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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 7:50am On Jun 17, 2020 |
annex1: He saw, just like his younger brothers that full NL- he probably called them DESPERATE. I told those those ones to calm down, the journey is ahead. ![]() ![]() ![]() From his writeup, you can tell his kind. Always acting so perfect and every other person is the problem. He should better pick his poison. Ariza: Very simple ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by PrincessJr(f): 8:24am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:Odiegu ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 8:32am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:Madamme.. This is not a man bashing woman thread like we have all littered around this forum. My intention is to have a civil and objective discussion, you would notice that so far I have tried to keep things sane so please try and lets respect that. 11 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 8:34am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: Seems anyone that doesn’t cuddle you is bashing you, but you were being objective by stereotyping women. Mr Perfect, why is it so hard finding a perfect woman? Are you the last of your kind? ![]() ![]() Look at the guy in the mirror and FIX yourself. 6 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 8:43am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:good morning how's work and family. Big sis please I need your help ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 8:44am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:Guyinthemirror, this is why you must avoid Nigerian based girls who spend a big portion of their lives on the internet. This particular one is dating a sucre papito who is based abroad. She is a perfect stereotype for naija girls seeking abroad husband 12 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 8:45am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:BOSS ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 8:49am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:I am going to try and explain somethings to you okay ? Finding a perfect woman has never been an easy thing, I guess the same goes with finding a perfect man. So there isnt anything bad in being in a dilemna about that, its the way it is supposed to be. Every focused person would pause and think deeply before they make the choice of a life partner. The fact that I decide to discuss this on Nairaland should not give you the impression that I am in an hopeless situation thats not the case, I can discuss this here cos I believe we have very intelligent people here, and being on this forum has changed my life and I have learn alot from here. I got my first job on this forum, and I have made great friends here as well that I have helped and have also been of tremendous help to me etc. Who knows maybe I will even meet my wife on this forum as well ![]() ![]() So be careful the way you address people and stop being unnecessarily aggressive. Cheers ![]() 14 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 8:50am On Jun 17, 2020 |
annex1:This is not a stereotype, 8 out of 10 times it is true. The remaining 2 women who won't fall face down, have wealthy parents and are not excited by the idea of an abroad based guy. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 8:52am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Unnerve:OP,this seems very realistic. Start from your present location 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 8:53am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: Of course, both are hard. It is harder for people like you. People who claim to be so good and every other person is the problem. I am this, I am that, I don’t do this, I don’t do that... Only you, yet you stayed 32 years in Nigeria and no babe hooked you? You still travelled abroad and stayed two, no babe again? How? Ahnahn! Uncle, look in the mirror again. Dating people like you is even HARD. They are stressful because one would keep trying to fit into their STANDARD of a good partner. Relationships shouldn’t be that stressful. I don’t care if you are not in a hopeless situation. If you decide not to marry, I don’t care. That is your choice. However, if you want to marry, you need to look within and make compromises. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by saucecode(m): 8:56am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Romangalactic:As in,she should not even be having an opinion here. Dat girl na the perfect sterotypical hustler for abroad husband 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 8:58am On Jun 17, 2020 |
saucecode: ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by saucecode(m): 8:58am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:But you too,why did no man hook you all these years? Your sucre papito met you on nl and doesn't know the real you yet. Is there something he's missing? 11 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 8:59am On Jun 17, 2020 |
They have landed. They are not yet complete. ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 9:01am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:Babe please dont derail this thread . I have gotten some great insights I dont want people willing to share more to be discouraged. Thanks ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 9:02am On Jun 17, 2020 |
saucecode: Have you seen me blame men for my singleness? Have you seen me claim to be so perfect and the guys I have been meeting are the problem? I would never do that. As for my sucre papito, he is fully aware of the REAL ME. Do I hide my bad character? I don’t na. I can easily get a good girl acct, but I am not a good girl and he knows!! We are fine over here. Kill yasef! ![]() ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 9:04am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: Here comes the guilt tripping. I am the one derailing the thread, not the people jumping on my comments ehn? I can see you have a thing for looking in the wrong direction. ![]() ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by saucecode(m): 9:04am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:My dear,we can date and fck bad girls but we only marry good girls. So do prayer and fasting for ring biko 8 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 9:10am On Jun 17, 2020 |
saucecode: His prick so longgg, it stretches across the Atlantic. Your gfs are even getting more fcked than I am. Some men like them BAD! Kinda like, the devil you know... You know why I love diasporan guys? They don’t have time to waste. Will they enter plane to come fck toto? When no be say them never fck before. Once they see who they like, they strike. ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by saucecode(m): 9:16am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:See how she's talking abt her sucre papito prick on the internet. So disrespectful. I never see who dey put cart before horse pass dis girl. At least your mentor cococondy waited until wedding day before announcing her abroad catch on nl,you on the other hand wan use talk talk spoil your own wey never give u ring. 7 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 9:19am On Jun 17, 2020 |
saucecode: I can’t remember saying he is abroad. You all assumed he is abroad and I love to play along. I love messing with your head and the things you think you know. ![]() ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by annex1: 9:20am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Romangalactic: Another man missing the point. So when you finally meet this remaining two, wont your current fixed mindset also judge them as that - only being interested in his North America? Having an open mindset is the best thing you can gift yourself. Besides what is bad in a lady wanting to be engaged with someone abroad? Even boboz will be ecstatic at this prospect. If you read my posts, I spoke about mirror guy making TRADE OFFs because he cant have it all. A. So yes he feels if he marries some Nigerian girl he is going to offer her North America (good trade) Now look for what she is also good at and going to offer him and the marriage. Many ladies in Nigeria are gainfully employed in multi-nationals, single, industrious and living effing comfortably. At the same time they'll still fancy the option of relocating. Appreciate the fact that in difficult Nigeria she is doing well, consider how elevating her to your North America will benefit you and the marriage. As for attitude, as a sound young man and "christian" that you claim, at some point you will always know if someone's attitude is off - by discussing various diverse topics and situations. So tell me how will he give those remaining two a chance when he already has a fixed mindset? B. Marry someone in North America that dont care about where you are. He is considering this option and this option eliminates his fear of Nigerian girls feigning love because of his "being in North America" But NO, he wont because they are feminists and not under 26. Worst of all they like divorce. So again why dont you make a TRADE OFF by accepting and appreciating the profits of equality in gender, marriage and household duties. Some men would jump at this. AGAIN, if you truly uphold respect and equality in marriage, why would you be afraid of her divorcing you if arent bent on frustrating her like you may or would have with no repercussion if yall were in Nigeria? My Brother, you cant cut your cake and have it. This is marriage, you must make trade offs. 9 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 9:33am On Jun 17, 2020 |
annex1:How come you do not consider the option of coming back to live in Nigeria as a regular guy. What is wrong with this approach ? |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by izzou(m): 9:44am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: Because it is a Superstory approach, from the stables of Wale Adenuga productions. It only exists in your head Are all the regular guys in Nigeria happily married to good wives? So once you automatically reside here, you'll get a good wife abi? People like you are so careful and in the end, you end up with the same mistakes of someone who was careless The problem I see on this thread is you: You are not open minded. You haved zeroed options because of what you feel, or what people agreed with you here(faceless people for Heaven's sake) But that's your problem sha. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 9:46am On Jun 17, 2020 |
annex1:I'm not interested in all this story. I only quoted you to tell you that Nigerian girls falling face down for abroad guys is not a stereotype. It is a fact. Look around you and stop existing on alternate made-up internet reality Many ladies in Nigeria are gainfully employed in multinationals, living effing comfortably. LIES You're preaching about having an open mindset as if you don't know how generalizations work. That 8 out of 10 girls will fall face down, is enough to form a valid opinion and no realistic person will want to gamble on the minority without having suspicions 5 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 9:54am On Jun 17, 2020 |
izzou: Thanks for your input. While I may not agree with some of your assumptions up there, I was hoping you'd put forward a more robust explanation about why you think that option is not tenable. It is true that not all people married in Nigeria are married to good wives, but you make it sound as if there are no people married to great women in Nigeria. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by izzou(m): 10:06am On Jun 17, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: The same way you make it sound like marrying an over 30 isn't great The same way you make it sound like people don't marry great women who are based there The same way you make it sound like any girl you meet online would automatically be after your money, because you are in the abroad. A lasting marriage is built on love, understanding and compromise... Something you have shown us here that you don't have You're too perfect to marry any woman in Nigeria or even in North America. Your own angel will be deployed to meet you soon. Till then, Bonne Chance 11 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by saucecode(m): 10:12am On Jun 17, 2020 |
pocohantas:My dear,you love lying and talking abt your life on nl, this is why you can't keep up with your lies and stories anymore Always resist the urge to SHALAYE. 10 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by annex1: 10:15am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Romangalactic: Youve said so many things without any tangible construct toward solving his issue. Every generalization he has made or is making is impeding him from solving the problem. I dont generalize subjects because I haven't carried out quantitative analysis of the 8 of 10 that you speak of. If you have, give us real statistical data and stop calling numbers like we are playing baba ijebu. Let me even play baba ijebu like you, if 8 out of 10 girls will fall face down, I'm sure 9 out 10 guys will fall face flat at having an abroad based girlfriend. And will also feign love and attitude likewise. So it cuts through both sexes. And I think you may be near sighted if you think there aren't substantial gainfully employed and comfortable ladies in Nigeria. Please when you have an idea that mirror guy can key into so he can find iyawo, say it so that we can discuss instead of carrying out bedroom research and generalizations. 5 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 10:16am On Jun 17, 2020 |
If we ask Op what he has to offer the lady, he will probably say good or comfortable life (material things) in North America ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Op I lie? |
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