Make Una go sleep !! crakkland is definitely high on crack n using us to catch trips

What?!!!!!

Bullets flying over here!!

Crakkland:

Your own type of disease, I haven't yet been able to figure out.

Everytime you type these things, I wonder if I'm supposed to feel bad because you don't like me..

I don't get it.. Who are you?

Believe me, I have absolute no intention to make you feel bad, but simply stating the truth.
It's not about liking you or not,I'm indifferent about you... it is just about the way you are.
Your aura is negative.

Mariangeles:


Believe me, I have absolute no intention to make you feel bad, but simply stating the truth.
It's not about liking you or not,I'm indifferent about you... it is just about the way you are.
Your aura is negative.

Nwa.. Go.and sleep biko. Can't you see here can pollute you.. Kachifo!

Crakkland:

Opened it after the one you intially quoted was banned for a week.

Ok bro

Crakkland:

That is exactly how I know that this is you fountainofyouth/biglittlelois.

You have always asked me what's going on between myself and Bukatyne and I have always told you there's nothing because she is a respectable married woman..

Your jealousy could not be hidden then during our chats, and it still can't be hidden now.

You will run mad.

That is not valid as it is obvious to everyone that you two rapport, so anyone could've made that observation.
I myself have noticed the both of you...it is glaring.

duchaB:


Nwa.. Go.and sleep biko. Can't you see here can't pollute you.. Kachifo!

There's a juicy story I'm following on front page

His mention brought me here

OK. Goodnight!

Mavis3:
Thank you all for your advice and counsel.


Right now, I am prepared. Will be taking a leave once the lockdown is over and I am leaving the house for a month. I will be staying with my elder brother in another state for a while.

I have decided that no Kobo of mine will go for the upkeep of the child and I stand by that. Call me wicked I don't care.

I will start processing my transfer to another state where my mother and siblings are, so I will be closer to my family.

I am going to tell him this night that the project we are working on will hold. I want to go for further studies and will need the money.

We are no longer going to have a joint account. The money we have in it we will split.

Once the work transfer pulls through, I am moving to my state.

I need some time alone to breathe.

Thank you all for your advice. If anything new comes up, I will sure let you guys know.

See how they've made you lost your home. SMH

These people advising you, they are not married o. just so you know. one of them might even be the side baby mama in question.

I wish you well in your new you. All the best but ill advise if you're leaving, ensure you do a documented divorce.

Mariangeles:

That is not valid as it is obvious to everyone that you two rapport, so anyone could've made that observation.
I myself have noticed the both of you...it is glaring.

Ohh please shvt it, Miss I'm indifferent..

That two people rapport means you should be asking consistently if they're dating.. and even going as far as saying shít about her and asking me to agree.
So much jealousy...

Can't you see that you and the person you're trying to defend have lost all sense of proportion?

Early this morning again

Sotland:



Perhaps! You don't understand English or know the use of words. So, I think I will let the hypocritical part slide..lol


Kindly tell me what are the marriage vows?, educate me on that by listing it as said on the day of wedding.. I await to hear it..

I read all your comment and discovered one thing..
An hypocrite!

Sotland:


lol.. Truth is always a pain to many.. Oh Yes, Like I said "many of us" are hypocrite... If Op likes let her adhere to negative advice . People like you are just adding salt to injury, poisoning her mind... Las las she has a choice to make.. Stay with her husband and manage the situation or end in divorce and that should give you all joy.. Negative energies

See the way you advised her as if she is at fault..You are not okay at all

Do you want me to say that you are dumb not to have noticed where I said that? You need not remind me of that..lol...

I rarely do not answer people that approaches me with insult.. Channel your energy into getting a client that you can cook for or run errand than looking for who to insult.. If my opinion is not OK by you, just pass. You mustn't comment..

lol

kaziblake:
I read all your comment and discovered one thing..
An hypocrite!

Hello Everyone.
I was to update yesterday and I opened the thread and saw a warzone. And I was confused. Please make we take am easy o.

@Oyoolima I am doing fine. The pain is easing and i don't feel that much anger anymore.

@ Bukatyne,. Fountainofyouth, Graxie, Merakhi, and all of all of I am still fine. I appreciate you all.

@ Crackhuas take am easy and I appreciate your advice as well

Hubby and I:

We had a lengthy and intense conversation cos I need answers. I had alot of why's.

It's so lengthy, but there was a lot of crying from both of us, regrets, anger and we just let it out.
And alot of pleading from his end.

At the end he said he wants his marriage to work and don't want to lose me.If only I will give him a chance, he will prove to me how sorry he is and make me happy again.

He said if I want a separate account he is willing to do that but he is scared of me leaving him.

He couldn't explain why it happened but said he is sorry for the betrayal and pain he caused me and for making me so unhappy. And he wants to make it right by me. He said Aunty will never bother me again and he will not bring up anything about the child until I am ready and comfortable talking about the child and his welfare and we will go by what I want regarding the child.

I told him I have heard. But I really want to be alone for a while and get back my sanity.
Told him I am still going to proceed for a leave once the lockdown is over and I won't be staying in town , I will be spending the leave at my brother's. He said that means he will take a leave too and he will inform my brother we are coming together to stay at at his place. I told him I want to go alone and that's the one he is raising face for now. Has been sulking since yesterday and funny, he is making calls and telling his friends we are travelling to see my people for a month after the lockdown.

He said if closing the joint account will make me happy, he is ok with it. And that i never mentioned going back for further studies but if that is what I want to do it's stilll ok .


Last night he asked me if we can start the adoption process immediately and what sex we would go for. I told him I can only talk about that after my leave.

He also spoke about the surrogacy agency we contacted. He asked if I can hold on from school since I have a Masters and we channel the money for the surrogacy since I said the project we are working on should be on hold.

I told him I can only give him a feedback at the end of my leave.

Thank you all once again for checking on me and for all the advice and prayers.

Mavis3:
Hello Everyone.
I was to update yesterday and I opened the thread and saw a warzone. And I was confused. Please make we take am easy o.

@Oyoolima I am doing fine. The pain is easing and i don't feel that much anger anymore.

@ Bukatyne,. Fountainofyouth, Graxie, Merakhi, and all of all of I am still fine. I appreciate you all.

@ Crackhuas take am easy and I appreciate your advice as well

Hubby and I:

We had a lengthy and intense conversation cos I need answers. I had alot of why's.

It's so lengthy, but there was a lot of crying from both of us, regrets, anger and we just let it out.
And alot of pleading from his end.

At the end he said he wants his marriage to work and don't want to lose me.If only I will give him a chance, he will prove to me how sorry he is and make me happy again.

He said if I want a separate account he is willing to do that but he is scared of me leaving him.

He couldn't explain why it happened but said he is sorry for the betrayal and pain he caused me and for making me so unhappy. And he wants to make it right by me. He said Aunty will never bother me again and he will not bring up anything about the child until I am ready and comfortable talking about the child and his welfare and we will go by what I want regarding the child.

I told him I have heard. But I really want to be alone for a while and get back my sanity.
Told him I am still going to proceed for a leave once the lockdown is over and I won't be staying in town , I will be spending the leave at my brother's. He said that means he will take a leave too and he will inform my brother we are coming together to stay at at his place. I told him I want to go alone and that's the one he is raising face for now. Has been sulking since yesterday and funny, he is making calls and telling his friends we are travelling to see my people for a month after the lockdown.

He said if closing the joint account will make me happy, he is ok with it. And that i never mentioned going back for further studies but if that is what I want to do it's stilll ok .


Last night he asked me if we can start the adoption process immediately and what sex we would go for. I told him I can only talk about that after my leave.

He also spoke about the surrogacy agency we contacted. He asked if I can hold on from school since I have a Masters and we channel the money for the surrogacy since I said the project we are working on should be on hold.

I told him I can only give him a feedback at the end of my leave.

Thank you all once again for checking on me and for all the advice and prayers.

Thank God for his marvellous help, you are doing well. Keep taking it one day at a time. You will surely pull through. I thank God for your kind of woman, strong and sound. I thank God that you are taking decision that will make you stronger not following the usual societal norms. It pays to know your value. I hope someday another woman going through such, will read this thread and learn. We have some individuals who are bent on making women feel less than human, they enjoy dishing out horrible advice all in the name of marriage without considering the emotional trauma of the woman involved. To them marriage is a woman's only achievement and so she must tolerate whatsoever no matter how weighty, it shows your husband is still sound not the typical ones we have here that have started jubiliating about more babies coming from baby mama. You truly need a me time, it will help you to get your esteem back. Please don't forget to keep praying, you need grace to finish strong. You will have your kids not as a revenge but as a gift from your maker. It is well!!!

Mavis3:
Hello Everyone.
I was to update yesterday and I opened the thread and saw a warzone. And I was confused. Please make we take am easy o.

@Oyoolima I am doing fine. The pain is easing and i don't feel that much anger anymore.

@ Bukatyne,. Fountainofyouth, Graxie, Merakhi, and all of all of I am still fine. I appreciate you all.

@ Crackhuas take am easy and I appreciate your advice as well

Hubby and I:

We had a lengthy and intense conversation cos I need answers. I had alot of why's.

It's so lengthy, but there was a lot of crying from both of us, regrets, anger and we just let it out.
And alot of pleading from his end.

At the end he said he wants his marriage to work and don't want to lose me.If only I will give him a chance, he will prove to me how sorry he is and make me happy again.

He said if I want a separate account he is willing to do that but he is scared of me leaving him.

He couldn't explain why it happened but said he is sorry for the betrayal and pain he caused me and for making me so unhappy. And he wants to make it right by me. He said Aunty will never bother me again and he will not bring up anything about the child until I am ready and comfortable talking about the child and his welfare and we will go by what I want regarding the child.

I told him I have heard. But I really want to be alone for a while and get back my sanity.
Told him I am still going to proceed for a leave once the lockdown is over and I won't be staying in town , I will be spending the leave at my brother's. He said that means he will take a leave too and he will inform my brother we are coming together to stay at at his place. I told him I want to go alone and that's the one he is raising face for now. Has been sulking since yesterday and funny, he is making calls and telling his friends we are travelling to see my people for a month after the lockdown.

He said if closing the joint account will make me happy, he is ok with it. And that i never mentioned going back for further studies but if that is what I want to do it's stilll ok .


Last night he asked me if we can start the adoption process immediately and what sex we would go for. I told him I can only talk about that after my leave.

He also spoke about the surrogacy agency we contacted. He asked if I can hold on from school since I have a Masters and we channel the money for the surrogacy since I said the project we are working on should be on hold.

I told him I can only give him a feedback at the end of my leave.

Thank you all once again for checking on me and for all the advice and prayers.

Yes! This sounds so good!

The surrogacy part especially. I know a woman that did hers. They had the baby and fell naturally preggers when baby was like 3 months. Baby A and B ended up being 1 year apart. Good luck.

Thank you so much Graxie. I love you plenty and God bless you too

Graxie:
Thank God for his marvellous help, you are doing well. Keep taking it one day at a time. You will surely pull through. I thank God for your kind of woman, strong and sound. I thank God that you are taking decision that will make you stronger not following the usual societal norms. It pays to know your value. I hope someday another woman going through such, will read this thread and learn. We have some individuals who are bent on making women feel less than human, they enjoy dishing out horrible advice all in the name of marriage without considering the emotional trauma of the woman involved. To them marriage is a woman only achievement and so she must tolerate whatsoever no matter how weighty, it shows your husband is still sound not the typical ones we have here that have started jubiliating about more babies coming from baby mama. You truly need a me time, it will help you to get your esteem back. Please don't forget to keep praying, you need grace to finish strong. You will have your kids not as revenge but as a gift from your maker. It is well!!!

Sotland:
Do you want me to say that you are dumb not to have noticed where I said that? You need not remind me of that..lol...

I rarely do not answer people that approaches me with insult.. Channel your energy into getting a client that you can cook for or run errand than looking for who to insult.. If my opinion is not OK by you, just pass. You mustn't comment..

lol

I Pity your wife!You are an hypocrite!

Thank you dear. I appreciate your prayers and advice.

sisisioge:


Yes! This sounds so good!

The surrogacy part especially. I know a woman that did hers. They had the baby and fell naturally preggers when baby was like 3 months. Baby A and B ended up being 1 year apart. Good luck.

Mavis3:
Hello Everyone.
I was to update yesterday and I opened the thread and saw a warzone. And I was confused. Please make we take am easy o.

@Oyoolima I am doing fine. The pain is easing and i don't feel that much anger anymore.

@ Bukatyne,. Fountainofyouth, Graxie, Merakhi, and all of all of I am still fine. I appreciate you all.

@ Crackhuas take am easy and I appreciate your advice as well

Hubby and I:

We had a lengthy and intense conversation cos I need answers. I had alot of why's.

It's so lengthy, but there was a lot of crying from both of us, regrets, anger and we just let it out.
And alot of pleading from his end.

At the end he said he wants his marriage to work and don't want to lose me.If only I will give him a chance, he will prove to me how sorry he is and make me happy again.

He said if I want a separate account he is willing to do that but he is scared of me leaving him.

He couldn't explain why it happened but said he is sorry for the betrayal and pain he caused me and for making me so unhappy. And he wants to make it right by me. He said Aunty will never bother me again and he will not bring up anything about the child until I am ready and comfortable talking about the child and his welfare and we will go by what I want regarding the child.

I told him I have heard. But I really want to be alone for a while and get back my sanity.
Told him I am still going to proceed for a leave once the lockdown is over and I won't be staying in town , I will be spending the leave at my brother's. He said that means he will take a leave too and he will inform my brother we are coming together to stay at at his place. I told him I want to go alone and that's the one he is raising face for now. Has been sulking since yesterday and funny, he is making calls and telling his friends we are travelling to see my people for a month after the lockdown.

He said if closing the joint account will make me happy, he is ok with it. And that i never mentioned going back for further studies but if that is what I want to do it's stilll ok .


Last night he asked me if we can start the adoption process immediately and what sex we would go for. I told him I can only talk about that after my leave.

He also spoke about the surrogacy agency we contacted. He asked if I can hold on from school since I have a Masters and we channel the money for the surrogacy since I said the project we are working on should be on hold.

I told him I can only give him a feedback at the end of my leave.

Thank you all once again for checking on me and for all the advice and prayers.

Hey girl, you are very strong and i admire your courage a lot. Pls continue to be strong and may God continue to make a way for you.

Just my opiniom tho: if he wants to close the joint account , fine then u channel the funds to surrogacy or IVF.
Pls dont take adoption option because his child will always be given priority over the adopted child for blood.so dont fall for that

Dont give tye impression that u still have money otherwise u will be cajoled to use it for "family" now, whatever u re opting for whether surrogacy or ivf make sure you use everything in the joint savings

Forget all thia his story, put on your thinking cap , leave love aside , begin to keep your personal money known to u alone or ur parents.

No need to go on leave, the condition for staying is that u must begin planning the ivf or surrogacy now . If u leave , remember the aunt is still there, if she can convince him to have and keep a child, she can still convince him to bring the child and mother to ur house wen u are away.

You have put so much into this marriage to just walk away leaving another bitch to enjoy ur sweat, stay and call the shots , this is the chance u have to get a child out of this marriage you have the knife and the yam.

Be wise , stoop to conquer!!

I wish you well Mavis3, whatever decision you decide to take.
Always remember to look out for yourself, because no one else out there would.

I really don't understand why you're so pained Ma....Please, I'll advice you go and look for your kind. I'm not on this platform to exchange insults..Henceforth, All attention denied.. E.O.D

kaziblake:
I Pity your wife!You are an hypocrite!

Thank You so much.

Misscongenialit:


Hey girl, you are very strong and i admire your courage a lot. Pls continue to be strong and may God continue to make a way for you.

Just my opiniom tho: if he wants to close the joint account , fine then u channel the funds to surrogacy or IVF.
Pls dont take adoption option because his child will always be given priority over the adopted child for blood.so dont fall for that

Dont give tye impression that u still have money otherwise u will be cajoled to use it for "family" now, whatever u re opting for whether surrogacy or ivf make sure you use everything in the joint savings

Forget all thia his story, put on your thinking cap , leave love aside , begin to keep your personal money known to u alone or ur parents.

No need to go on leave, the condition for staying is that u must begin planning the ivf or surrogacy now . If u leave , remember the aunt is still there, if she can convince him to have and keep a child, she can still convince him to bring the child and mother to ur house wen u are away.

You have put so much into this marriage to just walk away leaving another bitch to enjoy ur sweat, stay and call the shots , this is the chance u have to get a child out of this marriage you have the knife and the yam.

Be wise , stoop to conquer!!

Mavis3:
Hello Everyone.
I was to update yesterday and I opened the thread and saw a warzone. And I was confused. Please make we take am easy o.

@Oyoolima I am doing fine. The pain is easing and i don't feel that much anger anymore.

@ Bukatyne,. Fountaino.fyouth, Gra.xie, Mer.akhi, and all of all of I am still fine. I appreciate you all.

@ Crack.huas take am easy and I appreciate your advice as well

Hubby and I:

We had a lengthy and intense conversation cos I need answers. I had alot of why's.

It's so lengthy, but there was a lot of crying from both of us, regrets, anger and we just let it out.
And alot of pleading from his end.

At the end he said he wants his marriage to work and don't want to lose me.If only I will give him a chance, he will prove to me how sorry he is and make me happy again.

He said if I want a separate account he is willing to do that but he is scared of me leaving him.

He couldn't explain why it happened but said he is sorry for the betrayal and pain he caused me and for making me so unhappy. And he wants to make it right by me. He said Aunty will never bother me again and he will not bring up anything about the child until I am ready and comfortable talking about the child and his welfare and we will go by what I want regarding the child.

I told him I have heard. But I really want to be alone for a while and get back my sanity.
Told him I am still going to proceed for a leave once the lockdown is over and I won't be staying in town , I will be spending the leave at my brother's. He said that means he will take a leave too and he will inform my brother we are coming together to stay at at his place. I told him I want to go alone and that's the one he is raising face for now. Has been sulking since yesterday and funny, he is making calls and telling his friends we are travelling to see my people for a month after the lockdown.

He said if closing the joint account will make me happy, he is ok with it. And that i never mentioned going back for further studies but if that is what I want to do it's stilll ok .


Last night he asked me if we can start the adoption process immediately and what sex we would go for. I told him I can only talk about that after my leave.

He also spoke about the surrogacy agency we contacted. He asked if I can hold on from school since I have a Masters and we channel the money for the surrogacy since I said the project we are working on should be on hold.

I told him I can only give him a feedback at the end of my leave.

Thank you all once again for checking on me and for all the advice and prayers.

Hello Mavis3,

I am happy you have had the sit down with your husband and he sounds remorseful enough to make it work. You have also done your analysis and decided that your marriage/husband is worth 'fighting' for.

I would rather you strike while iron is still hot than wait to go to your brother's place and back. You don't know how long the lockdown is thereafter, you want to stay with your brother for a month before coming back to take decisions with your husband.

In the alternative, if your husband wants to join you to your brother's place, let him. You can still have your space to breathe.

During this lockdown, take it to God in prayers, pray for His peace, healing, Strength etc. He promised the broken hearted healing, pray to him and also pray for clarity.

Since you have decided to continue in your marriage, it would make no sense to do things to jeopardize the new found 'thingy' you both are trying to build with leaving pressing decisions till you are back months after. By then, he is probably moved on or toughened up. There is a reason people are told to address issues while fresh.

All the best and you will have your babies.

P.S.: You are really strong o! made me go through the hassle of creating an alternate account for the first time in my 8 years here.

Misscongenialit:


Hey girl, you are very strong and i admire your courage a lot. Pls continue to be strong and may God continue to make a way for you.

Just my opiniom tho: if he wants to close the joint account , fine then u channel the funds to surrogacy or IVF.
Pls dont take adoption option because his child will always be given priority over the adopted child for blood.so dont fall for that

Dont give tye impression that u still have money otherwise u will be cajoled to use it for "family" now, whatever u re opting for whether surrogacy or ivf make sure you use everything in the joint savings

Forget all thia his story, put on your thinking cap , leave love aside , begin to keep your personal money known to u alone or ur parents.

No need to go on leave, the condition for staying is that u must begin planning the ivf or surrogacy now . If u leave , remember the aunt is still there, if she can convince him to have and keep a child, she can still convince him to bring the child and mother to ur house wen u are away.

You have put so much into this marriage to just walk away leaving another bitch to enjoy ur sweat, stay and call the shots , this is the chance u have to get a child out of this marriage you have the knife and the yam.

Be wise , stoop to conquer!!

@Bold:

I wish she realizes the urgency of time right now.

As of now, she holds the yam and the knife.

Mavis3:
Dear Nairalanders,
I had to open this new account Because I have friends here and family members.

Please kindly advice me on this. As I am so bitter and unhappy right now.

I have been married for close to mine years without a child. I have had two miscarriages and couldn't take in again and we tried IVF once which failed.

My husband has been patient and supportive and have been wadding off any form of interference and other than that we had a beautiful marriage and close friends even think we are a perfect couple.
My pain started some months back when our pastor called me for an urgent meeting. On reaching there I met my husband and pastor told me my husband has a confession to make.
My husband told me he had an affair with a lady for a year which he ended because he was feeling guilty. But the lady had a child for him from the relationship which he just got to know recently when she called to tell him. And baby mama has threatened bringing the child to the house if he doesn't meet her demands.

He begged me for forgiveness and so did our pastor. I was heartbroken but I forgave him and took him back.
Early this morning, he told me he wants my permission to become involved in the child's life and be a father to the child.
We own a joint account and our finances is usually.planned as we talk about what we use money for. He wants us to include the upkeep of his child in our budget for each month .

I feel batrayed,angry and bitter.
I told him i will give him an answer when I am done thinking about it.
But I am not happy and I also feel cheated.

How do I handle this please?
Married folks in the house please I need your advice on this.

Pls mod, front page.

Seek your pastor for prayer and advise. Tell him how you feel ... You need some sort of spiritual cover or the devil will take advantage of this temporal moment of weakness ...

Mariangeles:


This is just so sad!

Desperately wanting a child for the wrong reasons...out of revenge, jealousy, hatred?

For me, I'd say now is not the right time for her to conceive a child.
Imagine conceiving a child with a heart full of hate and resentments for the would-be father...
What she needs now more than ever is a timeout to herself to regain her sanity.

I am addressing this post because I assume you are stable and sane from your posts in the kitchen thread.

And in that assumption, I will ask you to point out where I told the OP to have a child out of revenge, jealousy or hatred?
1. Revenge: To whom? Did I tell her to get pregnant for another man?
2. Jealousy: Jealous of whom? The babymama or what?
3. Hatred: Who does she hate?

All my posts to her is in relation to her having kids. Or does it not occur to you that she really wants kids which is why she has tried all sorts and exploring all options?

OP has been trying to conceive for 9 years and the older the woman/man is, the more effort it takes to happen. For instance, once a woman is 35yrs, the IVF rates really drops because of egg quality and all.

So when is the right time to conceive?
When will she carry the babies?
When will she train them?

Or do you think more time (1 year, 2 years) will erase the betrayal she feels?

I don't give feelgood impractical advises to be popular or politically correct.

And please , don't quote me again without objectivity; I beg you as I am a plantain lover like you.

Thank you.