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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 11:32am On Jun 18, 2020 |
pocohantas: I don't know how true tho ! buh there was a rumour then someone from abacha family said, may there family(abacha) never be as poor as dangote family so dear who am i share beta money make me sef join list of 10 send my aza |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 11:38am On Jun 18, 2020 |
pocohantas: We don't av all day we all have super story 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 12:21pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: No one said it isn’t the same. You measure the screen size, not the TV. If you measure the screen-size, you will see it isn’t much. Now run along and go get your voice back from google. 7 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by woky: 12:26pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04:Babies and it can only be possible with the help of semen from men Men has always bin on the supplying side since Adam.. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 12:28pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04:This slogan too funny abeg 2 Likes
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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 12:37pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: My Obim does not want your babe.... ! Thanks for making a case for your fellow type of men who are sure they are not going to make it in life.... the ladder ladies will come to thier aid but not gold diggers like me and it is illegal to force yourselves on women who dont want you. We dont want your type. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 1:10pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby: My type una sha wan make me feel like one of these almajaris upnorth. if your obim rose from grass to grace, madam i wil advice you shuush ! cos your obim was once one of us |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 1:21pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Romangalactic: Morning Chief, to be fair, she is completely right. She probably did not articulate her thought process by putting it in the right context. However, I agree with her. Women are hypergamous in nature and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everyone wants a great life. At least we cannot go to the market to purchase items of poor quality. In the past and which still occur in Northern Nigeria, a man should have established himself before considering starting a family. This established man scans through various families and decides to pick out a family he considers suitable for his status. He visits the family and informs them of his decision to marry into that family. If the head of the family is okay with the potential suitor, the young ladies of marital age are brought out on display and he selects the one he most desire. I think there was a bible passage depicting this accurately - I cannot remember if it was Isaac, Jacob, or even both who utilized this method of selecting their wives. Please NOTE here - the illusion we now call LOVE was not a criterion. Though society has evolved and is still changing, the same basic principles still applies. A man MUST be well-established before he considers starting a family. Nowadays, young men are placing the cart before the horse. Young men are chasing women instead of utilizing their youth to build a skill, career, business, or trade. They have completely forgotten about their DUTY - to acquire the means to take care of their family. As a man's capability to provide increases, his options to access more women increases. A high valued man can get any woman he wants and women want high valued men. If you call that gold-digging, absolutely. I'm okay with that. No need to shame women. It is in their nature. Also, like she said only a man without gold shame women who wants gold. I will also add, only men with gold set up safety mechanisms to protect the gold from potential thieves. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by emmaodet: 1:24pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: Bro pls leave them, let them keep dreaming. Most ladies are just like nigerian students/youths. They have similar mentality. Most student/graduates/youths will all be dreaming of how they will get a job at chevron, shell, total, cbn or nnpc etc. Driving good cars, staying in AC office, building a duplex in a choice estate, vacations etc until they graduate and Life hits them hard. They collide with Reality and while a fraction will be fortunate to get such jobs, a whooping many will languish in not so funny ones like teaching, factory workers, farm etc. Depression will set in and they will ask, God why me? When they were in school few year ago and you tell them how things are, they will tell you you are pessimistic, bad energy, low thinker etc and they know the God they are serving won't let them pass through such because they are a child of God. A destiny child (like say na me be child of devil) Likewise ladies, tell them about how majority of nigerian men are struggling and only few are earning #200k and above a month and they need to come in and support rather than the high expectations and watch how they will pour their raw venoms on you. They will call you a weak man, a sissy, a weakling and lazy man that is looking for a lady to feed him until they COLLIDE with Reality. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 1:40pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Romangalactic: I think in some states or provinces in North America, it is illegal to conduct a DNA test immediately after birth. Though some Men Groups are advocating for this right. However, it still does not absolve men completely from paying child support, but in marriage, infidelity is a strong ground for filing for a divorce and gives the man a SLIGHT EDGE such as not paying for alimony, and if DNA test shows the children in the marriage are not his, there is the possibility he may walk free without paying child support. Well, that possibility is dependent on the caliber of his lawyer, his negotiating power during arbitration, or the nature of the Judge if arbitration is not successful. Notwithstanding, if a man includes the DNA term in his PRENUP and if the woman agrees and signs to this term, a DNA test can be conducted. Both parties can include whatever they want in the PRENUP. Even the woman can insist some terms in the PRENUP should be removed and it is left for both parties to come to a common ground. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 2:34pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: When you rise from your own grass and get to grace then you can sit with us, for now leave frivolous activities, focus on your hustle, avoid women and donot impregnate anyone until you get here. 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:58pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby: You still don't get it , as for the hustle i will keep focus even dangote still dey find money ... so no rest for me or your hubby. you are not in any position to advise cos naa person dey feed you, kindly take d back sit n let independent hands robb mind. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 3:08pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: I am so sure I make more money than you in my businesses. Not sure why you are angry though. Did I beat you? Send me your CV let me see what I can do. Avoid kids and women. 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Biglittlelois(f): 4:43pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13: K. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 4:54pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13:My brother I'm in total agreement with you, I dey like your posts here as soon as I read them. My only issue on the thread came when the chics came in and were getting angry at the OP for saying most Nigerian women once they know he is from abroad, they will gain interest. Na true na Even some came later to agree they are golddiggers after the whole noise of earlier pages. The false humility and disinterest in hooking an obodo oyibo nigga was too funny when everyone knows naija women dey hustle man based on his pocket. Even St Peter of the rock at Jerusalem knows it, no be news. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Romangalactic(m): 4:57pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13:DNA test illegal? These people want to completely strip American men of all rights o. Well you're right still, PRENUP and DNA are damn important. Too many female hustlers looking to climb on the backs of men out here mehn 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 5:08pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby: LOLH !! if you rich pass me you no fit poor pass me, as long as i don't lose on both sides, alhamdulillah ! as for the CV i will redirect my younger ones in the area to your DM, incase you see load of messages don't flatter yourself ...
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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 5:42pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Romangalactic: Unfortunately, men in the western world don't have rights anymore. Attention is paid more in the follow category Men's rights < women's rights < LGBTQ rights < Animal rights < Children & vulnerable people's rights. As you can see animals have more rights than men and men do not really have a say, but do all the biddings for other advocacy groups. As a result, a lot of western men are not considering marriage. Many are going their own way (MGTOW). This is what feminists caused. That's why I laugh at many African women claiming to be feminists. These women have more rights and are still screaming for more because they don't know what to do with the rights they already have. The LGBTQ movement is getting more attention than the feminist advocacy group and these feminists don't like it. Anyways, feminists have destroyed traditional values and responsible for the breakdown of the family structure. Hence, I laugh again at African women claiming to be feminists. They clearly do not know what they are doing. There are some feminist group in America calling for the death of men just because they are men. Young men who are unmarried, one of the first conversation to ask your date should include if she is a feminist. If she says yes, whether she understands what it means or not - abeg waka peacefully. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 5:45pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: Stop arguing with women, you will lose. You only win an argument over a woman by showing her your achievements. 7 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by woky: 5:52pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 6:15pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
anslem04: o have engaged you enough. Ngwanu bye |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 6:17pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13: It was a man's world for many centuries biko let others to have the world for a few centuries- the clocks will turn again but not now 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by woky: 6:32pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby:sadly, it's still a "man's world" in many parts of the world, especially in African.. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 6:48pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
woky: Changing like speedy! Go on Twitter and see what Dbanj is facing today. Women can no longer be intimidated. It stopped being a man's world the day SHE stepped into the classroom. It is BOTH men and women world.... no gender is deserved earth more than the other. 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by akaahs(m): 7:47pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:While I was reading it story something prick me to ask you if U ll be interested in a female friend of mine who have never been lucky in the game of relationship. She's a registered midwife, very homely, dedicated Christian, from kd. If U re interested, chat me up. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 8:49pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby: Sorry honey, it's still a man's world. Men are only adjusting to make it comfortable for women. Women are yet to reach the intolerable threshold before men call them out on their bullshit. The #Metoo movement is getting men warmed up. I can confidently tell you this. Other societies are steadily observing the decline of the western world and will not copy the template. Women should exercise their rights, but don't push it further. If you want to make men out as the enemy, please remember the civilization and comfort you currently enjoy were provided by men. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 8:56pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13: It is OUR world! In marriage the man is the head of the home. In the society, it is OUR world. Man will work for pay and if woman has money - man will work for woman to get the pay. Men may be warming up but the women are warmed. The best will get now is equality because if care is not taking she wants him under her like he kept her under him for so long. Look around you, women are bolder and grouping together more than ever. It is not gender war - it is the observation. I want equality but men may not get even that. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Boss13: 9:48pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Ybaby: I don't get into an argument with women and this will be my last take on this. This is not a who's right situation like many women like you typically engage in because it is filled with PURE IGNORANCE. Please don't get it twisted. It's still a man's world. While we appreciate and recognize the significant role women play, men still dictate largely what goes on and contribute immensely towards our civilization. I will encourage you to study history properly so you understand where your place truly lies and enlighten your IGNORANT SELF. The reason why men or would I say Capitalists allowed women to join the workforce was because of World War II and the unavailability of employable men to join the workforce due to the war. It wasn't an Utopia and that right and the other rights such as the right to vote was handed down to women. Women didn't fight for it - IT WAS GIVEN as a result of the greed and selfish purpose of a few male elites. What has gotten into your head to think you are EQUAL to a man. Can you say this in the MIDDLE EAST and have your complete set of teeth still intact? Do you think you are physically equal to man? Or have contributed or still contribute towards civilization. Take out government and the police, do you think you can stop a man to take what he wants from you? Have you ever had to think that in the event of a chaos ONLY the strongest survive and weaklings would align cooperatively, either at their own will or not. Have you ever experienced a war situation and ask the women in distress if they think they are EQUAL to men. Don't even look further. I have Syrian friends, Iraq and even Iran who have witnessed chaos - go and ask the women in Maiduiguri or those held captive by Boko Haram whether they think they are EQUAL to a man. What is wrong with you and your mind? Because there is relative peace in Nigeria, you come on Nairaland to display ignorance and immaturity. You owe it to the men who maintain order in society. What nonsense. It is this behavior that make women begin to get drunk on their stupidity and unable to recognize their ROLE and DUTY in society. Are you drunk or high on detergent? If men are not careful women will put them under. You must truly underestimate men which is a shame even with the current situation on going in the North. Don't wish for such circumstances and be grateful for what you have. I also hope this is the only forum you get to display this childish behavior. Finally, please conduct more research and stop be ignorant. YOU ARE NOT EQUAL TO A MAN AND YOU WILL NEVER BE. Be grateful, fight for your rights with sense and apply wisdom. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Ybaby: 10:41pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Boss13: You wrote all that and you dont get into an argument women. Guess what! Mighty powerful you came out of a woman! You are not so powerful after all ..... you needed a woman to transport you here. If you like shout till you are blue in the face..... a woman popped you out! Read the above slowly! I agree with you that she did a poor job raising you and could have been high on detergent while she raised you. All that you wrote above is for your mummy, she is a woman and forgot to teach you that she is not beneath you.... maybe she is but women are not. Now sit down! You silly punk! Anyway I dont get into argument with your type of man 4 Likes 1 Share |
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