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Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Ilufoye00(m): 9:17am On Feb 18, 2020 |
My dear, with time he will change. Please don't stop praying. Engage him with more conversation and activities, my dad do come home 1am, 2am when we were still young, but today before 8pm he will b at home. Most men who go to bear palour are found of these habit, because u can't b in another man's house till 12am. Time, environment and friends will play a major role in changing him for better.... God bless ur family 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Nobody: 9:36am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Why not tell him to invite his friends over and provide yafun yafun beer. Ur husband is about to be depressed too; y’all need to see a counselor. tEl m say, I said e no kill person, na job e never get yet 7 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by galadima77(m): 9:36am On Feb 18, 2020 |
magkhan: See a lady here being as reasonable as guys ought to be and some dude is calling the man very very irresponsible. Besides, the woman never said he cheats as many are inferring but on the contrary he's "nice and caring". And who says the ones that stay home don't cheat? I have a friend whose wife complains about same and like the OP's hobby, no job for now. She didn't tell me; he did and when I asked him why he does so and where he hangs around..he said a few of them night crawlers just sit around the neighborhood and gist till it's late and go home, no biggie. She also contributes to some extent. I begged him to reduce the hours outside because we were childhood friends and lived together till we all got married and i know we didn't keep late nights. 8 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by ahiboilandgas: 9:42am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ouchbabe:men are like that we love to hang out, that where the business is struck and new jobs found via contacts not sitting at home ....last year i made around Bleep millions via contacts i meet socialising at a top lounge ...he will stop ober time .....i hope he not a womansier sga 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Greatzeus(m): 9:44am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Just as I expected,he is jobless. Unless on weekends,no career man or professional or an average employee in Nigeria will go out daily only to return in the midnight. When you have to get up by 4am or less and had to leave by 5am or less? 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Graxie(f): 9:49am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Those of you supporting him, continue until he is arrested by police in the name of raiding. This days they raid, take your phone and send you to a different dungeon. Sometimes they even place gun on your chest and tag you thief. A man is not working, can't he look for something to engage himself? Are there no menial jobs? All I see is a lazy man who doesn't want the kids to know that he is lazy. Madam, press ignore button, stop talking to him about late night. Make it a habit to ignore. With time he will come to his senses. Why wouldn't he be lazy? You are providing for the family, he feels he has nothing to worry about. Assuming he knows you are jobless and there is no hope, I bet you he will be very busy searching for how to feed you guys. 14 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by decub: 10:17am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ouchbabe:From what I've noticed among friends and colleagues, night crawlers seldom change, they prefer being nocturnal. I know someone who would never lift a finger to work until 5-6PM; and will stay till 10PM. Thereafter, he hits the bar to wind down and closes with the bartender. However, the difference here is that he doesn't have a job yet. Well, making out with friends could be giving him some relief of not having a job while he keeps searching...but watch it! 4 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by HRtechnique: 10:00pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Its well. |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by AntiWailer: 10:03pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
omo ayee |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by lapo(m): 10:06pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Make sure he's not hanging out with wrong people. |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by chukwuibuipob: 10:08pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
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Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by bonnyhope: 10:08pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ouchbabe:You sound like cool headed woman Do you give him the attention he deserves? And again he might not be comfortable being seen around the house maybe because the neighbours may look at him as a house husband. Continue talking to him and also pray along side with him There's nothing God cannot do 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Dejex4(m): 10:08pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
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Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Caustic001: 10:08pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
12pm late? I remember back in naija, on groove nights na till dawn, l had a job back then though. That issue is a lifestyle and it will take drastic change to make him stop. Me I moved out. |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by orunmila144: 10:08pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
RAMIREZ THE NIGHTCRAWLER |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Wtfork: 10:09pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
I would comment here Brb |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Xisnin(m): 10:10pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
EVILFOREST:Intelligent discussion such as bet9ja odds and football scores? Only on Nairaland are all the men intelligent yet intellectually empty when pushed. Just check the average thread some create and the illogical reasoning behind it and you will be shocked. The husband is so intelligent that he is jobless and still keep late nights. 20 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Nobody: 10:11pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Tim16:Be careful of the statements, you don't know maybe he is irresponsible or just embarrassed of depending on his wife, since he has no job to provide for his family and finds solace in staying out late than face her. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by ISAAC7777: 10:11pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
SEE BLEW 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Handsome13(m): 10:12pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
There are many ways to kill a rat. Only you know the answers to ur problem. Ignor him. When ever he comes home late, welcome him very well. Don't even bring issues up. Just pretend that all is well. Just be praying for him. Only him go get sense by him self swrs 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by SmellingAnus(m): 10:12pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
magkhan:wise words... 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by philip0906(m): 10:12pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
magkhan:You'll live long 5 Likes |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by olisaEze(m): 10:13pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
He probably leaves home in the evenings right? And he’s probably hanging out with other guys that don’t usually work a 9 to 5. Let him be, as hard as it may be. He’s trying to figure out a way forward for himself. Coupled with the probability that right now, he doesn’t want to seat in one place alone feeling sorry for himself for not being able to provide as he would like for his family. Just let him be, he’ll change as soon as things pick up for him in the job department. U might not be nagging him, but ur body language speaks volumes because u think u know how he should be behaving right now. Believe me, u have no idea what that man is going thru @ the moment. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by chijioke17(m): 10:13pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Tim16: What you just did is plain wicked and insensitive. Words are seeds, you shouldn't throw them around just because you can. I don't support her husband coming home late, but that doesn't mean you jump into conclusions of infidelity. From the conversation she painted, he doesn't come home drunk, and she hasn't had cause to suspect any foul play. She is just worried about him coming home late. If you can't proffer a solution, you could have just read comments and not said anything. Don't destroy a marriage based on assumptions. Not all men cheat 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Lugianostar(m): 10:13pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Go on your knees in place of fervent prayers before the Lord to calm him down by disengaging him from those negative friends that make him stay late and ask God to give him a job. Our God is ever faithful to answer you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by kushme: 10:14pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: An 8 years marriage looking for advice from folks with less than 8 months relationship, shameless bastard. Let him be and stop listening or watching too much Africa magic. |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Lexusgs430: 10:15pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ouchbabe: Organise area boys to rough him up, on his late waka waka........ 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Nobody: 10:15pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Tim16:Be careful of your statements, some people actually take random advice too seriously, you don't know maybe he is irresponsible or just embarrassed of depending on his wife, since he has no job to provide for his family and finds solace in staying out late than sitting at home feeling useless. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by abdullkabar(m): 10:15pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
I will tell Op what my people will say: Its your cross, carry it You are a woman, talk to your husband 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by Realbank10(m): 10:16pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
What more can I say that will change your husband. Husband of Lagos with many singles ladies hurting for jobless men with good service. Well well kindly get close to him. Know is problem or what’s keeping him late at night. He could be enjoying conversation with friends and green bottle. Or other side of it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by kieteodeh: 10:16pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Your happiness lies with you, nobody is responsible for your happiness. Make this your watch word and live your life like he doesn't exist.once he notice you don't care anymore he would advise himself. |
Re: Help! My Husband Is A Night Crawler by igbojay: 10:17pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Madam, you just said you married a good man,but the only issue you have is the fact that he is not always there and the reason is not even good enough. You are too young to become a widow and you should explain this to him in this manner. Hold a mature discussion with him, calmly, without sounding authoritative or like his mother. Your husband is in a very difficult position right now. A man's joy is in his ability to provide atleast the basics for his family. The triple Fs this brings him is what feeds his emotions and keeps him sane. Hence those smile you see on his face. When last did your man smile genuinely without soundly grumpy , looking lost and glumy? Your hubby is passing through a psychological phase due to his inability to provide for his family. Perhaps his plans are not working, he is tired of seeing you return from work while he stays at home all day. He still has his ego and that what keeps him going. So he leaves when you are about to return from work,and stays out till its late, so he can atleast avoid the possibility of friction. Help him. Just make him happy on any given day. If he likes to sex, give him the best of sex. If he likes food, prepare him something nice and massage what is left of his ego. See if you can help him get a job. I beleive that's what he would do if he were in your shoe. He needs a sense of direction. He is at his cross roads. You can also discuss his options with him. Perhaps the next phase is to start a business. Just give him the triple Fs and discuss his options with him as the caring and loving wife that you are. Moreover, him bringing in some cash and been useful to his family will lessen your stress and alos put some smile on your face. Help his ability to feed and cater for his family which includes his queen and not feed the family. Walk him back to himself and not judge him. He is lost and needs you now more than ever. Go bring your man home. Show me a depressed man, and I might show you a man who is angry with himself cos he can't provide for his family. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
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