| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by PeachtreeReside(f): 8:01pm On May 18, 2020 |
Don't allow him stay a minute in your house. What if something had gone wrong when you left his house that night  If you can, rent a hotel for him for 3days. Don't eat or drink if you have to hang out. Wisdom is key. Yes, you have forgiven him, would you put yourself in the position to be harmed ? 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Afamed: 8:01pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? Welcome him and treat him well let his conscience do the remaining for him. You probably don't know what tomorrow holds. Let his conscience be the Judge. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Wizvicky(m): 8:01pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did? well reminding him of what he did is wrong cos he had apologized and you said u have forgiven him. so u will have to clearly be plain to him. I know your type Sha. saying No is always difficult even when you know it will affect your mental state. you can tell him u will help him get an apartment and help with the bills if you wish to. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Munzy14(m): 8:02pm On May 18, 2020 |
@slyfost35 dude move on fast...That guy is not your friend...Trust no one!
Keep ya hustle 100% and stay focused...your friend can pull you down at any opportunity. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by flokii: 8:02pm On May 18, 2020 |
@OP not everyone you call a friend or best friend is your friend. Some are just there for the moment.
It's okay to forgive but If you allow him bring his bad energy back to your life, you'd regret it trust me. Someone that didn't care about your whereabouts in a strange land. You better wise up 3 Likes |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by LadyChomzy9: 8:02pm On May 18, 2020 |
Tell him you will accomodate him, when he is in his way, switch off your phone relax. The next day, block his line completely. 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by ReluctantAdult(m): 8:02pm On May 18, 2020 |
People try to come close to me and be best of friends with me but I ghost them.
You can only be my guy. If I fit help you, I help you. I don't need anyone to expect anything from me. I no be Jesus. 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by NaijadrivaCars: 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
My experience with so called "best friend" thought me a lesson.
Op, don't!!!!!
You may pay for a hotel room for some days and give him the room key. 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by ridbell01(m): 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
My brother you need to tell him that you snapped those pictures at Ikeja hotel oo when he's coming he should come with his 30k per room cash |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by ngwababe(f): 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
Oga, that's not a friend.
Don't let him know your house and hustles, he will betray you over and over again.
Forgive him oo, but keep him afar. 2 Likes |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by slyfox35(m): 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
yettymuse:
Severe all ties between you both! Block him on your Facebook so he doesn’t see your progress! This one na enemy! Who best friend epp!? 
life is business stop allowing your emotions take the lead! .
Now your emotions is leading you, making you feel like a bad person....Him reason you when he was wicked to you Lol,your Military approach to the matter take me by surprise,thanks dear,I got your advice 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by joinnow: 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
op op op
how many times did I call you
3
pls you can forgive but don't allow him to come close to you.
it's when things is hard you know your true friend but he prove otherwise.
vedict: he is not a true friend. 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by bluebay(m): 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? Piece of advice, don’t make him live in your house . Piece of advice |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Wiseandtrue(f): 8:03pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? If to say na me ooooo, I no go fit allow am inside my house.
He gat to learn a lesson
If not, he will continue to take you for granted.
That kind person fit kill
His next victim might not be as lucky as you, that's if it's not you!!! 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by eazyhifii(m): 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
I'm glad you forgave him, but please stay far away from the dude, he is clearly jealous and would do everything in his power to bring you down. Stay far away from him, Might as well block all his contact. You have a really good heart though, to even still consider someone like that. Keep it up  but don't let it get you in trouble Stay away from bad energy. 1 Like |
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| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Didi2d(m): 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
Octopusssy:
Foreign country wey no get name E no go pass Dubai or SA |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by 24kmagic: 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
For someone like me that has an unforgiving spirit, that friendship/relationship is gone.
I won't even pick his call sef
Last last, na fake story |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by tranxo(m): 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? In as much as you no tell us d Kain business we Una dey do, all I can say is CUT HIM OFF. But the style of the cutting off depends on d kain business wey una dey do. E fit backfire if not handled with tact |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by KingAzubuike(f): 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
I don't even have a best friend. Friends yes but a best friend ? Nah. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Omakraid(f): 8:04pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Thanks for this,my thoughts exactly, but I do not know how to tell him to back off,should I remind of him of what he did? Don't remind him of what he did... If you have the money, I'll suggest you book a hotel room far from your house the day he is to arrive, when you pick him up, go straight to the hotel with him. He'll be surprised and asks what, just tell him you have stuffs to handle but don't bring up the previous issue. He might want to trace you(you never can tell his intentions) so whenever you get the chance to meet, don't leave when it's getting dark and don't go home direct, hang at a friend's for sometime before you go home or for the time he'll be around, get someone trusted to stay with you or move in with the person. Lastly, when you get into that hotel with him, let him know you've sorted his bill for the day or for two days and he'll sort the rest himself when that expires. You can also decide to travel away from that place if you wish. Your life is precious o, choose wisely 2 Likes |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by jaxxy(m): 8:05pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? Bring him to ur house ke? U shudnt even associate with such a miserable soul. Yes 4give bt let him stay miles away from u. He apologized bt because of ur situation has improved and he has no power over u and not becos he is sorry for what he did. He will repeat same thing God forbid if situation changed for u. Keep a snake at a long distance u get me? If u perished on the streets in that country like he thought, he wudnt give a damn about u. I must warn u that guy can ruin u so be careful of ur relationship with him. He does not wish u well. I’m 80% sure. If he ever changes it will wud be for remorse not from seeing u have improved in life. I have no best friend cos it’s not my thing anymore bt I have a few good frnds.  3 Likes |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by johnnyenglish02(m): 8:05pm On May 18, 2020 |
Lavisha:
your friend must be an igbo you sound like muslim yoruba.. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Crixxx: 8:05pm On May 18, 2020 |
Mad o.
Damn.. Any eye for an eye..
If he could behave such way to you when you were a foreigner, envy can lead him to do worse now that you're comfortable..
It's your choice anyway. 1 Like |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Vivjoe(f): 8:05pm On May 18, 2020 |
Well, I believe you must have gotten the opinion or the advise that you needed. He was never your frd, so I believe you should stay far away from him. Try cutting all communication. No body dey for you for this life. |
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| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by lion501: 8:06pm On May 18, 2020 |
Dis 1 fit kill u o |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by AfricanCity: 8:06pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.
We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.
Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).
My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.
Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!
His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.
On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.
I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)
I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.
This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.
What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”
Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?
I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home? Fair weather friends are no friends. |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by Dinho20(m): 8:06pm On May 18, 2020 |
"HMMMM"
LOVE IS BLIND. |
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| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by lekki1444: 8:07pm On May 18, 2020 |
slyfox35:
Your stupidity seems hereditary,I won’t bother my time on you,if your life is vague and unbelievable,some people experiences are not,my story is vague? Then I have to lie about my parents death?
I only asked for advice,if you have none in that empty skull of yours,then shut up and stop being a fool on Nairaland so you have thhis type of venom in you but you are acting like a pussy to an idiot who clearly is not your friend ? what is it about this your friend that makes you so soft hearted for him ? does he have more swagger than you ? is he extremely hanndsome and you like having him around ? do you consider it a privillege to have a friend like him seeing as he is more handsome or more swaggalicious ? what exactly is it about him cuz i know there is some attraction to him. most sane people would have thrown his number in the bin after a treatment like that. 8 Likes |
| Re: Are Best Friends Worth It? Mine Abandoned Me In The Streets Of A Foreign Country by slyfox35(m): 8:07pm On May 18, 2020 |
tranxo:
In as much as you no tell us d Kain business we Una dey do, all I can say is CUT HIM OFF.
But the style of the cutting off depends on d kain business wey una dey do. E fit backfire if not handled with tact If I cut him off,it will not affect my work bro,am totally independent now,so I get where you are coming from 2 Likes |
