This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls

Who got the job for her? Did she come to you for the job herself or did MIL approach you for the job? You should not have gone begging psychos, it’s a waste of time, just wait for them to do their worst and stay out of it. Shebi their worst is that they don’t want her as wife anymore? Ok! But she is your employee. Her private business should not be your concern.

It’s strictly business and your kids come first. Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood where she will be coming to work from. If they ask you questions, tell them she came back by herself and she begged for her job back. Also, as it’s difficult to get help, your kids have refused to cooperate with anyone but her. So you had to rehire her. Besides you don’t want to get involved in her private affair. Shikena.

I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts screwing her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level this one that Broda wants her sleeping under his roof.

Over to Lalast.iclala and the other elders.

Its a simple decision.. who do you think requires your help and sympathy..
The Psycho MIL and Hubby, or the poor Village girl you have spoken so nicely about..
She is also a adult..you can rent a place for her in town..

I see you creating big problem for your family.
No human is irreplaceable on this planet. If you go ahead and accommodate this fellow you will regret it.

Just let her go and stop been emotional.

If you can afford accommodation for your nanny elsewhere without her mother in law knowing then it might help, she doesn't have to stop being your employee simply because she's divorcing her husband.

MIL- Mother in-law
DIL - Daughter in-law

Tell her to agree along with the plans of the MIL and hubby, when they might have taken her back home, she can always find her way back and by then you might have gotten her an alternative accomodation. It just for you to make the whole arrangements with her, that way those guys won't hold anything against you.

kodyx:
Tell her to agree along with the plans of the MIL and hubby, when they might have taken her back home, she can always find her way back and by then you might have gotten her an alternative accomodation. It just for you to make the whole arrangements with her, that way those guys won't hold anything against you.

op listen to this advive

Wasted my three seconds thinking you'll finally say something sensible, alas...

NwaAmaikpe:





I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts fvcking her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level.

Over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.

Let her leave. It may be difficult but you will get another one, even better. No human is indispensable. What if she dies?

In order not to bring in much worries..... Try and get yourself another nanny... From your story, One can deduce that you have good sense of humor and am not in support of you bringing her in permanently/temporarily to stay with you.... I no go give you that kinda advise.

You are a woman and she is a woman... Anything fit happen.

Naturally, some Ladies can't condone other ladies attitude.

So to be on a safer side.. Kindly check out another nanny.... I wish you all the best

Tough Decision

[Have you checked my signature TODAY

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Boki

Look for a job for her and find a single room for her that’s all finish

Thank God my mother will never ever do to this !!

#make I marry first sha

Please what's MIL and DIL?

To be honest I didn't read op's story but I know if her nanny is leave, she should let her leave. Hire a new one or take your kids to day care and get that CHEAP 09 corrolla on my page to make your morning runs easier.

Assuming she gets a better job or an opportunity to improve her life through education, will u still insist she stays and continue being your nanny? Just learn to move on no matter how good she has been to your family. Don't create problems for yourself and family. If u love/like her so much, give her enough money as a pay-off from working for your family to enable her start a new life without her husband.

omonikiba:
This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls

Your abbreviations bored me off

Stupeed woman

Parents, beware of this moniker, kaycee125 a pedophile.

#saynotochildmolestation

baby124:
Who got the job for her? Did she come to you for the job herself or did MIL approach you for the job? You should not have gone begging psychos, it’s a waste of time, just wait for them to do their worst and stay out of it. Shebi their worst is that they don’t want her as wife anymore? Ok! But she is your employee. Her private business should not be your concern.

It’s strictly business and your kids come first. Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood where she will be coming to work from. If they ask you questions, tell them she came back by herself and she begged for her job back. Also, as it’s difficult to get help, your kids have refused to cooperate with anyone but her. So you had to rehire her. Besides you don’t want to get involved in her private affair. Shikena.

" Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood"
well said

I know someone that'll win your kid heart. she'll be like a 2.0 of the woman that left .. if you reside in lag.. you can get back at me

Let her go.
Another good, or even better help will come.
You don't want to be caught in a family feud. Believe me, you can't handle it .

Ok

You are typical selfish, egocentric, proud, talkative, busybody and foolish naija woman who really don't care about her kids.

She is a good nanny liked by your kids but you are full of BULLCRAP about what her family will say about a nanny doing a good job.

She is not a criminal or ex-con so why would you be worried about what the neighbours or landlord association will say?

You are really foolish and If I was your husband na beating I go use reset your brain

NwaAmaikpe:





I was almost starting to think you were selfish about your decision to keep her but reading further it became clearer that you have a genuine bond with her, are empathetic to her plight and wants just the best for her.

But this is a very tricky issue and you would never know the lenght it will go when the tales are spurn in the neighborhood about how you housed a cast-away to spite her husband's people.
I will feel bad if I were her husband and even worse if I am her mother-in-law.

Life is easy.
This lady is extremely good to your kids and is a perfect fit in your house.
Your kids see her as family too.
Your husband is willing to house her despite knowing her husband is just a breadth away.

Most importantly, you see the good in her that not even her husband who married her and her mother-in-law who lives with her sees.
You apparently have concluded that this lady is indispensable to the life of your kids and the bliss of your family.

Hanty, there is only one way to keep her without hurting both yourself and her mother-in-law.
Just tell your husband to marry her, that way she will become you people's property and you will not feel so bad when your husband starts screwing her.

Because definitely, water must find it's level this one that Broda wants her sleeping under his roof.

Over to Lalast.iclala and the other elders.

no nid to blow grammer on u ,,, just want to say dis