Sukueponmalu:

You know nothing about Islam.
There’s nothing as moderate or conc Muslim .
The 5 times daily prayer is not optional for muslims . It’s a cumpulsion . Each of these 5 activities barely take 5 minutes .
If she cannot do what her husband wants , then she should leave and never look back!
Aren’t no man want his kids raised in a wrong way.

arinpe16:


I'm not fighting God. I'm not used to praying 5 times daily before we met and he knows. I think he's only using it as an excuse. Is it enough reason to.want.a.divorce?

madridguy:
Her husband married her as a Muslim so observing her 5 times daily obligatory prayer na by force.

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

Enemyofpeace:
she was not saying the prayers 5 times when they met, he knew that and still went ahead to marry her because he was enjoying her pussssssy then, he overlooked it then, so he should overlook it now too, abi her pussssssy no sweet again? I don't think so, because him still dey fok the babe

arinpe16:
He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive.
you (not him) doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35.

madridguy:
The man still loves her reason he still chop her food, still climb her. So she should follow his instruction by praying 5 times daily.

MisterGrace:
You have the right to live the way you want provided you aren't infringing on anyone's rights or breaking the law of the country.

You can get a man of your choice even at 35 years of age.

Your husband seems to be one of these extremists who forces their beliefs down the throats of others.

You deserve happiness.

arinpe16:
Thank you everyone. I've gone through the thread and I must say that I really appreciate the criticisms, judgements, insults, abuse and all. For those that asked, he drops money for feeding alone ( sorry I didn't mention that) so, I had to cook for him. I also work and contribute to the home (to all those saying I'm dependent on a man's money at my age. Lol)

Reading through the comments has just proven to me that we have a problem in this country. How can you openly disregard another person's religion just because you weren't born in it. I'm a sociologist and I was made to understand that everything we are today is as a result of our culture.

Can we just stop fighting because of religion? It's very annoying. If you were born a Muslim, you'll practice Islamic religion and if you were born a Christian, you'll go to church. Although, you can decide to change when you grow up.

To our brothers and sisters in Islam, we're sometimes our enemy. We often believe we're perfect because we observe the 5 daily prayers but this is far from the truth. Once you do not use hijab or follow a doctrine, you become a devil.

To my Christian brothers and sisters, you see your wife as a devil once she doesn't pray from morning till night. We have a very big problem in this country and religion is one of it. We claim to be Christians and Muslims yet, we do not love ourselves.

I know praying 5 times daily is compulsory in Islam and I'll adjust and take it one step at a time (nobody can force me. I'm an adult)

arinpe16:
Thank you everyone. I've gone through the thread and I must say that I really appreciate the criticisms, judgements, insults, abuse and all. For those that asked, he drops money for feeding alone ( sorry I didn't mention that) so, I had to cook for him. I also work and contribute to the home (to all those saying I'm dependent on a man's money at my age. Lol)

Reading through the comments has just proven to me that we have a problem in this country. How can you openly disregard another person's religion just because you weren't born in it. I'm a sociologist and I was made to understand that everything we are today is as a result of our culture.

crackhaus:
My only issue here is that he's not talking to you but still eating your food.
Does that man like his life at all...

rajowski:
As some contributor here opined that this is a cooked up story to keep the nairaland family busy, it might be but this thing does happen in reality. I Am a Muslim man - married to a non-regular in worship Muslim woman like the OP. A situation like this is really a painful one for a husband because a woman is expected to be the best role model she can be for the children. It is a fact that in most cases children use most times with their mother than with the father. A non-worshipping wife will surely raise non-worshipping children. OP you need to take your solat serious for your husband, children, and your own sake. The Quran clearly states that the only difference between a Muslim and a non-muslim is the solat. You really need to work on yourself very well enter into Islam wholeheartedly to have peace with yourself and in your home. Do not give your husband a reason for a divorce or to take another wife. The aftermath is usually not pleasant.

crackhaus:
My only issue here is that he's not talking to you but still eating your food.
Does that man like his life at all...

kestolove95:
Then leave na...must u tell us? Nonsense

arinpe16:
@baby124, He prays regularly and we have kids.
@pharmagba Did you read the post at all? He's the one telling me that I'm not marketable again. As per obedience and humility, don't judge please. You do not know me.
He doesn't set good example for me. He will pray, eat my food, have sex with me and still keep malice with me? Is that what the Qur'an says about religion? We've been together for 5 years and he didn't see it as a big deal. Why is it now that everything good is coming his way, he suddenly start seeing me as being a devil, not marketable and what not.
So, I'll have to pray for him to love me and do his right? Just imagine. He can't even correct me without threatening me with divorce. Is being divorced a disease?

As long as I never wish him bad and I'm trying, he should know I'll get there, but it takes time. So, i ask again, is divorce the answer?

arinpe16:
Thank you everyone. I've gone through the thread and I must say that I really appreciate the criticisms, judgements, insults, abuse and all. For those that asked, he drops money for feeding alone ( sorry I didn't mention that) so, I had to cook for him. I also work and contribute to the home (to all those saying I'm dependent on a man's money at my age. Lol)

Reading through the comments has just proven to me that we have a problem in this country. How can you openly disregard another person's religion just because you weren't born in it. I'm a sociologist and I was made to understand that everything we are today is as a result of our culture.

Can we just stop fighting because of religion? It's very annoying. If you were born a Muslim, you'll practice Islamic religion and if you were born a Christian, you'll go to church. Although, you can decide to change when you grow up.

To our brothers and sisters in Islam, we're sometimes our enemy. We often believe we're perfect because we observe the 5 daily prayers but this is far from the truth. Once you do not use hijab or follow a doctrine, you become a devil.

To my Christian brothers and sisters, you see your wife as a devil once she doesn't pray from morning till night. We have a very big problem in this country and religion is one of it. We claim to be Christians and Muslims yet, we do not love ourselves.

I know praying 5 times daily is compulsory in Islam and I'll adjust and take it one step at a time (nobody can force me. I'm an adult). Then again, what if I pray and my intentions are devilish? People don't care about intentions, all they know how to do best is "eye-service"
Awon pretenders oshi!!!

Praying is very necessary but you can't force it on anyone. It has to come from the heart and the person has to be ready for it.

As for my husband, he's reading this thread too because I had to show him. We're still reading through and laughing together here. I believe we're fine and religion can not tear us apart.

I saw some PMs, I'm sorry I won't reply. I'll have to deactivate now because I'm a regular user of this forum.

Some people on this forum are bitter (according to my husband) and they're happy destroying homes. We'll work it together. Thanks for the advices.

arinpe16:
@baby124, He prays regularly and we have kids.
@pharmagba Did you read the post at all? He's the one telling me that I'm not marketable again. As per obedience and humility, don't judge please. You do not know me.
He doesn't set good example for me. He will pray, eat my food, have sex with me and still keep malice with me? Is that what the Qur'an says about religion? We've been together for 5 years and he didn't see it as a big deal. Why is it now that everything good is coming his way, he suddenly start seeing me as being a devil, not marketable and what not.
So, I'll have to pray for him to love me and do his right? Just imagine. He can't even correct me without threatening me with divorce. Is being divorced a disease?

As long as I never wish him bad and I'm trying, he should know I'll get there, but it takes time. So, i ask again, is divorce the answer?

crackhaus:
My only issue here is that he's not talking to you but still eating your food.
Does that man like his life at all...

aumeehn:
You are very stupid and a useless Woman. Are you sure you are a Muslim or Just pretending to be one?? I can see People advising you to pretend while at the same time practicing their own religion. Let me tell you the bitter truth with this attitude of yours you will never be happy in this world. Better turn to Allah and enjoy the favours that comes with it. Shaitan is playing ping pong with your life. @35 you don't pray regularly and you are not ashamed about it says a lot about your upbringing. besides @35 no one will ever come your way especially if he find out that you are a pretender. Hmmm Firaun will be Chilling in hell compared to you. Repent Madam and start praying. That's my only advice for you.

baby124:

See devout muslim. Hahahaha. I am sure you pray 5times daily and think you are better than the OP! . When your mouth is this vile!

aumeehn:
Yes I pray 5 times daily. and I told her nothing but the truth! I used to have same problem with the OP. but I made up my mind to establish regular prayers in no time I got used to it. Islam is not all about emotions or doing what pleases you. Islam is all about Quran Sharia and the Sunna of Prophet (S.A.W)