holaxi:

I'm thinking of breaking up because I've tried everything, I've talked to her I've scared her . In short I'm tired of everything.

Bro im in the same situation with you now..dnt breakup with her yet cos if you do she will only be gladdly embraced by the guy who has been causing u issues..dnt let that happen,try to tolerate her shit and still hold on BUT COMOT UR MIND FROM HER she is gone and lost..so better find another girl to divert ur love to sharp sharp while u still keep ur girl as a fuckmate or sidechick but dnt let her suspect that is what u are doing o,just act normal and keep taking her B.S and fucking her while u date and Bleep others outside codedly while trying to build something serious with another and until when u find another u love and can get serious with then u can dump that useless girl u dated for 2years who is ready to throw all that away for a man she barely knows..

As i dey talk to u now my babe is thinking all is well,and recently she snaps and acts rude at slight issues cos she thinks she is cute and has alot of guys waiting for her to be single..well i vex and we fight but i find a way to settle and not look weak yet im f.ucking like 4 other girls and looking for one to get serious with while this my girl might be thinking im trying to wife or marry her. I go shock am soon for all the yeye wey she carry me do cos she get toasters ready to spend their last on her..funny thing is that her jealousy no be here o,she almost broke my windscreen some days ago sef and she didnt use to be this crazy o until she realised so many guys are ready to do anything for her. But me i be bad guy..one thing i want u to have at the back of ur mind is that ur relationship is over and she probably has started f.ucking the other guy or is surely about to start to harden up ur mind and braceup for it that is why it is VERY important to get other girls and start getting sexual with them asap so u dnt get too heartbroken and f.ucked up mentally man and dnt forget try to get someone more beautiful. This is what they do to men and when we become monsters to them they will say men are scum forgetting that they drew first blood and hurt our hearts when we genuinely loved them..nothing dey happen he who laugjs last laughs best.

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

listen bro and listen carefully If I were u obviously I wouldn't be this concerned there are so many fishes in the ocean. Well I understand how deeply u feel for her but she is not your wife. Give her the space she needs and mind you as a young guy you are possibly your ball park age should be from 23-32. Fall in love with your brain not your heart.you as well should have other girls you chat with and develop a close rapport than can quickly lead into a relationship if you Want to. The girl is quite unexposed and she wants to explore let her do it ahe has find u uninteresting you start posting pictures of one single girl on your timeline and watch her response if she is truly into you she will be agitated. But don't put all your eggs in one basket

safarigirl:
truly.

I have lost count of girls I know, that in January, you knew they were dating one Femi, but by April, na Johnson dem dey marry

Girls are calculating marriage period. Three years is too long to be dating with no signs of marriage for many women, so, once they see s guy that is ready to take them off the market, they'll start second-guessing the one that is 'wasting their time'

everything about Nigeria girls is marriage marriage can't u girls think of something important then marriage I don't understand Nigerian girls at all very local that why when u go to church u see many of them what are they looking for is marriage I just trie for or na

davillian:
You apologise lmao Thats were your problem is..... Me o whether I'm right or wrong I don't apologise to anyone Its either you apologise or let the issue die a natural death..... Apologising to a woman shows hear you are weak....

bro I think I will fellow your foot steps

olaboy1:


I’m sorry to say Rilwayne is 100% right. You need to understand how the sexual market place works regard supply and demand, risks and rewards.
Don’t worry about today’s thots finding one beta provider to marry, the pool of 20-25yrs will not disappear when OP becomes more financially successful.
Btw OP women are not capable of loving a man unconditionally, there loyalty is base on Looks, Money and Status, as a matter of fact a good looking douchebag with no money or status will bang away those cute girls at the back of iya Basira shop.
Maximize your look and build a stable income, but hide your wallet and not your d!ck.

You don't av to be sorry, one thing i av come to realize is everybody av there version of truth considered right. buh i deals with facts
age 20-25 yrs gurls will all be available, infact if u are a pussy fanatic,.pussy will alway be available n sweeter than d last but what xperience as taught me is compactability is not frequent it is rare.
No matter how much u fvck around,there is time for everytin.. when u get to that level pvssy is no longer a problem u wil remember me.

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

how old are you that you don't know that once a girl you're in a committed relationship with chats/encourage a toaster it becomes a red flag?

You guys don't have any rules or barrier in relating with the opposite sex?

Sweeetheart:



you won't know when she's on or off line shows something shady is going on though she declined and swear that she's not cheating on me that it was away of not letting people know she's online but I'm finding out on Saturday. I have downloaded the app already, just want her to fall yakata in my hand before I'll take action

Bro, which app b dat?

oluwashola4me:
Bro, which app b dat?

Whatsapp web clone

Sweeetheart:




Whatsapp web clone

Thanks.
But, on Android or iOS?

oluwashola4me:
Thanks. But, on Android or iOS?

I'm using Android so it works on it

holaxi:

Thanks bro I think I've put my mind on her too much for real. I guess its time to let her be on her own for a while.

When can I buy you one bottle of beer Bro?
That's wassup

Sweeetheart:



I'm using Android so it works on it

Alright.
Thanks.

tedimola:
its the spirit of Succubus and Incubus

Lol... You saw that other story on Nairaland about succubus and incubus?!

torqque7:


Bro im in the same situation with you now..dnt breakup with her yet cos if you do she will only be gladdly embraced by the guy who has been causing u issues..dnt let that happen,try to tolerate her shit and still hold on BUT COMOT UR MIND FROM HER she is gone and lost..so better find another girl to divert ur love to sharp sharp while u still keep ur girl as a fuckmate or sidechick but dnt let her suspect that is what u are doing o,just act normal and keep taking her B.S and fucking her while u date and Bleep others outside codedly while trying to build something serious with another and until when u find another u love and can get serious with then u can dump that useless girl u dated for 2years who is ready to throw all that away for a man she barely knows..

As i dey talk to u now my babe is thinking all is well,and recently she snaps and acts rude at slight issues cos she thinks she is cute and has alot of guys waiting for her to be single..well i vex and we fight but i find a way to settle and not look weak yet im f.ucking like 4 other girls and looking for one to get serious with while this my girl might be thinking im trying to wife or marry her. I go shock am soon for all the yeye wey she carry me do cos she get toasters ready to spend their last on her..funny thing is that her jealousy no be here o,she almost broke my windscreen some days ago sef and she didnt use to be this crazy o until she realised so many guys are ready to do anything for her. But me i be bad guy..one thing i want u to have at the back of ur mind is that ur relationship is over and she probably has started f.ucking the other guy or is surely about to start to harden up ur mind and braceup for it that is why it is VERY important to get other girls and start getting sexual with them asap so u dnt get too heartbroken and f.ucked up mentally man and dnt forget try to get someone more beautiful. This is what they do to men and when we become monsters to them they will say men are scum forgetting that they drew first blood and hurt our hearts when we genuinely loved them..nothing dey happen he who laugjs last laughs best.

You think it is easy to find another girl immediately just like that?

Best thing is for him to quit the relationship but can still be her friend maybe when the meet on fbk or whatsapp.

Girls always play the victim card but they don't know how it hurt when they are the one doing it.

When girls change their mind they don't think twice.

centboy123456:



bro I think I will fellow your foot steps

I used to be quick when it comes to saying sorry in a relationship but they all took advantage of it...
As I am like this I'm giving 30% loving and she is doing 70% loving and things have been going on smoothly.
Just that they complain a lot about me about me not calling back after missed calls,me promising to come over for the weekend,me forgetting to wish her happy birthday,me forgetting to call when I get home....
So these but when you notice she is drifting away make it 50/50 and change back to 30/70 lol.
I love my gf 100% but I only show her 30% of it and sometimes 50 or 100 on rare occasions.

centboy123456:




everything about Nigeria girls is marriage marriage can't u girls think of something important then marriage I don't understand Nigerian girls at all very local that why when u go to church u see many of them what are they looking for is marriage I just trie for or na

Why will they think of anything else? When the average Nigerian respects marriage more than career success

Upon all the success the likes of Genevive and Linda Ikeji have achieved in their careers, one mumu will always come and ask if they are married, but once a woman is married, how many people care about her career?

It is the same way Nigerian men can only talk about having money all the time, because people only care about a man with money. They want to make money by any meansnecessary, because society has told them they are nothing without it.

It is what society glorifies that people focus on. Your society glorifies married women over all others, so, don't come here and act like Nigerian women haven't tried to aim for more, only for their achievements to be swept under the rug because they aren't Mrs. Somebody

As if it is not people like you that will start calling a woman Evening Newspaper because she isn't married.

My guy!!! I call you 3 good times.

Today's sense of morality has gone down for both boys and girls, and especially the girls; sex, new dating, taken out to eateries for pizza & co, sex for money and other material things, cleavage dresses to show that they are off ancient days, etc.. are the current generational attributes.

I guess your girl is still between 18-25 years If so, your girl seems to feel dull having only you all along (she's feeling too old). So she wants a taste of another person (...with new swaga and sweet mouth) to continue feeling that she's a young modern girl or to be like her caucus posting pics of new dresses and special events on social media. Most times, only those who have suffered in the hands of many Babilonian boys seem to stick with one serious guy which they see as miracle and greatest achievement.

You cannot struggle for true love, it's a waste of time. NO NEED FOR APOLOGY. IF IT'S NOT YOURS SHE'S NOT; because it can never work except the two agree. BE WARNED BEFORE YOU DIE EARLY BRO. Nna enh..

anslem04:



You don't av to be sorry, one thing i av come to realize is everybody av there version of truth considered right. buh i deals with facts
age 20-25 yrs gurls will all be available, infact if u are a pussy fanatic,.pussy will alway be available n sweeter than d last but what xperience as taught me is compactability is not frequent it is rare.
No matter how much u fvck around,there is time for everytin.. when u get to that level pvssy is no longer a problem u wil remember me.

It’s really not about fucking around, it’s about finding peace and dignity. All the societal and biological imperatives of “there is time for everything” have no bearing whatsoever. You are still trapped in the idealistic lover boy mentality that you can find a compatible partner, when in fact women date and marry pragmatically with zero recourse to compatibility.
An average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends, and they are ready to throw you under the bus at any given time whilst they monkey branch to another mumu tied by his feelings and emotions....don’t be that guy OP. Go out there and conquer the world by doing whatever makes you happy and keep women down the ladder of your “to do list”. It doesn’t mean you hate women, it’s a way to show them how much premium you have placed on yourself.
I’m so tired of men complaining about their girlfriends.

Jonathan39:
Your approach is called the masters Approach. When you dump a girl who draws too much attention from guys. She will always see you as a pro

I swear down, bro. Till now she's not gotten over it. She's indirectly begging but her pride won't let her come clean.
I don't care how beautiful or hot a girl is, once she starts messing up and do not want to own up or change, I show her the exit. I cherish my peace and sanity over beauty. I told her straight up "Your beauty and hotness just attracts we men, but your pride and character will let us run out faster than usain bolt".

Kolomkillz:
lol bold tears ��

Yo, you are seeing the level of simps around town right?

Starz825:


Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship (esp. wen they are pretty, set, good body shape- u don't need to be told guys full their dms)...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet(relax ur mind)... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint...
.but na woman go give herself Brain as she is trained and well cultured- she go surely survive temptations...some ladies dey even inform their husbands Abt any guy wey enter their dms..




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions.... whether u need to move on or make it up to her...( I realized that the lady in question is not a random girl to you.. because if she was u had moved on without coming on the platform).... serious relationship is for two matured minds - iron out issues when there is a challenge - becos there will surely be one.....

And for the people saying he should leave her and focus on career....op came on the platform for an advice concerning his relationship not career....

This guy needs an AWARD.
you too much
right words, right point.

meehn.

olaboy1:

It’s really not about fucking around, it’s about finding peace and dignity. All the societal and biological imperatives of “there is time for everything” have no bearing whatsoever. You are still trapped in the idealistic lover boy mentality that you can find a compatible partner, when in fact women date and marry pragmatically with zero recourse to compatibility.
An average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends, and they are ready to throw you under the bus at any given time whilst they monkey branch to another mumu tied by his feelings and emotions....don’t be that guy OP. Go out there and conquer the world by doing whatever makes you happy and keep women down the ladder of your “to do list”. It doesn’t mean you hate women, it’s a way to show them how much premium you have placed on yourself.
I’m so tired of men complaining about their girlfriends.

what as societal & biological got to do with sumtin as fundamental as "there is time for everything" n these applies to everytin on planet earth. where is rain now?
saying women marry without regard for compactability shows our disconnected you are from the reality ... check out couples like beyonce & jayz ,kanye west & kim, olu jacobs & joke silva, tu face & annie, my parent,davido & chioma .. if thats is not compactability made out then what is it. Gurls like money does not erase compactability, xtain marry xtain yle muslim marry muslim most times ..is that not compactability. AS woman hopin 4 an AA hubby is that not compatability.
when you clock 60yrs hope to see u dancin shanku in d club or playin video games... honestly i don't deserve a reply more like talkin to teenage boy that mistakenly read redpill

anslem04:






what as societal & biological got to do with sumtin as fundamental as "there is time for everything" n these applies to everytin on planet earth. where is rain now?
saying women marry without regard for compactability shows our disconnected you are from the reality ... check out couples like beyonce & jayz ,kanye west & kim, olu jacobs & joke silva, tu face & annie, my parent,davido & chioma .. if thats is not compactability made out then what is it. Gurls like money does not erase compactability, xtain marry xtain yle muslim marry muslim most times ..is that not compactability. AS woman hopin 4 an AA hubby is that not compatability.
when you clock 60yrs hope to see u dancin shanku in d club or playin video games... honestly i don't deserve a reply more like talkin to teenage boy that mistakenly read redpill

Compatibility is very subjective. The bottom line is women don’t play that game shit you call love. Why are successful women like Linda Ikeji and co avoiding marriage, I guess they can’t find compatible Nigerian men like you with values and morals.
You should go watch Chris Rock Netflix special Tamborine

TheGoodJoe:


Insecurity?

Chatting over 43mins with a guy who she acknowledges chased/is chasing her.

Its insecurity bro. Nothings going on but he's making it deeper than it needs to be

Windflower:


I think I can relate with the situation. Most probably, she just loves the attention the guy gives her. You know when a guy is first wooing a lady, he makes her feel so special especially if he is a funny kinda guy. I was once carried away with chatting with a guy and there was absolutely nothing between us. He was just a friend and knew i was in a relationship. He just brought newness and I just liked it.

I don't think you should take any rash decisions tho, 3years is not a joke. The likeness she has for the guy will soon wear off, just play along but don't keep your distant and don't be so conscious of the other guy because if you do, you would be giving her the opportunity to move farther away from you. That would be playing right into the guys hand.

Taaah!!! Rubbish. Is she still a baby that she doesn't know what she wants after 3 years. If she wants to move away let her move now. Op should just forget her

olaboy1:

Compatibility is very subjective. The bottom line is women don’t play that game shit you call love. Why are successful women like Linda Ikeji and co avoiding marriage, I guess they can’t find compatible Nigerian men like you with values and morals.
You should go watch Chris Rock Netflix special Tamborine

You are confuse, you don't even understand the basics of most of things we talk about.
love as nothing to do with compatability, we don't decide wu we fall in love with buh we decide who we date or marry and that is where compatability cums to play. marriage is a personal tin so why shuld compatability not b subjective
You keep rantin women like money like say we "males" no like money... if a gurl av four bf there wil be one she loves ..that very one she loves we not be gold digged as others that is anoda game women play.. av u not heard of where a gurl we bill other guys jus to give that one guy.
FIY, linda ikeji did not avoid marriage, men avoided her which is typical. she xpected marriage frm her baby daddy ..but the man backed out .. toke makinwa, toyin lawal, tonto , tiwa n co. were all once married buh we all knw dey are hoe material. i don't knw if women are d ones that find men in ur community buh in nigeria the correct tin to say is men don't find these hoes u holdup in high esteem worth of marriage cos they lack value, brain & moral.
i see hw u kip throwin d "lova boy" card is that ur ace what if i am, how does that make u beta than me, stop bin naive,

Ebonygirl1:


Some of you just don't understand women. What's sad about sending your girlfriend a message now and then to let her know you're thinking of her?
some guys can be so boring

Shatap there

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

Probed! Bros she embezzle your money?

wiseone28:
You think it is easy to find another girl immediately just like that?

Best thing is for him to quit the relationship but can still be her friend maybe when the meet on fbk or whatsapp.

Girls always play the victim card but they don't know how it hurt when they are the one doing it.

When girls change their mind they don't think twice.

Lol dnt forget im also in the same shoes so i know what im saying..yes its not easy to find a good replacement but he will find with time but for now he MUST as a matter of urgency find someone else to distract him and get sexual with her,its because i have not found the type of girl i want to marry thats y i have not dumped my gf plus some other issues,she is unpredictable when angry,type of girl that can kill me and kill herself no jokes, so im cutting off gradually but i get like 4girls im distracted with for now.

Na their normal way to play victim na cos they are very selfish and think of themselves alone,they cant take it yet they can dish it out to men. Anyway there are still great women out there o and thats what we are praying for everyday to meet one of the good ones.

henriettttta:


Who told u this??

little animal dod u pass ur jamb