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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by luminouz(m): 11:28pm On Nov 24, 2019
*sighs*


Another wailing thread. These are becoming common as Xmas draws nearer. grin

No one owes you anything. Humans will always be humans. Interest comes first, love(or any of it's variants) come a distant second. Only a few escape this vicious cycle.
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by mosallah(m): 11:28pm On Nov 24, 2019
SouthSouth1914:
My girlfriend caught me recently. She says she can’t breakup.., she says she is still in the relationship! But I don’t want to date myself.. angry
grin.. Date ur sef
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by DCmonster: 11:30pm On Nov 24, 2019
I don't do relationships, I only Bleep any girl I want. So I have no advice or Bleep to give.If you need advice on how to Bleep any guy you want lemme know.
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by mosallah(m): 11:32pm On Nov 24, 2019
aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?


I caught my girlfriend recently cheating on me but I pretended as if nothing happened because I don't even know what to do.. We are in a relationship of almost 3 years. Am broken

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by yungade: 11:45pm On Nov 24, 2019
Guys this is exactly what am facing presently. but i have forgiven her , because i have done such thing during the relationship , but still doubting her if she is not gonna do such again..
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Tedpgrass: 11:46pm On Nov 24, 2019
franchasng:
Women by nature are wired to forgive a cheating partner while men by nature are configured not to forgive or easily forgive a cheating partner, it is all nature at work even though feminists and gender equality nonsense preachers are trying so hard to make it look otherwise, but we cannot cheat nature.

Hillary Clinton forgave Bill Clinton for cheating, I am sure Bill Clinton wouldn't have been able to forgive Hillary if it was Hillary that cheated on him to his knowledge, that is nature working.


Israeli President cheated on his wife with a staff of the Presidential villa, his wife forgave him and welcomed him with love, I am sure if it was the wife, he wouldn't forgive.

Its not because men don't value their partners but it is in their DNA, and we can only try to make them conform to societal standards created by man, but it will never work for majority of men.

Take a look at animal kingdom, the male lion dare not share the female lions in his den or territory with any other male lion, if any dare, its either one or both of them die fighting whereas one male lion will be the one mating and impregnating all the female lions in its den.


Same applies to goats, poultry, etc, etc.

So my advice to ladies is, once u have made up your mind to cheat on your man, be prepared to end the relationship or marriage if caught because 99.99% of both black, white, Arab or Asian men won't forgive a cheating partner


Hmmmm, I disagree to a point about men being unable to forgive.

If it's a mature relationship and the man identifies that the lady cheated singularly as a consequence of his actions, the avenue of compromise and restitution should be sought. Afterall, no one's is perfect. Its hushed up and let bygones be bygones...

But in cases of unabated coded cheating, I'd say she's got what's coming to her.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by luminouz(m): 11:47pm On Nov 24, 2019
mosallah:


I caught my girlfriend recently cheating. I jus?retend as if nothing happened.. Saw her chat with another Bleep boy. Really broke my heart

I know how you must feel even though I have never been cheated on.
My philosophy in life is simple: love yourself so good that nothing anyone does will make you feel so bad as to give up on life. Never trust too much or rely on anyone else but YOU. Keep an open optimistic mind but be ready for disappointments because no one, not even your own mother, would love you greater than that you have for yourself.

One simple test I gave all my ladies was this.

Will you still stay with me if my diick is cut off? Their answers have differed but in the end, they said they won't stay till the end. I gave them options of IVF, surrogacy and adoption. None took them. To them, a diickless man is a useless man. And all of them told me they loved me. What y'all call love is all about interest and personal goals. . Irritation and emotional trauma would overwhelm reason and the so-called beautiful union ends up in tatters.
Only a few humans ever transcend this natural inclination...and I'm one of them!

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by fireback: 11:50pm On Nov 24, 2019
I forgive one sometime. Latter she started acting as if I can not live without her. At times, when we have quarrel, she will threating to cheat. She knew I love her so much. But the day I finally open mouth and told her it's over between us, she could not believe her ears that day.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by bogdaddy(m): 11:54pm On Nov 24, 2019
That’s interesting, you are my type of woman.
pocohantas:
I will forgive him.

I honestly do not see the need to let him off so easily. Where is the fun in that? There should be some level of torment.

C'mon! smiley



Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by onadana: 11:55pm On Nov 24, 2019
Youngearnny:
I did it once and i regret, she started acting as if i was caging her. A cheater will always be a cheater no matter what. And moreover, cheating takes a long process to be called a mistake. Once you caught your partner cheating, i guess the best is to let go...

You can let go if you have never cheated too.It takes Grace not to cheat.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Slynation(m): 12:01am On Nov 25, 2019
WriterX:


lol I understand you brother.
Don't mind me am sounding this way shaah, as innocent as my heart, na 2 babes take am do yeye, So i trained myself to expecting anything from any girl...
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Vince77(m): 12:02am On Nov 25, 2019
No, but someone just forgave me grin grin grin
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Slynation(m): 12:10am On Nov 25, 2019
Twoclans:
@ OP the answer is yes ,I was dating one of the hottest guys on campus while I was at the university .The relationship was not a sexual one just normal hugs and sweet talks but yes I loved him to the moon and back .

He was a lectures kid and stayed in the parents boys quarters ,I am the type that when I date you I can count how many times I will ever come to your apartment I have that character up till tommorrow.This faithful day I just decided to go to his house ,I knocked and went in hmmmmmm my guy had imported chic for the night .I just drew a seat and sat down in my mind we die here today .After ten minutes he had to tell the lady to leave ,that girl hated me from the depth of her heart after that incidence. And i enjoyed myself for a long time with the plenty begging , petting and blackmail from my end.

Guss what?After that incidence we still went on to date for so long until destiny played a trick on us, we are still the best of friends .

UNN Bello Hall room 327 will never forget our love affair . wink
One thing u should understand about Men is that if you deny them sex, they will definitely get it somewhere else....lemme ask you this "If Sex is not Important in a Relationship, then why is Cheating Painful"?? U lucky he's not my kinda guy, I swear i would av chase u away from that room, You can't deny me of Sex and at the same time i will not also cheat in peace.... But on a second thought, you dated one of the Hottest guy on Campus without sex, my dear the unapologetic truth was that u were dating yourself.... grin
#Nice DP tho

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by OROSUNBOLB(m): 12:15am On Nov 25, 2019
I hate being taken for a ride! I won't forgive and forget such deceitful act. I will fix the two dirty bastards permanently. I have a case at hand now that I'm working on and by the time I'm done with that idi0t,there will certainly be gnashing of teeth and tears of sorrow in his households. You don't send unscrupulous messages to my wife at odd hours in the name of being a business partner or friend!

KOROFO won't forgive me if I don't treat your Bleep-up and put you where stinking fools like you deserve. Your G-nut is soaked in kokoma already and you must chop am.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Slynation(m): 12:20am On Nov 25, 2019
osamson:
I was a victim, I read my girlfriend's chat while she thought she was charging her phone.
Then I saw: 'one time sex isn't enough' on one of her chat contact - someone who she often told me was her cousin. I did a screenshots of the chats and sent it to my phone deleting it from hers.
I didn't say anything immediately, infact, I took her out the next day after I saw the chat. Then I waited two days after thinking about the whole issue whether to get my share and flee. But I opened up, she wanted to act smart but I had to let her know what's up, she later started crying and begging. Story cut short...
I just wanted to prove to her that my love for her was genuine, so I forgave her and we moved on.
Why won't you forgive her when u haven't collected (in your word) your own share grin
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by squarelead(m): 12:30am On Nov 25, 2019
Bodaolawrites:
To me... Cheating pays for Men and Never for a Woman... I don't know how you may see this... But that's the thing. I can't have it in my head that at one pint in time, my girlfriend fvck a particular guy and we reconciled... Laye! Kole Shele! Ko oriburuku e kuro ninu aye mi! Eleribu, OkoLabi undecided

Sincerely, that's just the point. Giving another guy ring tone. How I Wan take handle am, except say I no know

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Jordan222: 12:45am On Nov 25, 2019
Yes. I believe No one is perfect and above mistake. However, if a cheating partner realises his/her wrong deeds and he/she is forgiven, then it's a second chance and should not be misused. Even God forgives us, but i believe the best appology is a changed behaviour. Once is a mistake, twice is a coincidence but thrice is an habit/ intentional.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Billyanger(m): 12:53am On Nov 25, 2019
Naturally as a hot boy I'm a serial cheat, but i can't tolerate cheating grin
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Jeffjay247(m): 1:01am On Nov 25, 2019
Emilokoiyawon:


Or her ex d1ck was stronger and longer lasting than yours.
Thunder fire u!
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by AK481(m): 1:02am On Nov 25, 2019
Bodaolawrites:
To me... Cheating pays for Men and Never for a Woman... I don't know how you may see this... But that's the thing. I can't have it in my head that at one pint in time, my girlfriend fvck a particular guy and we reconciled... Laye! Kole Shele! Ko oriburuku e kuro ninu aye mi! Eleribu, OkoLabi undecided

Guys are known to fucck and not cheat

Girls will fucck with their emotions, except olosho.

The thing about cheat is not the sex, it’s the care and emotion tied to it.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by cuteralph101(m): 1:26am On Nov 25, 2019
aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?
i did once, caught her twice. Became a free agent. F*cked pussy like stolen sugarcane. When she started being loyal i left with the wind

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by ATTemi: 1:37am On Nov 25, 2019
It takes a man with balls 2 forgive and continue with the relationship!
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Nobody: 1:43am On Nov 25, 2019
No man should tolerate cheating from his woman, no matter what justification she tries to use. A woman cheating cannot be justified in any way, it is better she goes to the other guy permanently if she has a problem with you.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by martinzjay(m): 1:47am On Nov 25, 2019
I thought I will never forgive a cheating girlfriend until the girl I madly loved acted funny.
Normally I see cheating in a relationship as a normal thing until I met this girl who mad me believe I can actually have one girl friend. She made me believe that if I ever betray her trust that it’s all over.
When she went for NYSC I noticed she started acting funny by missing my calls and giving excuses. She told me she will be lodging with a female friend after passing out from camp and I suspected that she wants to Bleep with camp boyfriend and when I called that night she told me that she later went to one family church lodge for corpers because all her camp girlfriends wants to party....imagine aunty forming saint for me oo...
Recently I visited her in Abuja with out telling her that I’m coming only to ask her to come outside and take what my cousin bought for her and she came out with one guy around 9pm and I was shocked because her sister whom she is staying with traveled that weekend.
On seeing me she couldn’t believe it and I did as if I’m a casual friend and handed her the cake I bought for her,told her goodnight and she turned to leave...I couldn’t believe my eyes....this is a girl that made me believe she can die for me.
I called her back and asked who was the guy and as if her senses came back she started begging me and that the guy was just a neighbor whom she asked to accompany her to the junction since it’s late and the guy sensing the misunderstanding left the scene.
I had never been SHOCKED in my life but I just have to forgive her even though I thought she cheated because I can never believe my girl can walk out on me because of an ordinary neighbor.
Secondly I cannot break a relationship after spending close to 10hours on the road for it.
So since that day,I made up my mind that we are all cheats especially when not together,no matter how you see it.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Emilokoiyawon: 1:51am On Nov 25, 2019
Jeffjay247:

Thunder fire u!

Calm down joor...ordinary joke u no fit take...no wonder she left u cheesy
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by shege45: 2:02am On Nov 25, 2019
OROSUNBOLB:
I hate being taken for a ride! I won't forgive and forget such deceitful act. I will fix the two dirty bastards permanently. I have a case at hand now that I'm working on and by the time I'm done with that idi0t,there will certainly be gnashing of teeth and tears of sorrow in his households. You don't send unscrupulous messages to my wife at odd hours in the name of being a business partner or friend!

KOROFO won't forgive me if I don't treat your Bleep-up and put you where stinking fools like you deserve. Your G-nut is soaked in kokoma already and you must chop am.
lol baba abeg calm down.
Two wrongs no make right bro

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by shege45: 2:07am On Nov 25, 2019
I once forgave a cheating partner. I was serving and she was in school, we were in different states.
But that was then, I cannot do that now. Once you cheat, it’s over. If you catch me too end am

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by ussy09(m): 2:27am On Nov 25, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


with all due respect..... this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with true love, and all to do with STOOPIDITY. if a man truly loved "you" he would respect you (and/or your relationship), and not going to hurt you (and/or your relationship) by going to sleep with other people. you probably loved him, but its evident that such man didnt love you.

true love would have stopped this man from cheating on you...FACT!
why are u sounding as if you don't know that men can have s*x without feeling anything with d person involve and still love his woman, his just been a man

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by boja28(m): 3:55am On Nov 25, 2019
Birdeyeview:

I honestly understand your own perpective of what true love mean to you...
as humans and imperfect we are all prone to err against eachother. so what's true love without forgiveness instead of habouring resentments..
everyone is entitiled to his/her opinion.

Your phrases sounded more like a JW, are you one?

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by oyalunasamuel(m): 4:26am On Nov 25, 2019
I’m really sorry about your loss. You see it all depends. I forgave my ex when I found out she was cheat. My love for her was unconditional. I felt it was much more easier to patch a leaking roof than start a new building but I was wrong. She started taking me for granted, she became controlling and all that even put it to my face that it was her decision to have sex and she felt good about it. Bleep! She left me eventually. I was broken for over a year.
I’m healed now but i swore NEVER A AGAIN. You’d be gone the moment I realize you even thought about cheating.

Birdeyeview:
YES!
so many of y'all do not know the real meaning of true LOVE.
i once dated a guy from Minnesota for 3 years (white skinned), our relationship was a transparent one at that... one time we had a huge argument which led to 2 month of not been in touch. we loved eachother irrespective of our flaws and then decided to bury the hachet and get back together... while we were together he revealed to me how he cheated and with whome (of which i never knew)...
i forgave him because he pleaded and vauge never to repeat it anymore.. it was painful to let go but i had to because i always loved him no matter what... i still do although i lost him to cancer 2017.
my point is; true love never fails and should set no bounds. forgiveness and not keeping an account of any injury should be part of the motivating factors in any outstanding relationship...
ps; forgive my typographical errors if need be.

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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by oyalunasamuel(m): 4:28am On Nov 25, 2019
oyalunasamuel:
I’m really sorry about your loss. You see it all depends. I forgave my ex when I found out she was cheat. My love for her was unconditional. I felt it was much more easier to patch a leaking roof than start a new building but I was wrong. She started taking me for granted, she became controlling and all that even put it to my face that it was her decision to have sex and she felt good about it. Bleep! She left me eventually. I was broken for over a year.
I’m healed now but i swore NEVER AGAIN. You’d be gone the moment I realize you even thought about cheating.

Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Nobody: 4:44am On Nov 25, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


with all due respect..... this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with true love, and all to do with STOOPIDITY. if a man truly loved "you" he would respect you (and/or your relationship), and not going to hurt you (and/or your relationship) by going to sleep with other people. you probably loved him, but its evident that such man didnt love you.

true love would have stopped this man from cheating on you...FACT!

Ewu. Gerrout.

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