cricifixo:
Try adjusting woman or are you fighting God?

pharmagba:

I need to be blunt with you since you asked for my advice

You are not wise at all.
Look at the reason you are giving, that you are not praying regularly

Praying to God is a test of humility. A great man once said, "if I want to humble a man, I ask him how long he prays"
It simply means you are full of pride and very disobedient wife. You are even considering your marketability when you eventually leaves his house.
If things continue like this let me tell you what will happen, he will definitely throw you out of his life, not only his house and he will get a better lady and live happily ever after and you may also get a another husband who will also throw you out after some time. Why? Simple. It is because you will display your rotten character.


My advice if you really want to make things work
Be humble to your husband, respect and obey him. It is not to much to pray even if it is 100times daily. Any woman that humbles herself and respect her husband especially if the man is Godly, will always find favour with him. In fact such men will go out of their ways to satisfy and make her happy but if you don't respect him forget about getting any dime from him.
You have wasted so much time, start the amendment today. Thank God he had not told his parent.

A word is enough for the wise

baby124:

Praying 5 times a day is no joke. Even Christians that are mandated to pray just once sef, a lot of us don’t pray. OP is a moderate Muslim who married a conc Muslim. This is the root of the problem. The husband knew this before marriage but believes her could make her pray more. I am honestly tired of people trying to force others to change.

He accepted her as a moderate Muslim and married her, he really should not be blaming her. Rather he should be coaxing her back into a regular prayer life by example and praying as a family. In my own family my father was the prayer warrior and not my mother. But when he called for family prayer or prayer during certain occasions we must respect and join him in prayer.

There is no mandate on one spouse being the prayer warrior. Where one is weak, the other has to try their best to fill in the gap until they come to an understanding. Not by insults and threats that can do permanent damage to the marriage. She will never forget what he said and how he treated her you know?

kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense

pharmagba:

I need to be blunt with you since you asked for my advice

You are not wise at all.
Look at the reason you are giving, that you are not praying regularly

Praying to God is a test of humility. A great man once said, "if I want to humble a man, I ask him how long he prays"
It simply means you are full of pride and very disobedient wife. You are even considering your marketability when you eventually leaves his house.
If things continue like this let me tell you what will happen, he will definitely throw you out of his life, not only his house and he will get a better lady and live happily ever after and you may also get a another husband who will also throw you out after some time. Why? Simple. It is because you will display your rotten character.


My advice if you really want to make things work
Be humble to your husband, respect and obey him. It is not to much to pray even if it is 100times daily. Any woman that humbles herself and respect her husband especially if the man is Godly, will always find favour with him. In fact such men will go out of their ways to satisfy and make her happy but if you don't respect him forget about getting any dime from him.
You have wasted so much time, start the amendment today. Thank God he had not told his parent.

A word is enough for the wise

Sukueponmalu:

You know nothing about Islam.
There’s nothing as moderate or conc Muslim .
The 5 times daily prayer is not optional for muslims . It’s a cumpulsion . Each of these 5 activities barely take 5 minutes .
If she cannot do what her husband wants , then she should leave and never look back!
Aren’t no man want his kids raised in a wrong way.

Elytron1604:
frustrated people along side 31likes all frustrated. If you have no advice for her won't you tie your mouth. Organic subjects

baby124:

It did. My parents had a very good marriage. Maybe it’s because my father actually really loved my mother though. If you want to be recognized as the head of the home, you have to lead by example and guard your utterances carefully. It’s not a cheap and easy job that you can do by throwing threats and insults, like a market woman.

MisterGrace:
You have the right to live the way you want provided you aren't infringing on anyone's rights or breaking the law of the country.

You can get a man of your choice even at 35 years of age.

Your husband seems to be one of these extremists who forces their beliefs down the throats of others.

You deserve happiness.

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

midnighter:


There are moderate muslims everywhere! What are you talking about

So many of them skip prayers, drink alcohol and eat non-Halal food except in Ramadan. Are you living under a stone

Even this milad-il-nabi we are celebrating tomorrow, so many of them have never even heard of it. You can message somebody outside of Nigeria to greet them for the celebration and they will be asking you what is that

That guy should have seen the writing on the wall. That praying praying every time is too much for a lot of people even though she is supposed to be doing it

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

Sukueponmalu:

If that’s your definition of “moderate Muslim”
I guess a moderate Nigerian should be someone that breaks all the laws in the constitution.
Smh

FindingNigeria:


I wish you the best for when you eventually have your own home.

Enemyofpeace:
You dey mind her? Some people go just come dey open their dirty yansh for our face here on nairaland.



Kestolove95 is my dinner ready? Na pounded yam I want o

frozen70g:


Stop acting silly you don't know or have any experience of marriage

Cellenero:

These is insensitive from you.

kestolove95:
and who told u?

Elytron1604:
frustrated people along side 31likes all frustrated. If you have no advice for her won't you tie your mouth. Organic subjects

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

Vyolet:
He wants you be a Muslim by act and deed, you mentioned that you were not used to praying five times daily and he knows. I bet he has shown you example severally by observing the five daily salat but you still don't get the memo hence his forceful way of ensuring you observe your salat daily. It won't hurt you if you do that, especially if that's what will bring him back to you for now, you will get used to it.
I bet if it's about you wearing skimpy dresses, going down on your knees to pray over a cheating partner, you would do them with ease.

yoged:
you've never got reasonable things to say in your life . Your life must be cruel

midnighter:


Its not me, they would still define themselves as Muslims and would be offended if you said otherwise

Islam has a whole history, culture, political system as well as laws. Some people identify more with the general ideas of peace and kindness and just being a good person without feeling that they have to follow all the laws involved and truth be told, it can be difficult to do all of it without being impractical

Sukueponmalu:

You know nothing about Islam, but you’re acting like you know so much.
Keep wallowing in your ignorance .
Bye.