sureinfo:
a woman who makes her own money is an added advantage

mezarddinny:
i always tell people, it doesn't matter how much i make, my wife must have a good source of income, not just earning o but her income must be sizeable. I am not a control freak and see no reason why my wife must always abide by my rules, if what she says makes sense, we follow it, if she makes the better decision then she will be the one to decide on important issues. the reason why a young hustler will decide to marry and then marry a jobless woman in times like this beats me, i have never understood the reason and i probably never will.


i believe there are good women who earn well and they are not rude or condescending and i won't settle for less if i ever decide to get married

2buffagain:
Gentlemen. The reality of living in the 20th century has changed, and so must every notion formed from previous days that no longer hold weight today.

Women are not the only ones who should be asking what you do.
You should also be asking her what she does....and guaging her wifeability from her response.
Nobody likes to suffer...yourself included. So why sign up for a lifetime of every financial request of your immediate family (and possibly both your extended families ) coming to just you alone?

Gone are the days where families survived on one income alone. Those days, houses in Nigeria used to cost #5M or less. These same houses now cost well over #30M.

I can bet your income did not also inflate 6x over the same time.

The reality is that you need a wife who also brings something home, and honestly it should hopefully be around the same (or more God willing) of what you pull in.

This way one person's income can cover the family stuff and the other person's income goes towardssavings/investments/emergencies/joblessness buffering/ etc. Your family will go farther and you can even both retire earlier if this is done right.

Also Naija guys please, have some respect for yourself.
If you meet a girl and she has the mental configuration of always wanting money from you, just know that she is not the one.

As a sister here once said, "A girl who truly likes you, won't ask you for money...unless it's bad and you are her last resort."
Na woman talk am. Believe that sister. Peep that one game from her, and most of you will be alright.

If a girl really likes you, she'll be too busy trying to think of ways to be an asset to your life or impress you...not a taker.

Get you a girl who makes her money with a good source of income and who understands that her income is to be included in plans.

You have been told.
You should be done with your broke girl phase right about now ^{(much like how women should be done with their bad boy stage).}
It does nothing for your life.

NOTE: I am not saying go and marry an idiot because she makes money.... Obviously.
You are still looking for a good wife, who just ALSO happens to be equipped with income and/or good income prospects and drive.

candelahria:
If you want a woman to contribute equally financially in a home,just be ready to cook and clean like she does and sacrifice your headship over the home.Period.When a man loses his job,his working class wife shouldn't treat him like crap but he should know that he should do more chores than he used to.That's common sense.

Nooil:



Is it only cook and clean? How many of them make their wives cum during sex? The woman will bear that dissatisfaction o, still bear the pains of pregnancy o, still, contribute 50 50. I reject it.

efosky1246:


Assuming your responsibility as a man is what is slavery for you right?

Well it's not for me, I love to take care of those I love to the best of my ability. And I would not laud that over my wife because I understand that her role in the family is equally important. Please tell me how this is suffering.

And sorry, I won't be dying from too much responsibility anytime soon cause am not even 22 and I make close to 500k monthly.

Even at that, women are not my priority because I know where am headed. I know the kind of life I want, and am creating it myself, My woman will help me raise children to continue my legacy. Not share bills.

ayubaski:

this when we see situation where by the woman become the husband and the man becomes the wife.

ayubaski:

this when we see situation where by the woman become the husband and the man becomes the wife.

Jman06:
You stated it in your initial post that Nigerian ladies don't like men who expect them to make financial contributions in their households. I have also noticed that even on this forum and I know that in your heart of hearts, you too would not want your man to ask for financial support from you.

Samuels90:
You hit it hard... That's why it is also good to marry your friend, it makes life easy.

Deoboss:


Look before you leap when it comes to ladies & marriage.

Ladies pretend a lot, once married you will now see her true colour & if she earns decent amount a large number of ladies start to act up.

Of-course it’s good to marry a lady that earns decent funds as in salary or in biz but not all of them are good at managing their attitude

Belafonte:


Sounding daft as always. How can one person be ugly, stupid and bitter at the same time? What kind of misfortune is that one?

Gandollaar:
I'm a woman. You are on point!

candelahria:
Yeah...right

CHoccolaTE:


I stated that many women don't want it because many men are self centered and selfish. Did I say women shouldn't contrubute?
Why bringing up how we shouldn't educate women and whatever thing you typed there?

efosky1246:


It disgusts me when men try to make it seem like if a woman doesn't contribute financially, then she's good as useless.

I am really concerned about the loss of sense of responsibility from men nowadays. When did it become a taboo for you to make the money yourself and let your wife run the homefront. The Asians have been doing this for years and they're not complaining, hence why the family unit is strong and their children turn out as responsible adults and contribute meaningfully to their family and society at large.

You guys make it seem like marriage is some kind of business venture.if not for anything, be a man for your children, they need a parent to look after them at least in their tender years.

Have you not seen homes were both husband and wife are financially well to do but the children are nothing to write home about.

A woman can support at times financially but you going into a relationship looking for a woman who you'll share bills with just shows the quality of a man that you are.

BarrElChapo:


Bro did you understand his complaints ? Pls help us understand too

quentin06:
sounds like lazy men thread, its good fie your wives to chip in, but marrying a woman just because of her money should not be the ultimate goal in a man s life.

I hate gold diggers and detest loafers disguised as would be husbands.

AfroKnight:
You deserve chilled beer!

Men should stop settling for less.
Nna collect!

CHoccolaTE:


Do you mind the selfish he-goats?
Many of the men supporting op are only want a system where they share breadwinning 50/50.

Anything chores or childcare they are not ready. Some are even planning to cheat on their wives in the future and expect her to just bear and stay with them.
While also answering their surnames and bearing kids that answer their surname and belong to their town/village/state


The same women feeding them and providing for them ooo

yeyeosoronga:


It's not a fight for dominance but for survival.

It is wickedness and highly irresponsible to expect your wife to be superwoman, while you remain the regular joe.

It breeds resentment at the end of the day.

Many women are overworked and overstressed from doing it all.
That's why some look older than even their husbands who are older than them. They become worn out, and just tired of life because they don't have supportive partners who pull weight.

They have to run around to look for money, and at the same time do all the chores and look after the children, while the husbands only bring in some of the money .

That's why they wonder atimes if they won't be better doing it all alone by themselves, because it already appears as though they're alone anyway.