jseth:
Kudos to you bro, dis life is to sweet and short to bother urself because of tinx like dis. D ryt girl dat will love u whole heartedly and respect ur feelings will cum so dont let d incident disturb u because d ryt person meant for you wil cum.

Seenyo:
It's crystal clear the bitch plotted the whole drama to humiliate you!

#from experience.

DominusPrime:

To collect money for offering ke? I wasn't going to say a thing cos I felt you handled it well and like a man but seeing this made me realise you were going to marry a girl who cannot be satisfied with one man. If at this level she still depends on you for offering money then she isn't near ready for marriage. You ought to enrol her in a school first or set up a business for her. It won't stop her cheating nature but it will move her to the next level of life

SmellingAnus:
you mean she has commented on this thread?

Depressed101:
oga how many times will you reply me, since you said you are OK.,fine.. You are you and not me.. Thank you for the rejected advice.. Now kindly don't mention me again, I hereby withdraw my statement. Are you OK now..

rozario01:
A virgin has no ex to worry about you are her first love and that bond between you two will be very strong imaging two virgins getting married that y our parent marriage stud the test of time couse our mothers kept them selvs you cant compare their marriage to our generation where most marriage breakeup are caused by ex for a lady to keep her self against all temptation in the uni and her day to day live with many toasters you as a man will have total trust for her i know of many marriage with out the fruit of the woumb but the husband stud by the wife because her met her a virgin most of them thould me, imagine if she had many ex the husband may think they cant have a child due to an abortion she may have commited in the past so my brother not being a virgin does not mean a lady is bad but.......virgins should mary virgins

Ryocaj:

Wen did it get this bad.. no love anymore.. everyone just using ppl 2 their own benefits..

Respect55:

U need a bottle of water

Respect55:

Thrash what exactly other than what I saw with my two eyes?
Sorry I won't

Respect55:

Freedom is really sweet. My silence is the beginning of my onw wrath. She doesn't exist to me anymore

Depressed101:
and you too.. Guy chill stop mentioning me

midnighter:


It's up to you sir, just a piece of advice

Respect55:

There is this inner peace I feel now when I slept and woke up

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WackyJ1:


And who said that there must have been something he did wrong that made her cheat?

What if she just wanted to double date?
What if she was greedy and wanted someone to spend more money on her. Which is most likely the case because she was caught while the boyfriend was delivering a gift to her.

You see what you're doing is what most manipulative girls do.

They don't want to take responsibility for their actions and they try to make it appear like it was something the guy did that made them react in that manner.

But it is not.

If the solution to every flaw is not cheating then why should he give a Bleep about her solution?

Let me spell this out for you clearly.

He was cheated on

Read that again.

Now read that a second time.

In case you still don't understand after reading it two times, I will explain.

It means that he was the one that was wronged .

It means that he was the one that was betrayed

He is the one that was hurt

She was looking out for her own interests when she cheated.

He gains nothing by signifying her with meeting him.

That's some cold logic for you.

Your advice is the problem Most men encounter when seeking advice from women in this matter.

Why are you contradicting yourself?
If he is done with her why will he go back to meet her?

When you want a divorce and you hate their guts.

You move out and send a lawyer. Let the lawyers sort things out.

If they refuse, y'all sort it out in Court.

Beside this is not a divorce situation.

Go to ask the girl

"what did I do wrong that made you cheat on me"

Is dumb and your advice favors the girl because it allows her to remove some guilt from her conscience by blaming the guy.

If these are actual physical items that she forgot in his place, perhaps they were living together before she did what she did (Which further implies that kind of dangerous character that she is), then he should simply call her to come collect her things.

WackyJ1:
Go to ask the girl
"what did I do wrong that made you cheat on me"

WackyJ1:
If these are actual physical items that she forgot in his place, perhaps they were living together before she did what she did (Which further implies that kind of dangerous character that she is), then he should simply call her to come collect her things.

SmellingAnus:
Lol... You don't know them... I met a virgin that fell in love with me during my youth service... I never had sex or took advantage of her ... I only banged her long after service when she had lost it .. today she is married and she is still inlove with me... She had once traveled with pregnancy just to come and receive the dvck but I dodged... She has practically confessed that she had to imagine fvcking me before enjoying sex with her husband... My brother... Virgins are more complicated than you think... I have met many of them in my life time maybe because I don't like them and nature has a way of bringing to you what you actually don't like...

LordOfTheWeed:

This is the olosho that cheated on the OP!!!
My instinct never fails me....

LordOfTheWeed:

This is the olosho that cheated on the OP!!!
My instinct never fails me....

midnighter:


I don't think you really read what I wrote.

I didn't say that he must have done something wrong, or that it was a justification for cheating. I said that it is possible that he has done something wrong, which she responded to by cheating. In fact I said that twice already, so I don't understand why you keep repeating it.

You're doing what most overly-emotional guys do, which is totally throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just because you don't like what the girl did and you want to punish her, you're advising the OP in the wrong direction.

Gaining closure over a situation is more important than inflicting pain on the other person. Read it through, 10 times!

Its actually your own advice that doesn't make any sense. If he's done with her then how does it harm him to go and clear up the mess, for his own sake She wasn't the only person in the relationship, stop acting as if they're playing a game and trying to score cheap points against each other.

Hahaha! "Y'all move out and send a lawyer"! In the united states of Akwanga right? When have divorce negotiations in Nigeria ever been simple as that? Even if you don't see each other, you still have to explain the whole thing to your family so that they will grab. Or am I talking to oyibo?



Who is telling him to go and ask her this You're just being sentimental and that's the whole problem. Your dumb advice is going to land people in hot water because you're thinking of how best to spite the girl and not how to handle the situation maturely.

This is somebody who was planning to go to marriage class next month for crying out loud! Why are you injecting so many unnecessary Machiavellian machinations into a simple meeting He has already achieved victory over her here so no need for all that.



It was just a metaphor.

midnighter:


I don't think you really read what I wrote.

I didn't say that he must have done something wrong, or that it was a justification for cheating. I said that it is possible that he has done something wrong, which she responded to by cheating. In fact I said that twice already, so I don't understand why you keep repeating it.

midnighter:

You're doing what most overly-emotional guys do, which is totally throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just because you don't like what the girl did and you want to punish her, you're advising the OP in the wrong direction.

Gaining closure over a situation is more important than inflicting pain on the other person. Read it through, 10 times!

Its actually your own advice that doesn't make any sense. If he's done with her then how does it harm him to go and clear up the mess, for his own sake She wasn't the only person in the relationship, stop acting as if they're playing a game and trying to score cheap points against each other.

midnighter:


Who is telling him to go and ask her this You're just being sentimental and that's the whole problem. Your dumb advice is going to land people in hot water because you're thinking of how best to spite the girl and not how to handle the situation maturely.

WackyJ1:


If it doesn't "justify" it then why are you mentioning it?
Why then are you suggesting he talks to her and finds out what it is?




Let me ask you.

What wrong direction are you saying that we are advising the OP in?

My own advice is to simply never see the girl again.

What closure do you want him to get in this situation?


He handled the situation maturedly already.

Answer the question I asked above, let me understand where you are coming from.

Respect55:

She will come as a wife

WackyJ1:


If it doesn't "justify" it then why are you mentioning it?
Why then are you suggesting he talks to her and finds out what it is?

WackyJ1:
Let me ask you.

What wrong direction are you saying that we are advising the OP in?

My own advice is to simply never see the girl again.

What closure do you want him to get in this situation?

WackyJ1:

He handled the situation maturedly already

WackyJ1:


Your username looked Familiar and then I checked my other account and I realized that we have had an interaction before there around January 2018.

Is this the same girl that you did not see for seven months that you were scared of losing?

midnighter:


I mentioned it as part of a wider point about closure, which you decided to seize on. I said that he should find out what drove her to do what she did, a possible reason being his doing something wrong. That's just one thing she might say.

Am I the two-timing woman Do I know why she may or may not have done what she did?

midnighter:
That's the point of talking to her, to hold her accountable for her actions. How do you hold somebody accountable unless you get their points?

midnighter:

I'm suggesting he talks to her to get a clear narrative of what really happened and the reason why it happened. That's not too much to ask is it?

midnighter:


Why not go and talk to her, if only to warn her never to show her shameless face in his sisters house again?

OgaMosco:
You made the right decision, but I hope you stand your ground, cos if your sister loves her, my dear you're in for a long ride, cos your elder sister would come begging on her behalf and you wouldn't want disrespect your elder sister.
This relationship is far from being over unless you stand you ground.

WackyJ1:

You are not the two-timing woman yet why is it that the only possible reason you keep repeating that may be responsible for her cheating is a response to him doing something wrong ?
No other possible reason like the one I mentioned about her being greedy, wanting to explore, or wanting someone to give her money and gifts like the new guy was doing. Reasons that are on her and have nothing to do with the guy?

Yet, all you keep saying is that she cheated as a response to something the guy did.
and that he should make the effort to find out what he did wrong .

That is what I have a problem with.
You're subliminally passing potential responsibility to the guy for her cheating.
There are a lot of ways she could have reacted rather than cheating and the fact that she didn't choose either one of those ways makes her unworthy of being talked to in the name of closure.

All the closure he needs is that she is a Lying manipulative cheating B.tch.
That's all.



You don't have to know someone's reasons before you hold them accountable for their actions.
All they have to do is cross your boundaries after you have warned them about what would happen if they do. And then you hold them accountable by actually doing what you said you were going to do.


"Hey baby, Why did you cheat on me?"

"Why did you lie to me?"

"Was I not good enough for you"

How does asking her why she cheated make sense to you?

Have you been cheated on before?

Did you ask why?

Was the exercise productive?




This I agree with.

He can also explain to her (his elder sister) exactly what he said in this thread and that is all the understanding she needs.

Daviddson:
Do you know if she even set it up herself to see the guy's reaction and probably cement their love? LOL. Just kidding.
I advise him to keep an open mind, because it could turn out differently.

WackyJ1:


If it doesn't "justify" it then why are you mentioning it?
Why then are you suggesting he talks to her and finds out what it is?




Let me ask you.

What wrong direction are you saying that we are advising the OP in?

My own advice is to simply never see the girl again.

What closure do you want him to get in this situation?


He handled the situation maturedly already.

Answer the question I asked above, let me understand where you are coming from.