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I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 2:45pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough. She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets. She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop. I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip". She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though. How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by proclinician: 2:47pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
How old is she? |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by MiVida(m): 2:51pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Hahahaha!!! Experience is the best teacher. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 2:53pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
proclinician:29 years |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 2:54pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
MiVida:Well, I could learn from your experience. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Hhansome(m): 2:55pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Will also keep it real short. Once a soldier is always a soldier. Now run! 9 Likes |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by tripplephi: 2:56pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
neuronalkaycee: Bros, I hope you know that girlfriend is NOT fiance she is behaving like a girlfriend NOT a fiance because both require very different levels of commitment Anyway, the soul of every relationship is COMMUNICATION, So communicate with her and see how it goes. Discuss with her and let her know that you are not comfortable with it, if she calls you insecure and tells you not to worry then smile and say OK..... then go and get more female friends... let them know she is a friend and then have them call you and chat with them late into the night and you will be shocked she may not be able to handle that, then you let her know it is exactly what she did to you and she will understand how you felt. Then redefine the relationship, I feel she is jovial but also keeping her options open, if you both have a spiritual foundation then you may need to seek a female more mature spiritual counselor that will be able to reason with her and counsel her on how to behave. Age is not an excuse, there are 21 years old ladies who behave more wise and mature than 29-32 years old ladies. So pray for her to be understanding before you have the TALK and follow it up from there. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by daddytime(m): 2:56pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
My dear brother, just call your girlfriend or fiancee, then take hold of your phone, scroll down to this topic, and read it all out to her as you have written it for us to consume. At the end of your reading, then ask her the pertinent questions you want to be answered. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by cRobo: 3:01pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Can't really trust any girl these days Heartbreak is all you will get if you decide to find more about her NO GIRL I MEAN NO GIRL right now is TRUSTWORTHY You marry nowadays just to have children And don't forget to do DNA test for your children Speaking from lots of experience 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:02pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
tripplephi:Thank you so much for your matured response. |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by MDBrand: 3:04pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
neuronalkaycee:She dey find husband |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:04pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
daddytime:Another beautiful suggestion! I should be very open and direct you mean. Thank you so much |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 3:05pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Why not try to let go off her past. If you really love her like you claim focus on your future with her. |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:06pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
cRobo:Hmmmm. Atleast let my kids be raised by a fairly decent person |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by cRobo: 3:19pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
neuronalkaycee: You will keep on searching for a life time There are no perfect (decent) people The sooner you realise that the better and happier you will live |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:22pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Zornes123:I need some conviction that shes done with her past... Always seems as though she could easily derail. |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by BlackfireX: 3:22pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Kids and marriage.... Someone you meet some months ago , is now your finance... ![]() Abooki give me blala I want to flog this Ben 1o generation 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:23pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
cRobo:Wow... |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:25pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
BlackfireX:It's longer than months ago sha. Didn't want to be so exact for privacy reasons |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 3:26pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
MDBrand:I'm not sure that's how to behave with a fiancé if "she dey find husband". 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
You want to check on her? I know someone who would do all that for you. With picture proofs. But I won't advice it |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by daddytime(m): 3:34pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
neuronalkaycee: Yeah, straight up. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by kingslj: 3:34pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Your instinct should guide you. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Angelacruz: 4:08pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
U need to talk to her.For d self disclosure part,if she really luv n trust u she will tell u.Relationship is more dan luv.Undastanding,empathy n adjustment r part of it. neuronalkaycee: 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by iLegendd(m): 4:11pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Read, but no comment. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by zed7: 4:15pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
You are already seeing red flags. It's better to quit while the ovation is loudest. Contrary to people's opinion, there are lot's of decent girls around but they might not readily come in the package you want. 6 Likes |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Bola146(f): 4:17pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
You can't marry whom you don't trust, trust is the main ingredient in a good relationship. Sit her down, let her know what you are thinking in your mind. 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Happyfela(m): 4:23pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
A 29 year old Veteran you mean. Use your Figure six bruh Don't take my question out of context, Are you in your forties or late thirties. Asking for a friend 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Martinez39s(m): 4:25pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Run away. ![]() |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by millionboi2: 4:29pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by CAPSLOCKED: 4:38pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Bola146: EVERYTIME SIT HIM DOWN, SIT HER DOWN. NL PEOPLE SEF. HOW DO YOU ALWAYS COMFORTABLY ASSUME THAT COMPLAINANTS HAVEN'T HAD FRUITLESS DISCUSSIONS ON THEIR ISSUES BEFORE COMING ONLINE? IF SITTING PEOPLE DOWN OR STANDING THEM UP WORKS, WE WON'T HAVE TO SEE THESE DAILY WAILINGS. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Techcornerng(m): 4:42pm On Feb 26, 2020 |
Who Is Having Issues Trying to Withdraw and She Said This... [Pictures] / Some people thought this was a joke... What a pity / Who Know This Fine Orbobo
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