Please this no be joke. My parents have had a rough path for 17 years now and a marriage of 27 years.

Things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and wants to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child. My father is well to do so she wants to know her choices, what she stands to gain or lose along the process.

Please my lawyers in the house help out.

Hope they are legally married, let her discuss with a good lawyer before moving out.... God will see her through

Yes 6children isnt illegal and he paid her bride price traditional as it was done by our fore fathers and this was recognised by all that they where married

2special:
Hope they are legally married, let her discuss with a good lawyer before moving out.... God will see her through

Reffone:
Please this be no joke my parents have had a rough path for 17years now and a marriage of 27years things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and want to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child, my father is well to do so she wants to know her choices what she stands to gain or lose along the process please my lawyers in the house help out

Since you her children are grown up, she may have nothing to gain monetarily or property wise. This is Nigeria!
And why is she thinking of what what she stands to gain if she divorces ?

In the end, it's all about the Benjamins.

Still got two underage won't they count

dawnomike:
Since you her children are grown up, she may have nothing to gain monetarily or property wise. This is Nigeria!
And why is she thinking of what what she stands to gain if she divorces ?

Always a complicated issue,there are questions only your mom can answer by seeing a Good lawyer and what about your extended families, what are they saying about the divorce issue.

Bro strange women are real and they are demons

iPrevail:
In the end, it's all about the Benjamins.

You better talk to ur mum to calm down and play along for the sake of her children.since your dad is well to do.before the very manipulative woman manipulate him into writing his will against the will of GOD for you guys.

Reffone:
Still got two underage won't they count

The underage will get child support from their child which is alway very meager for their upkeep and education. There will be no provision for your mum except she has a good case of investment in the money making venture in the home.

Because she helped build all they have and he is with a maimi water woman lavishing the money forgetting old age

dawnomike:
Since you her children are grown up, she may have nothing to gain monetarily or property wise. This is Nigeria!
And why is she thinking of what what she stands to gain if she divorces ?

Reffone:
Yes 6children isnt illegal and he paid her bride price traditional as it was done by our fore fathers and this was recognised by all that they where married

This still doesn't make it legal

Reffone:
Because she helped build all they have and he is with a maimi water woman lavishing the money forgetting old age

How does a person that help build the empire not have money of her own so much so that she has to depend on marriage severance to be able to cope on her own?
You think it's by staying at home and catering for children that translatea to "help build" right?
What kind of woman will want to divorce and risk it after enduring for 27years?
Will a capitalist do that?of course not!So how come a non capitalist is claiming she HELP BUILD?
No make me vex ooo!if I talk wetin dey my mind you no go happy.
Better tell her to calm down and allow you guys enjoy your possessions,else she'll have herself to blame.

Only 2 questions...

1. Are you mommy's special adviser

2. Does mommy know you just poured out all your family trashes here on nairaland trashland to be looked at by dead men who are also striving and praying on a daily for devine restoration as well






Pukes*

Best advice comes from critics and people u don't know, no bad blood but we all learn daily

iInjureHerYansh:
Only 2 questions...

1. Are you mommy's special adviser

2. Does mommy know you just poured out all your family trashes here on nairaland trashland to be looked at by dead men who are also striving and praying on a daily for devine restoration as well






Pukes*

2special:
Always a complicated issue,there are questions only your mom can answer by seeing a Good lawyer and what about your extended families, what are they saying about the divorce issue.

its not complicated at all if we take out corruption, she get half of what they aquired during the marriage

The problem is that most people are not educated to know their basic rights in marriage

And cultural route is biased towards women

Reffone:
Because she helped build all they have and he is with a maimi water woman lavishing the money forgetting old age

your mom will lose. she's weighing her options seeing she's on the brink of losing almost everything. Your mom keeps fighting your dad while your dad can't get enough of the other woman for being his solace. 17 yrs on, she's been standing strong for your dad while your mom pushes him far away from home. I didn't know what must have transpired but knowing that your mom wanted everything to herself makes her a little bit selfish.

Reffone:
Please this be no joke my parents have had a rough path for 17years now and a marriage of 27years things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and want to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child, my father is well to do so she wants to know her choices what she stands to gain or lose along the process please my lawyers in the house help out

Let young girls of nowadays learn from stories like these.

Reffone:
Bro strange women are real and they are demons

The man is the demon here. Not the “strange woman”.

He went after her and married her ignoring, humiliating and disrespecting his family. Put the blame where it belongs.

Lawyer for what exactly?

Yes she helped him build it. If he had to stay home to raise their kids, he wouldn’t be able to achieve what he did. That’s a fact.

Her contributions are valid and equal to his. Unless he considers the money to be worth more than his children and family. She birthed and raised them for the family. That’s a significant contribution to the family.

We look down on that because it’s women who do it.
because we are raised to not respect women and their efforts.

Reason why I can never encourage a woman to listen to her husband and stay at home in the name of being submissive. Unless that’s her choice made out of her free will.

After you spend your youth working to raise and keep the home, it’s discarded as nothing and you have to be dependent and subservient. begging for what’s rightfully yours. Even enduring disrespect so that you won’t lose out.

Logobenz:
How does a person that help build the empire not have money of her own so much so that she has to depend on marriage severance to be able to cope on her own?
You think it's by staying at home and catering for children that translatea to "help build" right?
What kind of woman will want to divorce and risk it after enduring for 27years?
Will a capitalist do that?of course not!So how come a non capitalist is claiming she HELP BUILD?
No make me vex ooo!if I talk wetin dey my mind you no go happy.
Better tell her to calm down and allow you guys enjoy your possessions,else she'll have herself to blame.

Logobenz:
How does a person that help build the empire not have money of her own so much so that she has to depend on marriage severance to be able to cope on her own?
You think it's by staying at home and catering for children that translatea to "help build" right?
What kind of woman will want to divorce and risk it after enduring for 27years?
Will a capitalist do that?of course not!So how come a non capitalist is claiming she HELP BUILD?
No make me vex ooo!if I talk wetin dey my mind you no go happy.
Better tell her to calm down and allow you guys enjoy your possessions,else she'll have herself to blame.

I hope the ladies are learning ooo

They said staying at home and taking care of kids doesn't translate to helping the man build.

American wonder.

cococandy:
Yes she helped him build it. If he had to stay home to raise their kids, he wouldn’t be able to achieve what he did. That’s a fact.

Her contributions are valid and equal to his. Unless he considers the money to be worth more than his children and family. She birthed and raised them for the family. That’s a significant contribution to the family.

We look down on that because it’s women who do it.
because we are raised to not respect women and their efforts.

Reason why I can never encourage a woman to listen to her husband and stay at home in the name of being submissive. Unless that’s her choice made out of her free will.

After you spend your youth working to raise and keep the home, it’s discarded as nothing and you have to be dependent and subservient. begging for what’s rightfully yours. Even enduring disrespect so that you won’t lose out.

It is what it is

Plead:



It is what it is

It can change. Maybe not for his mom’s generation but
I hope young girls are learning

Let her contact a lawyer to see what her options are. Your father is going through midlife crises. He has a lot of money now and thinks he’s the most handsome. Plus he can attract any woman. Don’t worry, he will still marry more.

Let your mother fight for what she can right now because, he may lose it all with his new outlook on life. Then he will look for you people to cater for his carcass and bury him. This happens in 90% of these kinds of cases.

cococandy:


It can change. Maybe not for his mom’s generation but
I hope young girls are learning

Which young girls? you live in USA not Nigeria.


The young girls you’re talking about have only marriage on their mind during nysc and after serving the next thing is to rush into marriage ,they don’t care about having 50k in their account sef and will be very happy staying at home as housewives.


Forget all these internet talks ....in real life, most Nigerian women are still dependent on men, ‘only few are bread winners,well to do/ financially stable, or even have the mindset to make their own money and liberal’.

There’s a reason why it is so. (The marriage as a priority aspect). And @bold is a lie.

But again living wherever doesn’t change the validity of my point. Young girls can learn to say no to dependence in the name of being good wives who want to put their homes first to their own detriment . instead of being told that’s the way it is and there’s nothing they can do about it. They can be taught differently.

It’s almost as if we are too happy to point out the problem but reluctant to do anything about it.

Plead:


Which young girls? you live in USA not Nigeria.


The young girls you’re talking about have only marriage on their mind during nysc and after serving the next thing is to rush into marriage ,they don’t care about having 50k in their account sef and will be very happy staying at home as housewives.

Forget all these internet talks ....in real life, most Nigerian women are still dependent on men, ‘only few are bread winners,well to do/ financially stable, or even have the mindset to make their own money and liberal’.

cococandy:
There’s a reason why it is so. The marriage as a priority aspect.

And @bold is a lie.

Really?

cococandy:

Let young girls of nowadays learn from stories like these.

No woman benefits from being the come up woman. No woman benefits from ', building' with a man. No woman benefits from self sacrifice where a man is concerned.

funmisticqueen:
No woman benefits from being the come up woman. No woman benefits from ', building' with a man. No woman benefits from self sacrifice where a man is concerned.

There are two ways for a woman to build with her husband. She can either help build the family or help build the empire the man acquired. If she is just the staying at home woman without no significant input towards the man's business, then she has nothing to hold in the empire. The second case is that of MacKenzie Bezos, the wife of Jeff Bezos who inherited $35b from Jeff's empire because she truly deserved it considering her input in the empire Bezos has today. You need to read how the woman contributed vigorously to the successful empire Jeff Bezos has today. What I don't know now is if the OP's mother is for the former or the latter.

bdchange:

There are two ways for a woman to build with her husband. She can either help build the family or help build the empire the man acquired. If she is just the staying at home woman without no significant input towards the man's business, then she has nothing to hold in the empire. The second case is that of MacKenzie Bezos, the wife of Jeff Bezos who inherited $35b from Jeff's empire because she truly deserved it considering her input in the empire Bezos has today. You need to read how the woman contributed vigorously to the successful empire Jeff Bezos has today. What I don't know now is if the OP's mother is for the former or the latter.

When a woman stays home to build her family, it ends up being detrimental to her career and her earning power in the long run.
I'm a firm believer of never putting another man's dreams above my own.
Don't be left with the short end of the stick as a woman.
Pursue your own goals and dreams even while in a marriage.
If a husband insists on a stay at home wife, make sure you're legally married to him, and get lawyers to sign an agreement that all future earnings in the marriage will be shared equally, should anything go wrong.

Reffone:
Please this be no joke my parents have had a rough path for 17years now and a marriage of 27years things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and want to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child, my father is well to do so she wants to know her choices what she stands to gain or lose along the process please my lawyers in the house help out

Go to an 'honest' lawyer who will tell you want your mum's chances really are.

What is the profile of you the kids? Is your mum currently earning?

What is your dad's responsibility towards you guys currently? Does he sponsor you guys through school? Care for your mum financially?