There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Y giving him such conditions, are u a virgin, if not, give it to him, if he love u truly, he will marry u, but why cuddle and kiss when u hv agreed no sex bf marriage, abi ur body nah wood? If no sex, stop the kiss and the nonsense cuddles

Haven't you had se* before ? You are making the whole relationship thing uninteresting to him and he isn't convinced you are not getting it somewhere else, hence the need not to continue being a mugu. That is a Nigerian Man for you!

Should you feel love for him ,take a decision and get married to each other instead of making him feel constrained.

[quote author=Lyydia post=85695823]There's this guy that we have been dating for 6month, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.. Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons... I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes.. But not sex! Of recent, he is been acting strange and want to go beyond our normal cuddle level.. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this. Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not pick up since yesterday. [/quote

Kiss and cuddle kee u there

Egbami, awon gals yin wan fe pa mi.....Kiss and Cuddle Ke..Is He a Teddy Bear?...........He is not an inanimate creature,he has gat a fucktioning D mehn...You either stop the cuddle nonsense outright or go ahead and give a nigga some Head...

SpyAC:
Y giving him such conditions, are u a virgin, if not, give it to him, if he love u truly, he will marry u, but why cuddle and kiss when u hv agreed no sex bf marriage, abi ur body nah wood? If no sex, stop the kiss and the nonsense cuddles

Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.

You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me...Now the real intention of the guy is now showing.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6month, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.. Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons... I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes.. But not sex! Of recent, he is been acting strange and want to go beyond our normal cuddle level.. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this. Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not pick up since yesterday.

No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

IamCookie:
Haven't you had se* before ? You are making the whole relationship thing uninteresting to him and he isn't convinced you are not getting it somewhere else, hence the need not to continue being a mugu. That is a Nigerian Man for you!

Should you feel love for him ,take a decision and get married to each other instead of making him feel constrained.

How does one know dreams that won't come through and how is it related to smartness/being smart @Signature

Are you a virgin, is he a virgin?

Sex is like a good wine, those who have never taste of it would not have the urges to want to drink it. even if they do have the urge to drink, it won't be as strong as those who have tasted and drank the wine before.

Only virgins can keep to 'no sex before marriage' agreement, anything outside that is just 2 adults fooling themselves.

Gina2019:
Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.

You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me...Now the real intention of the guy is now showing.

And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6month, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.. Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons... I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes.. But not sex! Of recent, he is been acting strange and want to go beyond our normal cuddle level.. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this. Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not pick up since yesterday.

No you did not,
Its obvious he now wants sex and you don't.
Call off the relationship.
If you still want the relationship be prepared to have sex with him.

No need to complicate things.
It is what it is.

SpyAC:
Y giving him such conditions, are u a virgin, if not, give it to him, if he love u truly, he will marry u, but why cuddle and kiss when u hv agreed no sex bf marriage, abi ur body nah wood? If no sex, stop the kiss and the nonsense cuddles

Thanks

Innobee99:
Kiss and cuddle kee u there

Just stfu if nothing is upstairs there.

pryme:


And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

He has been getting it somewhere else. That's for sure. But rules are rules. Why is he trying to break the rules now?

He didn't wanna put too much pressure on her because she is not asking him for money.

If he can't wait till marriage let him walk away. Respect ppl decison biko.

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

Hmmmm, major reason y m scared!

Heroclitus:




How does one know dreams that won't come through and how is it related to smartness/being smart @Signature

Dreams are something one thinks about and hoped for..nursing a hope trying to make it work BUT there are external forces in the society that may not make it work , as a result it should propel one's consciousness in preparing against those forces that may limit chances to attaining set target..

You've been scamming him all these while and he just regained his senses. You're denying him sex then why didn't you tell the other guys you've had it with the same thing??

After now you'll claim someone had raped you and got you disvirgined as an excuse smh

Whether you're demanding money from him or not you've no reason to deny him the pot of porridge from which other fortunate men have been eating from for free

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

You may be wrong, Gina2019. Sometimes , flexibility does it! It's a good thing she's not a liability and she also acknowledged LOVE between them. You dated for 6months ,cuddling and kissing sometimes, due to your own personal reasons. What about his own personal reasons? He was so reasonable as to allow u get along for good 6months and decided to give his own personal reason a thought , and then u became furious. You are selfish , Lyydia.

One would have thought your reason could be Virginity issue but Nope. Everyone wants emotional security..I only imagine the thoughts running through the guys mind to make him make the move again.

Well, I gave it to my guy very well ...and now he is my MAN. Your decision is your decision, though.

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

Whether u give him or not.... U can stil get married and he dumbs you.... ... U dont predict a guy... So be guided.

IamCookie:


You may be wrong, Gina2019. Sometimes , flexibility does it! It's a good thing she's not a liability and she also acknowledged LOVE between them. You dated for 6months ,cuddling and kissing sometimes, due to your own personal reasons. What about his own personal reasons? He was so reasonable as to allow u get along for good 6months and decided to give his own personal reason a thought , and then u became furious. You are selfish , Lyydia.

One would have thought your reason could be Virginity issue but Nope. Everyone wants emotional security..I only imagine the thoughts running through the guys mind to make him make the move again.

Well, I gave it to my guy very well ...and now he is my MAN. Your decision is your decision, though.

Can't believe you're a woman, you actually reason like a man

vincentjk:


Can't believe you're a woman, you actually reason like a man

Probably because I am a realist.

And the pig shit isn't a virgin ooo... Mtseeeeww!


When you meet another guy after calling off the relationship, still give the new guy the same condition and see if you won't turn to one of the evening news papers in no time.


As long as you've been fuçked before, you have not a single right to give that sick condition dammit!

IamCookie:


Probably because I am a realist.

Lol good to hear and for your profile pic I think I'd go for 14

Lol

Gina2019:
Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.

You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me... Now the real intention of the guy is now showing .

I agree

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Gina2019:


He has been getting it somewhere else. That's for sure. But rules are rules. Why is he trying to break the rules now?

He didn't wanna put too much pressure on her because she is not asking him for money.

If he can't wait till marriage let him walk away. Respect ppl decison biko.

The fact that he agreed to such in the first place sold him out as a pretender

You have two options, have sex with him or call it off. You want different things. Find someone that does not want sex like you do.

IamCookie:


You may be wrong, Gina2019. Sometimes , flexibility does it! It's a good thing she's not a liability and she also acknowledged LOVE between them. You dated for 6months ,cuddling and kissing sometimes, due to your own personal reasons. What about his own personal reasons? He was so reasonable as to allow u get along for good 6months and decided to give his own personal reason a thought , and then u became furious. You are selfish , Lyydia.

One would have thought your reason could be Virginity issue but Nope. Everyone wants emotional security..I only imagine the thoughts running through the guys mind to make him make the move again.

Well, I gave it to my guy very well ...and now he is my MAN. Your decision is your decision, though.

They both reached an agreement from start. Why did he signed consent when he won't be able to keep the agreement

Jozzy4:


They both reached an agreement from start. Why did he signed consent when he won't be able to keep the agreement

Because yesterday is not like today. More so, life is in a state of flux

Rules are rules and no need breaking them. If i see a woman i want to settle with like marry, i can agree to no sex till marriage if and only if she's a virgin with intact hymen of course i have to verify that. I can pay her bills out of my own will, money no be problem and i will be allowed to keep as many side chicks as i want without checks and sniffing and low budget jack bauer. Anything aside these i am not interested in the relationship.


He is wrong by trying to break the rule,

you did not overreact,

let him go

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6month, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.. Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons... I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes..[b][/b] But not sex! [b][/b]Of recent, he is been acting strange and want to go beyond our normal cuddle level.. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this. Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not pick up since yesterday.

Rubbish @ bolded.

That "No sex till marriage is a scam". Legends know this.

And yes you overreacted by reacting in a rude and undiplomatic manner. What happened to reminding the young man of the vows both of you made in a kind and respectful manner. But instead you choose to displayed how uncultured you are.

How I wish I know this guy, I would have pointed out obvious red flags to him.

Truth is you are piece are a garbage. And bitches like you should be discarded where they belong. To the trash can.

Nonsense.