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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by kassano22(m): 6:40pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Don't let them exploit you. Thats how people i knew way back would be coming up with different stories just to ask me money.. The question i ask them is lets say you didn't find me on fb or i was still in naija with you. won't you find a solution to your problems?Once they say hello on FB the next thing is can you do me a favor? They don't even care to know what's going on even if your working or not. Most Nigerians living in diaspora are leaving pay check to pay check, no savings, work 2 jobs and still try to support friends and family. Just do what you can do. If any body disturbs you, you know where the block button is. 4 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by vhuqnl(m): 6:41pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
soberdrunk:Na dem. Drunkard 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Vicas2000: 6:42pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: This post shows you probably will never take the advice given to you here. I use to be like you. A friend owed me over a million till today and I had to forgive that debt. After forgiving...dude asked me to gift him money for his wedding. I just laughed and told him I don't have. Anyways...here's what I did to curb this: 1. My parents are my priority. I set up a monthly allowance for them and make sure I do this wverytime without fail. 2. I have two phones. One is my private line. The other is for everybody else. Whenever I go to Nigeria...i give out my public line to everyone and my private line is only available to immediate family and close circle. Some óf these leeches will go as far as asking your siblings or parents your number. My instruction to my immediate family is...if anyone very close that you can't refuse ask for my number...only give my public line to them. That public line Ehn. Is always in my bedside drawer. Only get opened once a month and whenever I see someone ask for money. I just read and ignore. What I have discovered is...people who genuinely need money will only ask you for money for food if they are struggling. Be like me. Say no. Stick to your no. Overtime....they will move to the next person to leech from. Funny thing Is....my most trusted friends are the ones that do not ask me for anything. And please....stop posting on social media. It draws leeches. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by otipoju(m): 6:45pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: Comot for Facebook, change your number or simply refuse to pick their calls or text anymore. These same people dont mind setting you up and kidnapping you. They have no shame and no conscience and will guilt trip you. They are leeches. 4 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by pansophist(m): 6:46pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Now, imagine you die today, does that mean they won't be able to survive at all? It's clear you're of an agreeable personality, but in life, your kind hardly advances in life, because you carry world's problem on your head. What's hard to block them and stop giving money? In God's name, what's hard there? If you broke tomorrow, the same people will mock you, calling you a failure, that you've been in Europe and couldn't achieve anything. What if I told you that there is a high chance that they are calling you an idiot after receiving alert? Only if we could hear what people say behind us, you'll be hard-hearted. I feel your pain because I've been there. Sometimes, these beggars employ guilt-tripping and making you feel like the bad guy because you didn't give, even if you've been giving them for ages. This is one of a genuine situation why you should be selfish. If after all what everyone wrote here, you still go ahead and keep sending, you've only proved that you hate yourself, and enjoy a life of servitude. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by dannybrasky(m): 6:47pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: Listen and listen attentively!! Being over generous will leave you broke! I have been there,done that! And it was all regrets after all. I pray you never go broke,but answer this question,God forbid someday you go broke and you can't help them? Won't they still call u stingy?? Won't they still back bite you to people. I was over generous till I went broke,it was until I started saying no most of those leeches stopped calling me for unnecessary assistance. My cousins, both in the usa and europe have changed numbers like 5 times,blocked many on Facebook because of constant demands from Nigerian family and friends. Truth is it will never stop!! As soon as u go broke,they jump on the next cattle to milk on,I am just like you,it is hard to say no to some people! Now I just ignore calls or messages,if it gets too persistent I block. 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Skelewudprince: 6:47pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Oga na wa o.. I live aboad too and I can relate very well. You don't even have to block them or change your number because of them. Just tell them No and tell them that you are broke that they should send you money too. You don't have to send them at all because they are very shameless. They went as far as asking your wife and sister for money...... Baba, even when they message you to even greet you.. You don't respond until after 2 weeks. You owe nobody nothing. The funniest thing is that these guys might actually be living very well in Naija just blowing your money recklessly. Learn to say No without much explanation. Tell them you are broke too. Anyone can get broke just as they claim to be. They are just ripping you off men. And warn your sister and wife to stop helping them Also tell them to stop contacting you if they don't try to help you after you might have told them that you are broke. ikoroduarea: 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Born2Breed(f): 6:51pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
There is more to this. The whole gist doesn't make sense unless you are owing them. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by stonemind(f): 6:51pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: You be mugu |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by abdullahi45: 6:51pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by vhuqnl(m): 6:53pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Nooil:Every thing isn't gender war. Odte |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by soberdrunk(m): 6:53pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by manunitedbabes: 6:54pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
My brother the deed has been done. Just take a deep breath give them like 3minths break no calls, no text, no money and then see their reactions. If positive fine if negative fine too. Chart them like normal try to inquire from what they really want or do with their lives. If they r woman type pls forget them and move on.. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by ipain: 6:56pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Homextras:Even me wey get sister for abroad no dey bug her... i hustle for my money. Just few days ago, I was telling my in law what I was going through to get a new laptop... he thought i wanted to ask him for money. I just explained that it is not the case but only sharing my experience with him. He then said it is not a bad thing if he assist and I replied that I am not selfish person as my conscience will not allow me do such. I got the laptop eventually by my own sweat. Those guys are LAZY and empty brains... even if you give them 100M... they will still come back for more. The OP is a kind man 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by dapadawee: 6:57pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
did they kidnap you?
or u just want your left hand to know what your right hand is doing
or u want to blow.
another nairaland maga here |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by bawajghai(m): 7:00pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Cut them off |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by dingbang(m): 7:01pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
If they want the money, they should pay their transport to Europe to collect it. They are so mad. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by vhuqnl(m): 7:01pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Beatswim:Pls shut up. User like you 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by pansophist(m): 7:01pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by lenghtinny(m): 7:02pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea:Dude you don’t know the kind of battle God conquered for you when the visa didn’t work out.... Na you still Dey carry the history you guys had together for head. You don’t mean shit to them, you are just a means to an end. Cut them off bro, they will definitely say shits about you to people but trust me a year from now no one will pay attention to their sob story.... That was how I cut off one leech who was generating bad energy yet feeling funky on my account.... He resorted to slander, spreading malicious tale about me but I cared less. He got tired of sounding like a broken record after some time and tried to get in touch but then the ship had sailed already. Those guys will drain you if you don’t use your head. And trust me, they will be the first set of people to mock and throw jabs at you when they finally succeed in pulling you down to ground zero. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by vhuqnl(m): 7:03pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
soberdrunk:Bitcch shut up and suck my deeq. I'm in Nigeria Bitcch 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Crochet: 7:03pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Change your number for good |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by RealAdewole(m): 7:04pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
I will say you should give them one last grant, telling them that's the last thing they will be receiving from you, then block them everywhere also tell your sister and wife to block them too.... Whenever they use any number to contact you block the number join |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by soberdrunk(m): 7:05pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
vhuqnl: I am not disappointed, there is no way any human being will trek to Europe through the desert and not have mental problem....... ![]() |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by vhuqnl(m): 7:10pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
soberdrunk:Troll, you would not be fed. Deportee like you |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by NovusHomo(m): 7:10pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: BLOCK them. A friend once told me that one will never be free of those parasites until they quarrel with you. I have experienced it. I am free at last. Walk away from them. Do not be afraid. They will say nasty things about you. They are vultures. BLOCK them. Now! Let them come abroad too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by JIREN01: 7:10pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by JIREN01: 7:13pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Glaswegian:They know your payday? O boy!!!! More reason I always advise keeping a very low-profile. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Angelacruz: 7:13pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Block them everywhere ikoroduarea: |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by soberdrunk(m): 7:14pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by earnit1: 7:17pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
You don’t need such Friends |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Glaswegian: 7:18pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
JIREN01: What’s low profile. Doesn’t everybody know a decent corporate job in Nigeria usually pays on 25th? |
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