Hello house pls i need your candid words

I am in love with this Idoma princess.
I know i love her, alot and I think the feeling is mutual. The problem is she has got a serious eyes problem, both eyes and she is 28.
At some point, especially when she stress the eyes maybe reading for long or staring at a screen for long she develops severe migrain hence, she feels so uncomfortable.
Sometimes she complains of very blur sight, othertimes she says she doesnt see at all. Although, she has been to the hospital and they advice surgery, we are both scared of the surgery been done in Nigeria, she is currenty applying an eye drop tho.
From our conversation her grandmother had same defect and she bacame blind later on bfor she finally died at old age. I love this girl, alot. But, i honestly dont want problem in life later on. I am afraid she might loose the eyes later on. What would u guys advice.

If you are not Idoma, don't even try to marry from that tribe then. They suit themselves better.
Then as for the eyes, it's hereditary, she will go blur later on and it might affect the kids as well. But there's always a way out. The surgery can slow down the process and she will live a normal life although she might use recommended glasses through out her life.

You are already in it...you either leave or stay.

Whatever you decide,its up to you.

Be smart about your decision...

I won't say more.

Never marry a woman out of pity.

God will see you through.

Dont marry out of pity biko

Bro I maybe right or wrong but symptoms looks more like "Glaucoma". Read more about this and go for another eye test. If it is the said eye-condition then there is an eye-drop that works just fine to mitigate the effect. Best of luck bro

P.s what were you told is the name of the eye-condition on your last visit to the hospital? You will do her and yourself a great deal of help by reading up to know more about the condition.

HarunaWest:
If you are not Idoma, don't even try to marry from that tribe then. They suit themselves better.
Then as for the eyes, it's hereditary, she will go blur later on and it might affect the kids as well. But there's always a way out. The surgery can slow down the process and she will live a normal life although she might use recommended glasses through out her life.

i am not Idoma
i am Yoruba.

Thanks anyway brother
i will keep that to heart

Please if U can afford the surgery d earlier the better because is a clear case of glaucoma. She needs U now, even if U didn't marry her eventually, at least U play a great role in her life.goodluck

naija4all:
Bro I maybe right or wrong but symptoms looks more like "Glaucoma". Read more about this and go for another eye test. If it is the said eye-condition then there is an eye-drop that works just fine to mitigate the effect. Best of luck bro

P.s what were you told is the name of the eye-condition on your last visit to the hospital? You will do her and yourself a great deal of help by reading up to know more about the condition.

yes chief, it is Glaucoma, and we were told there is no known permannet cure, it just managemnt and true, she currently uses a prescribed eye drop.

Thanks bro.

akaahs:
Please if U can afford the surgery d earlier the better because is a clear case of glaucoma. She needs U now, even if U didn't marry her eventually, at least U play a great role in her life.goodluck

I am a hustler myself but we are definitly working towards the surgery.

Even if we dont get to marry, we are sure going to be BFF

She won't go blind if she sticks to her medication/doctor's advice, glaucoma can be successfully managed. It's not worth throwing away true love, that shit is hard to find.

HarunaWest:
If you are not Idoma, don't even try to marry from that tribe then. They suit themselves better.
Then as for the eyes, it's hereditary, she will go blur later on and it might affect the kids as well. But there's always a way out. The surgery can slow down the process and she will live a normal life although she might use recommended glasses through out her life.

What is wrong in marry an Idoma.... You don't just tell someone not to marry from a particular tribe without stating why that tribe is bad.

Saintinoo:

What is wrong in marry an Idoma.... You don't just tell someone not to marry from a particular tribe without stating why that tribe is bad.

You know I didn't explicitly say they are bad to marry. I just said they don't really relate well with other tribes apart from there's. I once had a chick from there, even my uncle married from there,but divorced now, my friend married from there as well, the marriage lasted just 6 months. The family usually has a great influence over their female child. So it's like you married the while family. When the see you as an outsider, in a bid to protect their own, they start dishing out instructions to their daughter and before you know, the good girl don bad.

Diabetics that was not detected early.
The same with her grandmother.
Seems it runs in the family.

HarunaWest:

You know I didn't explicitly say they are bad to marry. I just said they don't really relate well with other tribes apart from there's. I once had a chick from there, even my uncle married from there,but divorced now, my friend married from there as well, the marriage lasted just 6 months. The family usually has a great influence over their female child. So it's like you married the while family. When the see you as an outsider, in a bid to protect their own, they start dishing out instructions to their daughter and before you know, the good girl don bad.

That's bad.... But you never can tell, OP's chick and her family might be different.

Take her to a specialist. Google

BrotherJesu:
Hello house pls i need your candid words

I am in love with this Idoma princess.
I know i love her, alot and I think the feeling is mutual. The problem is she has got a serious eyes problem, both eyes and she is 28.
At some point, especially when she stress the eyes maybe reading for long or staring at a screen for long she develops severe migrain hence, she feels so uncomfortable.
Sometimes she complains of very blur sight, othertimes she says she doesnt see at all. Although, she has been to the hospital and they advice surgery, we are both scared of the surgery been done in Nigeria, she is currenty applying an eye drop tho.
From our conversation her grandmother had same defect and she bacame blind later on bfor she finally died at old age. I love this girl, alot. But, i honestly dont want problem in life later on. I am afraid she might loose the eyes later on. What would u guys advice.

If you can afford the cost of the surgery, let her family handle it while you contribute what you have

If you know that you don't have such money, don't go too deep because pulling out will be difficult

If you truly love her , it's now or never

It's time to prove that love

sassysure:
Diabetics that was not detected early.
The same with her grandmother.
Seems it runs in the family.

If this was an MB clinical exam and this scenario was your tipping point short case question? Na to resit the exam remain for you o
But seriously do you know that people sometimes take what they see online for the absolute truth? That’s why it is not good to always say/post info one isn’t too sure about. Someone might just take that particular not correct info and act on it, without verifying it, and the outcome may be harmful.

Love conquers all things

Love endures all things

Love simplifies all things

If u love her all those baggage will be overlooked.. that's my take on this... and make sure it's love not pity.. good luck

merahki:



If this was an MB clinical exam and this scenario was your tipping point short case question? Na to resit the exam remain for you o
But seriously do you know that people sometimes take what they see online for the absolute truth? That’s why it is not good to always say/post info one isn’t too sure about. Someone might just take that particular not correct info and act on it, without verifying it, and the outcome may be harmful.

New tools in the fight against diabetic blindness.
The study showed that by 2040, more than 600 million people will be affected by retinopathy. I guess u know what this is.

Type this and read through it. I seem not to have copied it well.
It will also do you good to read case studies pertaining people from the middle belt and why there is so much retinopathy there.


I paid for eye surgery last 3 yrs in kaduna( national eye hospital kaduna) for a diabetic patient from idoma. She is currently partially blind.
Go to that hospital if u want to know more about people from the middle belt that went there for eye surgery and what they have in common with diabetics.The files are there for u. And I have a household member who suffer from that. We are talking about cases on ground not from old medical textbooks used in Nigerian universities.
So don't quote clinical MB for me.


The onus is now on her to go and check her blood sugar to rule that out.
U are not talking to a novice in the medical world or classroom.

https://allafrica.com › stories
Nigeria: Diabetes Increases Risk of Eye Diseases - Ophthalmologist - allAfrica.com

From what the person who qouted me posted, I will say that majority of Nigerians never ever linked blindness with diabetics before.

Once we here blindness, we rule glaucoma or cataract.
Diabetics is one of the world's leading causes of blindness. It is extensively researched in Nigeria but I don't think the govt have ever created public awareness on this before.
Some are lucky they were never blind or have eye problem associated with diabetics but others were not.

5 Diseases That Can Lead to Blindness | U.S. News

Here, diabetes was named number one.

sassysure:

New tools in the fight against diabetic blindness.
The study showed that by 2040, more than 600 million people will be affected by retinopathy. I guess u know what this is.

Type this and read through it. I seem not to have copied it well.
It will also do you good to read case studies pertaining people from the middle belt and why there is so much retinopathy there.


I paid for eye surgery last 3 yrs in kaduna( national eye hospital kaduna) for a diabetic patient from idoma. She is currently partially blind.
Go to that hospital if u want to know more about people from the middle belt that went there for eye surgery and what they have in common with diabetics.The files are there for u. And I have a household member who suffer from that. We are talking about cases on ground not from old medical textbooks used in Nigerian universities.
So don't quote clinical MB for me.


The onus is now on her to go and check her blood sugar to rule that out.
U are not talking to a novice in the medical world or classroom.

The snap diagnosis is definitely not diabetes darling, that’s all I meant by “the MB that I quoted” for you. DM is not the case here. With the history she gave, you would fail an exam if you said that case is DM.
I don’t really care whether you are a seasoned professor of medicine or a novice, you could be an ophthalmologist even. I just care that you posted a wrong medical info and tried to tell you because I have communicated on here with you before, that’s all. And I wasn’t rude or anyhow about it?
I believe that the case we have here is glaucoma. And I am most probably right. DM ie diabetes mellitus? Definitely wrong. This is without physical examination and investigations o.
Snap diagnosis for short case- DM - fail
Short case is a type of MBBS clinical exam where you give one precise (as precise as possible) diagnosis in any case scenario shown or described to you.
Take care.
You even posted an article for me to read? I have my own scholarly article/publication or two and DM is involved, and I update my knowledge so I won’t read that. I know DM is a cause of blindness. But it’s not the case here (with the history we were given). Now I have to rush.
Have yourself a good day!

sassysure:
https://allafrica.com › stories
Nigeria: Diabetes Increases Risk of Eye Diseases - Ophthalmologist - allAfrica.com

From what the person who qouted me posted, I will say that majority of Nigerians never ever linked blindness with diabetics before.

Once we here blindness, we rule glaucoma or cataract.
Diabetics is one of the world's leading causes of blindness. It is extensively researched in Nigeria but I don't think the govt have ever created public awareness on this before.
Some are lucky they were never blind or have eye problem associated with diabetics but others were not.

5 Diseases That Can Lead to Blindness | U.S. News

Here, diabetes was named number one.

yes you are correct, her grandmother from whom she inherited the problem was diabetic but, they never linked that to her eye problem till she passed. Her mum is also diabetic athough,we are yet to know her own diabetics status we shall be going for the test bfor the week runs out, then we pick it from there.

I really appreciate all the knwoledge yall are sharing may God continue to advance ur wisdom. I am grateful.

BrotherJesu:
yes you are correct, her grandmother from whom she inherited the problem was diabetic but, they never linked that to her eye problem till she passed. Her mum is also diabetic athough,we are yet to know her own diabetics status we shall be going for the test bfor the week runs out, then we pick it from there.

I really appreciate all the knwoledge yall are sharing may God continue to advance ur wisdom. I am grateful.

Thank u for this.
It was like I was sprouting horn all over I had to stop.
It's rampant in middle belt.

Pounded yam and egwusi soap is a double disaster in Nigeria. The earlier we accept this the better. Yam, our yam is very poisonous to some people

merahki:



If this was an MB clinical exam and this scenario was your tipping point short case question? Na to resit the exam remain for you o
But seriously do you know that people sometimes take what they see online for the absolute truth? That’s why it is not good to always say/post info one isn’t too sure about. Someone might just take that particular not correct info and act on it, without verifying it, and the outcome may be harmful.

I am very happy, I made that post.
Have a nice day.

BrotherJesu:
Hello house pls i need your candid words

I love this girl, alot. But, i honestly dont want problem in life later on. I am afraid she might loose the eyes later on.

There is nothing like true love anymore.

BrotherJesu:



yes chief, it is Glaucoma, and we were told there is no known permannet cure, it just managemnt and true, she currently uses a prescribed eye drop.

Thanks bro.

I hope she is regular with her drugs. Glaucoma is not something to play with. If she screens positive for diabetes, controlling the blood sugar ensures she doesn’t get that particular problem. It is uncontrolled diabetes which with time, damages the eye. With blood sugar control, this is avoided. However she has not been confirmed diabetic. You don’t know what blinded her grandmother. You don’t know that your girl has inherited it! It could have been glaucoma that grandmother had too (very likely too). They can have different eye problems!
Right now she has increased intraocular pressure. Glaucoma, diagnosed and on treatment. It is a more immediate bad man than diabetes. So ensure she regularly takes her eye drops. Her blood sugar might even be normal!
The case scenario is glaucoma (at least you have been told she has glaucoma).

@ sassysure, you would have gotten a fail if you said DM with the history you were given in an MB. The snap diagnosis is glaucoma. You have to find a way to deal with this. She has not even done a diabetes test, chai!
On this you are wrong. If you like brandish all the yam stories you know , the answer is glaucoma. Even if she turns out to be diabetic (which they have not even checked) it is unlikely to be causing such eye damage at this age.
There is some ?toxicity here that I can’t fathom the why or how of. I reread your reply to me last night. I would not have replied you at all if I had seen all the things you posted beyond “quoting MB” and the articles you talked about.
Moving on...

merahki:



I hope she is regular with her drugs. Glaucoma is not something to play with. If she screens positive for diabetes, controlling the blood sugar ensures she doesn’t get that particular problem. It is uncontrolled diabetes which with time, damages the eye. With blood sugar control, this is avoided. However she has not been confirmed diabetic. You don’t know what blinded her grandmother. You don’t know that your girl has inherited it! It could have been glaucoma that grandmother had too (very likely too). They can have different eye problems!
Right now she has increased intraocular pressure. Glaucoma, diagnosed and on treatment. It is a more immediate bad man than diabetes. So ensure she regularly takes her eye drops. Her blood sugar might even be normal!
The case scenario is glaucoma (at least you have been told she has glaucoma).

@ sassysure, you would have gotten a fail if you said DM with the history you were given in an MB. The snap diagnosis is glaucoma. You have to find a way to deal with this. She has not even done a diabetes test, chai!
On this you are wrong. If you like brandish all the yam stories you know , the answer is glaucoma. Even if she turns out to be diabetic (which they have not even checked) it is unlikely to be causing such eye damage at this age.
There is some ?toxicity here that I can’t fathom the why or how of. I reread your reply to me last night. I would not have responded you at all if I had seen all the things you posted beyond “quoting MB”.
Moving on...

Mum and grandma has diabetics. Chances are that she will get it eventually.
U should be surprised how I know there is history of diabetes in their family.

I hope it's only gluocoma too. I really hope so.
All the best to them.