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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Liliantalks: 6:43am On May 03, 2020 |
SammyChi1988:lol u are the one deceiving urself , there r no jobs for graduates n jobs for ssce holders? Right !! lol , well ssce holders r doing well but it also depends on what u mean by doing well ,, like we are all different. I for example see doing well as attaining degrees,, hving relevant importance in a company , and hving a back up business. we r all different. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Dagz007(m): 6:43am On May 03, 2020 |
vibbb: If you are not married pls don't make the mistake of thinking that marriage is base on sole decision of your fiance hmmm it is marriage not dating.. trust me |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Dagz007(m): 6:50am On May 03, 2020 |
landmark86: My Brother, calm down If you know you are good for there competitive way of reasoning n you love the babe so much pls give it a match, your PGD and MSc that's if you are in for there game.. you won't blame them for wanting an upgrade for there daughter abi who won't want it, everyone is seeking security for his or her bloodline. But if I were you as proud somebody that I am I may just ditch then all , hustle hard n make sure I make it big time then settle with someone However whatever the decision you make pls don't make mistake of trying to marry that babe without a full support of her parents o I beg you else hmmm it may not turn out well o and remember you still young you don't want to complicate your life now. May God help you. ![]() |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Ybaby: 6:51am On May 03, 2020 |
pasol4real: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Nollywood |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by thunderandfire47(m): 6:52am On May 03, 2020 |
OP My simple response Tell ur girl to give you 18months Go for your masters ,when you are done,enrol for another degree programme While doing that,tell ur girl's parents to help you get a better job. They will see your determination and might have a change of mind 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by mistarsam(m): 6:53am On May 03, 2020 |
humilitypays: @humilitypays, oga you use style get bad mouth o ![]() @landmark86, sieve through the numerous advice and do what's best for you. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by manontree: 6:57am On May 03, 2020 |
This is an interesting and educative post. As a husband and parent myself I must state the following: (1) Every parent would want the best for their kids (2) Marriage in Africa is not just between the man and woman. For those yet to marry, pls never underestimate the influence of your both families. Most progressive unions are built on strong support of their immediate and extended families. Some men cannot even imagine breaking up with their wives due to their strong relationship with their families (3) A good father does background checks on his kid's suitors. They do not leave such to chance. You are equally getting into this family with your daughter or son and as such you must be absolutely sure where you are going On the basis of the above, we cannot simply assume the man got it wrong or she can do whatever she wants based on love. The father has his reasons and it is important OP sorts these out or leave 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Ybaby: 6:58am On May 03, 2020 |
jaxxy: This!!! No plans |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by tunize(m): 7:00am On May 03, 2020 |
stuffs4me:But its sonething achieveable so bros calm down different background and different circumstances. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by xbit: 7:01am On May 03, 2020 |
Guy if u truly her and she loves you that much, then the fight is for both of you since she is standing by you. Fight for you love. But if she sides her Dad guy Run from her love. Her Dad Maybe testing you or this is the opportunity to prove to him how much you love his daughter. Wish u all the best. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by 0taPiaPia(m): 7:07am On May 03, 2020 |
Ningen: @ bolded.. more like EDITORS choice ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by jaxxy(m): 7:08am On May 03, 2020 |
bezimo: I'm sure it's not about the degree bt prospects and vision. The guy didnt do a good job presenting himself. Every family has expectations including his, I'm sure they won't be happy with him if he brought an orange seller home as his fiance. He only needs to articulate himself better even if he hasn't yet gotten there. Nobody is saying he must have a better degree or be more than the gal bt he must have smtn going for him. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Ybaby: 7:08am On May 03, 2020 |
pasol4real: Even a primary 4 holder employs PHD ![]() ![]() ![]() But her wise father said NO 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 7:09am On May 03, 2020 |
dayorich: What's the difference? |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Musafatiu2(m): 7:12am On May 03, 2020 |
Don't quit |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by OJEEMAH(m): 7:13am On May 03, 2020 |
Hmmmmm.......Op, its actually because of your social status. Even with you HND, her dad would not have declined if you were Otedola's son rather he will be curious to know why you opted for HND instead of a degree. meanwhile,her dad may have acted irrational but truth is, her dad actually knows, how difficult it is to succeed as an HND holder in this country. A friend with HND cert got a job recently with FIRS(GL 09). Do you think her dad would turn my friend proposal to marry his daughter down? I bet you, he won't do that cos he has HND except for other reasons. He should be more concern about his daughter's happiness. if her dad wants a better life for his daughter, he should help you get a better job to start with. If you no fit move on easily, turn her to baby mama he will be force to. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by tunize(m): 7:16am On May 03, 2020 |
My advice is very simple not because of the girl shall if her folks eventually persuades her to live u bro nvr mind not everybody is opportuned to go to school talk more a private uni. The parents on the other hand, should also understand that nor be only them fit make money for life anybody can make money and be somebody just that society, circumstances, grace, luck and any other tin u can name of plays huge roles in most of this things No body know as u take go get ur ( HND)bros be proud of who and what u have very important. Trust me even if u where a uni graduate and u are broke her father might still say same thing. Dating a rich mans child especially female children bro is not easy especially wen u both standard ar not the same. Upgrade urself bro, go professional and flow with her, if she's urs una go be if she isn't urs nor reason am baba life goes on. Cheers..!! |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by nitoriolohun(m): 7:17am On May 03, 2020 |
stuffs4me:but y ? Everything here is valued at do you know who I am ? For the fact that op can convince the said lady for a date means he is a smart guy. Not everyone is privileged going to the university talk more of a private owned The man shld more be concerned abt the guys maturity, intelligence,personality n his spirituality over educational qualification because it can b obtained later on. Pastor kingsly of David christain center met his wife according to him when she was doing her master's n him with just OND without a job. My uncle married his wife with bsc with just HND. It is the poor girl I pity for because she's the only victim I see here shld Op move on and the girl find it hard to get a responsible man. She will hate that man for life. The Op too might just be another victim if he strong-headed marry that girl because any of his shortcomings will be linked to his educational qualification n this might affect his home. Op success is a revenge but it's more beautiful when you dnt get successful to spite people who provoke you to work harder . 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by nextlevel2020: 7:21am On May 03, 2020 |
Guy, forget about HND, trust me they just use that one as an excuse in order to get rid of you. If when the father asked you about what you do for living and you told him that you are working in CHEVRON or you just returned from US, trust me, they won't remember your qualification. I would advise you to analyze the situation very well and convert it to opportunities. There are so many opportunities for HND holders too, certificate doesn't determine how well one can be successful in life . Don't miss out, Buhari doesn't has masters degree and Tinubu did not even attend Toronto University he claimed, but today, they are the one ruling this nation. Your situation is similar to my own too. I have witnessed many of such dramas, because I am an HND holder and I have been rejected by some girls that I loved deeply just because I attended Polytechnic. But I worked hard to turn the rejection to an opportunity and by that, God crowned my struggle. Today, I am giving all the glory. I have a job and my allowances alone can pay some BSc holders' salary. In nutshell, I would like you to pray on it, if it's indeed God's will for both of you, her parents will one day understanding what their daughter need in her life and they will give you guy their blessings. But in other hand, you must work hard and show to them that you are not a gold digger, you have ambitions on your own and you deserve to be the husband of their daughter. May God guide through. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Damibiz(m): 7:22am On May 03, 2020 |
As a duly member of nairaland and by virtue of the powers vested in me, according to Section 3, subsection 5 of article A subsection 2 chapter 7a paragraph 9 of nairaland and social media Act of 2012, read together with constitutional amendment 4 of 2013, section 6 of paragraph 8, I am issuing a statement refusing to comment on this matter.....Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by livinbygrace: 7:24am On May 03, 2020 |
YOU EVEN GET HND,YOU NO THANK GOD,YOU KNOW HOW MANY DROPOUT BUT RICH THAT ARE GETTING MARRIED TO PHD HOLDERS TODAY?No be only HND na PROFESSOR GO MARRY THEIR DAUGHTER.THEY ARE JUST USING THAT AS AN EXCUSE.GO TO ALABA INTERNATIONAL,TRADE FAIR,IDUMOTA,YOU WILL SEE IGBO MEN WEY NEVER ENTER FOUR WALL OF ANY UNIVERSITY BUT EMPLOYING AND MARRYING INTELLIGENT BEAUTIFUL MASTERS DEGREE HOLDERS. MY BRO.,HURSLE AND MAKE BETTER MONEY THE REST WILL BE HISTORY. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by divineappo(m): 7:24am On May 03, 2020 |
stuffs4me:very silly comment 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by wole212(m): 7:24am On May 03, 2020 |
Op, this is an eye opener,you need to upgrade to become something better. That factory supervisor or factory worker didn't cut it. You just wanna use the babe to escape poverty,and people like you would have changed the girl's orientation. If the parents agree,after you've seen the girl finish,you will start misbehaving, you might even have side chicks and be maltreating the girl, we know your type. ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Roseline1109: 7:24am On May 03, 2020 |
[b][/b]you are laughing that PHD student beg you for money, it is wise decision to raise himself check him back after two years of graduation tuzle: |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by wole212(m): 7:27am On May 03, 2020 |
No mind am,broke man dey claim love. stuffs4me: |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by jaxxy(m): 7:28am On May 03, 2020 |
thunderandfire47: If he is a serious minded guy the parent will know, even with that HND and factory supervisors work, they will respect him as a growing young man and approve of him while he sorts out himself. U can't be dating a gal seeing her step up and u just chilled doing nothing. Ure not competing bt ur brain shud tell u that u need to improve yourself. If u dont realise that u have a serious problem even if the gal loves u, u don't love urself obviously. That's why I said he seems too relaxed bt i understand it may be because he stays in oshogbo, life is easy there like ure a retiree already if he comes to lagos he will wake up and smell the coffee. The gal is in lagos enough challenges bt then I have frnds in oshogbo coming to Lagos to do programs or travelling out so I don't know exactly what hes doing. He's chasing woman without chasing his financial security. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by ComedianzazaB(m): 7:30am On May 03, 2020 |
Op.... don't be deceived Is only in Nollywood movies you'll see a girl from a rich family background end up marrying a guy from a poor background!! |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by mechanics(m): 7:30am On May 03, 2020 |
Ybaby:I will allow my daughter make her right choice not to bring a law that won't favour her. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by wole212(m): 7:33am On May 03, 2020 |
Insults do bring out the best in you,that should be a motivation for Op. Thiwalade: 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Akechukwuka: 7:33am On May 03, 2020 |
Marriage of this mischiovious character of a father does not work easily, even if u try to get the father acceptance, later or sooner...the father will be using it as a word of insult on u.. My advice is dat, leave the girl nd go for another in which her parent will accept u in who u 're nd nt what u 're. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Nobody: 7:34am On May 03, 2020 |
Enroll for online master's degree. I am sure the lady will support you if she really loves you. Try to satiate her father to the fullest. If he further disagrees with the union upon the attainment of the master's degree. Then something something is wrong. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Clashy(m): 7:35am On May 03, 2020 |
Man makes life hard for fellow man not satan. Anyway all na for inside life.. My advice is for you to look for happiness where you can easily get it.i'm sure you know this certainly well. |
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