'm ko ko ko comiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiing." which kind love making is that?you guys are just sexing like deaf and dumb couples. Even deaf and dumb still dey talk during the thing like "be be be be be,ba ba ba ba ba ba, and when they are coming they boat shout bu bu bu bu bu bu bu bu bu bu." |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by yoged(m): 11:25pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
kestolove95:you've never got reasonable things to say in your life . Your life must be cruel |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by saasala(m): 11:27pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
arinpe16: Madam, I smell doom. Please leave that marriage. Things will only get worse. This is not to make you feel good o, but if all your claims are true then you have done absolutely nothing wrong to him or his G(g)od. Walk away now. |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 11:27pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 11:29pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
the man is still firing you and eating your food? The man is not serious. he's just bullying or bluffing you! If you have no children, I would call his bluff and leave. If he comes after you good, if not good too..at least you know it was never going to work. But if you stay as things are he will end up treating you worse. The fact that he is still having sex with you and more importantly EATING your food tells me he's just being a bully!!! never marry a man more religious than you. They tend to be very controlling and intolerant. |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by ebonyhali(f): 11:29pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
I understand that it can be hard if it not part of u to pray 5times daily but u can do it if u put your heart to it....I was having same problem but I work on myself because I want to set a good example for my kids. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Omoodua007: 11:29pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Once a man starts this you have two options - leave the houses -act dumb 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by jazzykhm(m): 11:29pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
pharmagba:I fall for u oooo |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Ndipe(m): 11:31pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Its your house as well. |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Beverlyjean(f): 11:32pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
MisterGrace: Be very careful with people that give this type of advise ... Do u think u will b happy if u get a divorce ... Once again b careful with this type of people... Try to mk it work , he still very much loves u cos he still eats ur food 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by midnighter(f): 11:32pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
realoscar84: I dont see why youre bringing Christians into your failed relationship, it seems you just wanted to let off some steam. A Christian can never stop a Muslim from being a Muslim and vice versa. I even used to fast ramadan with some of my Muslim friends so just forget it Allah ysahilak 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Debaiz: 11:33pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
arinpe16: You have to be willing to start first. If it’s only wish and no will you will never start. Tell him you want to start but you’re finding it difficult that he should help you by supporting you and showing you love. His method is a bit extreme and it should be the last resort after all else has failed 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 11:33pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
your husband is using style to run for his responsibilities, did you say for over a year now? he still eats your food without dropping money? is he still slamming you under there? the guy just dey use sense ni |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 11:34pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
La ila illalahi. Awuzubilahi muna shadan mun rahin |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by johnaruson(m): 11:35pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
It's against the law signed by GEJ for your husband or anybody to send you packing without divorce. |
Re: My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home by Nobody: 11:35pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
A drunk or a smoker will marry a woman and the lady will try all her best to make him quit and when he refused, the lady comes here for help, majority of the response will be" didn't you see that before u marry him, why try to change him, so u agreed to marry him even though u don't like what he was doing, u are a pretender.......etc ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Now the table has turned. Nigerians ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
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