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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 11:19am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Pemivy01:Thank you my sister am going to pick him up on Sunday 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eallstar: 11:20am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Italy? Don't worry ur God will fight for you Corona virus will soon send him back to his home town. Same Italy corona virus send Ronaldo back to his home town. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by oodua1stson: 11:20am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:if your hubby had 2 kids outside will you allow him to bring them both in? You single mothers want to be accepted but you treat your stepchildren like animals. Your son has gone rogue and he did right by not allowing him near his own children. If he pain you divorce him 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Lallai: 11:20am On Mar 13, 2020 |
letskeeptalking:thank u....the woman is not serious or she is lying 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 11:20am On Mar 13, 2020 |
eallstar:Amen ooo |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AroOkigbo(m): 11:21am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Why not quit the marriage and live with your 3 (4) kids. It saves all these back and forth. But did the first husband actually marry you? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by oodua1stson: 11:21am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:and you want to force your son on him because of that? Gerrout 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by emmanuelewumi(m): 11:21am On Mar 13, 2020 |
franconian: Could be for two different men |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Bbbwings: 11:22am On Mar 13, 2020 |
eduman365:They will be forming woke but I bet she wouldn't want her son to marry one. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by coputa(m): 11:22am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Davash222:Wrong!,marrying a woman means sharing in all her pains and joy,that's why every woman needs a man. What has he done for her that he has done so much,is it by accomadating and feeding her daughter, was he not aware that every woman is emotionally tied to her children. Most women do quit their marriages because of this act of irresponsibility of some husbands. If,in future that boy becomes somebody, he now call him his son. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Anextin(f): 11:22am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Madam, you are the failure here not ur in-law. How can u be alive and well and let ur blood live with someone else. How can u claim to foot 70% of the bill yet ur own blood is starving. Yes, you need happiness and love in your life so I can't be against you for seeking for it. But u should be ashamed that your child is suffering when u are alive and happy. You can't choose anyone above your child. And don't blame that man, he can't be forced to accept duties of an another man. Blame yourself for all the failures ur son is going through. Now go and get your son, apologise to him for failing as a mother. Don't u dare bounce him off on another person not even his biological dad, that boy needs his mom. As for ur husband, u have to chose, I pray u make the right decision 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 11:22am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Jman06: That’s why the Islamic state people like doing what they do.....it’s nt easy to find virgins around these days so pple settle for what’s available..... |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Psoul(m): 11:23am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oyindidi: You are wrong sister. The boy was already living with the woman's brother wen they got married. The woman was living with daughter before she got married. The man married her and accepted taking in the woman and her daughter. Now, the woman did not just requested that they take in the boy before the boy had a problem where he was. The request came when the boy was accused of a crime of stealing which made him to be beaten (probably mob action) The woman took the boy to her own siblings and all of them rejected the offer. Now the woman want to bring the boy to the man that has already taken her in and her daughter. I believe the man was saying no because of the bad name attached to the boy and for the fact that whatever made her wife's siblings to reject the boy is strong. I see reason with the man, but the wife should do better by talking into and through the man's heart. Women have that power. She should not just get angry and bone the man up in his house. ********** Lol, men hate independent women see as e dey pain you You are wrong here. Problem with women is that they will always leave the major issue and want to distract it with trivial. Just like the woman in this thread. The man was coming from the area that may have a long time damage to the family...that is influencing the other kids negatively and giving the whole family bad name...while the woman was focusing on the fact that she was the one handling 70% of the family bills. She never knew that money can leave anyone at any point and move to the next person. My sister, men don't hate independent women. They only want them to be more rational than emotional. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 11:24am On Mar 13, 2020 |
oodua1stson:It’s not by force to marry a man or woman with kids . They are single men and women out there Na why did he not go after them ? I was with my children I didn’t call him to come and ask for my hand in marriage if he knew he wasn’t ready to be a father to my children then he wouldn’t come with fake promises that he loves them and they are his children he will take care of them like his own 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Jman06(m): 11:25am On Mar 13, 2020 |
1StopRudeness:Virgins can still be found if people search well 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by NaijadrivaCars: 11:26am On Mar 13, 2020 |
After one and two matter hard o. It takes a good man to tolerate baggages of such women. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Lifecanbeamazin: 11:26am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: My sister! Who do you see being there for you many years down the line? This man or your son? God forbid, you have medical problems, this type of man will not be there for you . Don't fail this boy, you're all he has! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Emaprince: 11:26am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Honestly, I wonder what on this earth will make me so foolish enough to marry a single mother, talk less of mother of two? Their baggage is out of this world. Some men dey try. And when the run a way scum is back, she may start fukcing him secretly under the pretext of taking his children to see their dad. Single mother? God forbid!!! 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Sexietharam(f): 11:27am On Mar 13, 2020 |
oodua1stson:you are wise 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AroOkigbo(m): 11:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Why did you accept his proposal? You should have said NO and live your life with your kids till they are mature. But no, you wanted to answer Mrs. #selfishwoman 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 11:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Lifecanbeamazin:My son will always come first 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Pusyiter(m): 11:30am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Onyi, maka why? The man loves the lady despite having children that is not his, he still chose to marry her. What kind of love can he demonstrate that will be more than that in contemporary Nigerian culture? Oyindidi: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by yesloaded: 11:30am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oyindidi:Ndi feminist 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oluwaiphee: 11:30am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Let me just make this as simple as possible for you. You have always had two options to choose either, YOUR SON(child) and A MAN(husband). Obviously you made your choice (Husband). This is the part where you live with the consequence of your choice. Your Husband is human, so you can't be surprised by what is playing out now. And you can't blame the man, he just feels a bit threatened and insecure. The decision has always been and will always be yours to make. YOUR SON or YOUR MARRIAGE. And now the Choice is a bit more complicated now you have children with him. That is how the life works, not many people get the chance to eat their cake and have it. PEACE and GOODLUCK!! |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Agugbadin: 11:31am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Keep pleading with your husband. At 12 he still needs parental guidance. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Kiezodumah(m): 11:32am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Madam let's be sincere here. If u knew ur husband had 2 kids for another woman ,would u have accepted to marry him Lets say u agreed to marry him despite having kids outside wedlock, would u have allowed those children to stay with their dad,ursef and their step siblings . Let's assume u allowed them stay, wud u have loved them unconditionally like ur own without discrimination I won't ansa those above questions for u cos u know them already in ur heart . Humans are selfish by nature. However, most women are selfish, wicked and inhumane when it comes to reversal of roles in this same issue. They treat househelps with disdain and inhuman tendencies let alone the children of their husbands from another woman: those ones are dead already. Women always want to have their way all the time. Let's call a spade what it is; madam even if u were the richest woman on earth ,ur husband did u a great favor marrying u and even accommodating of ur children . You hurriedly came to NL to condemn him and garner sympathy. If u like pay 100% of those children's bill, I don't care. The greatest,honest,most sincere ,best and most responsible thing u can ever do for ur children espply you son is to locate his biological father or his relatives. I don't mean to sound judgemental but u shud cover ur face in shame. Except u want to be totally elusive to ur responbilty as a mother or u want to be overtly stupid, how wud u open ur legs to conceive for a man whose relatives u don't anything about Then u come here and pass judgement on ur husband for even allowing u to bring home one of ur kids .. All u wud be doing now is playing mind games on that man, denying him sex or food etc. God wud judge u if u do that : I no curse u o,na the truth I tell u so. Go find the relatives of ur ex husband. Go back to where he used to live. People know him there ,his friends ,his work place etc ..so many ways to search for him... His tribesmen..Somone close wud know his village.. That is the best thing right now u can do for dose children.. Not threatening ur current husband that u want to leave the house to go and protect ur son out there .And u will think when he comes home someday ,he doesn't meet u 1st day , 1 week u yet to return ,then he wud be forced to tell u to come home with him.. If that happens ,it just dey plaster over the cracks on a pillar holding the building of a house. One day he go collapse again and u go to square one.. Many of us here just dey talk selfishly. Ask her about her first marriage ,that's if she even did any proper wedding sef. U claim not to know ur in-laws whereabouts and ur 1st 2 children's father travelled out. That means u didn't do any traditional rites to say the least. Cos if u guys actually did, his people wud come/ go over to ur family house to do the custodial things..Both families wud get to know one another and the rest is history. That's where the foundational problem emanated from. Not until that is solved forget it, nothing u do now wud profer a lasting solution. Your story is not complete madam until tell us about ur first affair with the oda man.. U can't tell us that u guys don't communicate @ all... Ur husband try sef. From history ,most women tend to still sleep with the father of their children from previous marriages whether he is the country or not. When he comes back, things go still happen normally like they used to.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by LadySarah: 11:32am On Mar 13, 2020 |
xyz123456: So she should leave her child in danger because of marriage? You are still a child. The children is for both of us so what's the fuss. Go and ask ur mother who comes first in her life. The love for a husband is diff from that of children. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 11:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Jman06: U go wake tire ooooo....unless u go to the village and marry an illiterate... in the city?? People only get virgins by luck, especially when I want a mature girl...it’s that bad.....why do U think guys settle for less... nobody wants a lady several men has slept with... but 99out of every 100 has a body count of at least 3...with cascades of abortion as collateral damage 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 11:34am On Mar 13, 2020 |
[quote author=AroOkigbo post=87405311] Why did you accept his proposal? You should have said NO and live your life with your kids till they are mature. But no, you wanted to answer Mrs. #selfishwoman[/quote Have accepted because He convinced me with his sweet words and actions at that time and I taught maybe God has answer my prayer and has sent me a man that truly loves me and my children like his own that my marriage will be joyful but no I was wrong and regretting now. I’m ready to leave the marriage for my children sake 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 11:34am On Mar 13, 2020 |
yesloaded:Yes o 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by alizma: 11:35am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Rather than being angry with him, you should have channel that energy towards doing everything possible to make him see reason with you e.g, crying, begging him at night, making concrete promise that you will ensure your son don't pass negative trait on your children, pretending not to have eaten the whole day because the issue of your child suffering outside gives you concern. With all this in place, he might reason with you if he truly love you but now you chose the wrong way. Why do why thing you should have adopt those steps? Because the way you love you son and doing everything to protect him, that is the same way he loves his children too and is fighting to ensure they are save from negative trait and no good father will do that base on assumption or gamble his responsibility to ensure his children safety. So I will advise you go back and talk to him. If need be, call someone you know he will likely listen to in a situation like this to help you talk to him. Success 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by manijoli(m): 11:35am On Mar 13, 2020 |
if ur husband response is this. (I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children.) u can suggest some form of discipline to him which can make him change his mind - put him in a boarding school which he can be visiting after end of session. -or after school he come over to assist you at your store, which can help you keep eyes on him. those are my suggestion which I know it may not work for you, but deciding on proper measures to curtail the behavior with your husband will solve lot of problem both now and in the future |
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