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Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by emmanuelewumi(m): 8:05pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
deepwater: Please what is the question? You can ask at the appropriate thread |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by slimjosh231(m): 8:06pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
CaveAdullam:“Taken out of my head” |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by deepwater(f): 8:10pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
emmanuelewumi:Ok I will Thanks |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Sixfeetbelle: 8:10pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
mmadu4: Apart from her being leech, what other adjective do you have for her? This insult you threw out, is it because you saw "f" in my moniker? Remove your tainted glasses about ladies and read the post again. You people are so quick to judge and that's why ladies will keep taking advantage of you and leaving you with bitter experiences. Op said he's doing this for her because he wants to. He's not expecting a reward for it. That's selflessness which you know nothing about cause you have never been selfless. Human beings never forget acts of charity done for them and these case will be an example of such. 2 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by authority2006(m): 8:12pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
captaininiobong: Haba! U want her to add salt to Op injury? You're not nice |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by authority2006(m): 8:18pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Because he's Father Christmas? Or because he has extra to spare? He's doing all that because they're dating each other with the hope of getting married! Is op in love with or dating another girl besides this girl? Just look at the way you interpreted everything op said up there! I hope this guy doesn't commit suicide because the outcome doesn't look favourable to him based on what you interpreted here. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Sixfeetbelle: 8:23pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
authority2006: Read this thread from page 1 to 4. You'll see where he said the bold. Besides, this is what will save him if this relationship goes sideways. Women are fickle and expecting to marry them just because you sent them through school has had more negative results than positives. If he removes his mind from marriage, he is safe either way. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by farady(m): 8:26pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Lol on some comments up there. Bia OP, you need to love your neighbor as yourself, but you don't love yourself. If you get yourself worked up "unnecessarily", you might injure your body - developing high BP. Nothing stops you from re-evaluating and reassessing everything. Don't let your business suffer please. That is your number one life line after God Almighty. Then sit here down and explain to her your challenges. There's no shame about it. Just like one lady up there said, if she sees a rich dude, she will leave and also if she finishes the guarantee she will stick with you is not there. So why don't give your business the desired attention now? |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
I don't knw anything but here's my thought! Tbh the moment u show her the door, she will leave and get anoda sponsor, wat she's trying to do is to hold onto u as long as possible to help her finish her medical degree in school, that's just the truth but if u feel that she likes u, winch is very unlikely, I mean she likes that she's leeching u and not u in person, if u tell her to go, within few days she would hop to anoda horse and run that one kwa to the ground! So is really ur choice, but if u re thinking that at the end of it all she will marry u, then u re mostly day dreaming! This is the leech attitude of girls & u will count ur losses at d end! PS_Ask her wat she really sees both of u being, her body language would tell u a lot, don't listen to her reply, its all lies watch the body language and sense any sign of being uncomfortable or tensed, grilling of teeth or nervous that's how u catch a liar! 3 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by stormborn28(m): 8:33pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Goat Don tie wrapper |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Elsiedaniels(f): 8:35pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Here. Re |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by VicM6: 8:38pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
nkemdi89:full stop 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Jentilia(f): 8:39pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
If you employ someone else,won't you be paying the person salary.you are saying this because you know her, See finish is very bad.i wont be surprised if her salary is not up to 20k |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by ogbonti: 8:53pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
toyetade: you are wise my brother never date and support a student financially - it almost never end well More than a decade ago, I dated this girl I met on the day I was leaving Nigeria after a short visit - we met at the airport as she was seeing a Rev Sister in her parish off and we got talking and one thing led to another we exchanged numbers - i got to the states and we kept communicating and she was an undergrad at UNILAG then - and after a few months of chatting and phone calls - she started complaining how her parents are not supporting her education because they were poor bla bla bla and initially I was so reluctant in sending her anything - but after a while - I said to myself - if this girl calls me all the time and we laugh and joke and open up all the time about life's dreams, and matters- why not just give her even if its 20k to survive a bit - that's not up to what I spend in going out on a Friday night to hang out with friends- so I sent her 20k like 3 times within a year and I was not expecting anything from her - I just felt like helping afterall the money i sent cant buy me anything tangible - its beer money here - afterall she is a "good girl" cut a long story short - i had to get some documents from a business partner who was having housing issue and going thru a divorce, who resides in Ibadan and I sent this girl 10k to go to Ibadan from LAGOS to get the documents and keep it safely for me as I was planning on coming to Nigeria in a few weeks time (although I didnt open up to her I was coming to Nigeria - I wanted to surprise her) - she took the money and she didn't go and she started avoiding me. I was stunned - and furious because it was important that she does, after promising me she will- do you know when we got into a little heated argument - I just told her - "girl, I am disappointed u didnt go get those documents- afterall each time you call to tell me ur problems- at east I show concern - only once and the first time I asked you to do something for me, you didnt.... she thundered in response, "what and who do u think u are ? because you live abroad, you think you can just order me around? - or is it the little change you gave me? Did I send you to help me? hmmm thank God she never begged me for money oooo bla bla bla - I froze!!!! This girl didnt even realize that I was planning to empower her with $5,000 to open a provision store so she can study in there and sell - then still go to school - I was trying to surprise her with the package because I was already developing feelings for her. After she insulted the living day lights out of me - I simply knelt down and thanked my God I didn't give her that money and I celebrated like for a week - because she pretended for 15 months as being so sweet and caring and a PRETTY wife material that I almost made a blunder - N60K in a year of benevolence and N10k for an errand she didn't honor are nothing compared to $5,000 I would have given to this ungrateful girl so - if you do not desist and leave this girl alone - when she graduates and starts working - you will hear things like 1. did i send you to help me? 2. what did you do for me that someone cant do? 3. is it not your mate that take their gal to shop in MARS and the MOON? 4. ordinary food, phone and tfare you gave me, you are shouting - are you this broke ? 5. what's your own - did i not give you kponmo? 6. when your mates were serious with life- you were chasing after women - (as if she is not the woman that ate you dry) 7. I beg make we hear word, when people are talking about opening a business - you sef will be talking 8. which kain yeye business u open - is laundry business a business ? 9. I am not the one who wrecked you oooo - please go and look for those who ate your money 10. what did you spend for me - calculate it and I will pay you back - nonsense (that is if you are lucky she has any integrity) OP - stop dulling yourself and leave this gal alone - you are are not Jesus Christ and let her go and meet her father for help. Chikena!!!!! 11 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by SweetCunt97(f): 9:08pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:Go to jiji and look for a good second hand android phone. Must it be new? There are good tecno phones you can get for 15k |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by DrAdonis: 9:15pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
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Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Trendsoulmate(f): 9:16pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:The burden is huge but it is obvious you really like her and think well of her, I want to ask, if the roles were reversed, how would you want her to behave towards you? Whatever answer you get is your reply. She will not always be dependent on you, do you want it to stand between you both that you once got tired of helping her or you want her to always remember that you stood by her through thick and thin? Medicine is a good course so she will soon be okay. Why not just marry her? |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LINTUNE(m): 9:16pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:bro, ill suggest u bear with her, she is not the typical slay queen that feel entitled to yr money..from ur writeup , its obvious she adores u, and also see u as her benefactor..though i must confess u are taking a big risk, cos women can change anytime (too much financial investment on her can be too risky, what if she leaves u in the long run)..i can see she is a nice gal, since uve fallen for her already, just bear with her.. but as for me,i cant date a gal from a poor background, atleast she should come from a middle class family...i cant afford to carry all her families burden on my shoulders.. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by clive2u(m): 9:20pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Sit her down and tell her the condition on ground, suggest reducing her salary and cutting down on some expenses and see how she'll feel. If she's a good one she'll accept but for the phone, look out for second hand android phone and get for her so she downloads the notes again. She should reason with you |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Scout60(m): 9:20pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: since you are paying her salary, just give her small part of the money you can afford then she completes the rest |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Ajebochef: 9:43pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
"Ooooooooooommm" That's what train said. Matter tire person. My advice to you: Don't make her feel bad. You stated she helps you with the laundry while you are at work. Meaning you will still have to hire someone anyways if she's not there. For now she's your eyes in your business. Look at the positive side of things. Fulfill the promise of getting her a phone. Please be patient a bit more with her. She may be your help tomorrow. Things changes o... My brother the life is not balanced. Pray about it too. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Exodora: 9:49pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
[quote author=CaveAdullam post=92209367]Mangina/simp detected. Fu¶ off![/quote6] self-servicer get raut of my site. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Exodora: 9:49pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
[quote author=CaveAdullam post=92209367]Mangina/simp detected. Fu¶ off![/quote6] Oaf get raut of my site. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Frenzy01(m): 10:12pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Never have a girlfriend while you are struggling. Dont be too generous. Dont live beyond your means. Never displease yourself to please someone. Put your self first in all things. Never let the help you render affect you. A man should be strong emotionally. Have multiple source of income. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you. Your condition is the not the worst. You yourself is the most important thing, family comes second. Dont trust people easily 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by nwachukwu9(m): 10:25pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
cedricksly:I love your comment but you would have advised him to stay away from anything relationship with the lady and help her with all his heart. Just like you have said he should not expect anything from her. If you are helping a person who you want to marry, such kind of help can not get God's attention. God is not interested in the help you render to someone you want to marry, God is more interested in the help you offer to they Refugees, orphans,widows, widower's, Strangers, Elderly, those who do not share the same faith with you, Those who call you enemy. All that matters to God in your relationship is that both of you stay away from all manners of sin, sexual immorality inclusive. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by expert555: 10:32pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Most notable experience people have said it all here, carry on as you are doing if you knows she does appreciate and you have plan for future with her, in the absence she will be prostituting every where. Staying with you stop her doing that to survive and she is appreciating it. Good luck |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by mmadu4: 10:43pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: you are just talking nonsense, selfless? what the OP is doing is called foolishness and it's costing him, the girl in question I'm sure have parents relation, brothers and sister extended family and so, why must she allow the guy to be footing all her bills is she handicapped? cant she gets a side job? she has seen a poverty elevation opportunity and she took it I don't blame her . if she truly loved him or cared she won't accept that salary YES he said he did/doing it because he wants to . so how is that uplifting? he is being drained financially and its not a joke. especially now that the economy is harsh on everyone . if the case was reversed do you really think she will stand by him and support him? you girls are always on the receiving end, thankfully men are now waking up, otherwise, OP will not come on here to ask for advice. a quick question for you? if the man goes broke helping her do you really think she will still stand by him and support him be his side? so please before you talk think well. no man owes any woman anything except they are married, period. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 11:02pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
You're blessed Bro, Honestly ehn, I'm looking for any intelligent female medical student to support like this. You fit give me her contact? Thanks |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Sixfeetbelle: 11:05pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
mmadu4: Okay. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by MrSly(m): 11:17pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:It didn't go down well with me when I read that you placed your girl friend on a monthly salary. You paid your secretary monthly, it doesn't matter if your sacratary is also you gf. That part was pure business. If you are able to then help her without grudges. You don't even know how and where the blessings you have been enjoying were coming from. I am telling you from experience. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by madgoat(m): 11:34pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: You don't love her and it seems you are not yet mature enough to have a committed relationship. Quite a shame that you are going to lose a woman who would have been very loyal and grateful to you in future and who would probably even have elevated you. |
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