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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by dustydee: 12:58am On Nov 17, 2019 |
Aphrodite007:Except she is only his dependent because she wants to. She can get a tier 2 visa on her own but probably chose to be tied to him. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by RalphJean: 12:59am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: Pick up the phone. Talk to your MOTHER IN LAW. Talk to your FATHER IN LAW Hopefully, some of your wife’s siblings (whom she claims she wants to help) are in talking terms with you. You may even talk to them too. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by oyoolima: 1:02am On Nov 17, 2019 |
His family just moved and they both need to adjust their expectations Life of Nigeria won't cut it,she must be hearing from colleagues how their husbands cook and clean and she has added two plus two. Add pregnancy to it and you have personality changes within 6 months. Still doesn't explain why she won't share bills or help out. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 1:05am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: Ok. Fine. Maybe you’re not so bad after all. But this is just one side of the story. You can’t tell me she doesn’t contribute to buy food for the house. My dad owned the house, car and paid all our fees + shopping while my mum contributed in her little ways with food stuff and sometimes, she didn’t contribute because she paid for her 5 siblings to go to uni. My dad never said he was going to withdraw his support. HE IS A MAN and did the right thing for his children and family. If you can’t afford the rent in that house, move to a smaller one or house share. But you can’t tell me that if your wife wasn’t working you wouldn’t have been able to take care of a family! 7 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by claremont(m): 1:08am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: You need to also think about yourself and your mental wellbeing. I would advise you both go for a meeting with someone whom you both respect e.g parents, pastor, Imam etc. She is pregnant, some ladies tend to be temperamental when they are pregnant. Try to endure till she gives birth, her behaviour might improve. If you both still cannot get along afterwards, a trial separation might rekindle lost vows. Let's not mention the 'D' word for now. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 1:09am On Nov 17, 2019 |
dustydee: Good for her then. They should divorce then she should apply for her own. It’s just 6 months she’s losing, it’s not much. I can’t imagine what she has to go through being married to a man like that. Man that is meant to be pampering me (pregnant or not) is expecting me to... mschew let me not be angry this night. Not worth it! 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 1:13am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: I remember vividly, I discussed this issue with you months ago........ |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:14am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Aphrodite007(f): 1:19am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: Father Lord I decree and declare, that no man with such a mentality should ever set eyes on my sister, friends or unborn daughters in the Name of Jesus! I rebuke any man, that thinks with such a low mentality! Holy Ghost fire! Holy Ghost fire! You that is mean to be making breakfast for her.. God forbid bad thing! Poor woman! 8 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by EngrSaks(m): 1:26am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: This is clearly a breakdown in communication. You both need to go out on a date and talk things over, as separation is the last thing you do. I believe you are married but you and your wife are both living single lives. To be a man means to make sacrifices for the family. Pregnancy does different things to different women, so you must pay attention to your wife and her emotional needs especially now that she is with child. Make chores fun in your home, make it a time to bond, do them happily with or without her as the home belongs to both of you. Also have you discussed future finances with her? especially finances when she would have to stop work to birth your child. Dont you think she is withholding her cash for the period when she would have to stop work? In all you do always look at the big picture, decisions made in a hurry under duress are always regretted 6 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by LagosismyHome(f): 1:26am On Nov 17, 2019 |
Aphrodite007: well it obvious both parties dont care for each other ......... Despite been pregnant , if she making for herself , if she really care she will make a pack for him as well . Has nothing to do with Low Mentality however maybe something happened in the early part of the marriage that made her stop caring and switch off mentally 12 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:27am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by dustydee: 1:28am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1:Why don't you sleep in the room? Also does she not cook for you all the time or just some of the time? Because you mentioned that she cooks, surely there must be some left ove. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:37am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by dustydee: 1:37am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1:Why would you want to pay since she has agreed to pay? |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:41am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by EngrSaks(m): 1:44am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: Then offer to help her do the payment with her details if she is busy, you both need to talk more without arguing... 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by RalphJean: 1:46am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: Wait... Did you guys just contract this ‘marriage’ for the sake of migrating to the UK? Or ALL these things were happening while still in Nigeria? Was there a dating, a courtship, a wedding and now Marriage? Or it was just contract? Why do I have the feeling that if this thread is shown to your wife, and she too is able to create a faceless and untraceable moniker, we will get to hear things that you would rather not have us hear? 5 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:46am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by claremont(m): 1:47am On Nov 17, 2019 |
On a positive note, it's election season. I got into this country on the back of immigration policies by a Labour government. I studied, graduated and worked my socks off based on the liberal immigration policies of a Labour government. I'm Labour through and through, and a hardcore Corbynite. If we want free university tuition for our kids, free and quality healthcare (including dental), cost-effective utilities etc. The UK is the fifth largest economy in the world, we can afford these basic necessities. Vote Labour! 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by EngrSaks(m): 1:49am On Nov 17, 2019 |
na wa o sgtponzihater1: 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:50am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by RalphJean: 1:51am On Nov 17, 2019 |
claremont: Which yeye Labour? Labour that can’t say what they want about BreXit. Tories ALL THE WAY!! 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:51am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by RalphJean: 1:53am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: She is RIGHT. She has to change all those. You too have to buy winter clothes. Bills still MUST be settled. You guys should budget together. How were you doing this in Nigeria? Abi Una jus marry on the eve of migrating ni? 3 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:55am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by LagosismyHome(f): 1:59am On Nov 17, 2019 |
claremont: they say thereis barely enough funds to keep the nhs afloat, so realistically speaking how can the government afford this without raising taxes :free university tuition for our kids, free and quality healthcare (including dental), cost-effective utilities .............impossible, only if UK is oil rich like the middle east of those days 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by RalphJean: 2:03am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1: No matter how crap nurses are paid. Infact, even if it’s 100 naira per month. e no matter. Bros, Mek I no brag. Back in Naija, my salary was more than 400,000 naira per month. My wife was doing NYSC. She was receiving 19,000 Yet, we understood what was for chopping, what for for family support, what was for flexing and what was for saving. Her 19,000 was PART of OUR family budget. You have to discuss with your wife. Discuss with her mother. Discuss with her father. We may be in the UK, but we are CULTURED people. If indeed there was LOVE between you guys, before the marriage. Then YOU guys can dwfinitely things out. COMMUNICATION is the key. On a lighter note: If your wife was a Dentist, I would have thought she was probably paying you back for the humongous previous insults of dental students . But well, it’s possible you have heaped abuse on Nurses too and she is paying you back. On a serious Note: Talk to your in-laws. 7 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by nameoh: 2:04am On Nov 17, 2019 |
check ur mail sent u an email |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by sgtponzihater1(m): 2:07am On Nov 17, 2019 |
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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by nameoh: 2:11am On Nov 17, 2019 |
sgtponzihater1 have u check ur email and responded? |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 2:14am On Nov 17, 2019 |
claremont: We should vote for a geriatric santa?..... |
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